🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 5 🦕

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On to thread 5 Ladies!

@Annny27
@Nuggetlover27
@27DONFIN
@Babyghirl

Please tag anyone I’ve missed from the old thread.

I’m currently enjoying my first glass of wine in about 10 weeks. Will happily give up alcohol for a baby but no baby I need alcohol 😂

Really hope that’s the start of a BFP for you @Babyghirl let us know when you test in the morning.

@Annny27 Sorry it looks like AF has arrived.

@Nuggetlover27 Fingers crossed for a positive FW

You ladies are so positive, it's really great. Sending lots of baby dust to you all.

I had my CP on Friday and have stopped bleeding today. Last time I bled for 2 weeks but I think I was further along. I'm expecting another period within a few days? I've ordered an Clearblue advanced ovulation kit and can't wait for them to arrive! I just can't think of anything else but pregnancy/babies .

@kiwi17
Deffo to early lol give it another day or 2 of the bleeding has nt turned in to anything. 🙏🤞
@Annny27
That could deffo be a good sign to something that is different in the 2ww could be a positive sign 🙏🤞
@ItsMeantToBe
Count that as your period as if it was a cp you where only a few days late so Friday if it was a full flow would be cd1 for you. 💚

Thanks @Babyghirl I've had another small bit when wiping today so think I'm out - feeling really gutted don't know why I believed the whole 'more fertile after mc' hype :( if I can't get pregnant when I'm supposedly more fertile what chance do I have on a normal month?! Sorry just feeling rubbish and ranty. Supposed to be meeting up with a friend on Friday who is due in June and I'm now massively dreading it and trying to thing of an excuse to get out of it :(

@kiwi17
Awww it's hard but I don't believe your more fertile after a miscarriage as most times it took me a year lol, but be open with ur friend she should understand where your coming from I have nt been near his mums in weeks cause his niece had a baby bot 7 weeks ago have nt meet him I really don't care what anyone says tbh I'm protecting myself cause no one else will remember that, do what will make you comfortable and remember it will happen just relax and don't stress we got this 💚

Yeah I know what you mean - it's so not in my nature just to think about myself I'm normally just worrying about what every one is thinking but think I have the right this time to put myself first. I completely understand where you're coming from too! Thank You, I know once af start a properly it'll be a bit easier to look forward I just hate the constant waiting with spotting :( also worried it'll be a beast as some people have said the first af after mc can be and only being allowed to use pads which I hate!

I know what you mean - it's so not in my nature just to think about myself I'm normally just worrying about what every one else is thinking but think I have the right this time to put myself first. Totally understand how you're feeling too! I know once af starts I'll be able to look forward I just hate the spotting bit before and waiting around for it to start properly. Plus worried that as the first af after mc it'll be the beast as some people have said and only being allowed to use pads which I hate:( argh!! This is all so frustrating and hard to hold onto hope..

Arghhh it didn't post properly so I tried again and now it's double posted sorry!!

@kiwi17 sorry you're feeling rubbish and AF is coming. I've heard it's 3 months post mc your more fertile so not just this month. Your hormones will be all over the place. Also I believe it's only mc bleeding youre not allowed tampons? As this is your first normal period not your mc bleeding you should be fine? X

Thanks @Justwanttobeamum I really hope that's true 🤞🤞 I know.. flipping hormones making me read into every single thing. I know I thought that but the nurse that discharged me from EPU said for the first af to only use pads as well?? I'm a bit confused now, if I can get away with tampons I will I hate using pads!!

@kiwi17
I was told only pads to but I don't mind that cause that's all I use, any first period after my losses have just been norm just some tissue that was left from loss that came away so think that's why I had to use pads. Your right people r forever telling me to learn to say no to people cause I put everyone first but there's sometimes I got to put myself first. 💚

@kiwi17 @babyghirl my best friend fell first month and I told her that I couldnt go to the baby shower as its too hard for me. And she thought I meant it was top hard in terms of travel:S haha. I had to explain that no it's too hard for me emotionally and I think she is a bit annoyed tbh but it kinda proves you never know how hard and impactful it is untill you have been through miscarriage and infertility!

@justwant2beamum yep it's for an infection risk - I always use pads anyway so I didnt Mind :)

@Annny27
She might never know where you where coming from when you said u could not go and that's ok you had to protect yourself and that means doing anything you have to 💚 how the tww coming in 💚

kiwi17 I’m sorry if it hasn't gone to plan this cycle, but maybe don’t give up hope just yet. As other have said, I’d also heard the first three months were all pretty fertile, so hopefully, if this isn’t your time, having had a period will make your womb really ready and you’ll be in a better place next month. I know that doesn’t really help at the moment, but allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling. Just to add, my first period hasn’t actually been that different from normal. I had the spotting beforehand, but otherwise I can’t really see a difference.
I would also say, don’t feel pressured to see your friend this week if you don’t think it’ll help you at all. You need to protect yourself at the moment.

