TTC after MC - November 2020 (Thread 15)

[VP91x]

Hi All,

Please tag anyone from the old thread 🥰🥰

And anyone else who would like to join please do xx

Hey everyone!
I’m new to this so not sure if I’m on the right thread. I’m 41. AMH 0.12 so very low and Testosterone very low 0.3. Going to try DHEA for a month . Not had a period in months . I’m Menopausal. Meant to be trying IVF cycle end of Jan. Has anyone else on here got a similar story to mine ? I feel so devastated as I only got married a few months ago during lockdown .

@Hopingformyrainbow
Ah dear your hav been through a terrible time 😢 i am really sorry to hear this. I have had a mc at 14 weeks in Aug and and 5+3 weeks and currently bleeding now. My mc at 14 weeks was natural, was refused d&c due to covid. Glad this current one has occured naturally because I can only describe as a heavy clotty period so if you did start bleeding naturally then please try not to worry. My G.P has referred me for a pelvic scan to check for fibroids and polyps. I am inpatient so I have arranged this to be done privately on 5th Jan. I was due a smear in march so brought that forward to jan to tick a box there. G.P has also asked me to attend the surgery for thyroid blood test just to check.
Im giving myself a month off and I have booked acupuncture sessions , 1 per week for 4 weeks. Im also going to take up swimming in January. Pending my cycle , we will try again end of jan.
Take care xxx

@MgW1 thank you. I had been going to acupuncture. I’ll continue it with that. I’m going to join the gym too. I’m still thinking that I need to wait until Feb to try again. For my own benefit. I need to know everything that had emerged regarding my health had settled back to normal.

I’ve been contacted by an EPU nurse today who did her best to reassure me. She has told me not to worry about genetics as I have conceived and carried a baby to full term and that there is no problem with conception or polycystic ovaries etc as I’m ovulating even with everything going on. She spoke to me for over an hour so that helped. She tried to reassure me it is a case of a pregnancy that wasn’t viable and that so many people go through this and it is a OB off thing. Xx

@Hopingformyrainbow
I suppose there will be a lot of ladies that miscarry before they know they are pregnant. The chances of it not sticking or not being quite right are quite high. I am 37 , not sure how old you are. Give yourself some time for hormones to settle too and presumably your thyroid is now under control? Even if I wasnt having the scan and smear etc, id still be waiting after a full period first. Glad I have it arranged for peace of mind especially now its happened twice , i just need to build my strength up. You will get there , yes the acupuncture will help? How many session have you had ? I have tried 1 session and now this course of 4 but its not something I can continue with at £50 a session. Xx

@bez91
I had mc at 14 weeks in Aug and had a scan ( baby stopped at 12 weeks - literally days after dating scan) but it was only to confirm heart beat. So as I have now had another miscarriage , I just asked the G.p if it would be a good idea and she agreed but now I have gone ahead and arranged it privately via baby bond. I thought I could be waiting about 2 months on nhs with xmas and covid. Sorry to hear its happened to you twice. Have you not been offered a blood test for thyroid? Xx

@TheDaydreamBelievers hmm maybe I've not ovulated then. Just assumed due to ov pains and EWCM. Are you waiting for AF before trying again? I think you said your were initially but I must admit I've changed my mind about 200 times!

@MgW1 ahh thanks I'll look out for "Baby bond" in future if things don't go well. Hope you're not waiting too long to be seen either way, To be fair I've not pushed it with the hospital/GP, I had a very easy time first time around with my daughter so assume they just think it's not a concern

@bez91, like you I havent yet decided. We havent DTD at all yet actually. Will definitely wait until after negative tests though

@bez91
It probably isnt , you have probably just been unlucky.... 3rd time lucky 🤞🏻 xx

@MgW1 thank you for trying to calm me. My acupuncture is £45 per session. I am uncertain if my TSH has settled yet - I’m waiting for bloods to be ran to check. X

So sorry to hear that @Hopingformyrainbow 😔 I have tried to get out for a walk and fresh air everyday, and tried to do a few bits around the house to distract me. Don’t try to push yourself if you aren’t ready. It took us two days to decorate for Christmas because my heart wasn’t in it, and a lot of the time I was just sitting staring into space, but you’ll get through this! Just let yourself process it all and cry if you need to.

