TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

[30somethingyorkie]

Thought I'd start this post as hoping there are some lovely ladies in a similar boat to me.

DH and I are now 8 months in TTC and no luck. We both really want it to happen though he does have a son already so not always as emotional about AFs arrival every month as I am.

I know it's early days still and some have to go a lot longer but I'm now starting to get to the worried/upset stage. Get pangs of sadness when I see a baby bump or something pregnancy related in the shops, on TV or online.

Would love to hear and support others who are in the same boat as me

Looks like I’m out girls, no cramping but seem to have a really light pink when I wiped 😟 so I’m sure it’ll be in full flow by tonight / tomorrow.

Here’s to lucky cycle 12! 🤍✨🤞🏼 X

@Izzie94 Aww so sorry to hear that darling!! Hope you're OK - sending you hugs!! Hope you have a nice weekend planned - even if it is just to feel sorry for yourself! At least you can enjoy xmas, eat what you want & start fresh for 2021! I really hope your BFP is not far away!!

@izzie94 I'm good thanks! How are you? Now 4DPO it seems to be going quick. Sorry to hear AF is on the way xx

@30somethingyorkie Glad you had a chat with dh and you're feeling better about it. ❤

@MJM1608 Omg!! Thats amazing, so happy all is well, is your next one the 12 week one and Is that a dating scan? Bet you're over the moon!!

@natmoz welcome to the group. So sorry to hear you're having a hard time. Its a real rollarcoaster of a journey and its not fair that we are never warned about how difficult it can actually be for a lot of people to fall pg. And we only find out the hard way! It is really difficult to hear the news of close friend's/family pregnancies, but it will be your turn soon enough 😊

Has anyone seen The Let Down on Netflix? Only a few episodes in and it does not show the early stages of motherhood in very positive light 😂

@SparkyLauz no I haven’t seen it but maybe I’ll watch it to make myself feel better for not being pregnant 🤣🤣🤣

Hi girls,
I had a bit of time out. I'm surrounded by friends having scans, people announcing on social media and in dhs family every girl bar me now has a baby or is pregnant and another with a just turned 1 year old is going to start trying and I just know it'll happen quickly before me. So I have been feeling very alone and down and needed some time away. I'm now in the TWW and honestly have no hope for this month but hopefully in the new year.
Sorry to hear about your AFs arriving girls. I'm glad your scan went well @MJM1608.
Sorry to put a downer on the thread I just thought I'd update. Good luck to you all this month. X

@MJM1608 not really sure what’s going on with my body yet 🙄. Not had this happen before but I had some pink spotting yesterday morning after (sorry tmi🤣) a bm!!!! Then nothing for the rest of the day. Usually once I start, it’s straight away red and cramps etc. So expected to wake up this morning to it... nope nothing. And of course like the crazy ass woman I am.... I am thinking positive 🤣😂 sake. Hahaha!! Boobs were a bit tender again this morning too. So who knows what my body’s doing this month! Will test in a couple of days if it hasn’t shown itself. 😨 ahhhh, hope it stays that way for you 🤍 especially over Christmas. What’s your Xmas plans? Will you have to tell people? I guess you won’t be far off 12 weeks then anyway!! 🥰

@SparkyLauz I’m so confused what AF is doing this month!! It’s really thrown me, but I’m sure she’ll be here in no time🙄 shes clearly wanting to give me false hope haha! Ahhh the TWW ☹️ I’ve not seen the let down!! And maybe I’ll watch it too 😂 especially if I get AF haha!!

How are all you girls? Love me a Friday!!! Hope you all have a good weekend xxx

You haven’t put a downer on the thread Lovebug06 , I wish I could give you a hug! It’s so tough to see it happening all around you when it’s something you really want. But you will get there, I’m sure. You’re in good company on this thread, we understand how it feels and why sometimes it’s best to take a break from it all.

