TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

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Thought I'd start this post as hoping there are some lovely ladies in a similar boat to me.

DH and I are now 8 months in TTC and no luck. We both really want it to happen though he does have a son already so not always as emotional about AFs arrival every month as I am.

I know it's early days still and some have to go a lot longer but I'm now starting to get to the worried/upset stage. Get pangs of sadness when I see a baby bump or something pregnancy related in the shops, on TV or online.

Would love to hear and support others who are in the same boat as me

@CausingChaos2 thankyou, I was a bit of a mess but I'm okay now. We haven't had much luck on this thread have we! Hopefully we will in the next few months.
Its great you had a good weekend and that your feeling good. I really hope your AF doesn't come, fingers crossed. If it does, I hope it's not too bad for you, but we will be here for you. Please let us know how it goes.

@Lovebug06 I feel that heartache too. You're definitely not alone! I think we are all around the same point now just starting to go for investigations and things so it's comforting knowing what it's like going through this. I'm on cycle 15 now still not heard from the fertility clinic but they said it might be June so just waiting it out.
I bought conceive plus fertility lube today as read so many good reviews I've never used anything like this before and I'm absolutely convinced my CM is attacking any sperm so I'm hoping this will help the sperm on its way hehe. Currently CD8 so will be getting back to it all again this week /end this last cycle has really dragged though. X

Hi ladies, I’m Lauren.
I really hope you don’t mind me joining I can see your thread started a while ago.
I’ve been TTC for 7 months going into 8th after AF arrive come this week.
I haven’t had a chance to read all your posts but il tell you a bit about my background

I have a 5 year old daughter with a previous partner and me and my current partner are ttc.
Every single month I get spotting from about 6/7 dpo right up until AF arrived. It just makes me know that I’m out that month.
I’m due AF on Friday so just a waiting game as my spotting started 2 days ago.

Can you tell me a bit about your backgrounds?

@sparkylauz I just want DH sample results to hurry up so I can get onto the clinic referral! I have tried pre seed twice, did read many good reviews. I've not used conceive plus so I really hope it works!
I find the whole thing a drag now it's like TTC has just become normal life!
@laurenxx94 welcome!
Its crap when you know it's coming xx
I am now on cycle 17, this is my first and have had no hint of a Bfp. Dh has dc already but GP has said it makes no difference could be him, especially as its a few years ago now. Unlikely though.
Had the bloods, came back fine, awaiting DHs sperm anaylis results then it'll be fertility clinic for us.

@lovebug06 I think it's basically the same as pre seed? Says it mimics the fertile fluids to help the sperm. I've got loads of fertility crystals in and around the bedroom now too. I will try anything at this stage. I know what you mean about the cycles becoming normal life now! Now lockdown is easing i find myself planning certain things around when I guess where ile be in my cycle e.g if I know I'm in TWW to not plan any heavy drinking activities and so on. So thats becoming a bit of silly thing I've got into these days. Can't help but switch that mindset off though!

@laurenxx94 hi welcome to the group! I am TTC my first currently on cycle 15 although this is month 12. Saturday will mark 1 year since this rollarcoaster of a journey began 😥 I really didn't expect us all to still be here there's only been 2 bpfs since this thread began its so sad xx

@laurenxx94 oh and I'm similar to you I start spotting too sometimes upto a week before AF is due. My AF is only ever 2 full days and my cycles are about 25 days long

Thanks for the reply ladies I'm so sorry it's took so long. With my first I hadn't tried so like yourselves I just expected it to happen by now.
I think because you build yourself up for it to happen quicker then the longer it goes on you get so disappointed?
Is there anything you haven't tried yet ladies? We have tried SMEP / everyday but nothing seems to be working yet. My partner Paul is getting quite worked up because he thinks it's him. Luckily he has a sperm check this month which we're lucky they have done so quickly. But he just needs peace of mind as I think that's putting pressure him thinking it's him.

The spotting is so annoying. It basically rules me out before I even get to 12dpo. I always think could it be implantation but never is. We have been using pregnacare vitamins since January and this month we tried conceive plus also but hasn't worked xxx

@Laurenxx94 aw yeah I do exactly the same every month trick myself into think its Implantation bleeding and because my Af is always so short I end up testing after AF too just in case. I've spent too much on tests over last year

[quote SparkyLauz]@Laurenxx94 aw yeah I do exactly the same every month trick myself into think its Implantation bleeding and because my Af is always so short I end up testing after AF too just in case. I've spent too much on tests over last year[/quote]
Have you tried anything new this time round? Xx

This cycle I'm trying Conceive Plus lube as not sure I have much EWCM. I had a positive on an opk today im cd11 and usually get it a bit later so less of a wait for me now this month !

