Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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🤣 yes! Tempting

I'm off to loudly make a (decaf) coffee, meeting my best friend for a walk and coffee today, I'm going to tell her, I need someone to natter to outside mn that isn't my partner or I will go mad 🤣

Omgosh @Curiosity101 I am so happy for you and you @wrensandrobins gosh both of you on first cycle any tips ladies?

Ah have you told dh yet?

Honestly biggest congratulations!!!

I can imagine it must be overwhelming but we are all here to listen and support through the good and the bad :) xxx

@Curiosity101 congratulations! Amazing news.

AF arrived for me this morning so both myself and OH are feeling gutted. Think I’m just going to take the day off social media and phone - those pregnancy ads or whatever following you around are the devil!

@mackjm20 Thanks.

Only tip I can pass on is to just have fun with it and make sure some of your DTD is around ovulation time. It's just luck of the draw. It could easily have taken us several cycles 🤷🙂.

DH knows now. I woke him up around 7am and told him the news. I think he was as shocked as me. It was really sweet though, one of the first things he did was Google 'second baby' on YouTube to look for tips and such 😄.

I keep telling him not to get too ahead of himself. This is just stage one of having a baby. There's still a long road ahead.

@surreychick Sorry to hear that 😔. 🤞 For you for your next cycle.

@Curiosity101 awww bless him that’s so sweet :) ah I’m wishing you such a healthy happy journey will you stay in the group :)? I hope you do and if not please pop in to give us updates :)

@surreychick so sorry to hear that sending so much love your way xxx

@mackjm20 Thanks 😄. I'm definitely planning to stick around and will also join a birth month thread at some point in a few weeks. I want to get a viability scan first though in 3-4 weeks time before I get too excited and join any birth clubs.

I probably do need to call the doctors sooner rather than later though cause they'll want to keep on top of my thyroid medication.

@Curiosity101 I’m so happy to hear this will be lovely to follow journeys all the way through :) eek I’m so excited for you :) xx

Aah @Curiosity101 congrats!!!!! I'm so happy for you and how brilliant that you got a BFP first cycle!! Fingers crossed it sticks for you, please keep us updated!!

Does anybody else get a bit emotional around this time of year? I always get like this before New Years. I've stupidly been binge watching one born every minute and then googling uterus didelphic (double uterus) and getting myself worked up. Had a little cry this morning with my OH but it'll be ok I hope.

@Curiosity101 Can you remind us what supplements you took? Did you DTD every day, every other day? You ate loads of fruit and veg as well didn't you?
I'm obsessing a little over the stuff I can control because with the uterus abnormality it leaves an awful lot out my hands. I sound absolutely crazy I know.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Thanks 😊

No supplements to speak of really. I took my generic multivitamin once or twice a week if I remembered too. However post ovulation I switched to Folic Acid + Vitamin D tablets. I've been taking those consistently since ovulation.

I wouldn't say I've eaten that we'll tbh. Especially with it being the run up to Christmas. As a rule I do eat plenty of veg, fiber etc. Didn't cut down on alcohol or caffeine. Though obviously am not going to drink anymore or have more than 200mg caffeine per day.

In terms of DTD, we just did it as much as we wanted. It was probably every other day and sometimes every day. Nothing special to report there, without going into too much detail we have a new mattress so there was no hanging about to let anything settle. I like to think that meant only the strongest swimmers were in with a chance 😂

Sending you love @surreychick... those pregnancy ads are not what you want when it feels like this. Take time for yourself xx

Hahah ok on my way to buy a new mattress 😂 I think you're right about it just being luck, plenty of DTD def helps. I've been telling my OH how much we'll have to do it 😂

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I know exactly what you mean about feeling emotional! Sending lots of love your way. So easy to go down the google rabbit hole bless you! I think this year has been so strange aswell that a lot of people I know are feeling really emotional as it comes to a close and there is still no conclusion to it.

I managed to keep a smile for AF over Christmas but have to admit had a little wobble yesterday thinking about going into 2021 and had hoped so much I would have been pregnant by now. Had a good old cry watching tiktoks of other people ttc and wallowed in self pity for a little. But have put my positive pants back on today and ready to fully track from tomorrow once AF is gone going into cycle 5. Praying that opks tell me I ovulate as like you I spent way too much time on google and have self diagnosed myself with every possible condition under the sun. Now wishing I had used opks and temping for my last 4 cycles when I didn’t because I thought it would be easier than this x

@mackjm20 That's exactly it, gone down a rabbit hole of Dr Google and One born every minute... I'm going to go out on a dog walk in a bit and then do the food shop and try not to look at my phone. My Instagram 'discover' page is full of pregnancy stuff because it's all I look at.

