Nov Bus 21 - C*m stains, period rage and MASSIVE bullets

[Juno231]

Come join us on our TTC journeys - all you need is a (filthy) sense of humour!

Bus history:
June - 24 BFPs
July - 11 BFPs
August - 18 BFPs
September - 4 BFPs
October - 7 BFPs

November BFPs so far:
@AKC88 - November 3rd
@purplesky18 - November 3rd
@dippyegg32 - November 5th

Upcoming testing dates:
@pebblesinthesand - November 11th
@siana97 - November 16th
@nestinginNL - November 18th
@missgoldilocks - November 20th
@Franklydear - November 22nd
@Juno231 - November 22nd
@vil10 - November 23rd
@djmum83 - November 23rd
@clairey844 - November 27th
@mrsbear1122 - November 28th
@katao - December 4th
@Hopeful110 - December 12th
@minster2012 - February 14th

@Gem176 yeah same for me that's why I can never bring myself to do a cb test (on the few occasions I've had opportunity to before AF arrives) I want to save it for when I get those two lines! I'm finding I'm coping better each month with all you lovely ladies to chat to.

@franklydear cycle sisters

@notyetamumbuttrying omg I must be a psychopath then 😜 exercise is the only thing that helped with my endo pains tbh that and a hot bath afterwards!

@Gem176 I think the worst age to fly was 3, too big to stay sitted, not big enough for a 2 hours attention spam, for the ears for the baby, the trick is feed

@2020mission yes hot in LP is fairly common. I've had it before.

And I've had a day 21 blood test. Apparently I'm not ovulating so I've wasted a whole year trying! Just what you want to hear......

@paintfairy oh no! We're OPKs or BBT giving you a false indication of ovulation? Hopefully they can sort you out with something to get ovulating again 🤞 so frustrating having to a wait a year for tests!

@2020mission strangely yes the bbt i always got a rise? A slow one over about 3 days but always? Sits at 33.3 before O and after anywhere from 36.60 to 36.80? I didn't track the month they took the blood though. Opks have never been really dark the last few months. But I do get something at the right time. My cycles are like clockwork too. So no reason to suspect not? I do spot in my LP though and it was bad that month.

@Amy00 - congratulations, be careful with your expectations of an early scan. I thought this too but due to Covid they won’t have me in early so I’m going to have to wait until week 12 for the scan as partner doesn’t want me to go private due to last time x

I am going to ask dh to bring a take away for lunch

@Franklydear it could be tempting sometimes to work with you & no blowjobs for the boss I can get on board with...though you haven't painted your place in the best light 😬🤔

@Amy00 that's DEF REAL! And you'll have to get yourself some no alcohol Prosecco for your birthday, a worrying time but so good 🥰🙌🏻🌈

Whoops need to head into dentist so will continue after ....

@Minster2012 you’ll improve the place, bestie boy is nearly back from holiday, that’s good

Hi gals!

@Franklydear omg you poor love! Steroid insomnia is the worst. I go on hard core steroids when I have a Crohns flare, but also mix it with temazepam when I need to at night so I can actually sleep. Ask your doc about sleeping tabs?

@Minster2012 if I was in charge of adoption approvals I'd have given you the biggest, greenest tick on your application without a second thought. I get that they have to protect children from crazies, but seriously so much red tape?! And when there are so many kids desperate for a home 😢

@Amy00 yasss!! Beautiful line for so early and I have everything crossed this is the sticky one for you! 🎉

@notyetamumbuttrying 😂😂 your memes make my day

I had an 8 year relationship from 17-25years old, met DH when I was 27 and have been together 7.5 years. I will actually be relieved when we get to 8 years so I can finally say he's my longest! He was also with someone for 8 years before me, so at least we have similar experiences to bounce off.

Happy Friday ladies! I've been doing hard labour all of today so already ready for bed and it's only 8.30 😴

@Skip86 yeah, good shout, I think she is reluctant to prescribe more as I’m always complaining she thinks I am a mini pharmacy, but I am not sure I made clear how bad my sleep got on them, she also have me have lots of gadgets, a peak flow meter, an oximeter and a blood pressure machine, so I can take my vitals, honestly sometimes she thinks she is house😳🤣

@Franklydear bless you hun, glad to hear you're in that bed!
@Gem176 I know right 😂 that's what I do anyway 😆
@Kirky658 to be fair it's the right thing to do! I used to when I was younger but now that I'm 34 and lazy I just bosh the painkillers and wince 😂
@Skip86 haha yes! Mission accomplished 😆 well done on the hard labour! You'll defo sleep well if not anything else 😴
Here's another couple just for you skippy 😉

