TTC cycle 1 (just come off pill) for #1

[Happythoughts91]

Hello!

Im in my first month of trying with my partner of 12 years. With wedding plans up in the air due to covid we decided we didn’t want to put our lives on hold any more so here we are!

I came off the pill, had my withdrawal bleed and now in the two week wait until next week when I can test.

I guess I just wanted to come on here and see if anyone else is new to trying too. Or people who can give light in how long it took them to conceive after coming off the pill.

We haven’t told no one we’re trying so I feel like I haven’t got no one to talk too about it all. Trying to stay positive and would love to have a happy ending to 2020.

Sending baby dust to you all xxx

@DrS44 amazing! And your OPKs are going in the right direction too 🙂hopefully you'll be in your 2ww before long.

@dechie apparently the average age of a 1st time Mum in the UK is now 30, but it seems like it's our perception of what's 'normal' hasn't caught up with this yet?

@greenapplesyo oh my gosh! Really? Feeling much better now! Thank you!
We definitely need to be kinder to ourselves I think!
Xx

@GreenApplesYo that stat definitely makes me feel better too! I'm just reading that book the impatient women's guide to getting pregnant- I think I saw people on here recommending it but that's really making me feel normal too!

@Emmgrem that one at 12.50 today looks really close! When I first started using them mine were all over the place, I also couldn't get the hang of consistent lighting as you can see 😂

@GreenApplesYo @AMS19 hmmm I tested again and it's gone down 🤷🏼‍♀️ but I didn't test yesterday so maybe I've missed the peak? Thanks gals, we did the dance when he came in the door 🤣🤣 tmi I know 🙃 x

@AMS19 yes it's a beautiful city! I lived in St Kilda for 5 years actually and a lot of my friends still live around that area. We only moved as it was too expensive to buy there!

@Bells20 oh no, it is sad to hear of all the things people have missed out on this year, but you are so right to see the positive in starting earlier TTC ♥️

@AMS19 & @GreenApplesYo I was going to say the same thing - you are def going to find more people who are very anxious or have had problems in the past on the pregnancy forums I reckon. If they look negative then give them a wide berth. Lord knows none of us need any more negativity in our lives this year! Also, once you're at the 12-week mark you'll be able to openly discuss with friends, family etc and can just float in and out of random forums to see if anyone else has blue and green discharge etc 😂

@GreenApplesYo I'll have to look it up! Thanks for the tip! ☺️ X

@CardioQueen dreaming of the 12 week mark!! I've had lots of cramping which all the sources I've looked at say is normal but you can't help but freak out!!

On the brightside, I've lost 2 pounds in one week. Doesn't sound a lot but I only weigh 8 and a half stone so pretty good going for me. Would highly recommend the early pregnancy diet 😂😂

Just caught up on messages and looks like everyone is doing well.

And it’s definitely made me feel better to know 30 is the average age as I’m 30 on my next birthday 🙈

I’m CD 13 at the moment. Have DTD For the past two evenings and will carry on until Monday so I hope I don’t miss it. Last time I got my peak bang on 14 day’s. So I’m hoping tomorrow but I’ve had no ovulation pains at all. Maybe it will start today?

Last month was the first month off the pill for me and it was really painful. But nothing this month so far so don’t really know 🙈

Happy Friday everyone xx

@AMS19 & @GreenApplesYo glad to see you are both still doing well!

So, this cycle is my first proper cycle after coming off the pill, I had my first proper period and I’m now on cd20 with no real sign of ovulation. Last cycle I’m pretty sure I ovulated around cd14, I had some ewcm, high sex drive and really sore nipples for a couple of days and then AF arrived on cd28. I started doing opk from cd13 and they have all been rubbish! Most I got was 13%. I have being using Natural Cycles to measure my temp and it has dipped to the lowest temp but stayed about the same for the last three days. I have had a two days were i have had the tiniest bit of ewcm which was yesterday and Monday this week but not much at all. I had a little google and can see your temp normally drops before ovulation day but I didn’t think it would stay so low for so long 🤔 I’m still trying to be patient but worried now as I thought that first cycle was spot on!

Haha @AMS19 I think I've probably put on that much! And I'm about 8.5 too, oh dear! Sorry about the cramping, mine seems to have gone now but I did have a week or so of mild cramping and the old 'fanny ache'.

@CardioQueen yes that's a very good point about being able to discuss it irl from 12 wks. I am looking forward to telling my Mum as I know she's going to love discussing every detail. Have a couple of friends/colleagues who had babies in the last year as well, super handy!

I did wonder if the mumsnet TTC forums make it seem harder to conceive in the first place, as well as more likely that a pregnancy could go wrong. Obviously it's normal and fine for it to take a while, but I was surprised by the number of people on the pregnancy thread saying they'd conceived within 1-4 cycles of trying, maybe it's more likely than I thought to conceive quite quickly. Haha which is supposed to be an encouraging comment 🙂

Hi @Happythoughts91ahh you're in the fun part of your cycle. Maybe ovulation pains don't happen every month? Have you got EWCM? Hehe if that's not too nosey.

@May94 oh no that sounds so frustrating! Really sorry to hear it. For what it's worth, I only had a tiny bit of EWCM maybe 4/5 days before I ovulated. I did notice that my cervix was high and felt kind of slippery though.