Is this your 4th cycle TTC? I think it's totally normal but I completely get how you feel, I know I'd be feeling the same but it's good to have a self-pity party, feel how you feel and then like you said get the positive pants on. When are you next ovulating? Have you looked into a conception lube? I'm going to get us some Pre-seed I think, apparently the lube helps the swimmers up there. Worth a shot?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 horrid isn’t it?! That’s a good idea! I’ve just done my food shop list going to go out and do that in a min and food prep got my list of all the tips I can find on things to eat to improve fertility and from jan not drinking and as well as tracking doing every little tip I can to try and improve chances :)

Just going into our 5th cycle now :) I’m going to get some pre seed for cycle 7 if tracking using opks and temping doesn’t work for cycle 5 or 6. Dh is really not keen on any intervention that involves him he just wants to ‘go with the flow’ he is so relaxed about it all which is why I’ve held off on opks for so long but at this point I have no idea if flo even has my ovulation right or even if I’m ovulating lol! 2 of the cycles flo moved my ‘fertile’ period meaning we missed the dates completely post event so at this stage I want to Atleast control what I can :) then if that doesn’t work after 2 months I’ll be getting out the pre seed and telling dh we have to DTD every day :)- in fairness we haven’t been DTD as regularly as we probably should so going to try and work on that jan and feb :) fingers crossed!

At Christmas my sister in law had some news (not baby related) but everyone thought it was going to be a baby announcement and then that turned to convos about us like aww wouldn’t a baby announcement at Christmas have been nice (they don’t know we are trying) and it took everything in me not to be so upset and shout yea that was the plan lol. Then my sisters boyf made a joke when we saw them saying his cousin was pregnant (same name as my sis) and everyone again thought he meant she was pregnant (she doesn’t even want kids) plus have had 2 friends get accidentally pregnant over the last 6 months. I’m like okay baby dust I’m over here lol honestly you couldn’t make it up haha x

How weird! Me and my partner got a new mattress too 🤣 maybe it is the new mattress thing! Haha

My only tip is don't so what we did- we started far too early and too much- like 10 days before I ovulated, by the time we got to ovulation we were completely burned out, the day after i ovulated we weren't entirely sure if i had because the temp was a bit borderline and my partner flat out refused to have sex again 🤣 first time ever!

Honestly though I think it was a completely lucky fluke! Fingers crossed it stays lucky!

I took the seven seas supplements cause the pregnacare ones make me throw up. Also a calcium supplement, and omega 3.

I took the calcium supplements because my dad has osteoporosis, pregnancy can leach the calcium from you so I wanted to make sure my levels were right before pregnancy.

I know exactly how you feel @mackjm20!! It's hard to hide your facial expression when sake body tells you face to face isn't it?
The fact you haven't been at it DTD like crazy is a good thing though and must feel less pressure too?

@wrensandrobins I'm taking Vit D, Folic and DHA do you think that's enough?

I also have an OPK question... so the picture attach should you all last cycle and this cycle. Looks like I've got my peak today.. so that would mean tomorrow would be the day I have most chance of conceiving is that right? My peak was CD 15 last month and is CD 14 this month.. that's normal isn't it? It wouldn't be the same day every cycle would it?

Oops ... image now attached.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 you might ovulate overnight with an opk that dark, I seemed to ovulate less than 12 hrs later! But everyone is different! Are you tracking temps? If you are you might see the rise tomorrow morning.

I think that's fine! I exactly what's recommended :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I'm similar to @wrensandrobins. I believe I ovulate within 12 hours of a peak. For me DTD the day after would probably be too late as you also need to account for the 6 hours it takes sperm to get to the right place.

Just cracked open my Pregnacare pregnancy vitamins. I was disappointed to see that they're still as huge as I remember them being 😔. I'll have to remember to take them with a meal so they're easier to swallow.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Vitamin D and Folic acid should be plenty unless you have an underlying deficiency you need to treat. 👍

Ah ok I see, but the sperm stays up there for a while doesn't it.. for a few days so having plenty of sex during the fertile window should be enough is that right? @Curiosity101 @wrensandrobins
I'm not temping that all confused me wayyy too much. I was hoping to just have plenty of baby dancing and around the time so there was sperm ready and waiting 😂

@sunflowersaremyfav93 yes, 5-7 days depending on your cm, but I remember reading that 24 hrs or so before the egg is released is the optimal time. So the sperm is waiting for the egg