The filthy sisterhood of basques 👯‍♀️babydolls with easy access holes, IVF drugs & supportive hugs -TTC bus 28

[Minster2012]

Well ladies we made it all of 9 days before needing a new bus, I think I’ve had farts that lasted long, especially when they were in a bag (in blog joke) and now it’s an extra long one...bus, not fart 😜.

We are a chatty bunch it seems and we like to encourage ppl to get involved with our racing car of a TTC bus which can also be a bit of sex education class as well!

It may seem a strange ride here as we’ve got all sorts on our bus (not just the animals). We’ve got long term ticket holders where some of us have been around each other for longer than we care to remember now (so bloody hell some ppl here REALLY are bloody owed a sticky BFP now right??) but cos we love 💓each other and genuinely care about each other we cling together...despite some of us heading of to the infertility clinics, and we’ve got some newbies at the start of their TTC journeys, child number 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 18 we don’t care.

Any questions ask away, we LOVE ppl to get involved...we love those who chatter!! We also love a sex toy 😉

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs

5 BFP already for jan...who is next?? 🥰

@Florence13 I'm good thanks ❤ killed with backache , insomnia and everytime I cough or sneeze I pee myself a little 🤦‍♀️🤣🤣 but apart from that I'm good. Hope ur holding up xx

@DKDK123 I have everything crossed for you. Praying the lines are darker 🥰😘

@Minster2012 "when in doubt, bang it out" is my current contribution to the title.

@vil10 tell us all about the house!

@DJmum83 I'm so sorry it's another CP and that it's bringing you so much pain :( I hope there were chocolates and wine to comfort you tonight xx Family wise it's not great - my mum was called by the hospital to tell her to come say goodbye to granny as they don't think she'll make it through the night ☹️

We all have thick skins! @DKDK123 good luck!
@Katao we will get there!!

@Juno231 adding to the list!! But oh no on your granny I'm so so sorry. I've lost all my grandparents this year during lockdown, not to Covid but a whole generation gone for me. It's awful.

Aww @Juno231 sorry to hear its not looking good for your Granny but hope its giving some comfort knowing that your mum's allowed to go see her. 😔

@DKDK123 good luck for the morning!
@Juno231 ohhh my😢 so sorry xx
@Minster2012 where the flip did that dirty knicker picture come from 😂
@Florence13 glad you managed to get back into the saddle so to speak, always a big step!
@DJmum83 hope you've got decent drugs, wine and paracetamol!
@Catherinettc honoured my pjs get a mention!
@Dollybird89 enjoy your books and feel better soon
@Franklydear cakes and burgers sound so good
@Justanothercyster hear there's a lot of money in the used knicker trade 😂😷

Another (used to be very close) friend announced she was pregnant today, accidentally. Yeah that's stung.
Can I get off 2021 now? 😭
Done my usual managed to sleep for an hour and a now wide awake! Grrrr
And then Mumsnet was down all evening so couldn't even come and rant to you lot!!!

Hope all your evenings have been ok xx

Well there is still a 2nd line, but it hasn't gotten darker, it's gotten lighter. I'm heartbroken I really thought this was finally our time. I'm going to step off the bus for a while to get my head together, but when I return I think it'll just be to pop my head on see how you're all doing on your ttc journeys and to catch up on the banter as I think we might have finished our ttc journey, I dont think I can go thru a 6th loss. I think we might start to explore adoption instead once we've healed. Sending bucket loads of baby dust to the bus.

@DKDK123 💔 I'm so sorry. That is just heartbreaking. Do what you need to do and we will be here when you need us. Take care of yourself x.

@Juno231 so sorry to read you update about your granny. I hope you are ok x

@Franklydear aaarg AF can go f^k herself. Hugs
@blackcurrantqueen big love and hugs to you darling xx
@Minster2012 transfer coming up 😱😱😍🥰 so friggin exciting. Sorry for shitty cramps and nausea though. The things we do eh?
Wow your drug box is impressive. Shit and that knicker smelling pic 🤮
@Gem176 congrats lovely!! 🎉🎉 amazing
@Juno231 oh no that's so stressful, you poor love! Sending much healing vibes and health to your family x
Oh I just read about your granny. So sorry. How did she go overnight? 💗
And omg your second cousin! What the hell and @Florence13 too?! I thought those didn't know I was pregnant stories were all made up! Clearly not 🤣😆
Hold on hold on @Gem176 your cousin too?! This is just too much!! 😂
@notyetamumbuttrying sorry for the painful period. They're the absolute worst. Perhaps gin would help?
@Kirky658 zennnnnn 🙏🏼
@DJmum83 oh honey. I'm so sorry. Please be gentle with yourself. Huge hugs xxx
@Vil10 how bloody exciting!! Ooh fun fun. I love anything house related. Wish you could send pics!!
@Justanothercyster I don't think telling your friends about your fertility issues would put a downer on their announcement at all. You and your experiences and feeling are worth as much as theirs, and if they're true friends they will react only with empathy and understanding.
Oh sorry just seen your update! I'm glad you had a nice convo with them and I suppose just let them know if you decide you want to share with them for added support xx
Get on those 🍔!!
Woohoo @Florence13 🍆🍆

