Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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Third thread here we go...

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@CookieMonster3001 no, it’s all so helpful thank you. Are you in the US? I am in UK and think it’s a bit different with the ovulation tests which are common here. Maybe i should get some high tech ones online.

But yeah, that makes sense. Did i already ask you if you do ovulation testing twice a day or once? I’m pretty sure I knew when i was ovulating last month because of CM and horniness level! But would like to get a positive stick - am due one next couple of days.

@mackjm20 we DTD Friday and much to his reluctance yesterday so I'm not sure if it's enough but if we can do it again tonight and tomorrow hopefully that will cover us!!

@CookieMonster3001 yeah hoping to do it today and tomorodw but he's being so bloody miserable about it god knows if he will! 3 days on the trot is deff a lot so maybe we may skip tonight and focus on tomorrow. We've had more sex this week than in the last 6 months 😂

@NewbieB nope in the UK here! :) I only do OPKS once a day because I would just keep forgetting, only did it twice on Sunday because I was pretty sure I was close to my peak. I did invest in the CB digital ovulation tests, but I only really start using them closer to my fertile window so that I don't waste loads of them... they are SOOO expensive!!

@Arrierttyclock haha tell me about it, last night was hard work as me and OH were already drained from DTD the two nights before. 3 nights in a row is the MAX we can probably ever do lol, I mean I am pretty sure barely anything even came out lol. Maybe give today a miss and like you said focus on tomorrow!

@CookieMonster3001 oh really?! Where do you get them from? Yeah, makes sense. X

@NewbieB I get all my tests from amazon (prime! haha) I think the Clearblue Advanced ovulation kit is around £27 and comes with 20 test strips, which would last me around 3 months as I use around 5-7 a month. And then the cheap OPKs I use are easy@home which is around £14 for a pack of 40 (and it comes with 10 cheap hcg tests too)

@CookieMonster3001 oh ok!! Excellent - thanks very much, i may do the same 👍🏼. Just trying to wrap my head around it all!

@Wowthisisreal so sorry to hear af arrived. That’s amazing that it happened first cycle for you last time. Really hope it happens for you soon. It’s okay to be sad totally understand. Have some nice treats and lots of rest the next few days :)

@CookieMonster3001 thank you :) fingers crossed it sorts itself next month :) I’m okay it’s just beyond frustrating lol! Ah onto the tww for you :) keeping everything crossed for you lovely :)

@Arrierttyclock fingers crossed for you :) sounds like you have it covered :)

So CD22 for me opks still high but reducing each day. Still no bbt rise. I’m just hoping that this cycle ends soon as it seems that ovulation hasn’t happened :) on the plus I always have a target each month now for a bmi I would want to be if I get a positive (I would be seen by a gp asoon as I get a positive due to my blood clotting disorder) and each month it’s getting better :) at this rate it will actually be a healthy bmi before we get a BFP which Is the one silver lining in all of this waiting as will be nice to not have that to worry about whilst pregnant :) originally when COVID started and we delayed until sept to start ttc we had considered waiting until after my 30th in March (OGs from the thread may remember how much I went back and forward on this) so I’m thinking maybe as I will hopefully reach my healthy bmi in March that it was just meant to be for it to happen after then :) trying to drag any positive out of it not happening within the first 6 months lol x

@mackjm20 you are so amazing! I love how you always find something positive in the situation and you are so right! I am trying to take a leaf out of your book and be more positive about situations in general rather than feeling negative about stuff. You are doing so amazing with your weight loss, you will be at a healthy BMI in no time. My weight doesn't seem to be shifting at all! Gosh I cant believe how long ago that was when you were going back and forth and now March is next month! its crazy and it defo goes to show no point in waiting to TTC for the right moment, because there is no guarantees!

We have got this and will get our BFPs soon!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 @Kayeyeem how are you ladies doing?

Hey @CookieMonster3001 I've been feeling really demotivated, feeling bored of lockdown .. you know how it is! I am due on tomorrow though and have woken up with a headache and those period type cramps I usually get. So just want AF to arrive so I can get it over and done with now. How are you? You're in the TWW now aren't you? Will you be testing early?