@SparkyLauz

This cycle I'm trying Conceive Plus lube as not sure I have much EWCM. I had a positive on an opk today im cd11 and usually get it a bit later so less of a wait for me now this month !

I tried conceive plus too don't think we used it enough though so going to try it with dtd every time xx

Hi lovely’s 😌

I’m so sorry I’ve been quiet, we’re having a month off due to ideally not wanting a January baby. I also had a colposcopy booked this month as my smear was HPV positive and abnormal cells. I had a punch biopsy taken last week and it was really not very nice. So I’ve been a little down worrying about my results but trying to keep positive.

I’m so sad for us all that we’re still all here!! :( it’s so unfair. But, good things come to those that wait right?😅 we’re heading slowly back into “normal” pre covid life, so I have a feeling it’s going to be soon for us all🤍 x

@Izzie94 aww no hope you're ok. That's the least you want at an already difficult time. Im sure everything will be all OK though once this problem has been sorted you may well be on the way to a bfp soon after!

Yes so glad things are starting to get to normal again now phew xx

Hello ladies,

I'm back after a break. We are now 1 month away from my partners 2nd SA - and our referral has been changed from routine to urgent to try and get things moving faster.

Does anyone have any 3% sperm morphology success stories? Xxx

Hello ladies, how are you all? Where are you all in your cycles?

Izzie94 You poor thing. I hope your results all come back fine and you’re feeling a little better now?

Yesterday morning I had a call from gynae to say they had cancellations that afternoon. So we unexpectedly had our first appt yesterday. Gynae ran through our results which are all normal so far (with DP seeming to have super swimmers ), but has suggested I go straight for lap & dye due to the extreme period pain I suffer with. He said if it weren’t for the pain they would be checking my tubes under X-ray instead. Also had my blood taken to check AMH levels.

If all ok, 6-9 months of clomid then if still no luck, IVF. If tubes found to be blocked, straight to IVF. Felt very scary to hear that being put on the table even though I know the longer we don’t conceive the more we are moving towards IVF.

I was surprised to hear clomid suggested when I have periods every month (sometimes twice a month). If it came to it, I might argue that I don’t want clomid, but just got to wait and see what the lap & dye finds first. Lots of talk of endometriosis so he must have a suspicion.

Just want to fall pg naturally now more than ever to avoid all this intervention

Hi @laura2093 I'm sorry I don't have anything on SA my dh had one in Feb but they just said 'all was okay' we didn't even get a report or anything! I presume he will have to have another one once the fertility clinic actually get in touch which should be next month if they're not any further behind on their appointments.

Hi @causingchaos2 I'm OK thankyou, currently 8dpo but what seems like another bout of BV has appeared even though I was on (a 2nd set) of antibiotics less than a month ago to clear it. Had some more swabs done yesterday. The nurse said she thinks the Dr might refer me to gynae soon because of this due to the fact I've been TTC over 12 months aswell. She said cervix wasn't as inflamed as the last time she looked but still red. My only concern is that the fertility clinic won't go through with investigations until my other 'lady problems' have been sorted? I'm not sure what to think.

It's great that your DP has super swimmers!!
How long do you have to wait until your lap and dye? At least you are closer to getting some answers now that's the main thing. sending hugs x

Hope everyone is OK. Xx

Sparky That’s really crap about the BV. Were you on metronidazole? When I had recurrent BV I eventually asked for a different medication. Was given a cream to use vaginally which cleared it up without the yucky metronidazole side effects. Only issue is it would scupper your chances of TTC that month - is very creamy and oily. Yes fertility clinic would probably want it all sorted first but with waiting times hopefully they’d sort the BV out while you were waiting for other treatments?

Consultant wouldn’t/ couldn’t give me a timescale for the lap & dye. He said they’re only just starting up again since covid and some ladies have had the NHS rules for entitlement to starting treatment breached, so of course they will all be ahead of me. Some have been waiting over a year, so think I’ll be in for the long haul. Sending hugs back and hope the BV clears off once and for all.

@causingchaos2 Yes I have been on 2 courses of metronidazole now. I'm just waiting for swab results back from Friday to see if it is BV again. If it is I think they might end up giving me and DH antibiotics as I think he's passing it back to me each month some how!

Aww no that could be a long wait then, Have you considered going private with it?