@Gem176 you definitely sound like you've made up your mind😂x

@Franklydear I think you should treat yourself to a lovely bath, some chocolate x

@notyetamumbuttrying that meme😂

I too wonder about my ex sometimes as he was my first love, first person I slept with etc, we were together young from 13-17 then went our own ways when he went to uni, he was the year older than me, when I turned 19 we rekindled after I split up with an awful awful person and we were then kinda on and off until just after I turned 20, then I met my OH now when I turned 21, my ex is now with one of my friends (well she's more of my friends friend) we do see each other and she's lovely so I'm really happy for them, but the first few months they were together my ex saw my sister in the pub and just let all his feelings out saying he's happy im happy but he wishes he could've given me what I wanted back then instead of watching someone give it to me now (I was very mature and wanted to get a home and start a family at 23 whereas he was still a childish boy and the thought of having his own house at 23/24 scared him) but if I was to see him now I know I'd say hi, I still see his family sometimes and they're always so nice!

Does anyone believe in the 3rd relationship rule?? The 1st relationship they say is your first experience with love and you truly believe you'll be with them forever, the 2nd is toxic and you stay with the person out of routine, and the 3rd is "the 1", for me and my OH we're both each other's 3rd and have both experience the same previous 2 relationship, I mean obviously it's just a silly thing but we like it😂

@Franklydear I'm most definitely a walking pharmacy 😂 but I am super careful, only take sleeping tablets sparingly when I am desperate - I am paranoid they'll suck me in and I'll build a tolerance etc etc.
But what use is a sleep deprived body to fight off infections and get healthy?? Or be a mum or go to work? Sleep is the most important thing 🙌🏼 and if a tablet is the only way.. unless of course you have a history or addictive personality, then perhaps steer clear 😕

@notyetamumbuttrying the cramps one 100% 😩

@Vil10 I believe in the 5th relationship rule if that counts?! 😂
I had that 8 year relationship I mentioned, then in the two years between that and meeting my husband I had three other relationships back to back 🙈 those 3 were all TERRIBLE!!! Like, total fuckwits. But it meant that when I met my hubby I knew straight away he was not a fuckwit, because I had already experienced so much fuckwittery. Know what I mean?

@Skip86 I am very obsessive the other way, I get very academic , and my doctor would like to say fasticius, with my diagnosis and treatments, but I am interesting to argue with, she says, as sometimes I am better read than her, so she knows to do her homework if she gets much notice of my appointment, routine as opposed to I am in trouble

The insomnia is not too bad this time, as I can take some time off and the weekend and I can spend the time in bed and nap whenever

@Franklydear touch wood, I've not yet had a bad flying experience with DD, she's usually pretty good but I must admit I do use a tablet to entertain her. Our flights also haven't been long, max 4/5 hours and only 2/3 times a year. But in general she's quite a chilled out little lady. Never thought about that but makes sense, always told to suck a lolly to stop my ears popping, feeding would have the same effect for a baby.
I can get a bit obsessive about my diabetes, reading studies etc and my consultant dreads the reading she has to do after I've left her ears buzzing after an appointment 🙈

@Kirky658 I really believe talking to everyone on here is helping me. Before everything was internalised and now I'm an oversharer, partly because most of us are experiencing similar. We all have an end goal and are either struggling to get there or making slow progress. Helps that all of life's general gripes can be aired here too. I genuinely love this thread and group of wonderful ladies (I use the term loosely going by some of our antics 😉🤣)

@Vil10 I had a moment of weakness dreaming of a relaxing holiday (dd is going to be with her dad for this hol) sashaying about in a bikini without a care in the world 😂 neither of which will be possible with a new born or about to pop 🙈 either way I now don't care just give me a baby!! I'm with you on the third time lucky... first was pure naive love (it would never have worked) that ended in heartbreak when I went off to uni, second was dds dad and that was toxic but stuck it out for dd making oh lucky number 3 (I'm his 3rd long term too but the only one he's lived with) and I just adore him! We fit so well, similar upbringing, similar tastes but complete opposites in other areas which means we balance each other out. He's a grumpy git at times and I could strangle him but he's my grumpy git 😂

@Skip86 count the three terribles as one big mistake and they then become your 2nd "toxic" type and hubby is now lucky 3rd 😂

Well that "intensive tooth clean" was f ing horrendous
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@Gem176 Sorry on the BFN, I wouldnt stop trying now, knowing how long & frustrating it is, who knows what will happen so if we were just TTC rather than IVF I have always said don't plan your life around it as TTC is the one thing you can't bet on. We went on holiday with DS at 11 weeks, he was fab, & my brother had to take his lockdown baby to meet his Girlfriends parents in Canada so a long flight at 8 weeks. All fine

@Kirky658 shit if floppy boobs is a symptom I'm ALWAYS pregnant & i don't think you are the only psycho on here, maybe on the exercise front. But in general nope!

