TTC after MC - Jan/Feb 2021 (Thread 17)

[PumpkinEverything]

A new thread for those trying to conceive after miscarriage.

Have tried to tag as many people as possible!
@Bellabubble
@Pancakes7
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@bez91
@NatJ24
@NatNoo96
@ELMcg
@RichmondLady1981
@susiebluebell
@Garman
@RS2609
@bumptobean
@bubblybrit
@PrettyPinkPansies

Thanks @bez91 I’ve been thinking the same with calling the doctor. That there’s no point for another while! My skin wasn’t perfect on the pill, but it was much better than it was previously, and the way this is now. I don’t know if it’ll make any difference, but I’ve just ordered two the ordinary products and paulas choice BHA. Hoping it does even a little bit!

@ELMcg @NatJ24 hopefully that’s the end of it for both of you and it’s shorter because it was heavy 😊 I woke up in the middle of the night after having a dream about a really heavy period and had to check myself to make sure it wasn’t real 😂🤦‍♀️ I can’t deal with all this waiting 😂

Oh and yes @ELMcg I would start the OPKs earlier until you’ve figured them out. And to make sure you don’t miss anything since your body is figuring itself out 😊

@PumpkinEverything hope you enjoyed your hot chocolate! I took inspiration (maybe I was jealous) and had one too last night!
That's weird I've had a couple of vivid dreams this TWW, hopefully it's a sign! I dreamt DH took up smoking and I woke up genuinely angry at him 😂 did you decide you're going to test Friday?

Well I’ve lost my 2nd pregnancy. Is there many if you that have had 2 miscarriages and have no children? It’s starting to feel like I’ll never get there. I seem to fall pregnant very easily and then lose it. I don’t know what to try next but I’m desperate to have a gorgeous little baby 😞

@bez91 oh I did! We also got a Nintendo switch yesterday to get us through lockdown so had a night playing mario kart and it cheered me right up! Hope you enjoyed yours too 😁 I think it makes everything a little better.
That’s so funny! I always get annoyed at things like that too 😂 today’s thoughts are no that I’m not going to test on Friday and will wait until this time next week if AF hasn’t appeared, but who knows what I’ll decide on over the next few days. I was feeling positive at the start of all this and now I’m not so sure. I had lower back pain last time and I haven’t had it this time so it’s making me think I’m already out 🤦‍♀️ Also just getting a lot of random minor AF feeling cramps which is making me think that too. Symptom spotting is driving us all crazy 😂 when are you going to test?

Aw @NatNoo96 I’m so sorry! Unfortunately I’ve not been in that situation so can’t comment, but I know that you’re not alone and someone here will have a similar story. Are you able to get any tests done?

Hi @NatNoo96 im not sure if I am about to lose my second pregnancy or if it will all be ok, this will be my first baby. We started trying last April, and the same as you as get pregnant easily, first month with pregnancy one - MMC that took a long time to complete - finished in August, then 3 months with current pregnancy but started bleeding yesterday, possibly ok, possibly not. I completely get what you mean, yesterday I was just feeling like it was all too much and it was just never going to happen for me. I wish i could just go to sleep and wake up in the second trimester with a healthy pregnancy, it seems so cruel and unfair and like everyone you know is just popping out babies while you cant get to the first scan stage. Sending you a massive hug, I know there really isn't anything anyone can say that makes it better, but there are lots of ladies who have multiple MC and do go onto have their longed for baby.

@NatNoo96 really sorry to hear this. I recall you were awaiting another scan at the EPU? Sending you lots of love. I've had 2 MCs in a row and it's tough and bloody frustrating that it's not seen as recurrent miscarriage until it happens three times. Take some time for yourself to take care of yourself 💕

@PumpkinEverything all a guessing game isn't it. I've had lots of differing symptoms from the last two times. CM has been... odd this time round. I got EWCM yesterday at 13dpo - what's that about 😂 Testing tomorrow

@MrsF111 My first mmc I did start bleeding that's how I knew something was wrong but I still had positive tests and still needed surgical management. My bleeding became clots quickly though. I really hope you're ok and it's good news for you x

@NatNoo96 I have an online Mum friend who had 2 mc's in a row but then 2 successful pregnancies. I'm not sure if bad gives you some hope and confidence it'll happen. X

Ladies, can I join?
Im 33, found out I was pregnant in October (wasnt planned), mc-d on the 12th of November (stopped growing around week 5-6, I started to spot on week 8). Had 2 weeks of bleeding, the scan showed all cleared out and pregnancy test came back negative. Started to TTC as soon as bleeding stopped, but I never ovulated in the first cycle. Ovulation test came back positive in the second cycle, but I could tell from the period actual ovulation did not happen. This month, the ovulation test came back positive 5 days ago, I really hoping my egg released from ovary.
Does anyone else struggling with ovulation after MC? I am desperate to try again, I really hoping this month wasn`t an anovulatory cycle...