@DKDK123 oh honey. I don't even know what to say. I'm so so sorry to hear your update 💔 completely understand wanting to take a step back but please know we are all going to be here for you if you need us xxxx

So after my horrible week with DH basically planning out our separation, we went to a gig last night that I got him tickets for for his birthday last week. Kids had a sleepover at my mum's place, and we stayed at our city house.
Had SUCH a good time - dinner at the beach with gorge sunset, got drunk and danced for hours to the band, 1am Maccas run, had amazing sex, hungover cafe breakfast this morning and talked for hours about random shit....
So now I'm just extra confused 🤷🏼‍♀️😩

@DKDK123 so so sorry hun. Xx

@DKDK123 I'm so sorry hun, we are always here ❤️😘trust me, as someone who has gone a weird way about being a mum there's a child waiting for your love, you'll get there, however it happens

@blackcurrantqueen I wondered what had happened to Mumsnet!! Another one???!! What?!! Ahh feck off.

@Skip86 oooooo the rekindling starts perhaps? 🤞🏻🤞🏻sounds fab! We all have everything crossed

What's the plans for today?? We are lying in bed still, DS just woken up muttering you himself, & it's howling outside, but we have an IKEA shelving unit to build, the greatest lockdown fun surely?! Reminded me of @Skip86's game!

@Gem176 I think she must have paid for an early scan at 7 weeks. I got pics from my 8 week scan! But mine looked more like a baby but theirs definitely didn't. Was just a blob.

@Justanothercyster £15,000 more ?!😱that's our actual figure for w deposit. How much are you needing??

@Juno231 oh no sorry to hear about your granny ☹️🥺

@Skip86 very confusing! But at least you've had a lovely time 💓

On the mum thing mines just as awful as always, spoke to her the other day about when I go back to work after having the baby and she'll be having them and she was like no I won't. Bearing in mind she had my DS and still continues to have him way more than she should like he stays over w couple of nights every week, she'll still be able to work her weekend and evening job and have to pick DS up from school so would fit in well with that too. Think it's a case of just leaving it and hoping she warms to the baby as my pregnancy progresses where as at the moment she can ignore it. Mums eh

@Justanothercyster yeah married at first sight 😂😂😂 can I blame baby brain yet for calling it love at first sight?? Ha ha. But it's such addictive watching-the blokes mostly seem decent the a lot of the women OMG!

@Clairey844 @Justanothercyster I LOVE MAFS I made DH watch it last night & he practically threw the remote at the tv going "this can't be real!" The women are horrible. Did you ever watch the first series?? The first USA one? That was epic.

Crap please forgive me, it just occurred to me you all might totally hate on me for giving that description of all the things we did last night and today, when most of you can't even leave your houses. Sorry, very insensitive, blame my hungover brain xx

@Minster2012 our mums could be besties, I've been catching up on the blog.... as a result all 3 of us tell her very little
@Juno231 oh darling, don't know what to say, here for you,
@blackcurrantqueen he is a keeper, 22 years of marriage in march
@DKDK123 do what you need to, were here for you anytime anyhow
@Skip86 I don't think he wants to leave you, but maybe doesn't know how to stay, maybe I am not making sense, neuridiverse brain
@lucyrp what have we done to deserve these mother's? Yours is not that bad, she moans but she helps....

@Skip86 haha, I don't think a single person though anything other than great, this can be safe still

Yet another question for the great minds on here!

Does anyone get a ehm... sore floof around ovulation? Went on a 45 minute bike ride today and the whole time I was thinking 'this is kind of uncomfortable'.

Well one of my apps have detected ov apparently and if it was on that day then we missed it 😖 stupid vagina.

@Minster2012 haha eww. Yeah probably.

@blackcurrantqueen 😂😂😂
I feel your pain there, so frustrating :(

@DKDK123 So sorry love :( will the doctors not help? Have a break, it helps sometimes Xxx

@Skip86 ummmm what?!? If he's seriously considering a separation that wouldn't have all happened, something else is going on with him I reckon. Hopefully the therapy will help.
Not insensitive- we'll live vicariously through you haha!

@lucyrp well we've got £15k and just need another to make it up as they've taken away the 5% deposit thing that we were all set for 😖 we're looking at houses around £285-£300k - and that's cheap down here! Where abouts are you again?

@Clairey844 omg the women, Ines is an actual psycho haha! I love it, catching up on last nights later. Going to go back and watch the other series @Minster2012 as we never jumped on that train initially!