@paintfairy my friend tends to ovulate every other month so it could be like that but what's the next steps?

@notyetamumbuttrying that's a brilliantly true meme, & as if you are out of infertility ones!

@Franklydear was there ever any question as to IF I would improve the place?? Go & get tested you shouldn't go to work, as your new boss I forbid it

@Skip86 I know right?? We couldn't believe it. Yet I could get the go ahead for surrogacy & IVF (though that had to be put to the IVF hospitals ethics Committee for approval)

@Vil10 3rd relationship for me! First one emotionally abused me & hit me a few times with when I was 17-23, second one was with for 4 years, lived together (I sold my house to move in with him) thought it was marriage & then when I got ill, seriously ill in hospital for 3 months in the end I nearly died in hospital before having emergency illeostomy at 27 so had a colostomy bag he came into hospital, my favourite part of the week his visit...all I looked forwards to I was so weak... & said the lovely words "I can't do this...having SUCH an ill girlfriend is taking my mind off work, can you ask your parents to move your stuff out of my flat...it's not THE POO BAG" (so yeah prob was a lot to do with it...) and so having been off work for 6 months, in hospital for 3, nearly dying & having emergency surgery I became homeless & at my most suicidal. Needless to say my parents hated him as they got my stuff (I lost a lot of stuff too as I didn't pack) & had to move back in with parents & needed months of recovery. I had no critical illness cover as had sold my house to move in with him & was in a commission based job.

A year later I had more surgery to reverse "the bag!" Was recovered, back at work 3 days a week (my parents charged me rent so no choice) at which point I found out my boss had told everyone at work about the specific surgery whereas I had become adept at not looking any different as a fashion conscious 28 year old...6 weeks after my surgery I signed up to match.com & met DH who ironically I would have met at school if I'd have gone to the local school near me& he had seen me at the gym too & we share many friends. All turned out well in the end but I'd hate to think it was "fate" for me to go through all that just to meet him!

@Vil10 I didn't know that 1,2,3 thing, rings true for me!!
@Skip86 I know right! Owww 🥺
@Minster2012 I may have one or two up my sleeve 🤫
Wowza what a story! So glad you met him 😘

@amy2503 18 months ish here, been on this bus since the early threads and still lingering like a bad smell 😂
🤞🏻 it happens soon for you but if it doesn't we're all here to talk shit to!!!

@Minster2012 first up, can you get me both of your exes addresses as I'd like to pay them a visit with a shotgun! Both sound like such complete and utter arseholes! Glad you are well shot of them both now and have DH!
The BFN hasn't sent me into a spin this month where I hide from life (and MN) for about 10 days 🙈 I'm gutted but onwards and upwards.
Silly wobble aside, you are totally right, life didn't stop last time I was pregnant or had a new born and won't if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again 🤞🏻

@minster2012 I do wonder. Because the last 2 months I've been spotting terribly. Prior I actually took soya for 3 months and that limited the spotting to the last 3 days of the cycle. Before that the spotting was hit and miss by month. I did think there must be a reason but I wonder if I have some months. The last 2 months I got zero symptoms. Where as some months I get painful boobs, night sweats etc?

I'm to fetch a referral form from the surgery later. I've got a call scheduled Tuesday with the dr. So I guess I'll see what she says?

@Vil10 omg yes!!! 1st relationship at 18yo old, lovely lad, but no ambition, thought the world of me, worshipped ground I walked on. Parents hated him.
Second one.. Less said the better. Broke my heart and was a complete asshole. Cared more about American football than me!
3rd is my amazing DH. Interestingly I fancied him when we first met I was 15 he was 18 and I always hoped we would be together... ❤️😁

I went down the meme rabbit hole, sorry if these are repeats from previous busses but I needed a chuckle and these worked 😁 more to follow 🙈