Also is it silly that I want to test today even though it feels like AF is coming? I have a sharp pain on my left side and I'm stupidly getting my hopes up.. this TWW business is a real emotional rollercoaster isn't it?!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I know how you feel, I was telling my manager today that I feel like the last 6 months all the days have just blended into one, getting fed up of it now and just want to be able to see people!!
Not silly at all to want to test! I think I would be the same! If it would make you feel better, then just test but if you feel it wont then just wait until tomorrow. With me, I generally can sense if AF is going to come, but you still hold a little hope so for me testing would just confirm my thoughts and I not think about it for another day or two! But everyone is different, you have to decide what option is best for you!

Yep in my TWW now, my apps are saying I am 1DPO today but I am almost certain that I ovulated late at night on Monday so going to go with 2DPO. I don't want to test early, but I am a control freak so when I get to 8-9DPO I know I will be itching to test lol

@CookieMonster3001 Exactly, I really miss seeing my family, hopefully we'll get to have a nice Summer at least.
So I just tested (using one of my precious CB tests) and of course it was negative, I knew it would be, but that little bit of hope does creep in. Hopefully AF just arrives today so I'll have a rough idea of when I'm next ovulating. My mood is always a bit crappy around my period I'm much better when it arrives so I will get myself out for a walk at lunchtime today.
Ah god yeah I know the feeling about wanting to test, I really didn't realise how difficult the TWW would be!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 ahh I am sorry about the negative, but at least you can focus on your next cycle now, fingers crossed for next month!! Defo get yourself out for a walk, I have been going every morning lunch and evening now which really helps break the day up and give me some fresh air. I have also started to do positive affirmations when I go for a walk and repeat them to myself in the hopes that it will attract some positive energy!

Sorry to hear about AFs on the way for some of you 😟. What a roller coaster it can be, not sure what i’ve let myself in for!

Quick question- what times of day do you find best to test using ovulation sticks? I’ve read not to use morning wee and maybe to test twice a day so don’t miss it? But what times!m? Does it matter?
Also- should the stretchy mucas arrived with it or when you actually ovulate? Sorry for the questions!! Xx

@CookieMonster3001 I love that! I bet that feels so good, I'm going to start that. I think it's so easy to get in a rut of doing the same routine and being stuck at your desk all day! I actually do feel much better after my walk, I even put some makeup on and my hair looks half decent. I'm hoping to entice OH after work 😂 he thinks I'm a nympomaniac atm haha.
I can't really feel down about AF it would be pretty impressive if I fell pregnant after DTD unprotected just the one time, I know it happens to some people though.

@NewbieB I test twice a day and just pick the times at random tbh which is most likely wrong.. I find it all so confusing so I'm going with 'make sure there is always some sperm up there' I'll use the eggy white cervical mucus as a sign to get baby dancing but I've also bought some pre seed.. I don't get loads of EWCM so apparently it's a sperm friendly lube that replicates EWCM... I've read loads of good stuff about it so gonna give it a go.

I'll create a new thread later btw ladies, I'll write a note of all the names on here so we don't miss anyone off... it's been a good thread with lots of BFPs so hopefully we get even more on the next one! ✨🤞🏻

@sunflowersaremyfav93 that’s a good plan! I think I will start testing twice a say. No positive test yet and on day 12 of cycle today... looked back through flo though and had the egg discharge (sounds gross!) on day 16 last month so maybe I just am later than they predict.

Nice idea of starting new thread. 🤗

@CookieMonster3001 aw thank you :) that’s so nice! Haha I don’t feel positive I’m just trying to keep smiling so the negative doesn’t break my spirit :) thank you so much! The weight loss is keeping me going at the moment! I know it feels such a long time ago now :) 100 percent BFPs are on the horizon :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 sorry to hear about BFN keeping it all crossed for next cycle and think we will cross over twws :) for your first proper one eek :) hope you are okay :) can you believe another new thread :) xx

@mackjm20 Wouldn't that be amazing 🤩 100% positives for every lady in this group 🤞🏼
Sorry to hear there's been BFNs for several of you ☹️
@CookieMonster3001 I'm doing ok thanks. I think I ovulated yesterday (according to Clue) so back into the TWW again. Just trying to focus of other things and enjoy DTD. I'm working on weight loss at the minute as I'm about 4 stone overweight 🙈

hey!!

thought i would jump on here too, if that's okay?

my fiancé and i are TTC at the moment, only started around a week ago. we thought about it for a while and looked at various options but i'm hoping this will work for us!

my main "dilemmas" were mental health and iron deficiency, so i'm now on supplements for iron, b6, b12 and vitamin c. i'm also a low BMI so am looking at checking that with a doctor too.