@May94 hi I know exactly what you mean it's so frustrating! I'm thinking I've either missed my peak or I'm ovulating now 😂 I'm on CD 26 if I count my withdrawal bleed. I just wish I knew what was happening... no idea! So many strange feelings/symptoms/CM... it's the not knowing that's so frustrating x

@May94 I'm actually still waiting on my natural AF... so you're a little ahead of me. What I've read though seems to suggest OPKs are affected by lots of things, time of day, how much liquid you have had, how long you've held it etc! I think if you keep BD as often as you can then you can cover yourself maybe? Sometimes I wonder if these OPKs cause more stress than they're worth 🤷🏼‍♀️ hope you're okay x

@jessi60 Oohh new house? How exciting 😍😍 we moved during CoViD too 😂 everything takes so much longer doesn't it? We waited on searches for sooo long! Just glad we are in now xx

@GreenApplesYo ahh, I am holding out a little bit of hope but we shall see what happens!

@DrS44 Hi! Yeah that’s what I was thinking. I read about smep the other day and that said if you don’t gets a positive opk try and DTD every other day so I’m just going to stick with that I think. The not knowing what is going on is the most frustrating part! I was surprised how much better I feel off the pill, just wish I did it sooner now haha. I was quite relieved when I had my first AF post pill and it was no where near as bad as what I was expecting so fingers crossed it’s ok for you too! My symptoms were all over the place before AF but have definitely settled down, but now worrying that’s because my body isn’t doing anything 😂 I told myself I wouldn’t do OPKs but then couldn’t help myself 😂😂😂 maybe I won’t use them next cycle and just stick to temping.

Wishing you lots of luck x

@DrS44 yeah we were ready to move in August and then the sellers pulled out one week before the date.. So we lost a ton of money. I was devastated 😔 so currently second time round now in a different house. But this one isn’t going too smoothly either😂

Glad you managed to get sorted though. Think I’ve picked the worse timing with this year🙄 xx

@jessi60 @DrS44 I dont envy either of you...moving is stressful at the best of times! Hope it all works out @drs44

How's everyone getting on?

Hey everyone!

@GreenApplesYo I did notice a little EWCM. I’m Cycle day 14 today and my OPK said Peak. I peaked at 14 day’s last month so think it must be correct. Although I do use the clear blue so do worry how accurate they are compared to the strip ones!

@DrS44 How exciting! So your in your TTW? When will you test?

@jessi60 good luck on the house move. How exciting. You know what they say, new house new baby.

So I’m cycle day 14 and think I’m at peak today. DTD this morning before he went to work. Then I guess it’s the TWW. Last month was my first month off the pill so I think this is my first proper cycle?

Happy Saturday xx

@May94 ya exactly I know how you feel! That's probably a good idea I think I might do that too.

@jessi60 ugh that sounds like a right nightmare! At least you're getting sorted now!

@AMS19 good and you? I think you might be right about me ovulating now! So much EWCM 😂 so we DTD again last night 💃🏼 fingers crossed! How are you feeling? Have you a scan sorted? Xx

@Happythoughts91 oohhhh yay fingers crossed for you! It's great that you've seen a peak in this cycle! I'm still just only off the pill so haven't had AF just withdrawal. I'm on like CD26 but feel like I might have ovulated yesterday? Have had lots of EWCM and some cramps.. who knows! I'm going to just wait for a while keep DTD and then test in a few weeks if AF doesn't arrive because I'm so all over the place? Did you ovulate off the pill before AF do you know?

Can I ask everyone @jessi60 @AMS19 @GreenApplesYo @Happythoughts91 @May94 @Dex1521 @Bells20 have you all stopped drinking while TTC? I keep telling myself I will because I've read it's best but then I think I've a whole 9months of that 😂 is it important have you read? atm not drinking loads anyways except Friday/sat nights have a 3/4drinks maybe?

Ahh @Happythoughts91 thats amazing welcome to the very long TWW!! Super excited to hear all the symptom spotting in a few days 😂😂

@DrS44 great stuff!! Keep testing and DTD. Hopefully you'll see a temp rise tomorrow or the next day and then you'll also be in thr dreaded TWW. All good here thanks. Trying to stick to ICs for now which are showing some progression which is good. They are horrible things and I hate them but will complain then pee on them the next day 😂😂 havebt had the guys to book a scan yet. Maybe once I get to 5 weeks on Wednesday I'll think about it! They tend to have quite a lot of last minute availability so would rather wait as long as possible. In my head this still isn't a baby!

Xx

@DrS44 haha nope. If you scroll back you'll see i took a test at 9DPO, went on a massive bender and drunk 2 bottles of red wine cause it was BFN, 2 days later got my BFP. Whooops!
Drink until it's pink! I tried to cut down (cough cough except that last blow out) but otherwise live your life

@AMS19 that is good to hear 😂😂 brilliant! What about your OH? Might have a drink now that you say... 🤣🤣 just kidding it's 9am, I'll wait til after noon 🤣🤣

Well that's good you're thinking that way because if it was me I would have names picked out and the cot bought 😂 well done on being sensible! Sounds like a great plan! So when do they count your first week then if you're 5next? Is it from last period? What if you haven't had one? 😂🙈 xx

Another question for anyone taking pre-natals, if you forget one do you take two the next day? Or just leave it?

@DrS44 no my husband didn't do anything at all. He didn't even take vitamins! Honestly, I'm quite glad I had that last blowout. If this sticks I've got 9 months of not drinking!
The class day 1 as the first day of your last period. If you haven't got that you can use ovulation and assume it is at 2 weeks when you ovulate
And no when I missed one I just took one the next day xx

@Happythoughts91 good luck with your TWW! Fingers crossed for you!

@DrS44 I did have a glass of wine in TWW last cycle, I also have the saying 'drink until it's pink' stuck in my head haha but I'm not a big drinker anyway really, it's caffeine that's my vice now! I'm definitely making an effort to cut down while TTC though ... although I'm writing this literally with a toffee nut latte in hand 😂