Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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Aw thanks everybody 🥰

Just trying to stay a bit calmer for now... got a few more tests coming tomoz to keep an eye on the line 😉 cos I'm a little apprehensive due to being 35 (36 in may) and risk of mc... I've only told hubby so far
Think we're both set on waiting for the 12/13wk scan before telling family/friends... lockdown helps keeping news to ourselves right now.
I plan to get a private early scan at 7wks to confirm everything is going well...
I plan to ring gp's next week...
Sounds rather silly but I think I want to double check, triple check before phoning gp's....

annoying thing is that I had X-ray of my hand yesterday... (that's a whole 'mother story!) I got asked could I be pregnant - I said no, cos I had 2 negatives last Friday & Sunday....
it's only cos I did a cheapie this morning that I saw a line 😳😳

baby dust for you all ❤️

Eek congratulations @gems05 😀 how exciting! Is this your 1st?

Well I officially have no idea what's going on anymore! I thought AF had arrived then it was so none existent I thought it might be spotting but it's now been going on 3.5 days and did get slightly heavier but compared to a normal period it's still very light, and excuse the TMI, it's very mucus-y too and there's never anything there on the pad only when I wipe, but then not every time 🤨 I'm also extremely bloated. I wish I just had a definitive answer, one way or the other 😭

@Kayeyeem have you tested yet?

@gems05 sounds like you have a great plan. And the good news is inspite of covid time is flying!!! Well I think so anyway.

Well thats it for me for this cycle. Af arrived this morning. So weird as it's 2 days early. Usually am 29 or 30 days so no idea what's going on!

@mackjm20 I think we probably will!! As I started 2 days earlier, my ovulation window has been moved forward (providing it goes back to its usual pattern!) to around Monday 8th Feb!

@Kayeyeem that's so frustrating! have you done any more testing?

@princesscallie sorry to hear about AF!! mine was 2 days early as well this month!! Looks like there is a few of us in the Feb cycle!

I will be taking a bit of a break from here, but will return closer to ovulation to join you all in our TWW shindigs!!
Fingers crossed for us all! :)

Hey ladies - I need to catch up on all messages. The last few weeks at work have been crazy but the project I was working on finished yesterday so should be better from on.

So you may remember me telling you that my ovulation was end of Jan so bf was like no let's still wait till Feb.

Anyway I hadn't been using OPKs this month because I've been working like crazy and not had time to think about it. I'm sitting here now with legs up after DTD., he was like oh fuck it I'm going in you (romantic I know) haha.

So is this my first real TWW?! According to Flo yesterday was peak day? I'm going to do an OPK now and see what it say.

Will be buying pineapple and pomegranate juice this evening!!

@CookieMonster3001 @princesscallie I haven't tested again as it seemed a waste if it was AF 😆 And in all honesty I think it is AF 😩 It's got heavier today (still not at usual standards) and I feel like I've got normal AF cramps, plus it's been going on too long for implantation.
Oh well back to it next week! 🙈
@sunflowersaremyfav93 😂 my husband was like that too. We had a plan to start trying this next week, then all of a sudden he just decided to, in his words, 'stick it in and get it done!' So romantic 🙄🤣🤦🏽‍♀️

@Kayeyeem haha!! So funny! I was like ok!!! Then sat with my legs up after haha! But I don't know when my peak day was.. I won't count this as cycle 1 and will try not to symptom spot or test early but fingers crossed it just happened to be my peak day.

Morning hope everyone is okay :)

@minipilling how are you getting on? Yea for me the program although highlights the differences showed me life is still moving forwards and who knows when everything will be fully normal again? Have you made any decisions yet?

@gems05 how are you getting on?

@Kayeyeem any sign of full af yet? How are
You doing?

@princesscallie sorry to hear af arrived good luck for next cycle :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Omgosh your first tww I am so happy and excited for you! How are you feeling?

So update from me af came 5 days early last cycle and lasted 2 days more than normal- no idea why. My temps have been all over the place the last week too. So app predicted ovulation yesterday but I have had no ewcm (which is unheard of for me) and nothing on opks. So now I don’t know if I just haven’t ovulated this cycle or whether because My period came early I’ll ovulate when I would have if it had come at the right time on the 7th. Doing two opks a day just in case but I’m totally baffled. Anyone else just had a full cycle without ovulating? Like nothing on an opk? I’m currently cd 14 Haha here’s me thinking this cycle was going to be easier than last lol x

Hey @mackjm20 that's interesting! Keep doing the OPKs though sounds just like you're cycle is different this month so your OV would be as well? I still thought making a baby would be so easy... I thought one time DTD and baby would been in there haha!!
I'm good though, I think it's my first TWW I didn't actually check for my ovulation in Jan but it was my fertile week for sure.. I won't get my hopes up though. Planning on giving it a really good go this month though, I'm ovulating last week of Feb so fingers crossed.

