TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

[30somethingyorkie]

Thought I'd start this post as hoping there are some lovely ladies in a similar boat to me.

DH and I are now 8 months in TTC and no luck. We both really want it to happen though he does have a son already so not always as emotional about AFs arrival every month as I am.

I know it's early days still and some have to go a lot longer but I'm now starting to get to the worried/upset stage. Get pangs of sadness when I see a baby bump or something pregnancy related in the shops, on TV or online.

Would love to hear and support others who are in the same boat as me

Sparky I hope you’re feeling better this week than last. Anxiety is just awful to live with. Will your next FW be during the Christmas/ New Year break?

Izzie94 Take as much time as you need lovely. We completely understand the need to step away from the thread now and then. TTC can be all consuming and I’m sure it can’t be good for our mental health. Hope you have a wonderful Christmas 🎄

Lovebug06 You don’t sound negative. So true what you say about a whole new year of hope. It would be lovely to see some bfps before Christmas to spur us all on.

I’m in my FW at the moment. Still haven’t had peak on clear blue or a positive internet cheapie OPK. Don’t know what’s going on . I’m on CD13 now, this is the latest I ever usually get a positive OPK. I also kept forgetting to BBT until the last three days. Will attach my chart.

Good luck to everyone on the last push before Christmas.

Hi @causingchaos2 unfortunately not feeling much better this week, anxiety still really high and feeling so exhausted and headachy all the time with low motivation. AF has just finished so waiting for my FW now which will be Xmas day and boxing day lol. But not sure whether to try during FW and just enjoy Xmas and new year with DH and plenty of alcohol, I dont know yet.

We have enquired about some private fertility tests as we both agreed we would rather just know if there is anything wrong at this point that going through the same cycle of disappointment each month.

Found out my friend who just announced her pg fell on her 2nd try, so that didn't make me feel any better!

How are you doing? Hope you get your peak soon! x

Take care of yourself @izzie94 we understand the need to take a break, hope you feel better soon x

Has AF made an appearance yet for you @lovebug06 xx

Sorry to hear you’re still having a hard time Sparky . Make sure you’re being gentle & kind to yourself. Don’t put demands on yourself - just try and rest when you aren’t working. Housework or whatever can wait. Sending you a hug

Maybe having your FW over Christmas is a good thing? Hopefully more time to relax and DTD when you feel like it. The tests sound like a good idea to put your mind at rest.

I’m ok, just want FW out the way now so I can relax and enjoy the festive season.

@CausingChaos2 did you get your peak?
@sparkylauz sorry to hear your feeling like that. Having someone close announce their pregnancy especially when it had happened quickly, is so hard.
No it hasn't, I think it's today so I'm anxious. I don't track properly anymore so my app could have been slightly early but I think today is the latest day it could be due. I am hating going to the toilet today as I am dreading seeing AF. I've had all the twinges and cramps so I'm sure it's on its way.

Thanks girls ❤ only got 2 more days left at work and then I can relax, starting to feel a bit better today..
I spoke to the fertility clinic and they're wanting to charge over £500 just for consultanation appointment hormone blood test and semen analysis! Thought that was quite a lot for just those 2 tests. The woman on the phone said the drs should be able to put is through those tests now and to try them, so I've got a telephone appointment next weds. Will see what Dr says then I guess?

@Lovebug06 fingers crossed for you AF hasn't shown yet so thats a good sign!! Stay positive hehe xx

Lovebug06 Yes got my peak this morning. We’ve already DTD a lot this week, got to find some stamina to try again tonight now! Hope your AF stays away.

SparkyLauz Hope the dr appt goes well, it makes sense to have the tests through the NHS if you can. I’m planning to go down the same route and start putting some feelers out in the new year to check everything seems ok.

AF has appeared, a day late. No Christmas surprise for me either. Cycle 12 now and a new year of hope, so I'm telling myself whilst I feel awful anyway.

@sparkylauz hope the doctors app goes well.
@CausingChaos2 hopefully it is your month!

