Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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@Magnum99 Welcome 🙂 I'm also TTC my 3rd and I'm 38 in a few weeks. It's definitely worrying me that I'm closer to 40 now 😫
@NewbieB There is definitely no right time to have a baby and you could get pregnant straight away but it's more likely to take a fair while. I conceived my 1st after 4 months, the 2nd took just over 18 months. Friends of our tried for 3 years for their 1st, started trying for the 2nd when the 1st was 5 months thinking it would take ages again and ended up pregnant on the 1st try 🙈 so there's only about 14 months between the kids. It's such a lottery. Definitely sit him down for a serious conversation.

@Kayeyeem this is it- could take ages and if it didn’t so what?! If he was ready in the summer, i can’t see how he wouldn’t be now but I think he is feeling stressed with work atm and also doing our house up which makes me worry that he won’t be up for it. I’m definitely going to have that conversation and hope he won’t freak out.

[quote NewbieB]@Magnum99 ah interesting. Does he know you are keeping track of ovulation etc?[/quote]
I think so, I told him at the beginning of the week that it was my fertile week so we need plenty of sex and he's then instigated it every night but if I was saying "right I'm ovulating now, quick let's have sex" I don't think he'd like that.

I don't think he knows I'm checking my cervix 10 times a day or using an app though, it's not very sexy is it?

I think @NewbieB is spot on... that info is all quite outdated and probably comes from a fine where women were starting families much younger. Nowadays it's different.
You're going all the right things and I really like the idea of your partner being excited and stressed about it all just as much as you... I hadn't thought about how it's often the woman who does all the worrying about ovulating, temping etc and the man doesn't. I might start getting my partner up to speed on my cycle 😂

@NewbieB The thing is you never know what's going to happen, there are things that can't be planned for. Hopefully he gets on board with it 🤞🏼 My DH works full time in a physically demanding job and then comes home and works on our extension project, he's worn out but we just have to try and keep sex fun 😉
@Magnum99 No checking your cervix is probably not something that he needs to know, definitely not sexy 😉

@Kayeyeem ahh yes we're the same age, I turn 38 in 3 weeks.
How old are your kids?
Apparently there's more chance of twins at our age - I'd love that!

Similar happened to my friend - took her about 18 months to get pregnant with her 1st but then got pregnant with her 2nd in the first month of trying. You just never know.

@Magnum99 My kids are 5 and 2 🙂 Having taken awhile to conceive my youngest I'm trying to not worry that age will play a part in being able to conceive a 3rd but I'm not succeeding 😆

@sunflowersaremyfav93 and @Kayeyeem and just like that he said he thinks it’s the right time too! 🥳🥳

Ah amazing news!!!! @NewbieB I'm so happy your conversation went well!!!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 thank you! I’m quite surprised tbh. Just had a really short, relaxed chat of “ think it’s the right time” and he said he does too and let’s start now then 😂 typical bloke. But all good and seems like the journey has officially started. 🤗

Amazing news @NewbieB !! 😃 🥳

@Magnum99 thank you - yes it is x

Hi all could I join please? Husband and I were going to wait until after my sisters wedding in the summer but it's been postponed so we've decided to take the plunge and start TTC now! I started the pill in sept to control my endometriosis pain so I stopped that on the 23rd jan, had my WB bleed a couple of days later. Started CB OPK on Monday, got my flashing smiley Thursday. DH was working away so DTD Friday and planning for again today then 2 days in a row with he static smiley. Hope that's enough! It's the most sex we would of had for a long long time 😂 I know it's unlikely but I'd love to get pregnant this cycle so we have a November baby!

@NewbieB Yay 😁 great news 'happy humping' 😉😂

@Arrierttyclock Welcome 😊

Ok I'm a bit dumb when it comes to female health 🙈 but I've just had an 11 day period with a couple of days of spotting ending yesterday. I'm apparently 3 days away from ovulation day (according to the Clue tracking app) but this afternoon I've got cramping on my right side only. Could this be ovulation? I've never known when I've ovulated before 🙈😆

Ooh I have no idea @Kayeyeem I'd have thought so but that's a long old period isn't it? Is that normal for you? I got some cheap OPKs on Amazon and I use the pre mom app to track, I'd really recommend that. A few others temp on here as well.