I’m on AF at the moment and not expecting any luck before Christmas so will be heading into the new year alongside you.

Hope everyone else is holding up ok

@Lovebug06 so so sorry I missed your message lovely. I’m really sorry you’re feeling like that 🤍 you can always vent in here. I know how lonely it is in real life to be surrounded by babies or everyone seems to be pregnant and it just honestly feels like it’ll never happen ☹️ But it will, and we will get there. It’ll be so worth 🤍 I had a little cry yesterday and I felt much better after!! Sending you lots of love.

@CausingChaos2 sorry to hear AF got you too 😔 I’m still waiting for mine but have a feeling she’s just playing tricks on me!! I really thought by the end of this year I’d have my positive. But hey, a years flown by and I guess next year will be more positive for us all🤍 feeling slightly sad that I’m approaching the 1 year mark xx

Izzie94 The 1 year mark feels like such a rubbish milestone doesn’t it? But 2021 has surely got to be the year for us all 🤞

I really hope your AF stays away, but if not, we’ll all head into next year in this virtual support group with each other Are you planning to take a PG test or see what happens?

@CausingChaos2 it really does!! And I know we’re still within those statistics, but i hate knowing we’re the small percentage ☹️ How do these pregnancy accidents happen!?! It really has 🥰 positive thoughts for us for 2021!! And hopefully our men can be at our scans too so it’ll be even more worth the wait.

Thank you lovely ☺️ I’m going to hold out all weekend. I often find as soon as I get the test out it comes within seconds!! 😂 sometimes I rather like to live in my little bubble that I may be until she actually arrives than seeing a BFN!! Xx

I know Izzie94 it really sucks! The stats are still high after 1 year but it feels like little comfort at the moment. God knows how some people manage it by accident, I’m still confused how we can DTD at exactly the right time and it NOT happen?!

Me and DP have agreed we’ll look to seeing the GP early next year if still no luck. He’s not keen on lots of intervention (neither am I really) but I’ve explained it doesn’t automatically leap to that.

I totally get you on not testing I just wait for AF rather than test now. Hope she stays away for you!

@MJM1608 amazing picture of your little bean! I bet you were so happy to hear everything was perfect!!!

@NatMoz sorry to hear you're in the same boat as the rest of us! It feels like everyone and anyone is pregnant doesn't it!!! You just wish it could be you and wonder why it isn't!? It's so unfair but hopefully we will all get there

Welcome back @Lovebug06 I think we all need a bit of time out from it all sometimes, I did the same this month! But you're not alone, we're all here for you and we're in it together, I love how honest we are about how we all feel without being judged, you're not putting a downer on it at all, I think we've all felt this way

@Izzie94 really hope AF isn't playing tricks on you and this is the month but I know how you feel about testing, somehow you can stay positive in your bubble without getting that BFN.

I'm feeling really positive this month as had a week off work so less stress and lots of DTD during FW but at the back of my mind I'm also like "shut up you stupid woman, it's not going to happen". I know in my heart I've put all the cycles I've not been pregnant down to stress this year and the one I have without stress if AF turns up after will really hurt, mad isn't it the circles that go round and round in your head 🤪

Hi everyone
Hope its OK to join. I have been ttc baby #1 since March. I definitely thought it would have happened by now. If I'm honest I naively thought we would have fallen pregnant straight away. I'm 34 and I can't help thinking we should have started ttc earlier. Out of all my close friends i'm the only one who doesn't have children, and I'm definitely starting to feel it more every time AF arrives. I know my OH does too.
I contacted the GP last month to talk about it all and he said I'd have to wait a year before they send me and OH for tests. But then I asked about low progesterone as I often spot before AF arrives and if there is anything else vitamin wise he would recommend and he sent me to have a full blood screen done. After that they have asked me to go back for bloods on cd2-4 and cd21. I'm cd11 now so will see what the outcome is in a couple of weeks. I've definitely been wondering if low progesterone could be a factor for me.
Just entering FW so BD time! AF will be due Xmas eve so either going to have an early Christmas present or be drinking LOTS of wine 🍷
Sending lots of baby dust to you all xxx

@CausingChaos2 it’ll give you a little bit of relief having tests 🤍 we’d ideally prefer it to be natural too, any intervention is so so hard on our bodies. We would wait 2 years for any of that! So another year to go 😅 AF came this morning, late but heyho 😔 don’t even feel as sad anymore. Don’t expect anything different. Here’s to lucky cycle 12!! Hopefully.

