Ttc #1 - cycle 7

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Really fed up of AF showing up month after month now 🤦🏼‍♀️ we've been taking the see what happens but dtd lots approach. But now going into month 7 so We've decided to use the clear blue opk's to see if it gives us a better chance. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Now to just wait for AF to disappear 😀

Any one else ttc #1? 😀

@Amy259 that's quite a good progesterone reading from what I've heard! What are the temps meant to be? As in highs and lows? I've got a new fitbit and I've noticed that my temp through the night is different despite same conditions and weather and it does say it could be due to many factors including cycle but haven't Dr googled it!

@Loops01 so when af is here it’s low, stays low but sometimes dips even lower the day of ov, then after ov it should go up by 0.3-0.5 of a degree and stay high. Then a day or so before af, it starts to drop - it’s a really obvious indicator af is coming. I stopped temping though because it’s a daily reminder of ttc, but my acupuncture lady wanted me to do it religiously for a couple of cycles. But no real rise for me today at all, so hoping it’s just going a bit slower this month and I’ll see it tomorrow.

I would think Fitbit wont be too accurate anyway, plus on your arm surely it could be out of the covers or under them? I could be wrong though!

@Loops01 it’s horrible when it feels like it’s dragging, hoping the next few days hurry up for you 🤞.
Im going to try and avoid testing so early (if I have the restraint) , I don’t know why but feel it won’t happen this month even though there’s no logic to that 🙈.

@Amy259 it’s been ok but I have been really busy at work and last few evenings watching the football with OH family etc.. , trying to keep busy.

I wouldn’t worry to much - feel bbt is so unpredictable at times due other factors like weather, sleep etc. Just keep eye on it and hopefully it will start rising soon 🤞.

@AZ1992X thanks for that, that was some much needed reassurance. DH has been absolutely amazing this cycle, we have dtd so much and I can’t bear the thought of not ovulating as/when predicted when he’s been so on point!

Are you planning not to test until af?

@Amy259 I’m glad he’s been supportive & sounds like you’re defo covered on that. Keeping my fingers crossed.

I’m pretty sure I’ll change my mind but I’m tempted wait until AF is pretty much due or unless I feel I have any symptoms. (Will probably go out window next week though) 😂

Haha you two are funny! Glad dh has been good @Amy259. I have found my dh to be better now we had words earlier this cycle. And thank you for the temp info. I do think it would be all off but it is weird how much its changed but its still to get its 30 day average as I've only just got it.

@AZ1992X I won't test if you won't 😉

I’m going to try and not 😂 - it’s guessing AF will be next weekend so going to try hold off till next Friday if I can (would be 12DPO) unless I have major symptoms.

@Loops01 @AZ1992X not just crazy supportive, but usually his performance anxiety means our fw attempts can be very limited but this cycle we covered cd11, 13, 15, 16 & 17! Think ov was 16, today is 18 so he can have a night off tonight 😂

You’re both far stronger than me, I’m lucky to make it to 10dpo before testing!

@AZ1992X well I'm due on Tues I think but not sure if the progesterone cream will lengthen it or not this cycle. Also I leave on Sunday so I either take a test with me or I don't. I think I'll try not to test so if you can hold off until 12dpo I will know by then and let you know if I caved 😂.

@Loops01 good plan 😂.

I’ve noticed some CM today only small amounts - going keep eye on that. Last time I got the bfp I had excessive CM but think it’s way tooo early for that.

@AZ1992X I'm starting to symptom spot lol. I've had a bit of cm but not that much. Today I feel a lot of weird little cramping to the right side. It's not painful it's just like twinges. It's lower than ovary too. It's weird but when I don't think about it I don't really feel it I guess? I'm so fed up but just can't get hopeful. Keep seeing so many pregnant folk or cute baby things I want to buy but thing don't do it as it hurts more. I have 2 boxes of baby stuff I've collected for years and I've had to put it in the loft because it hurt too much seeing it in the spare room/to be nursery 😔

@Loops01 I was going to ask how you were feeling this cycle, if you had a gut instinct of which way it was going to go. I’m a sucker for symptom spotting the wee flutters/cramps too!

I think every little twinge and I'm like THIS IS IT!! But generally I don't ever feel positive about it. Don't want the fall. I've had 1 month, cycle 6 i think it was, where I felt EVERYTHING and was convinced that was it. But nope! I'm hoping if not this month then next. Although next month dh and I are opposite shifts for the majority of fw but depends when that is. I dunno. I know soy is meant to be similar to clomid in some sense. Just feel disheartened. Spent the day yesterday with SIL who is due Nov and when I spoke about progesterone testing she asked her husband if he had that. I was like it's you that gets it. It's just like she doesn't get it. She felt a struggle as she conceive cycle 6 and I just feel so alone and that it'll never happen. I know you guys get it but even my friend who is trying and getting referred she didn't even know why the fertile window was over 5 days. She didn't know how ovulation worked. I just feel alone. Dh and I went to the cinema the other day and that is like the only thing we can speak to others about because work isn't a good topic for the two of us just now and there's just now much else going on. So yeah not hopeful and don't ever think it will come. Just like how I am sure you all feel at times. Not gonna test unless late but even then I probably won't. Not home until Friday night. Nope not feeling it. Haha. Sorry I'm all over the place!