@mackjm20 how are you?

@Kayeyeem I've no idea but I will say that I think you do notice a lot more cramping when you're TTC, I've had cramping and EWCM nearly every day since Wed this week, I'm still not sure if I ovulated back on Wednesday or if it's happening now.
I would just say have plenty of sex just to make sure you're covered.

cd 27 and the urge to test is getting intense... no more 'spotting' since the other day but crazy vivid dreams for the past week and back ache today and yesterday. I'm really really really trying to act like it isn't a big deal but 😬 when should I test!? Or do I just wait it out?! I need to be strong and I know the chances of it happening are slim and I've probably just got confirmation bias.

@gems05 so glad the midwife was nice when you called :) that’s so exciting you are booked for 03/03 :) how did it go with telling work and not your FIL?

@CookieMonster3001 how’s it going? Have you ovulated yet :)? So good to hear the Maca powder is working for dh! Totally feel you on the accidental pregnancy! It amazes me that it’s even possible now that I’m ttc lol!

Know exactly what you mean about it being a chore we actually laugh about it now! I cannot wait until sex is sex again and now dtd to ttc! It’s just not as enjoyable!

Sending so much love your way re your sister! Honestly the biggest hug! I really am hoping this month is yours!

@Wowthisisreal that’s so exciting good luck for your first cycle :) how’s it going? The spotting could have been implantation bleeding :) when are you planning to test? What dpo are you? Fingers crossed for you!

@Potterurotter so sorry to hear still no period or ovulation it’s so frustrating getting back into a cycle! Really hope it happens for you soon! Totally hear you on the choc cravings!

Totally with you on the pjs and fluffy socks! No nice undies here haha!

@minipilling hope the period stops soon for you :)

@Kayeyeem sorry to hear af came in the end! How are you getting on? So sorry to hear you have still been bleeding and feeling so low.

@NewbieB congrats that’s so exciting for you! Good luck with your first cycle :)

@Magnum99 welcome :) good luck on your journey :)

@princesscallie good luck this cycle :) it’s so annoying planning it all is it it!

@Arrierttyclock welcome :) good luck with your journey :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 how are you doing? How many dpo are you now? When are you testing :) keeping it all crossed for you! How have you found this first trial tww? X

So update from me I am now CD19 I’ve had ‘high’ opk on 3/5/6/7 but no peak. my bbt is all over the place and I have no clue what’s going on! After I came on af 5 days early last month and had a longer af than usual I’m really not sure what’s happening. No bbt has been over the coverline so doesn’t seem like I’ve ovulated which is so frustrating. I’m trying to stay positive but it’s really got me down this weekend feel like I’m doing everything right diet/ exercise/ no alcohol/ no caffeine and my body just isn’t having it. Maybe it’s just like adapting to hormonal changes with weight loss etc so trying to stay focused on that but with this being cycle 6 and it seeming very minimal chance I will even ovulate I can’t help but feel a tad deflated. Just got to put my big girl pants on and hope that it happens eventually :) on the plus another 2lb weight loss this week taking me closer to that healthy bmi so every cloud :) hope everyone is okay :) xxx

Thanks! @mackjm20 10/11 days Dpo. I have no idea when to test. App says period due in 4 days. I'm going to try and wait it out until next weekend as AF should have arrived by then.

Fingers crossed for you @mackjm20 and well done on the weight loss! That will be making a positive impact and will be really important when you get that BFP!

@Wowthisisreal fair play to you honestly that’s so good if you can wait! I have a terrible impulse to always test from 9dpo I just can never help myself! Most BFPs in this group have been from 10/11 dpo onwards :) thank you :) trying so fingers crossed it helps and also that I start to ovulate again :) this cycle has been a nightmare lol!

Don't tell me that! I have a test in the bathroom 😬

@Wowthisisreal nooo I’m sorry I didn’t mean it to make you test! I meant it like in a good way that you are so strong for not testing! I wish I would make myself wait as BFNs are the worst and I end up seeing loads every cycle x

Hi All

Does anyone know how to tell if you're ovulating? I am using an app to track it and my periods are pretty regular but nothing is happening

I used a boots fertility test which came back negative for myself and partner but unsure how trust worthy these are as there's mixed reviews online