@Kirky658 @Katao @Minster2012 @notyetamumbuttrying @DKDK123 @Florence13 @lucyrp excited but trying not to get my hopes up too much just in case!!

@blackcurrantqueen @Juno231 so it's a barn conversion, and it's just exactly what we've wanted!! It has so much character, the beams and the brick around the windows is what does it for me I think, it's in a perfect location,10 mins from OH's work, whereas his journey now is an hour, all my friends live 5 minutes down the road, its closer to my family and my work too, there's potential to do more to it if we ever need to, like it has a double garage attached so could always change that into something if needs be, a sun trap garden, we just love it!! @blackcurrantqueen I can send you a link over inbox?xx

@Justanothercyster Thankyou!! Hahaha, people set up a go fund me page for everything else nowadays so why not😂x

@DJmum83 it's a barn conversion, and it's literally exactly what we want! Definitely our dream home, it's got the beams and the brick around the windows, it's just beautiful!! Ooo what's yours like?? Did it feel good when you moved in knowing it was your dream home?xx

@Minster2012 literally spent my full night on Pinterest😂 I already know everything that I want!

@DKDK123 oh I'm so so sorry!! Can't even begin to imagine what you're going through! Do what you need to do to heal and we'll be here whenever you pop back in, sending love❤️

@Skip86 i wish I could too, this will be my first house too so I'm so excited!! I can understand why you're so confused, but I hope that's the start of the rekindling!!🤞🏼

@lucyrp I think your mum is definitely just being awkward, and hopefully like you say she'll because warmer to it all as your progress!!x

Thankyou everyone for showing so much interest in this house!! I love the support you all give!!
So I'm 7dpo so that awkward phase in the TWW, nothing to report, had sore boob and creamy cm but I always have that during this time so nothing new, my Fitbit died yesterday too so I took it off in the morning and have completely forgot to put it back on but I think that's a good thing because it'll stop me from checking my rhr!!
We're doing a family quiz on zoom tonight and I'm making homemade chicken gyros!! Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday❤️

@Justanothercyster we haven't actually looked into it recently but I've got a help tin but ISA and we're supposed to have a meeting with a mortgage advisor soon I think just so we know exactly what we need. Oh god ! That's expensive, for our first doer upper we're looking at like 150k-200k I think

@Skip86 don't be silly! Love hearing about your adventures! Someone I was in school with is currently in Australia she's been travelling for over a year and she was posting all over her Snapchat her NYE on a boat party in Sydney and I was so jealous ! And then I watched a DJ set live from NZ the day after Boxing Day 😫so weird seeing a normal festival!

@Franklydear honestly don't know, it's hard to describe too as she chooses to have DS more than she should. I will be annoyed if she shows favouritism that's for sure

@Vil10 god I hope so! I'm not ready to be a SAHM yet! I'm working towards a promotion in work these next couple of years hoping I get one otherwise I'll be leaving 🤣

@Catherinettc glad your doing ok hun although sorry to hear about the few pregnancy niggles

@Juno231 sorry to hear about your granny hun

@DKDK123 I’m so sorry to hear this, please look after yourself and know we are here if you need support.

@Vil10 aww that sounds so lovely!! Keeping everything crossed it all works out for you. We bought our dream home/massive renovation in the village we love. Although have to admit we have a long road ahead of us but just feel so thankful we have this house.

@Skip86 glad you had such a lovely evening with your OH and hopefully it will be the start of the rekindling that your relationship needs. Not insensitive at all it’s lovely to hear ☺️

Tried to post last night but mn was broken!

@Gem176 @lucyrp I think I'd be the same! I would be torn really. My mum doesn't know about ttc but I'd want to tell her if we did. However I know she wouldn't keep her mouth shut as she resigned herself to never having grandchildren, and often makes comments. So it would be a fine balance!
@Justanothercyster I'm glad they realised! Usually if people do, then they act appropriately. They were probably horrified at the thought of upsetting anyone. Most people would be. My work friend has been holding off sending baby photos to a group chat we are in (baby born dec) and when I realised this, I messaged privately, asking if it was because of me (she's one of the 2 people in the world that know we are ttc) and she said she thought I'd be ok, but wasn't sure, so didn't do it. I told her it really was fine (it is). But it was nice that she was thinking of me. I think if people are aware they can at least be a little sensitive. Rather than really going hell for leather and rubbing it in every 5 seconds. It is a difficult line though.

@Skip86 🤣 I wish I was there. Are there not really any corona cases or something? I would love to go out. I think you now need to talk to him then?
@Juno231 really sorry to hear about your granny.
@Vil10 house sounds fab!
@DKDK123 I'm sorry to hear this. I really think early testing brings more negatives than positives. (Not literally, well it does, but....). I think sometimes you need to think about what's the kindest thing to yourself. I prefer not to know. I deal with it better. Everyone is different, but you need to think about the way forward for you.

CD2 still bleeding and got the munchies, arghhhh, ....as you were