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been ttc #1 since forever...

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nomoremagnolia · 17/10/2007 18:24

Feeling very fed up with failing every month and wondered if there's anyone in the same boat? It's a lonely boat on a journey to nowhere at the moment, but if anyone else wants to join me, some company would be nice

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gillypumpkin · 30/10/2007 14:15

We all seem to be at similar stages. I'm CD22 and due on Saturday. I was crampy and under the weather all Sunday and yesterday (I don't get symptoms this early) and of course got excited that I may be pg; when deep down I know I am not despite really giving it our best shot this month. s'not fair Really feeling the whole world is on top of me, I hate work and all I want is a baby - counselling not working this time either. I am seriously considering asking the doc for AD on Friday.

noooomoooorescarynames · 30/10/2007 14:21

I'm CD 23 and trying not to read too much into the fact that I'm not fancying booze and DH said my boobs were 'hard'

gillypumpkin · 30/10/2007 14:23

..I know what you mean. Oh to be innocent again and actually excited towards the end of the cycle in case this was 'the one'.

herbaceous · 30/10/2007 16:10

Gilly - I'm sorry that you're so down. Work, and everything, can only work as distractions for so long, can't they, and while they're fun and challenging enough. My mind seems to have a safety switch, when after a certain amount of agonising and wailing, it just switches off into a more manageable 'whatever...' mode.

It's so hard to know how to set your mind, isn't it - doing everything you can to try and conceive, with all the reflexology, herbs, grapefruit juice, etc so that while you know you're doing as much as you can, it's all the more disappointing when AF comes, or just take it as it comes, so you can always think 'oh well, next month I'll have reflexology, drink grapefruit juice, etc' and have something in reserve. I haven't mastered the balance yet.

PirateoftheScarybeing · 30/10/2007 16:12

Just wanted to say that it took me 3 yrs to get an egg fertilised, naturally tho.

have dd.

i felt like it too wouldnever happen so I send you all, positive thoughts.x

gillypumpkin · 30/10/2007 17:00

Thanks Herbaceous ; its just that I am used to being mega busy and a big fish in a small pond so to speak, whilst 3 mths into my new job stuff has changed from the original job description, timescales have slipped and I have very very little work to do. I feel I am not being used to my full capacity or potential. Ironically enough it would be the ideal job if I was pg but not being pg and being bored at work adds insult to injury. I am trying really hard not to make having a baby the solution to all my problems but it is hard.

Just out of interest here is my wee list of things for the forthcoming cycle 12:

  • CD monitor to detect ovulation
  • Acupuncture
  • chinese herbs
  • Pregnacare
  • EPO and Guaifenesin in first half of cycle for extra CM
  • hypnotherapy via MP3 (never tried it before but TJ posted the link on the TTC afetr mc thread and I want to give it a go)

DH is on fish oils, a multi vit and extra zinc plus 3 brazil nuts every day if I remember to give them to him.

Of course there is the BD!

gillypumpkin · 30/10/2007 17:05

pirateofthescarybeing, thanks for your words of support

herbaceous · 30/10/2007 17:06

My devices in reserve for next month are:

Thermometer, to monitor temps (it might be less stressful to know what's going on. If it makes me even madder, I'll stop doing it)
Preseed, grapefruit juice, other EWCM-creating materials
Reflexology

And it's only the bleedin' start. If I do get up stick, I then have to worry about not losing it. Again.

noooomoooorescarynames · 30/10/2007 17:11

gilly I've been tempted for a while now to go to the doc and tell her how fed up with ttc I am. I don't want to be at work I keep thinking that I should be on maternity leave by now...

poppy75 · 30/10/2007 18:14

Hello guys only a week without posting and there are so many messages!!!

Gilly & herb - you're feeling down, work sucks when you are ttc. Especially as everyone I work with sneezes & they're expecting! I've recently had promotion etc... but it's so difficult to get motivated big hugs to you

Nomore - fingers crossed sore (.)(.) good sign

Pirate - good to hear your positive story will keep us hoping

I have found a new thing to add to our monthly lists of craziness... Hypnotherapy!!! I bought a CD and it's great. Went through all my thoughts of what pregnancy meant to me & didn't realise how the m/c left me so scared and negative. Am doing weekly - if doesn't work is still very relaxing. A friend of mine had 4 m/c and had a few sessions at the Zita West's clinic she is now 4 months pregnant and felt this helped the most (also had Acupuncture & diet review). Will let you all know if anygood. Not ttc this month as booked hols for next month, but due to start again in nov. Was wierd using contraception again, but good to take pressure off.

coggy · 30/10/2007 18:16

I'm at a similar stage to you girls too weirdly enough.
CD25 today and feel as if AF is arriving AT ANY SECOND!!!
I know that tampon holding feeling herby...although I have to say...I think that I am doing some damage to my bladder as I'm constantly putting off going to the loo as I don't want to see what I might find IYSWIM!!!!!

