TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

[30somethingyorkie]

Thought I'd start this post as hoping there are some lovely ladies in a similar boat to me.

DH and I are now 8 months in TTC and no luck. We both really want it to happen though he does have a son already so not always as emotional about AFs arrival every month as I am.

I know it's early days still and some have to go a lot longer but I'm now starting to get to the worried/upset stage. Get pangs of sadness when I see a baby bump or something pregnancy related in the shops, on TV or online.

Would love to hear and support others who are in the same boat as me

[quote acaciabluebell]@Laurenxx94 Hi, I stared taking Vitex on a random day (I think CD10) so I don't know if it counts as a proper attempt. But I ovulated quite early on CD13 this month. I'm only on 7dpo today so a bit too soon to tell but I'll update if anything happens.

My progesterone on day 21 (7 days past ovulation) last cycle was 22. I've also had a chemical pregnancy recently which I suspect is due to the low progesterone.[/quote]
After my chemical they told me my 21 progesterone was perfectly fine after I ovulated 😤 now I'm not too sure! Thanks for getting back to me xx

Sorry I look like I'm back tracking and talking rubbish @acaciabluebell , I ment to say they told me my progesterone after ovulation ( 21 ) was perfectly fine but when I had my chemical is was 1.8 which is the part they said was low x

@Laurenxx94 So your progesterone level should be above 30 at Day 21 (7dpo) to indicate a successful ovulation occurred. That's the criteria GPs use. In a normal cycle your progesterone peaks around 7 dpo and then goes back down. If you get pregnant, your level should stay high or continue to get higher. Progesterone needs to be high to sustain a pregnancy. I've seen women with progesterone levels in the 50s, 70s, even 90s and above.

[quote acaciabluebell]@Laurenxx94 So your progesterone level should be above 30 at Day 21 (7dpo) to indicate a successful ovulation occurred. That's the criteria GPs use. In a normal cycle your progesterone peaks around 7 dpo and then goes back down. If you get pregnant, your level should stay high or continue to get higher. Progesterone needs to be high to sustain a pregnancy. I've seen women with progesterone levels in the 50s, 70s, even 90s and above.[/quote]
That's so frustrating that my doctor said that my levels of 21 showed I had successfully ovulated and looked good ☹️ not so sure what to do now, what would be your advice ? X

Hi everyone,
How are you all?
I hope your all doing okay.
@Izzie94 I hope your okay we haven't heard from you in a while❤️
I have just had my appendix out so had my mind off the baby stuff the past week, which was great as it had been the run up to AF. However found out about 4 people I know including 2 friends are pregnant in the last couple of days... So I feel my emotions are being tested
I'm 13dpo. Have no expectation in anyway that anything will happen. However I do know I will still be in a bad way when it comes for a few hours, but that's okay, I will cry it out. Doesn't stop that tiny bit of hope though right?

Lots of love to you all.

Hey @Lovebug06 sorry to hear you had appendicitis! Hope you're feeling better now. And I hope AF didn't get you in the end X

I didn't track anything this month as I've been sick so we haven't really been trying and didn't really catch my fertile window. But funnily enough my period seems to be late 🙄 BFN though of course!

@Laurenxx94 I would discuss with your GP if you can. Also make sure you've timed the Day 21 test well, e.g 7 days past ovulation rather than actually day 21.

@acaciabluebell it got me yesterday so cycle 19. Feel a bit wobbly but I haven't cried, I feel a bit numb and just like I've totally lost hope. I will get myself up again and be positive again though I'm sure.

Sorry to hear about your bfn ❤️ I hope your feeling okay x

@Lovebug06 I'm right behind you. AF got me today and I'm starting cycle 17/18 (can't remember exactly). I'm exactly the same, I've not cried at all and just been totally numb. I guess I just have no hope anymore.

@acaciabluebell lots of love to you. Its bloody shit this ttc

Hi ladies,

Long time lurker here. I’ve been following the thread since January but never commented. I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. I’m 32 and my DH is 38. We have been TTC for 14 cycles now. Both of us are completely healthy, and started going to a fertility clinic in May. Literally nothing is wrong, I ovulate every month, AMH level is great, his sperm is normal. We just can’t get pregnant for whatever reason. I just finished my first round of progesterone and now I’m waiting for AF so we can start cycle 15.

