@CreativeThinkerTequilaDrinker thank you for the welcome! Yes, I’ve read through the posts and been lurking for some time.. this group felt the most relatable and like I’d stumbled across a group of ladies that felt the same way as me and ‘got it’ I’ll definitely check out those recommendations - thank you! Mr Ramsay is a great Dr and a lovely man, we’re very lucky to be seeing him (though I do wince at every invoice) so hopefully his theory is correct and DH results go back to normal.. he’s also quit smoking since the results so that hopefully will help too. though I’m kind of dreading being told to “keep trying” as it leaves everything out of my control again, which I’ve really struggled with being a total control freak 😂 i know that’s nuts - I should be thrilled if results come back normal! It is so difficult with family, they never know what to say. when we first got DH results my mum kept saying she ‘totally understood how It felt’ and that she had ‘been through it all’ as her friend at work had been through IVF.. though I know she meant well. my SIL on the other hand (who has 3 kids) got drunk and told me that I got the happy marriage so I should think myself lucky and be content with that.. but that’s another issue. What are your next steps? Are you waiting to start treatment? The waiting game is the hardest in all of this! X
@Marvellouslymadmum I think the results can differ so much, and sperm is so volatile.. illness, drinking, smoking, diet, anxiety about the test are all things that can affect the results. My worry is that the results may come back normal this time, but I’ll constantly be worrying that they will get worse again or DH will get ill, not take his vitamins, have a few too many drinks and it’ll be on the low side again. I think someone mentioned the Rhod Gilbert documentary on this thread - definitely a good watch as they talk about all the things that can cause ‘shit Giz syndrome’ as Rhod calls it 😂 but lots can be done about it, some times it’s just
a bacterial infection that can be cleared up with a short course of anti-biotics! I would highly recommend seeing Mr Ramsay if you’re results aren’t what you hoped, especially with the Covid theory, he will definitely put you at ease. X
@Narwhal88 - his 2nd sample was a huge improvement, in count and morphology, Mr Ramsay also said they were fast swimmers which is the most important bit i think? He was basically just on the cusp of having a normal count, so possible to conceive but highly unlikely.. though they say it only takes one (I hate when people say that 😂)
The baby shower is Saturday, and I’ve done all the organising now, cakes/balloons/decorations all ordered, just need to host it (via zoom) and there are a few girls joining who don’t have kids so it hopefully won’t be too bad and I can just get drunk! I do want to make it nice for her, it’s just hard to constantly look at baby stuff..
and yes, it’s been really crap and sad as normally I would confide in my sis but but obvs not been able to. How are you feeling about starting your IVF? Sounds really exciting, you must be so happy that things are finally moving forward - though apprehensive too I’m sure xx
It’s so shit that after a while the excitement about trying just disappears and is replaced with anxiety, sadness and the constant feeling that it’s not going to happen, and dtd becomes such a bloody chore!
Right I’ve done my vent ladies, sorry for being a downer.. Thank you all for responding to me so soon with such nice messages - it honestly feels like a huge weight has been lifted 😁 here’s hoping we all get our BFP soon! Xx
Oh and I absolutely devoured Bridgerton when it came out, Even if I was bitter about their happy ending 😂