Looks like SIL wedding in Spain is in doubt so pleased we didn't delay anything!!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 so strange isn’t it! Yea I’m just going to keep tracking and see if I get a peak opk at all :) Omgosh if only it were that easy! Eek so exciting for you fingers crossed :) ah so lucky you didn’t delay for it :) xxx

Hey @mackjm20
I'm doing ok... still not convinced it's real 🤣having lots of low down dull cramps and backache which keeps me thinking that AF is on the way...
I'm booked to see midwife for 03/03/21 at 8-9weeks - I was half expecting the receptionist to be rude as per some stories I've read but she was so lovely "many congratulations" and spoke through the next step of booking in with midwife - I'm so glad she made it comfortable on the phone
Next thing I've gotta do is inform work as I work in a factory so there has to be a risk assessment etc but my main concern is keeping it on the DL so my FIL doesn't find out before 12wks (he's top manager at same place 🤯) hence I've got a private mtg with HR on Monday to keep it DL

@mackjm20 as for your cycle - my bbt was consistently up and down and the app keeps assuming ovulation was on "this day" but the opks didn't correspond with bbt - I'd keep testing with the opks - best thing I did was get the clearblue digital opks - more clearer to understand 👍
So keep going until those opks change

Morning Ladies!!

Thought I would hop on and have a little catch up! Not much to update from me, CD6 today and going to start OPK testing on Thursday. I have had the nastiest headache since last Thursday that I cant seem to shift. I recently started taking maca root powder (OH has as well) and I think it might be connected to that, so have decided to give it a miss. Not worth it, if this is going to be how I feel! OH doesn't seem to be having any issues with it, but also not really noticed any difference. He has only been taking it for 2 weeks so that might be why.
He had been researching a bit and thinks that his testosterone has dropped a lot. He used to do a lot of weight lifting (6 x week) and since covid he has not trained for over a year. Coincidently, that's when he has also noticed a massive drop in his sex drive so he thinks the lack of pumping weights has caused his testosterone to drop and that's affected his libido. It makes sense and the timelines add up. Maca root is supposed to help with libido and recently I read that zinc is a massive factor as well so have picked up some of that for us both to take (its good for hair and nails apparently!) so hopefully that helps him feel a bit more himself!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 eeee I am so excited for you, your first official TWW! How are you feeling? You been eating your pineapple everyday and keeping your feet warm? lol

@Kayeyeem ahh no, did AF properly arrive in the end? I hate when its lingering and your stuck in limbo.

@mackjm20 how are you doing lovely? That's so strange, I would encourage you to keep testing!! Like me last month, I honestly thought I wasn't going to ovulate and eventually did a week later, so it was a good job I didn't quit at testing otherwise I would have totally missed it! It might be that you are going to ovulate a bit later like you said based on when you would have normally started. Fingers crossed you get your peak soon!

I was telling OH yesterday about my old manager who told me she was pregnant. She had always told me she never wanted kids and this had happened by accident. Of course she is still happy but makes you wonder how on earth people get pregnant by accident!! (I mean I know how...but its a bit of a stab in the heart when others try for so long at the right time with no luck!!)

@gems05 ahh I am glad you are doing well!! Only a month to go before your appointment!! Hopefully it will fly by for you.

Update from me too - this month is GO! Cd 22 and 5 dpo so I am officially in the TTW. We dtd every day in fertile week (apart from potentially ovulation day! 😕) so will have to see. I'm expecting it not to happen but will be gutted. Trying not to symptom spot but past 3 days my dreams have been SO vivid which I remember happened with #1. We actually took a test because of a dream I had where I found out I was pregnant (even though I was a couple of days early) and it was a digital positive! But could also be that I'm generally a bit stressed right now too.

@Wowthisisreal eek the TWW! Hope it treats you well! I am usually pretty calm and collected until the TWW strikes lol. Sounds like you covered all bases and fingers crossed for a bfp this month!! Hopefully you and @sunflowersaremyfav93 are the first to kick off all the BFPs in Feb that I just pray we are going to get!!!