@30somethingyorkie AF was being a silly little bitch 😂 she’s here!!!! Onto cycle 12 😔 can’t imagine not getting my period now. Defo no OPKs this month, going to not check apps, just chill out and enjoy Christmas 🥰🤍

Ah that’s amazing that you’ve felt less stressed!!! Hopefully it’s done the trick this month 🤞🏼😍 oh tell me about it. That’s why I hate in a way doing opks, because if we don’t do them I can blame it on us not timing it right 😂 whereas if I do them and we time it perfectly and still don’t get pregnant I feel worse!!! 🤣 sends you loopy doesn’t it!

@RCF2503x hi lovely! So sorry you’re joining us girls on this journey. But they’re a lovely bunch 🥰 I absolutely feel your heartbreak, it doesn’t get easier each month but now I don’t expect anything less either!!! I’m 26, DH 32 and we’re TTC my first his second 🥺 cycle 12 for us now.

I’m glad your GP is listening and doing something for you. It’ll help you relax knowing it’s all ok 🤍 although I must say, I’ve had private tests (as we can only have so much on the nhs due to DHs previous child) and although everything is AS it should be in perfect condition, I still bloody worry somethings not right 😂 awww a bitter sweet AF due date. Let’s hope for the Christmas present 😍 keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you. Do you use OPKS?

Just a little story to make you all feel slightly better - one of my friends told me the other day she fell super quickly for her first two, and her third baby took her 18 months!! They didn’t do anything differently and they’re only now 27 (so not much older in terms of ttc!) so there really is so rhythm or reason to it 😩 xx

@Izzie94 thanks for sharing that story! I do love any story like that which gives me hope.

@RCF2503x welcome to our little group! But also sorry you're in the same boat as the rest of us! I'm the same as you, all my friends are either pregnant or already got 1 or even 2 little ones!! It does hurt every month doesn't it! 😢
I've been to the gp too because I missed a period but wasn't pregnant so she ran bloods for hormones and thyroid etc. Hormones were fine but thyroid very slightly off so going back again for a follow up though she said it was so marginal it would be fine. Come feb it will have been a year so will be pushing for more investigation.
My AF is due next week so will be either celebrating or commiserating too!

@Izzie94 sorry AF was playing games with you! On to the next so fingers crossed. Stayed away from OPKs this month too though still got apps but they tell me two different things! Which one do you use?

Driving myself crazy these last few days. Into week 2 of my TWW and the cramping I've got is awful, never had it like this before, started yesterday and still a bit today. Anyone else had this out of the blue? A tiny bit of me is hoping it's implantation but I just know it won't be!!!! Argh help I'm going crazy 🤪

Hi girls hope you are all well? I'm currently 9DPO tww is going nice and quick, nipples have been hurting for the last few days which is a weird one, also bee tired and had lots of headaches and pulling cramps. Af could be on the way as nothing I havent really had before but we shall see! By this time the last however many months I've ready done a test but I've been good this month and won't do any testing until AF is late.

@rcf2503x welcome to the group! xx

@MJM1608 how are you? I'm eager to know how being 8 weeks pregnant feels! Any symptoms/morning sickness? X

@Izzie94 Soooo sorry that AF turned up lovely! Hope you're doing alright. Enjoy a boozy Christmas & start the new year off with a bang, your time will come & I hope so much that it's very very soon!! So we have an (almost) 10 week scan on 21st Dec & we will use that (all going well) to tell my sister & my in laws. My parents are up in the Highlands so need to work out how to tell them face to face.. just can't imagine telling them over Zoom so hopefully it works out! Really excited to tell some family!

