TTC 15 months or longer. Bring your protein bars and all your supplements this way! Bus 3

[notyetamumbuttrying]

We're a mixed bunch of ladies ttc with all sorts of issues, mainly of the male factor kind! 😏 Though there's a range of reasons over here, come join if you've been in the ttc game for a long time and had nearly every test under the sun ☀️ and heading for interventions. There's ivf chat as well as natural. Buckling up for the ride of their lives are our usual riders: 😎

@Annny27 29, ttc #1 since June 2019, 1 miscarriage in nov 19 👼🏻
@RobinRose 27, ttc #1 since Oct 2019
@kerrym87 34, ttc #1 since sept 2019
@Motherofkittens28 39, #1 since aug 2019
@Yutes 34, #1 since Aug 2019
@Crazydoglady123 32, #2 since jan 2019
@Marvellouslymadmum 41, #3 since April 2019
@Tofu35 35, #1 since sept 2019
@Hayley19835 38, #1 since Oct 2018
@Narwhal88 32, #1 since June 2019
@Dogmum13 29, #1 since dec 2019
@SlothMamaToBe
@Theawkwardblonde
And me 34 (for a few more weeks) ttc #1 since sept 2019
(Sorry if I've missed anyone off the old bus, please jump bk on!)

@notyetamumbuttrying I want to get a lap at some point but I know it's gonna take ages on NHS, I've got to go back to GP and get referred to gynae and then god knows how long the wait is with the backlog. So doing IVF first. Yeah DH has been on Proxeed plus for over 6 months, as well as wellman, vit d, omega 3. Also gave up alcohol and caffeine, doing more exercise,loose boxers, eating more veg etc. I don't think it can be improved anymore it just is what it is.

@Motherofkittens28 I do hope you're ok, I'm still keeping everything crossed just Incase

@Narwhal88 how annoying for you! Af really does your head in sometimes doesn't she!

@Crazydoglady123 I feel so much better already after speaking to her, she was so nice and although my oh was not impressed about the sa part he agreed to it with a very grumpy look on his face 😂 I didn't even need to go through the reasons I had all planned out that I wanted to be referred just explained and she asked a couple of questions and that was it! Hope your hot flashes manage to stay away for you and the clomid works better this time 🤞🏻I wouldn't have thought it's dangerous to go for it if you have multiple eggs just more likely to have a multiple pregnancy but the chances of a big multiple actually developing are pretty slim

@Motherofkittens28 I hope your ok? This must be all be really stressful for you! Still keeping my fingers crossed 🍀

Hi ladies, just catching up on things!

@notyetamumbuttrying yay for your funding! That’s such good news!

@Marvellouslymadmum sorry for af arriving yesterday!! ☹️

@Patsydarling welcome! Sorry to hear about your boss and his insensitivity! And all the pregnant friends! 😫
I got woken up yesterday by a WhatsApp message from a friend containing lots of baby photos and videos!!! 😭 not really what I needed on Mother’s Day!

@Motherofkittens28 so so sorry that you are bleeding! Have been praying that the spotting isn't AF! Sending lots of love your way! 💕

@Aimzie Hope you get some good news on Thursday! 🤞🏻

I’m 8/9 dpo today, started spotting a few days ago so I think I’m probably out this month, expecting af next weekend!

@Narwhal88 yeah it's a long wait. They told me a year!! But then they told me funding would take 3-6 months and it took 3 weeks so...fuck knows 🤷🏾‍♀️ 😂 aw bless him, he sounds as dedicated as my Dh! Great that you can concentrate on ivf now though. Have you had a hycosy or hcg before? Sorry if I've already asked you this! Struggle to remember sometimes 😬

@crazycatlady1981 thanks hun! Do you usually spot around then?

@notyetamumbuttrying yep it’s normal for me to spot from 7dpo until af unfortunately! This month’s spotting was browner and slightly runnier than usual though so off I went to Dr Google!! 😂

@CreativeThinkerTequilaDrinker I have started IVF already, tomorrow was meant to be baseline scan and start stims but moved to Wednesday now.
@Marvellouslymadmum I know she's a pain in the arse! Never does what you want haha.
@notyetamumbuttrying yes I had a HSG in August last year, tubes are all clear. Are you getting one privately? I looked into private last year when covid delayed things but couldn't really find anywhere that did it. It also seemed really expensive when I spoke to other people who had it privately. Like £6k.

Oh also AF still hasn't arrived so phoned the clinic and moved the scan to Wednesday afternoon 🙄

@narwhal88 is there any change you are pregnant or is she just taking her sweet time?

Chance*

@Annny27 I wish 😂 but we didn't even have sex this cycle as we were banned by the clinic. I am spotting and I have cramps, so pretty sure she will show her face tonight or tomorrow morning. Fashionably late! This is the norethisterone's fault as I'm pretty sure it's delayed it as I stopped them on Thursday.

@crazycatlady1981 good old dr google lol! Anything enlightening?
@Narwhal88 great that they're clear! I always thought that if it was endo it'd be in my tubes as scans haven't showed any on my ovaries or lining etc. Gonna get a hycosy privately yeah. £550 with care London. Laparoscopies are about £6k yeah, crazy right! Think if mine are clear I'll just pursue ivf and get a lap after pregnancy. ESP now I'm getting it funded.
Boo to no show AF, how frustrating!