Lovebug06 Sorry to hear AF has turned up I’m sure 2021 will be your year.

Thanks for your positive thoughts. I had peak OPK 48 hours ago and still no BBT rise so wondering if I haven’t actually ovulated this cycle. We’ve DTD for 6 days in a row so very fed up if it’s all been pointless.

@CausingChaos2 I was fine until I see a picture on Facebook about the women who had thought they'd be pregannt this Christmas and then I cried my eyes out!
Hopefully it was your time! On my fertile week I sometimes wonder, was that the time it happened? Never has so far but one time it's gonna be it, and it could have been your week, fingers crossed for you! X

Oh Lovebug06 not surprised that set you off! What a tearjerker! I know, it’s mad to think one time will be ‘the one’ but we never know until two weeks later. When is your next FW?

I haven’t had a proper BBT rise so may not have even O’d this cycle. Have sent in an online form to the GP about having some initial tests done.

@CausingChaos2 I'm in my fertile window now. Let us know when you hear back about the tests. I think I will go in the new year myself. When tier 4 is over anyway!

This thread has gone very quiet. I hope your all okay and had a nice Christmas as you could x

Hi girls, hope you've all had a nice Christmas!
Currently 3dpo. I got my peak 4 days earlier than I thought which was odd! I could have missed it as it was the first day i did an opk so I only needed to use one stick this cycle.

Spoke to the dr earlier in the week and she put me forward for 21 day bloods which will be in 2 weeks and said they can do semen analysis for DH. For any further investigations for me we have to wait till February. So I didnt think that was too bad, only 2 months really to wait (unless there's waiting lists in feb), hopefully I get my BFP before then should get 3 more attempts lol xx

@MJM1608 how did the family take your news? Did you tell them in a special way or anything? 😊

Hi ladies!! Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas!! I’m so sorry to see no one has had any baby joy yet - hope January 2021 is the lucky one!! Everyone deserves it so much 🤞🏼❤️

@SparkyLauz hope you get your positive before further testing is needed & the TWW flies in with the Christmas holidays / NY! 🙏🏻 Thank you for asking - it was amazing telling my parents & think my sis is still crying! We had a baby grow for them both & they were totally shocked 🥰 the sickness is real - been throwing up for the past 10 days every day, can’t complain as I know I’m so lucky but feel constantly hungover 🥴 here is our little bug - 11 weeks on Wednesday xxx

@Lovebug06 Good luck for your FW. This could be the one 🤞 I’ve an initial telephone appt in the first week of Jan, OHs doctor has already sorted him the form for semen analysis. Just need OH to book an appointment to drop it off at the hospital.

@ SparkyLauz Glad you caught peak! I’m always a bit pleased when I get peak quickly, saves on tests and remembering to do them 🙈 Glad your bloods are booked in and two months will fly by. Hopefully you won’t need the appointment anyway!

@MJM1608 How lovely for you and your family! So pleased things are going well and the sickness will be worth it!

My update is I got peak on CD14 although FF thinks I ovulated on CD16. I never ever test early but it’s my birthday today so I tested yesterday on CD24. Negative of course. Still, onwards and upwards. Will see what GP says at the beginning of Jan.

@mjm1608 11 weeks wow this has gone so fast doesn't seem like 2 mins since we saw your double line!
Awww thats so lovely 😍 glad all is well with you apart from the sickness. My friend who is also pregnant describes it as feeling constantly hungover too, they say it usually passes after the first trimester so hopefully you won't be feeling like that for too much longer

@causingchaos2 Happy Birthday!! Hope you've had a lovely day and been spoilt!
Yeah i was well chuffed about an early peak, I dont have to wait as long now to test or for AF!

@CausingChaos2 there's still time for you to get a BFP yet this month!! dont let it spoil your birthday xx

Thanks SparkyLauz I had a lovely, but quiet, birthday. Going to celebrate properly when this coronavirus rubbish is over as we’re in tier 4 now so couldn’t even go out for a meal.

