CD1 again, anyone want to join me??

[Fifi1086]

Hey everyone! Cycle 3 starts today, I was disappointed but I'm fine now. I seem to have 9 day luteal phases which isn't ideal but I'm all in this cycle and am going to do the following:

-SMEP
-Proceive supplements
-Ferti-lily
-Agnus castus (to try lengthen LP)
-Pre-seed

Anyone starting their cycle again want to join me?

@Dinomama21 @LemonDrizzle44 my OH birthday is 19th December as well as his mum and brother very busy month. So I’m in the club that I would like to avoid Dec/Jan. However the other part of me feels like it might be the lucky month so I’m going to just stick with it. I’ve always fancied Christmas off work 🤣

@tulips87 I’m starting them this month as well CB OPKs my suggestion would be to start earlier and then can always adjust if needed after. I’m starting on day CD10 for a 31 day cycle.

that is so me! I am so relaxed the last few days because AF is here spent all weekend enjoying my favourite things Gin & Cake! In a couple of days I will turn into a difference person 🙈

@Timetobeamummy I know the thought if having the Christmas period off is so lovely!
@Magnum99 it's horrible isn't it 🙈 I went 4 days thinking I was pregnant and planning thinks in my head, and was so excited, I'm definitely not testing early this cycle 😂 I say that now....

@Dinomama21 it is horrible, I was convinced I was pregnant, I was also planning things like how/when to tell the kids etc 🥲

Although I've got 2 kids I've never been like this previously. With DS I didn't think I could be pregnant due to lack of DTD, only did it once and it was straight after AF so thought there was no way. I was 7 weeks before finding out 🙈😂
With DD we weren't trying, we just stopped trying to prevent pregnancy, so totally relaxed and then like "oh I think AF is late, I'll do a test".

I'd love to be so relaxed about it all this time too but I want it really badly and I know my biological clock is ticking.

Hi can I join also. I should match up cycle wise, CD 1 should have been 27th Feb, but I'm three days late. Negative tests, no symptoms. I'm now just waiting for period to arrive, then taking soy isoflavones days 2-6 next cycle, like I see some of you others are. Hopefully they work!
@AlexaPlayWhiteNoise I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope you're okay.

@magnum99 I was doing the exact same 🙈 and I was the same with DS, was relaxed and not trying like with tracking etc.. just seeing what would happen without using protection. This time completely obsessive! I seem to be more laid back this month- not checking MN every 2 minutes, we'll see how long that will last when I reach the TWW!

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 oh gosh, thats frustrating, I hope AF turns up or you get a bfp- some don't get a positive untill 10 days after a late AF because they ovulated later than they thought 😊

@Dinomama21 its so hard I agree! I was so relaxed before miscarriage end of last year, and now I am being ridiculous each 2ww! I am wondering though if its because I have waaayyy too much free time on my hands in the evenings and weekends what with lockdown etc 🙊

Thank you. I don't feel like that's the case here though, because last time I felt different - crampy, travel sick, sore boobs etc at this point. Now I don't feel anything really, except a lot of (tmi) cm. Just limbo.

Can I join please? A bit late to the party I realise! I’m on CD4 atm so a few days behind I think, but reading some of the messages on here is like a breath of fresh air - I am so glad to read that other people have done things like use opks without their DP knowing! Makes me feel less crazy!

That said, I told him the relaxed “try it and see” approach that we went for last month wasn’t going to work for me, so he knows I’m using the sticks this month, but I’m going to try to be subtle about it! Think SMEP is going to be too much for us so I think we will just DTD every other day from when I get high fertility on the clear blue opks to a few days after peak and hope that this covers us!

It’s such an emotional rollercoaster and only in the second month of trying! Really thought I had some faint early positives last month but then followed by negatives and AF so just have been evap lines. Determined to hold off testing this month but bet I crack in the end!

That's hilarious. We got flashing smiley for ten days on the CB kit, so kept having sex every day with no peak, I just honestly didn't have the stamina to continue for the rest of the month. I think we did it twice in the last week. Hope its not the case this month, and I get a positive opk sooner!

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 hey, did you use SMEP? I didnt know whether to DTD everyday from flashy face or when i get the solid face? X

I've literally googled what SMEP and we did that unknowingly last cycle. Waiting for flashing smileys and DTD ever day then stopped 1dpo, so five days of DTD was honestly like a chore the 3rd day in!

I'm glad I found MN because ei was feeling crazy to! I accidently woke DP up early this morning rummaging trying to find the OPK stick half asleep, he wasn't impressed 😂

@Fizzybelts yes I tried SMEP last month, did every other day until our first flashing smiley, then every day, but the flashing smileys kept coming!! I didn't get a solid face, and stopped testing after ten days of flashing smileys, so I'm not sure if we did it right. Did continue until CD 21, and it was a chore like @Dinomama21 says.