@crazycatlady1981 sorry to hear that, people are so insensitive. I've come off social media now, everyone and their dog are pregnant and it really does hurt. Does your friend know you're trying? X

[quote notyetamumbuttrying]@Crazydoglady123 2dpo for me. You? Not long at all! I need to book in for a repeat amh. I also need to hear bk from the nhs...the hospital left me a VM on Friday saying they had an appointment for me...so if it's to start treatment already I might not bother repeating amh as I'm paying for that.
@Patsydarling staying positive is extremely hard but it's better than the alternative. Icsi does have good results for those with male factor so try and keep in that mind on the hard days ♥️[/quote]
Thank you lovely, that really helps knowing that ❤️ June seems so far away to have to wait. Has anyone gone abroad whilst doing ivf/icsi? I'm not having the vaccine due to hearing a few people having a delayed menstrual cycle. Is anyone else planning to go away when things open? Or have you done ivf and taken your meds abroad? I really need a break, I've worked so hard throughout the pandemic.

Jesus I've had it with the world. Just need a rant. Another friend has just told me they're pregnant. 3 months trying. Absolute joke.
Is it possible to just go and hide in a cave somewhere? 😂
Honestly it knocks me so much when I hear these announcements.
Literally can't even pretend I'm happy for people anymore 😞

@Motherofkittens28 take everyday as it comes. Have you discussed when you can try again? Just focus on you until then

@Narwhal88 do you get one funded round or multiple? We're looking at doing one of the multi cycle packages. Omg I can't wait for TTC sex to be banned...I need a break from it 🤣

@notyetamumbuttrying I know, that's still so weird about yours! I can't actually be bothered for this consultation tomorrow...I'm like yeah, yeah, yeah we're deffo doing it so let's just book 🤪 I tried to book the next appointment (PTA nurse one) last week and they were like just wait until you've had your consultation 😂

@Marvellouslymadmum that's sooo good! You're so lucky having good doctors. I had a row with mine over referring me and he decided to do it but said to me it'll get rejected (but it didn't)! How many is too many 😬 my fertility nurse was freaking out about me having quintuplets last time 😅

Sorry to hear you're spotting @crazycatlady1981

@Patsydarling we've booked Santorini for our second wedding anniversary in august. Very much hoping to be way into pregnancy by the time we go, would love to announce the pregnancy the day of our anniversary 💕
@Theawkwardblonde aw hun, it gets worse each time doesn't it. Virtual hugs to you lovely xx
@Crazydoglady123 haha totally get the impatience when your minds made up and you just wanna get going with it! So will we be doing it around the same time? I'll have an April period after the appointment so I guess it could be then or May 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Crazydoglady123 I was really lucky actually as the original doc just dismissed me after the first blood results and I really wasn't sure how they would take me asking to speak to someone else but the receptionist was lovely and happily booked me in then the other doc was too! She totally got what I was saying and was happy to refer me, she said some people end up getting given clomid some don't but I would imagine that's to do with all their levels etc so 🤞🏻 for help lol and for the how many is too many I mean I reckon 5 would be tough to handle but two or three doable 😂😂

@Theawkwardblonde ive found myself on social media less and less due to people's announcements and pics of all the babies! It's so hard 😔

@notyetamumbuttrying you're right it doesn't get any easier.
Can't help but feel I must have been a right bitch in my last life 😞
I'm late for my period now but assuming it's my body not back to normal still. GP won't do anything until I'm 3 months late so don't really know what to do.
Just want everything back to normal as it's a constant reminder of that damn miscarriage.

@Marvellouslymadmum I've not the bullet and deactivated all social media today.
It's Going to be hard but I need to do it.
I'm finding my circle of friends dwindling so much as everyone thinks I'm being a bitch and not happy for them, when of course I am. Covid has been a blessing as haven't needed to see anyone.

@Theawkwardblonde friendship wise it's not too bad as I've not got many close friends and they've all already had their children but family are still reproducing which is hard and social media friends are a nightmare! I totally get deactivating it, though it wouldn't work for me as I have to use it for my work 😑 hope it helps for you though!

@Theawkwardblonde I've said similar things before too but I try and remember what my mum always says "your time will come" I just have to believe it or else I'd go loopy 🤪 you didn't think you ovulated did you? So no chance of pregnancy this month? Can you seek private help for investigations? Xx

[quote notyetamumbuttrying]@Patsydarling we've booked Santorini for our second wedding anniversary in august. Very much hoping to be way into pregnancy by the time we go, would love to announce the pregnancy the day of our anniversary 💕
@Theawkwardblonde aw hun, it gets worse each time doesn't it. Virtual hugs to you lovely xx
@Crazydoglady123 haha totally get the impatience when your minds made up and you just wanna get going with it! So will we be doing it around the same time? I'll have an April period after the appointment so I guess it could be then or May 🤷🏾‍♀️ [/quote]
How lovely, crossing fingers and toes for you! Xx

@Theawkwardblonde

Jesus I've had it with the world. Just need a rant. Another friend has just told me they're pregnant. 3 months trying. Absolute joke. Is it possible to just go and hide in a cave somewhere? 😂 Honestly it knocks me so much when I hear these announcements. Literally can't even pretend I'm happy for people anymore 😞

Big virtual hugs, I have deleted old friends from school and the rest I have paused and hidden. If you're unable to deactivate. X