Hey @CookieMonster3001 Oh no, not fun!! Yeah maybe that is the cause?
That's sooo interesting re your hubby as well.. I do think that this all does have an effect on sex drive for them.. my OH isn't going to the gym either and that makes total sense now!! Going to look up the powder, looks good!
Ah do you think this is my TWW? I keep thinking yes then I keep thinking no don’t get your hopes up (which I shouldn’t do anyway) because I wasn’t tracking ovulation I’m not sure if I would have caught? I had ovulation cramps on that Weds/Thurs and we DTD Fri
I keep having period like cramps and shooting pains so I’m getting all excited haha but I really shouldn’t. Dont know whether to buy a FRER on Amazon. Are they good?
I’ve been wearing socks just like you said, I couldn’t bring myself to get the pineapple but I’ve been having a glass of pomegranate juice a day because apparently that helps?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I think without OPK testing its hard to tell, so I would just go by your flo app tbh and assume that you are! how many DPO are you now? Haha I know the feeling! I am always symptom spotting in my TWW even though I say I am not going to. Last month I wrote EVERY SINGLE symptom down, so this month if I get the same I can write them off instead of obsessing over them!

Not heard much about pomegranate juice! Might check that out! I usually get my FRERs from amazon as they are a little cheaper!

@CookieMonster3001 I usually get a leak CD15 and we DTD CD16 so if my cycle was like that this month as well I'd be in with a chance I guess? I think I'm 4dpo?
Ooh what were your symptoms, I'm going to write mine all out too and save them on my notes 😂

• period cramps
• shooting pains
• feels like I have more CM but that should be just normal and I've never paid attention to it

I doubt much is going on at 4dpo but I am already like I just wanna know!! 😫 how do people do this for so long?!

I'm going to order myself a FRER of Amazon now and do it on Saturday I think. AF if due next Thursday.

Hi all checking in again @mackjm20 I know the feeling keep craving chocolate all the time especially mini eggs the only eggs I need are in my ovaries still no period since I had my implant out, not ovulating, hoping my body will do something soon!

CD11 and still bleeding brown sludge! Really bored now. Anyone else having long periods off the pill? First day is medium flow, then heavy for a couple of days, then medium/light until the brown sludge comes in for the last few days. Any ideas when I should start my OPKs?

Hi all I've had a few days away as AF did come in full eventually and it's lasting ages (8 days so far, 5 days is my normal!) 😩 I just want to get on with trying again!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 probably!! Haha just remember (I should tell myself this as I am the worst!) that implantation doesn't really occur until at least 6DPO so anything you are feeling is prob due to progesterone/estrogenic. If it helps, my symptoms last month with the BFN were lots of cramping, nipple twinges, backache, creamy CM (only on some days) and this kind of went on for pretty much all of the TWW.
The symptoms I had during the TWW when I fell pregnant were cramping, headache, backache, pinching and creamy CM.... LOL not much difference really!!!!

@Potterurotter ahh hopefully something will happen soon!! it might take a cycle for your periods to settle. I was craving chocolate the other day so badly, but we don't have any in the house as we are trying to be good. Finally found a half open packet of chocolate chips for baking and ate the entire bag lol

@minipilling oh no that doesn't sound pleasant! I was pretty lucky that my periods went pretty much back to normal straight after coming off the pill. I was only on the pill for about 2 years so not as long as some people. I did have 2 days of the brown sludge this month after the red bleeding stopped. I started OPK testing today at CD7. I am hoping my peak comes CD11!

@Kayeyeem 8 days is a long time!! hopefully it will ease off soon and you can get back to trying!

Me and OH plan to DTD tonight as a warm up for fertile week, hoping it goes well as he is already super stressed out with work! Blergh, I tell you what it really is starting to feel a bit like a chore!

@CookieMonster3001 Thanks, it seems to be lightening up today so hopefully that will be it. I had the implant taken out in October and I guess it's all still settling down. I shouldn't be so impatient! 😂
Have fun DTD 😉 don't let it become a chore or else chocolate will soon become the only thing to enjoy in life 🙈😆
I've done the chocolate chip scoffing before, they're actually really yummy 🤤🤣

@minipilling you sound very similar to me, coming off the implant, except my AF started off really slowly with heavy days finally appearing on CD6. CD9 today and I'm fed up of it 🤦🏽‍♀️

It's DH birthday today and was hoping to DTD as a warm up to fertile window and well because you never know...😆 but AF won't bugger off so I'll have to make do with Cake 🍰😂

@CookieMonster3001 So annoying that any implantation symptoms are also the same as AF... gosh I'm already not liking the TWW abs this isn't even my first proper cycle!!

@Kayeyeem haha I'm due over Valentine's Day as well... lucky partners 😂