Think we’ll be having blood tests done at a similar time if my GP recommends them for me. I expect so as they seem like the standard first step. Is your cycle a regular length? Mine varies so will need to be careful that I go at the right time.

@causingchaos2 We are still in tier 3 in Yorkshire which I'm shocked about! Usually we are always in the highest, not that it makes much difference for me.

My cycles are usually around 25 days, pretty regular xx

Hi to any of you that still read this thread.
Wishing you all luck and baby dust for 2021.i hope this is our year

Hi @Lovebug06 still here just have been reading from a distance. Took Xmas/ny pretty hard as AF arrived just before so been trying to take time out from the madness of TTC. hope you're ok

I'm still here! @Lovebug06 @30somethingyorkie

Hope you girls all had a lovely Christmas and Happy New Year! This year WILL be the year we all get our BFPs 😁

I'm currently 10DPO but usually pre AF spotting has started, so not holding much hope again this month. Boobs have been sooo incredibly sore though more sore than they've ever been, thought it could be a sign but maybe not. Still hoping the spotting doesn't turn into anything 🤞

Where is everyone else at in their cycles at the moment? Xx

Hi Everyone!
Happy New Year!
AF arrived for me on Xmas Eve as expected. Currently CD11 and entering FW. Fingers crossed for New Year BFPs for us all!
I had my day 3 and day 21 bloods done in Dec and they were ok i think. I'm going to contact GP next week and ask for next stage of investigations.
Does anyone use Seven Seas? Xx

Hi girls 🤍

Hope you all had a lovely Christmas and happy new year (if we can even class this year as a good one yet) 🤣

I’m watching the posts but actively taking a break from MN. I started cycle 13 today 🥺 feeling super sad as I had ZERO pms so here was me stupidly thinking that meant I was pregnant. I’ve never not had sore boobs!! But I’m trying to think of it as a positive and that my body is maybe now settling and getting back to my pre pill body. As I never used to get sore boobs prior to the pill!!

Where’s everyone in their cycle? I’m sad for us all that there’s been no more BFPS 😔 I was hoping @MJM1608 would bring us some luck😍 hope little baba is doing well and you muma☺️

@RCF2503x I don’t know what’s worse, having bloods and they say you’re fine! Or there being something wrong. Haha. All my bloods were fine but now I’m wondering why it’s been a year and nothing!!!!😨 I’ve just started taking seven seas, I’ve heard mix reviews but I thought fuck if. After a year I’m going to actively do more to help. I’ve also just ordered some more pre-seed🤞🏼✨ xx

Glad there’s a few of us back on the thread now - we’re all in this together 💪

SparkyLauz I hope your spotting doesn’t turn into AF, but if it does, I hope your blood tests come back A-OK.

Wishing you the best of luck too Lovebug06

What rubbish timing for AF to turn up 30somethingyorkie . I hope you are feeling a little better now.

RCF2503x Good luck in your FW and glad to hear your bloods came back ok. I’m not using any special conception supplements except for folic acid. I’ve read up about different ones people rave about but hard to know if they actually make a difference.

Izzie94 Sending you a hug. It’s really tough but statistically those who don’t conceive in the first year are likely to do so in the second year. It’s great that your bloods didn’t show any issues. Know what you mean about cycles being a bit different and getting your hopes up. My last one was 29 days which is unusually long and no sore boobs - I’m normally in agony with them after ovulation. Our bodies do play tricks on us!

I’m CD4, have appt with GP this week and OH’s GP has arranged for him to have semen analysis later this month. Really hoping we can pull it out the bag soon as would so like to not need any invasive tests!

Joining in, also started TTC in Jan this year! Isn't there something totally horrible about approaching that 1 year mark..

Got AF just before xmas and what with everything else, it was one of the worst holiday seasons ever this year..

I've already done my blood tests, all clear, went to the GP early because I was worried, and now just getting the OH to do his. Its so hard to stay positive and not stress about it, and even worse when everyone, esp OH tells me not to worry!

Sending good vibes to all for a successful babyfilled 2021!