Thanks, hope you're okay xx

10dpo today I did a test yesterday morning BFN as per usual 😭 and pre AF spotting started too today x

@causingchaos2 Yes I have been on 2 courses of metronidazole now. I'm just waiting for swab results back from Friday to see if it is BV again. If it is I think they might end up giving me and DH antibiotics as I think he's passing it back to me each month some how!

Aww no that could be a long wait then, Have you considered going private with it?

Thanks, hope you're okay xx

10dpo today I did a test yesterday morning BFN as per usual 😭 and pre AF spotting started too today x

@Izzie94 I hope your okay. I have been there lovely. I had CIN3. It was my first smear test as well that was done a few months before 25 and they were bad. But they got rid of them and I was clear. I am actually due to go again now. I am HUGELY into raising awareness of smear tests. In Scotland the age was 18 and yet England it's 25.i think its disgraceful as you can have advanced cells growing before that age(such as myself). So sad that smears are at an all time low. Sorry I will not rant anymore🤣 I'm just passionate about this.
But basically you went and they have got the cells now and can treat it❤️ It's scary and I'm sending you love as I know how it feels but you went at the right time ❤️
Please let us know your okay ❤️ xx
@CausingChaos2 it's good you got your appointment a bit earlier. Sounds a bit scary but also good that they will give you this help ❤️
How are you feeling x
@SparkyLauz
How are you? I hope AF doesn't come. Its crap when you know it is though
But fingers crossed.
I think it was you that wrote above there's only been 2 BFPs in this group.
Its crazy really. It started at 8 months and that's a normal amount of time, but mad nearly all of us are still here. I guess it shows how many people struggle?
I find it hard to imagine what it would be like to just get pregnant and it all be lovely and happiness and so easy like others seem to have. It's just been heartache for me!

SA came back. Was all a bit crazy and hard work to even get results but it's got to be done again. Feel like giving up most of the time it's just hard work. Feels like it's never gonna happen and there's just always something in the way.

Anyway, I had some time out for myself mentally for a couple of weeks and avoided all baby threads but I'm feeling OK atm so came for some updates. . 5dpo so not anywhere exciting in the cycle. I'll be anxious this time next week! Xx

SparkyLauz Hope your results have come back clear, or at least if not they can get the antibiotics sorted for you both. What a pain. Wouldn’t rule going private out, although in my area only 2 cycles of IVF are funded. So wondering if I should get everything done on the NHS that I can incase we end up needing to fund more goes at IVF. Crazy to be thinking like this. Makes me cross as I should have had this pain properly investigated years ago. Ugh so sorry about the BFN. We really deserve some good news!

Lovebug06 hello lovely. I’m pretty apprehensive about the lap & dye but guess it needs to be done. I hope this is your lucky month. I got my peak yesterday so not far behind you. Keep us updated next week and as always, fingers crossed that AF stays away 🤞

@CausingChaos2 I can understand that ♥️
Let us know how it goes.
I hope it's your lucky month too.
So hard to imagine it actually happening now though isn't it?
I hope by the end of the year this heartbreak is all a memory for us all. X

Hey Ladies,

I'm kinda on and off this thread sometimes, but check in to see how everyone is doing.

Anyone had a HSG? I had mine yesterday, left tube is totally fine, but she couldn't get visibility on the right one & said it's either slow or was obscured by the dye from the left one. I have to wait a few weeks to speak to my fertility consultant about it. Feeling very sad that it's basically uncertain on my right side and totally in the dark as to what the next steps are - still waiting on AMH results, but my ultrasound was fine.

Sending baby dust to everyone this month
xx

Thanks Lovebug yes so very hard to imagine, and I really hope for the same for us all by the end of the year.

Hello JeanieJ it’s a nice relaxed thread so don’t worry about being on/ off. Understand you must be worried about the right tube, but it’s great that your left is clear. I hope your consultant is able to reassure you when you see them.

@lovebug06 hi hope you're okay! Unfortunately AF came Thurs so onto cycle 16. I'm giving acupuncture a try today for the first time, hoping this gives some results.

@causingchaos2 I'm all clear from BV so drs not a clue on what's causing all these symptoms, it seems I've been on antibiotics for no reason. It's all a bit confusing so I'm thinking the next step is they will refer me to gynae?

I rang the fertility clinic too to see where we were on the list. When I spoke to them in March they said its a 3 month wait. And after talking to them again yesterday they're still saying a 3 month wait so it's going to be 5 months from when I was referred before I likely see anyone which is a bit rubbish. Considering private as its just the not knowing that's making it worse and causing bad anxiety xx