@NatNoo96 I’m so sorry to hear this, I know you were worried and waiting for your scan tomorrow. 💕

That’s so confusing @bez91 🤦‍♀️ I think CM is a bit of a minefield. I’ve spent lots of time googling it this week as I had more creamy CM than I’d ever usually have which was weird, but today and yesterday it’s just disappeared to barely anything! I normally have none the day before AF comes so it’s also made me wonder 🤦‍♀️

Hello, please can I join? Currently going through my 2nd early miscarriage. Want to continue with TTC #1 again when my body is ready. Sorry to hear so many people have been through this. I am hoping that myself and DH have just been unlucky and that it will happen for us in the future.

Hi all,

Hope I’m ok to join.

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in October and then one on Sunday at 12 weeks 1 day ending up in 24 hours in hospital due to blood loss.

We have been TTC for nearly 2 years and I had got pregnant after the HSG test - not sure what it did but I have heard other people have had similar.

We are hoping to TTC again ASAP but I’m so scared.

Xxx

Welcome @Catmum55566 and @Gymbelle sorry you both find yourself here. This is quite an active thread it seems so hopefully being here makes you feel a bit better and you can get help with any questions you have. It’s made me feel tons better since my MMC in December 😊

Thank you for your lovely welcome @PumpkinEverything

I am hoping to find some comfort here! Glad you are feeling much better ❤️❤️

@Tina8800 do you temp as well as do OPKs? I find the temps and length of cycles are the two things that help me pinpoint if ovulation actually happened.

@Gymbelle I'm so sorry. My MMC was discovered at the 12 week scan, after a perfect 10 week scan (baby died 10+5) and I found it so heartbreaking to get that far in, feel like the odds were in my favour, but still lose. I understand why you are afraid - me too! I keep reading stories about recurrent losses and worrying that this will happen to me.

Hey Everyone,

I’m currently 8dpo and when I was 6dpo I woke up in an awful mood feeling very stiff and really strong back Cramps ( felt like I was ovulating again ). I have had 3 chemical pregnancy’s since March last year and this time it feels different. I’m reading all these symptoms on Google and it’s so confusing. I’m just wondering if anyone is having the same symptoms as me as I still feel a little cramping and pinching. Trying to hard not to get my hopes up but at the same time I’m extremely eager for 10dpo to come so I can take a test

Any guidance or advice ladies smile ?

@Tina8800 so sorry for your loss. How did you know by your period ovulation didn't happen? X

Hi everybody

I had a blighted ovum miscarriage last November. My first period came on Christmas Eve and lasted 11 days. We are actively ttc again, I am now on cycle day 34 and there is no sign of period and I have had 2 negative pregnancy tests. Obviously hoping they are false negatives from testing too early but I don’t want to get my hopes up! Any one else experienced this a delay in periods? Good luck to all you lovely ladies trying for your Rainbow babies. Xx

Does sound like a symptom @Starfishh I had lower back pains for 2/3 days when my pregnancy before miscarriage and they were pretty sore and stretching didn’t help. Fingers crossed 😊 I got my BFP at 110 DPO that time. Very very light, but it was there!

@PumpkinEverything did you mean 10 or 11 DPO or did you actually get it at 110 DPO?! Xx

Hi Everyone, thank you for the new thread.
I dip in and out and I'm always surprised and saddened at how fast this thread moves.
My journey
DD age 6 took 15 months ttc.
2nd pregnancy last year after 11 months ttc. Miscarried at 12+4 in Oct. All was fine up until 11+5 when I was diagnosed with a subchorionic hematoma.
After 3 weeks still bleeding and positive pg tests.
Early November had surgical manageme t for retained tissue. Continued to bleed for a further 10 days.
1st AF 2 weeks after in early December.
2nd AF recently after 44 days 🙄 it was really heavy. The first one wasn't so bad but the second one made up for that! I had symptoms for 2 weeks before aswell (which was a twisted mind game because obviously they mirror pg symptoms so much and with how long my cycle was.. I started to hope!) But just incase anyone is coming up to their 2nd AF thought I'd put it out there that my first one fooled me!
I think I'm in for the long haul unfortunately and despite being in my early 30s my DH is early 40s so I feel a little pressure tbh!
Everything is going around my head! Ttc makes me crazy haha!

@TheDaydreamBelievers I tried that but my temperature is all over the place, especially in the morning. How does your temperature changes if you ovulated?

@PrettyPinkPansies Normally my period would last about 6 days, lately its only been 4 days. Also, with the normal period I have dark red blood, since the mc it is extremely bright red (only seen that when I mc-d). I also completely dried out- before the mc I always knew when I ovulated by the discharge. Now I have cramps too and I never had that before. I think my body just trying to figure it out what is going on, but Im not sure how many anovulatory cycle is normal after mc..