Love reading this thread! I'm on day 7 of flashing smileys and I'm sick of it tbh! It's silly because I didn't think I'd be so obsessed so quickly. I only came off the pill on the 23rd Jan, haven't had a proper period just a WB so I know I'm being super impatient. I don't think I'm going to ovulate and I'm breaking my diet with a glass of wine🤦🏽‍♀️
@hollymaeres I'm only first week of trying as well and it's fully taken over my life 😂

I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself because if I don't get pregnant this month but I did in March/April I could potentially have a Xmas/ NY baby which I wanted to avoid if poss. Does anyone else feel like that or is it a non issue?xx

Ugh. So I thought AF had come but then didn't go anywhere so I had a little bit of hope that maybe it was just spotting. But then took test this morning and BFN. But still no bleeding and I am on CD 30 which is now late. So confused and frustrated.

@NewbieB I always used to use first morning wee as I drink a lot of water and struggle to hold it. On Sunday when I did an afternoon one though, I didn't drink anything at all from 10-2pm and then did an OPK at 2pm. I never get EWCM so cant help you with that one!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 you never know! for some reason my FB keeps throwing all these videos at me about women who didn't know they were pregnant and then gave birth! Im like HOW?! lol.. Yeah the walks and the positive thinking has really got me in a better headspace this month so going to keep at it!! How are we on a 3rd thread already!!!!

@mackjm20 hey when I used to teach, we used to do employability sessions and I always did a segment on confidence and I always used to say even if your not confident, just pretend like you are! Eventually you will get so used to it, you wont even realised that you have actually become confident and you are no longer pretending!! Trying to have that attitude about positivity and I am sure it will have the same effect!

@Kayeyeem yay another TWW'er! Me and you are probably only a day apart, I'm 2DPO today (1DPO according to my apps!) Don't you just love this time of month...….sarcasm

@hollymaeres welcome to the crazy gang!! I suppose we cant really call ourselves pre-conception planners anymore as I think we are all activity TTC! Any questions, please do let us know!!

@Arrierttyclock ahh don't worry, I don't think you are the only one, in fact I think most of us were obsessed before we even started TTC haha, its hard not to when you want something so bad! I think some women say they have a lot of flasheys before their static so fingers crossed its on its way. Given its your first cycle of the pill it wouldn't be unusual for it to be a bit haywire. I initially wanted to try and plan a baby around certain times, my sister getting married alongside other things, although 5 months on and now I am at a point where I don't care anymore, I just want to be pregnant and have a healthy baby. Funny thing is for ages I wanted to get pregnant for a certain time so it wouldn't interfere with my sisters wedding, that got postponed anyway and now if I fall this month then my due date would be a week before her newly arranged wedding. Typical! and it would be sods law this month is the month I get pregnant (not that I am complaining!!)

@Wowthisisreal that's strange! Has the spotting completely stopped? How long is your cycle usually?

Welcome @hollymaeres 🙂 good luck to you!
@Arrierttyclock It does become an obsession doesn't it! 🙈
We planned both my previous pregnancies on when baby would be born to avoid work commitments my DH has and we're doing the same with this one 😂 not so bothered about an Xmas/Ny baby although it would be a pain lol.
@Wowthisisreal Oh frustrating! I had similar last cycle. Thought it was AF then it stopped so maybe it was spotting but AF did eventually arrive a week late. I think the stress of the TWW combined with coming off the implant messed me up. Fingers crossed for you!
@CookieMonster3001 Yay fingers crossed we both got a BFP this cycle! I'm trying so hard not to symptom check lol