@Lovebug06 really sorry you're feeling down, it's such a tough journey no matter how much you try and push on. we are always here for you! I hope your BFP is coming in the early New Year & these feelings will soon be a distant memory - take care of yourself over the holidays xx

@CausingChaos2 I hope you're feeling OK after AF. It really does suck. I know the feelings too well & count my blessings every day that I am 8 weeks along. Wishing love & luck for the new year, have everything crossed! xx

@SparkyLauz eeek it's an exciting time & hope it's a lucky one for you!! Amazing willpower not testing - it really does toy with your emotions!! I've generally felt good up until this point.. the past week I've started to feel more nauseous/ tired/less energy/needing naps. Other symptoms I have are peeing more (through the night which i never do!), my boobs are sore which I've never experienced before, my nipples look like cones LOL they're so weird, have dark spots on them too. Another big one is that the thought of food turns my stomach & sometimes makes me gag, but when I'm eating I feel OK. It really is a strange time & I'm not used to being as unproductive.. but have to remember I'm growing another human inside me! Thanks for asking xx

Wishing everyone lots and lots of love!! xxxx

Hi Everyone,
It really is good having somewhere to talk openly about TTC. I haven't seen my friends much this year with everything going on and it isn't something I want to talk about over zoom calls! Only my best friend knows we are TTC. Although a lot of family and friends probably do know as I always said we were waiting until this year. Wish I could give them good news soon!

@Izzie94 Do you mind me asking what tests you have had privately? I know it really is a bitter sweet AF date for me on Xmas eve. I think I'd have to tell family if I end up with a BFP as they'll know the minute I decline a glass of wine haha. I am doing OPKs and tracking using Premom app. I wasn't at the start but I feel a bit more in control doing them now. I am using the clearblue digital and the easy at home OPKs, and they tend to coincide. I'm loosely trying to follow the SMEP too the last couple of cycles.

@30somethingyorkie It really is hard when all your friends have little ones. Most of my friends have 1 or 2 children now, one has 3. I know it hasn't been completely plain sailing for a couple of my friends, but I think most have fallen quickly. Hopefully we will be joining them soon! Fingers crossed the cramping is implantation! How many DPO are you? The 2ww really can send us crazy!

Thanks @SparkyLauz, and fingers crossed for you! Very good will power not testing. I have stopped testing too early, but always buckle and test a day or so before AF is due.

Congrats @MJM1608 :) xx

I am now 1 DPO... let the TWW commence!!

Feeling exhausted and very snappy this week. Boobs are really sore now but usually it would have gone by this point which is new for me. Think AF is on her way though as had slight amount of spotting last night/this morning and I caved and did a test yesterday (not FMU either) BFN as expected. I was doing so well with the will power haha.

@mjm aww glad you're all good! Haha never heard nipples compared to cones before 😂 keep getting plenty of rest and look after yourself xx

Just had a friend who i didnt know was ttc announce her pregnancy! I thought myself lucky so far that I haven't had to go through this yet as so many of you guys have. Its going to be a weird one to get my head around. Obvs very happy for her but I've got a feeling it's now the start of a few announcements. Praying for this BFP this month so much

Izzie94 Sorry to hear AF turned up. Know what you mean about not expecting any different - hopefully we get a massive surprise very soon. Will be all the more of a shock when we aren’t holding out much hope. Wishing you the best of luck in cycle 12.

30somethingyorkie Don’t let them fob you off about your thyroid - it’s a really misunderstood issue in this country, and the levels needed for treatment are out of touch.