@Loops01 imagine what it would be like to decide you want to have a baby, so you just get pregnant? It feels SO far away from real life to me. Like you know even when people “decide” what age gap to have between their kids, or whether or not they want a summer or Christmas baby etc. I know once upon a time I’m sure I thought that was how it worked, but now I’m like how on earth could we ever ever ever plan what size of age gap to have between babies?!

My DH is away Sun-Thurs next week so I’m sure I’ll be sitting home alone overthinking absolutely everything. It’s just so consuming, isn’t it? I don’t think I’ll bother with soy again, not sure it did much for me at all really.

Thank you @Amy259! I remember reading about folk that said they don't want a new Yr baby etc. I'm like JUST GIVE ME ANYTHING haha. I've spoken to dh about a second and said I don't want to wait. I'd rather try and give myself more time. I feel like my life is just living with regret. I know I can't change the past and I shouldn't dwell on it. I wish we started earlier. I wish I pushed dh more. Just goes on and on like that.

Please someone help me though - this pain on the right side has got worse. It's been all day. There were times in the afternoon I didn't really feel much but now it's constant. It goes from the right side near to vuvla I guess all the way up to what I'd assume would be near my right ovary. Right side near to where the line of pants would be/overhang of my belly haha. It's slightly sharp/shooting pain that I feel and is a bit of discomfort but otherwise its fine! I feel like I've had this before about cycle 6 when I got all the symptoms but not this focused. Dh thinks it may be af but that's not due until Tues going by luteal phase? Would it be attempted implantation if I'm 7dpo? Anyone else had this? No other symptoms really but normally don't have?

@Loops01 snap - I never plan on being on contraception again! We won’t be waiting (out with healthy guidelines/whatever a doctor says) before trying for number 2 either.

That really sounds like it could be implantation… which can happen anywhere from 6dpo to 12dpo, but the earlier the better in terms of viability (apparently!). So fingers crossed that’s what you’re feeling 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Morning @Loops01 , it defo could be implantation at 7 days. 🤞

I don't want to get my hopes up. I don't think it's AF as it's not soon enough unless it will show early? The pain stopped early this morning but it feels tight now? I dunno. I've definitely had it before (and not got pregnant). Just have to wait I guess.

@Loops01 yeah so hard to not get your hopes up when you feel something like that. At least you don’t have too long to wait! Are you more inclined to test early now or hold out until Tuesday?

Slightly different pain now. Feels like AF is coming now. Like I don't think it is but just have that feeling so probably won't test at all. Just had my acupuncture today for the first time in over a month and she's going to start working properly on fertility from next cycle then she will start me in some herbs. Part of me is like well I try everything else and the other part of me is just totally fed up like I don't want to try anymore. It's so much time energy and money and im seeing no real benefits other than it makes me slightly healthier and a lot more stressed and upset.

@Loops01 I said this exact thing to my acupuncture lady the other day - that I’m getting to the point of stopping ALL old wives tales, hearsay, what ifs etc. Just take my prenatal vit and absolutely nothing else. Both acupuncturist and GP (and google!) told me that it’s really easy to mess up your chances if you originally had nothing wrong - like if you try to treat ovulation problems with soy/clomid but didn’t have any ovulation problems, or treat lining issues but didn’t have lining issues, etc etc, you can cause yourself problems. And I can’t help but wonder if I should just stop trying to control/fix things that maybe weren’t broken. If this cycle isn’t successful, I’ll seriously consider it for next cycle.

I have a month and a bit off everything to see if it helped. Including iron/prenatal and it didn't make any difference so now I try to find the balance of doing what I want to do and still trying things but there's not much left to try. If I hadn't had the cycle mess ups with covid I don't think I would have tried the soy. Just want fertility clinic or gp to actually do something or listen. When I told them that my cycle messed up with covid vacc gp was like no that doesn't happen. THEN YOU EXPLAIN TO ME WHY IT IS HAPPENING THEN. I feel like I hate the world just now 😂. My acupuncture today was just for stress/tention build up along my upper back.

@Loops01 it’s a recognised side effect now - 1 in 4 women have reported it. So it’s mental your GP said it doesn’t happen.

P.s. @AZ1992X my temp sky rocketed this morning so thank you for talking me off a ledge yesterday 😂

Thanks everyone for your lovely words! I am really hoping we will all be in the same boat very soon ❤️

In all honesty, I think I jumped the gun taking soy isoflavones. They say if you have regular cycles (which I did) not to take it. It did produce really strong ovulation but perhaps it put other hormones out of whack.

@loops01 I didn't do anything wildly different to other months (actually, I did less) but I did stop eating soy products in the tww and had a little fish (I am usually vegetarian/vegan). I had a little pineapple & Brazil nuts at the start of the tww but only for a few days.

I got a positive opk cd17 and we dtd every morning cd10-15 & cd17 with my legs in the air after for at least 20 mins but you're all probably doing that anyway!

Sorry for the delay in replying, just catching up with the thread. Hope this helps somewhat and try to keep positive (easier said than done I know)

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@Amy259 I didn't realise its 1 in 4 now! Crazy. Good to know your temp is up!! How you feeling about this cycle?

@J1990 did you normally take the soy after ovulation? Good to know its happened though and it was maybe just 'time' (hate that word haha). Enjoy!!