@bez91 funny I have been wondering if I have or am going to ovulate. I’ve had some one sided pain that I’ve felt during ovulation before, and a bit of spotting today. No EWCM though I normally do get. I feel like it’s too soon though so I’m trying not to think too much,

@Hopingformyrainbow
I think your body has been through so much stress, defo good idea to give yourself a month or 2 to heal. Its best for the next pregnancy as well, you obviously dont have trouble conceiving, I have every faith you will get your 🌈❤🙏 xx

@Hopingformyrainbow I can't imagine what you've been through, you are one tough cookie for getting through it. I hope you and DH allow yourself time to grieve and to just be together, look after yourselves, that sounds like the most important thing right now. As time goes on you will start to feel better, not because you've forgotten what's happened but you'll become more at peace with it all, and that will allow you to move on properly. Take care both of you and enjoy some time together relaxing.

Was back in for follow up scan that I thought would say incomplete miscarriage from 3 weeks ago was gone and done, and I could move on. Instead they said it's still incomplete because the endometrial lining is 2mm thicker than it should be. So I have to take the pills I thought I had avoided taking 2 weeks ago because I stupidly took the advice of the sonographer that day, who said if I had a lot of bleeding over the following few days I likely wouldn't need it, and I had loads of bleeding.

Have to take the pills tomorrow now when I get my mum to travel 3 hours to mind my dc and go back in January for a scan. Explaining to them that I don't have childcare for these things as my DH is working every day except the 25th and we've no support from his family who are local and can't just come in for a scan immediately after Christmas easily fell on deaf ears. So gutted and angry that it's not all over and will drag into next year, and that clearly any attempt at ttc this month has been pointless.

Oh rubbish @VP91x

@Lozmagill Hi and welcome! I think there are ladies on here around your age and a couple who I know have at least started looking at IVF. Hope you can get some answers! X

@Hopingformyrainbow I agree with the other amazing advice, grieving will take the time it takes, but in times of grief (eg losing my dad, having the mc) it's made a world of difference to get out and walk every day, especially if you're working from home. You and DH will know when it's the right time to start TTC again. The only advice I have is to have a proper walk every day, and to let yourself grieve while also maintaining normality around you. It does get easier I promise Xx

Sorry my first message was supposed to be @Garman don't know what happened there! 😄 I hope you can get the ball rolling with pills etc and childcare, I know you were hoping to get this over with xx

So sorry for how your day is going @Garman 😔 that’s not fun to find out. Hopefully the bleeding from the pills is manageable and the next few weeks pass quickly for you.

Hi ladies how are you all? Unfortunately I’m back on the thread. I had a private scan today should of been 7w6d and found I’ve had another missed miscarriage. Baby’s heartbeat stopped at 6w3d. I’m going to the EPU Monday and will be ringing my clinic to make another appointment to see my consultant. Does anyone have any suggestions for tests I can ask for? I’ve had blood clotting, thyroid all come back fine. My husbands sperm analysis was normal too x

@susiebluebell thank you again for your suggestions. I feel atm like I can’t do much. I just spend lots of time in bed. I’m just full of fear that this is going to happen again.

I’ve called my hospital and asked the endocrinologist if she can give me a call to try and allay my worries about this being due to my thyroid problem. Does anyone have any experience of getting pregnant with subclinical hypothyroidism? I was assured that the treatment I was/am on would be enough to ensure it wouldn’t cause problems but I can’t help but assume that it did.

@Hopingformyrainbow I dont have any experience but lots of ladies on another thread I'm on have been talking about this - might be worth making a thread about it on the conception board as im sure there would be a lot of knowledgeable and interested people

Hope every one is good today. Finally got my negative 2 weeks after miscarriage. Not sure if I've ovulated yet or when I will be so will probably just ttc on the next cycle

AF arrived today- my first since my MC. Back to work also so all happening! Feeling mixed emotions. Glad it's here and my body is doing what it should. Sad because this shouldn't be happening and I should be 12 weeks pregnant. Slightly relieved we didn't conceive when we were trying/not trying/but actually trying straight after the MC without a period first. I think I would have felt like a naughty school girl going against what the doctor said. 😂

@Sallyjo27
Have you had 2 miscarriages ? I have had too and I am having a pelvic scan to check for fibroids and cysts etc... i had a scan with first mc bit only to check for a heart beat so I am having it all looked at now to make sure everything is ok. How old are you? X

@MgW1 no this is my 4th now. I’ve had a scan of my ovaries and womb and it was all fine. I’ve had an AMH blood test too and that’s come back fine as well. I’m 28 x

@Sallyjo27
I am sorry to hear you have had a loss , have you been referred to a specialist now ? It must be so frustrating and stressful for you both. Did you watch the miscarriage documentary on channel 5 with Natasha Koplinski? Its worth a watch xxx

@TheDaydreamBelievers could you tag me in the thread/ point me towards it. I’m a complete newbie and can’t seem to find it! X