MJM1608 I knew we hadn’t DTD at the right time this month so wasn’t really upset at AF arriving. It’s harder to understand when you’ve pulled out all the stops during FW. Thank you for your good luck wishes. I’m so pleased everything is going well with you, not long to wait until you can share your happy news with your families, is it? You’re not being unproductive, you’re doing something amazing! Hope you can get those extra naps you need, guilt free.

RCF2503x Welcome and hope you have a lovely result on Christmas Eve. It’s so hard not being able to chat to people face to face isn’t it? Although not sure how much I’d open up in real life anyway. It’s silly but I feel a bit embarrassed. Makes you wonder how many women are in the same position but we just don’t talk about it.

SparkyLauz Sorry you’re feeling rough this week - last thing you need is an announcement too. You did well to hold off testing for this long! Has your spotting come to anything?

Think that’s me caught up - sorry if I’ve missed anyone but sending you all love and the best of luck. I’m just heading into FW but honestly don’t expect anything to happen this month. Focusing on having a nice time at Christmas instead 🎄

@CausingChaos2 thanks, its been the worst week anxiety has been really high too. Glad its Friday and looking forward to a mulled wine and cuddles with DH and the pooch tonight. Still spotting but this is the norm for me a few days before AF xx

Positively onto the next cycle I think its number 9 or 10 now I've lost count! Xx

Hey beautifuls 🤍

So sorry I’ve been quiet, I’ve decided to take a little break from MN over Christmas. I really appreciate you all, and I will be reading to hopefully see many BFPS over the Xmas period. SIL has announced her AF is late after the first month of trying and I sound crazy I know but it’s really hit me now we’re approaching 1 year and she could be pregnant. I’m so crazy that I’m hoping taking a break from forums will maybe help me stop thinking about it. But if she announces her pregnancy at Xmas I’m going to be obviously overjoyed for her but crushed for me.

You’re all the best women I’ve ever spoke to, I love having you all to just chat to and you all understand!!!! I’m sure I’ll be back within a few weeks like “ok I was being mental” 🤣😂 just didn’t want to leave you all without saying why.

I didn’t test but I’m sure I had a chemical last month ☹️Late period, then it was very very heavy, and really strange for me! Usually I’m 3 days max and this was 5/6! So I’m focussing on myself for now. Enjoying food, wine etc. No OPKS This month 🥰

@RCF2503x I had a fertility MOT as such lovely 🤍 this is what I got -
Trans-vaginal scan using a specially designed ultrasound probe
Checking the size, shape and condition of your uterus
Find out when you will be ovulating – for conception or egg gathering
Check individual follicles in your ovaries
Measure and track any follicles to ensure they’re developing as expected
Check your reproductive system for problems such as polyps or cysts
Full medical report of the examination and findings
Thermal images to be taken away for review with clinicians
It was £150 and SO worth it. If we haven’t conceived by 18 months I will pay £400 for some extra tests privately. Dh has a beautiful DS from a previous very quick encounter 🤣 so I naively thought at 26 it would happen quickly!!!

Thank you alll for being so lovely. And I promise to be back here in 2021 🤍✨🤞🏼 Xxx

@RCF2503x welcome. This thread has the loveliest bunch of girls on it. We are all here to support you
@Izzie94 I completely understand. We all need time out and Christmas is the hard one. A break from all this will probably do you good and when you come back we will all still be here for support

Thanks to you all for your messages after my last update where I was feeling down. I am currently 12dpo. I have the feeling of dread as I know AF will come and then that's the whole year done and tbh I cant believe I'm here and still no luck. Although I do know its normal. Me and my friend said in the summer, as long as we have good news by Xmas! I know I will be upset. But the new year will bring a whole year of hope so I look forward to that. I know I sound negative, but I'm trying to be positive, in that when it most likely comes in a couple of days, I'm OK with it. I will feel worse if I get hopeful, although I know I still will!
I don't know if any of you also have AF due before Xmas as I've lost track. I'm hoping so much for you ladies that we will get some christmas BFPs x