I know a lot of you have said this but I just want to say this is complete shit. I can’t believe I was on the pill for 15 years trying to prevent a pregnancy.

Anyways, I’m angry and bitter and jealous and tired. But mostly tired. My heart goes out to you ladies that have been trying longer than me. Sending you all my best ♥️

@MarMar123 welcome. This thread can be slow at times but we always come back together and support each other, we haven't had much luck x

I understand everything you have said. I was on the pill for 14 years. It's bloody terrible and heartbreaking and I wouldn't wish this feeling on anyone. In this thread I think everyone is over a year now.
We are here for you and I hope your feeling okay today ❤️

Is everyone else okay? X

Hey ladies!

How are you all? I took a massive break from MN! Although not from TTC 😅 I started temping this month which has been fascinating. I love being able to see / confirm ovulation!! Although my temps have now dropped which = AF. We’ll be going onto cycle 19 🙁 but I had some news that I have CIN2(from my smear), so I have to have a Loop biopsy which it’s recommended to not get pregnant for 6 months, so I’ve been feeling really really down and not only that when I got that news I told my SIL, whom then thought it would be the perfect time to tell me she was pregnant!!! So I was really hoping for a BFP this month. Really starting to lose hope it’ll happen naturally for us now. DH is so positive and seems to think it will.

Sending you all love, it seems this journey is completely unfair and tough on us all💓 I just wish we had answers rather than unexplained!! I’ll be 28 if we do conceive now after our 6 month wait, and I was 25 when we decided to start trying!!! So crazy to me x

Do any of you ladies have Instagram? / Facebook? And rather connect on there? I’m trying to remain off MN slightly to help me but love to check in with people and support anyone 💓 although I appreciate lots of people want to be anonymous! But let me know and I’ll DM you my details xx

@izzie94
I've never done it before but I'll happily swap details with you. I need someone who understands too.

We are kind of similar. Step parent, late twenties (29 in a couple of months) been trying a long time. I also had CIN3 so have been through that but it was a few years ago now.

I have lost hope now. Its just shit.

@Lovebug06 thank you! It is heartbreaking isn’t? I ask “why me” constantly but I also wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s just nice to have others who understand this process and are going through a similar situation.

@Izzie94 I’m so sorry that your SIL decided to tell you at that time…it’s odd how people react to others infertility journey. And yes the unexplained is absolute worst part… how can it be unexplained if I can’t do something that I was biologically programmed to do?

I’m happy to connect with anyone- I don’t have single friend that is in the “unexplained” group. All of our friends started trying after us and they now have their babies. I worry that they’ll start trying for their second and I’ll still be in this same boat 😔

@Lovebug06 @MarMar123 sent you both messages girls 💓

@MarMar123 @Izzie94 I need real people who understand. I'm all for this x

@Izzie94@Lovebug06 I’m so excited to be doing this. Finally people I can actually relate to!

I hope you both have the best weekend ♥️ ♥️

@Izzie94 so sorry to hear of your smear results and the BFN 😔 I'm right behing you, about to go into my 18th cycle. I also don't use MN as often anymore but I have a TTC insta which I am happy to share and connect with you all on there xx

@MarMar123 welcome xx

@acaciabluebell thank you! ♥️ I’m just so happy not to feel so alone anymore.

I’m happy to connect on insta if you want to share it. I’m a little apprehensive about following ttc accounts. Only a few friends know we’re struggling and as far as family goes only my parents know so I worry nosy people will see it and know? Is that irrational?

Someone feel free to talk me off the ledge!

@MarMar123 There's a big ttc community on Insta and you can be totally anonymous so its a bit like Mumsnet. It's brilliant. Feel free to pm if you want more info 😊

Hope all you ladies are well. Happy CD1 to me! Cycle 18 here we come...

How is everyone?

Hello Lovebug how are you? I’m sorry I’ve been absent for a while. Have you been seen by the clinic as yet?

I’ve been hugely burying my head in the sand since we had the poor AMH results. I can’t remember when I last posted on the thread but the consultant was really rude too. In the end he offered me to either go straight to IVF or to have a lap & dye first. After so much handwringing and upset I decided on lap & dye but am hugely worried that my AMH will be further damaged by the operation. But I have always suffered with terrible periods and I guess if we move to IVF it helps to know if endometriosis is present. So the week after next I am booked in.