My husband spoke to my dentist yesterday and mentioned what has happened and that we are wanting to TTC, and she has squeezed me in today for the sedation work I need. Hopefully, this means we’ll be able to start trying this cycle, which I am really happy (albeit, not particularly optimistic, about).

Awww thanks ladies. Really feeling the blues today as it's still tiny amounts when I wipe but fairly sure that means I'm out. Just frustrated as I wish af would just get on with it now rather than leave me hanging.. thanks for the info - have bought more pads even though I hate them 🙈😂 got to be good. I normally use a cup and period pants so all the disposable pads are annoying me but hey! In terms of meeting my friend I said to my husband last night that he should go and take out little girl ( they have a boy similar age and we were supposed to be meeting as two families) so I just need to come up with a plausible reason for not going which won't make her think I'm pregnant because that would be even worse!! Just think I'm past the point of wanting to tell people about the mc now - does that seem weird? I feel like if I talk about it it drags up all the emotions again that I have dealt with. Had a follow up call from the miscarriage nurse at the hospital yesterday which was nice just seeing how I was feeling emotionally and whether I needed any support, counselling etc and I said I thought I was doing ok, actually I think it's the whole ttc again and failing which is getting me down more! Anyway. Onwards and upwards! How is everyone else doing?

Ps @Miscarriage39 great news about the dentist!! Fingers crossed that all goes smoothly 🤞

@kiwi17
Does she knw bot your loss if so just tell her you have took your first period after it and its that heavy you can't move she should understand I have told my close mates abot all my losses they don't tlk bot them unless I bring it up, so maybe it would be good to tlk to her bot wat has happened and how your feeling sometimes it's good to tlk to someone, I was so surprised at how many off my mates went through it to and listened to wat I was feeling. But glad you had the tlk with your husband and told him how ur feeling and looking after your feeling 💚
@miscarriage39
Glad you got the dentist sorted hope all goes well for u and you get it sorted 💚

kiwi17 I don’t think it’s strange at all that you don’t want to keep telling people. As long as you are not avoiding talking about it to avoid dealing with it emotionally, it sounds like a normal part of the healing process. It’s great that you got a follow-up call though. Good to see that some services are offering support. Asking your husband to go Friday also sounds like a perfect solution. Could you just be poorly or waiting in for an essential delivery?

@Babyghirl no she doesn't know about it - I'm torn as I know she conceived with zero problems first try both times so feel like she just won't get it at all. Definitely agree it would be easier but don't know if I can cope with the pity ironically. Thanks @Miscarriage39 staying in for a delivery - great idea! 😂

@kiwi17
I totally get you better to tlk to someone that's been through it so they get what why ur feeling I hate hearing someone's pregnant with no problems that sounds awful to say, I knw someone who has had 7 kids and everyone of them has been taking off her that annoys me 😠😠😠😠😠. Here we r really wanting it and we have to go through everything just to get it. 💚

@Babyghirl I know what you mean - it seems so unfair , a friend of mine got pregnant whilst on the pill??! And I'm here literally doing everything right and it's not working. If it was down to pure will and desire we'd all have our babies for sure ❤

Hi ladies, I just wanted to stop by and say hello! Its been a while since I popped over here. @Babyghirl so pleased you have had your appointment and have been referred to the rmc.
I'm 14 weeks pregnant now, so I'm past the 12 week mark finally!! Still taking each day as it comes though.
Sending love to you all xx

@chali7
Omg can't believe your that far already how has that went in so quick congratulations 💚 I'm hope you have started to relax and enjoy the pregnancy now can't wait to I get to that stage 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 I know it will happen one day so nice to hear from you as it has been ages please keep popping in and filling us in on how your getting on like nice step will be to knw if it's a virtual niece or nephew I will be having 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 xx

@nuggetlover27
Was just thinking about you today to how have you been holding up not long to go now to your scan where you will find out everything is how it should be 💚

Aw @Babyghirl I love that, virtual neice or nephew! Its a huge relief to have gotten to this stage! I had alot of scans with our local EPU prior to our 12 week scan which helped the weeks go by, and kept me calm as I was so anxious it would be ectopic again. Thanks so much for your kind words xx you will certainly get here too - its been a long journey, an awful one at times, but it will be worth it eventually, for all of us ❤❤ I'll keep popping back on to say hello- and will often be checking in on you all! Xx

@chali7
Like a wee family lol yes do like to hear all the positive stories, just cause ur pregnant does nt mean ur nt part off us xx