I think SMEP is a good idea though, and will use it next month I think

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7
Thankyou. Thats what im worried about 🤣 we will be exhausted. I normally get 3-6 flashy faces. Im not sure which one is right to be honest. We are looking forward to giving it ago though. This is cycle #8 for us x

@Fizzybelts at least its good exercise until the gyms open 🤣

I'm a little confused with the SMEP.
Where I've read up it says to DTD every other day then 3days in a row from when you get the positive OPK.
I'm using cb OPK's and cheapies.
Currently on CB I am flashing but the cheapies aren't showing as positive just yet. They show positive when I get my static smiley (going off last month)
My understanding is that when it is positive/static smiley that's when you DTD 3 days, one day rest the again. But anything before a static smiley is DTD every other day.....
Sorry I hope I've not confused everyone, and also if anyone can advise - thank you! I want to make sure I'm doing it right this month.

@tulips87 great thanks thats definitely cleared things up for me. I did think a positive would be static face but wasnt sure and my other half was questioning it too. Good luck x

Haha I have no clue at all with these things, I though SMEP was DTD the week when your most fertile making sure there's sperm waiting and already in place for when the egg gets released - but I am honestly clueless and new to it all 😂 it never fails to amaze me how much we have learnt from Google and MN about our bodies

I think I was going between two different things, because @tulips87 you're right, my understanding is its meant to be every other day until positive test, then three days in a row, and then miss a day then one bonus one I think?

The CB instructions said have sex every fertile day, and every peak I think - or I read that somewhere. I wasn't expecting so many flashing smileys however. Didn't get my peak, so not sure if I missed it. And it got to be a bit too much tbh

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 it's all very confusing when everywhere reads differently.
It can become quite overwhelming and then when AF arrives it makes you feel like you've not done enough when at the time you think you're doing everything right, at least that's how I feel every time it shows.
We said we would try SMEP this month but if I'm honest I'm dreading it, I think 3 days in a row is a lot of pressure for him to perform and can suck the fun out of it like it did last month when I got a static I made sure we DTD two days in a row. Normally it would be fine but TTC makes you feel the pressure!
I'm currently on day2 of flashing smiley.

@tulips87 yes I think its especially disappointing when you go to a huge effort, and you feel like 'how can this not have worked!'

Right ladies I’m back after a few days of AF the old witch it’s amazing how much more relaxed after the initial disappointment. So now getting ready for OPKs and it all starts again!

DP is working away during the week at the moment which really isn’t ideal! However it should line up perfectly this month 🤞🏻

Sometimes TTC and having to DTD and failing after feels like running a marathon and then when you get to the end there is no medal or finish line with a BFP.

@tulips87 completely agree I feel sorry for DP, as I think the pressure gets to them sometimes. It’s so hard to decide what to talk to them about and not in order to ensure they know what’s happening but don’t feel pressure. I’m keeping quiet about my flashing smileys and static this month. I’ve come to the conclusion relaxing isn’t a function my brain understands!

@Dinomama21 if someone saw my google history browser they would think I have real issues 🤣

Hey all!! I'm still here, on cd8 and have had the worst AF of my life and it's still going. Hoping I'm at the end of it. I'm wondering if it was the soy isoflavones making it strong but I haven't heard of that happening to anyone before. I'm on flashing smileys so AF really needs to go away now 😂

@Timetobeamummy mine is exactly the same! I waay over obsessive last cycle, but feeling alot more relaxed, hopefully it will stay that way!

@Fifi1086 I'm CD7, I had spotting for three days before finally stopping today, feels like a lifetime, and to think another 20 days before finding out if this month was successful 🙈 I hope you AF buggers off for you soon!

Question about OPKs is it similar to a PG test? So it shows lines? I had the round circle show today on the CB digi test, and when I pulled it out it was clearly two lines 🤷‍♀️ strange

@Fifi1086 I’m actually convinced that as soon as we TTC our bodies just start doing weird things. My cycle has been constant for a year and then last two months all over the place. Fingers crossed AF disappears soon.

I’m on CD6- OPKs to start at the weekend.

@Dinomama21 I’m about to start CB at weekend I haven’t read about two lines though.

@Timetobeamummy yeah I think so too! It's making me more anxious to get pregnant ASAP cos I cannot deal with this every month 😂

@Dinomama21 they work like pg test in that there are 2 lines but that's the only similarity. In the cb digital, it picks up oestrogen and LH surge so you can't judge anything by the lines as it can be oestrogen surge. Also, the first time you use it it's always an empty circle, I'm sure you'll go to flashing smiley soon! As far as normal opk strips go, they're only positive if the test line is as dark or darker than the control line 😊