Ovd on CD15 this month (usually CD17 - 19) and as I only have a LP of 8/9 days....todays' the day...........

.........but it's getting closer to the end of today isn't it???

poppy75 · 30/10/2007 18:17

Hello have just posted a message and can't find it what has happened? Much more confusing to use now they've split the pages

coggy · 30/10/2007 18:19

Oooh...meant to add what I was going to do differently next month if when AF arrives.

I'm going to do:

Absolutely bugger all...except BD.
No temps, no monitor, no CM, no charting, nothing!!!

I have done it SO much and it hasn't worked so WHY am I still bothering????!!!!!

coggy · 30/10/2007 18:20

Poopy - it's below mine.....typing at the same time!

Just scroll down a bit.

poppy75 · 30/10/2007 18:20

Phew worked out how to handle it now . Fingers crossed for you all this month - we have to have one BFP between us!!

coggy · 30/10/2007 18:20

I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry to call you Poopy!!!!

poppy75 · 30/10/2007 18:23

Hello Coggy - sometimes it is good to get back to basics and just BD as much as possible and keep fingers crossed.

Maybe we have to just imagine that we're 18 again and don't want to get pregnant- as ttc doesn't seem to work.

Can just imagine myself getting another 80's perm, bad clothes in order to get into character!!!hee hee hee

poppy75 · 30/10/2007 18:24

Have nearly fallen off chair laughing - didn't notice at first!!! Very amusing may be i'll have to change it next thread quite catchy don't you think

coggy · 30/10/2007 18:26

Yes....I am rather appauled (sp?) by the thought of my blue and pink eyeshadow with electric blue mascara form the 80s.

(Almost as appauled as I was when I realised how I'd spelt your name then!!!!!! )

poppy75 · 30/10/2007 18:32

How long have you been ttc???

Can just imagine DH face when he walks into house to see me downing a bottle of diamond white, curly bad perm, 80's hoop earings and bad eye shadow. Probably wouldn't work as wouldn't get a BD at all.

Definately agree that all this ttc is boring, has turned me into a charting wierdo. Have decided along with you not to chart, temp or anything else next month.

Spoke to another friend who ttc DS for 3 years he is now 4 and has been ttc 2nd for 3 years. Finally gave up all the effort and decided that she would just enjoy DS and has now fallen pregnant with twins!!!

PirateoftheScarybeing · 30/10/2007 19:07

I am glad it will give you some positive thoughts!!! I know its very annoying in many ways for someone to come along and say 'hey its cool, dont' worry it happened for me', becuase, well becuase who knows. I just know the feelings I went thru, thinking it may never happen.

I was living in london allthat time of trying. Went thru some very traumatic times, had a nervous breakdown to boot.

Left London, went camping , and two weeks later I concieved, in a campsite ( obv in a tent)by Glastonbury Tor !!!

I still say it was magic.

PirateoftheScarybeing · 30/10/2007 19:09

and fwiw, I was shagging too early in my cycle.

jess1996 · 30/10/2007 19:20

I gave up temp'ing months ago, but I find it impossible not to check cm . Is it just me?

I bought some cheapo OV sticks about a week before my ep was diagnosed. They're sitting in the drawer doing nothing so I might give them a try this month.

herb - sounds promising for you. Can you have an LP of 18 days if not pregnant? I thought my LP of 15 days was long. I count the last day of EWCM (I have days of it as OV-day then the first day of creamy cm as 1dpo. 15 months ago when I was a ttc virgin I didn't even notice cm! Fingers crossed for you anyway.

noooomoooorescarynames · 30/10/2007 19:41

pirate who are you 'normally'? I recognise your story but not your name

mowmi · 30/10/2007 21:01

Hello Ladies, Just read this thread from start to finish - i do hope there is some good news on here soon!
Hope you don't me joining you...we've been trying for about a year with no luck. Went for an internal scan yesterday and I've got PCOS, I'm on CD 53 and i feel like things are getting worse...! DH is also below par so feeling quite gloomy! Back the hospital in Jan to discuss next steps.
Trying to stay positive but it's hard isn't it?

Here's to good some good news for us all soon.

x

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