TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

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@Vie8126 amazing! Whoop!

@CC81 amazing that it’s twins, double the fun 🤩

@CC81 twins is amazing news!! At 7 weeks was it an internal scan?

Thanks all. I'm freaking out!

@MgW1 - We tried for about 8 months (since Jan, but there were two months where we didn't).

@Vie8126 - My conception month was also the first time in ages we DIDN'T use OPKs (and had started to accept remaining a family of three), so I think I was more relaxed.

The scan was meant to be abdominal - but my bladder wasn't full, so it was transvaginal (internal) instead.

@Loladoodle 3 times! 😱 that's never happening for us 🤣 romance is well and truly dead here, tonight will be a roll over and job done 🤣🤣

@CC81 yes I remember chatting up thread! Ahh and now to be a family of 5! How have you been feeling?

I want a scan at 6/7 weeks but DP isn't keen as last time we did that I had a chemical.

@selina37 🤣🤣 3 times wouldn’t be the norm for me here, it was the weekend and we had a free afternoon to evening! Tonight’s has been a bit more mechanical 😅 but all done and dusted before I’m a celeb starts 👍

@Loladoodle I love to get it 'out of the way' 👀🤣

@selina37 👏🤣 job done!

@selina37
@Loladoodle
Me too 🤣 !!

@CC81 ah how lovely twins! Bet that was a shock!

AF is on her way out so looks like the jiggerypokery will soon begin again!

@MgW1 lucky guys eh 😅

@CurlyNo2 jiggerypokery 😂😂😂

Congratulations all BPNs! Fantastic news!!!

Amazing to see so many BFPs on this thread, congratulations! This really fills me with hope 🥰
I hope you don't mind me jumping on board - I'm 38 (just about to turn 39), TTC#1 since April so 8 months in. I was wondering if you ladies have all been giving up stuff? I've massively cut back on alcohol (which has been pretty easy as we've hardly socialised at all since March, would have been much harder in non-Covid times!) I tried to give up caffeine but was really struggling without my morning cup of coffee so am still having one and then decaf for the rest of the day. Everything I read says I should stop eating sugar but this is what I've found the hardest! I'm such a chocoholic 😂 Should I be making more of an effort?!

@Kitekat81
Hi
I have about 3 coffees a day ( dont like it strong anyway) and then maybe 1 decaff and i have cut down on alcohol , may 1 bottle of wine on a weekend , occasionally a few gins as well. Im not giving up on things until bfp , i have decided to try and do more exercise instead because turning into a couch potato with this working from home! Decided to give acupuncture a bash - have you tried? Xx

Hi @MgW1

I started ttc no. 4 in July this year.

strong coffee has always been my vice. I gave up initially and went cold turkey to herbal teas and no fizzy drinks. No alcohol and lots of supplements and testing and I thought that the BPN had to be in the bag cos of these sacrifices(!) but hasn't happened.

I had a Mmc where I ended up in hospital for a week a couple of years ago when I'd drank Diet Coke and coffee and I somehow convinced myself that those were a reason for it.

I've started to have a cappuccino in the morning and perhaps one more later in the day as it really is my only treat. Trying to eat healthier. I'm conscious of the effect caffeine is meant to have on eggs but then I'm also conscious about the effect stress is also meant to have so I think a little bit of what you like does you good (hopefully)

Good luck!

@Kitekat81 I cut down to 1strong coffee and about 3 or 4 giant mugs of tea per day. I know that's not exactly great but it was an improvement. I've now cut down to a weaker coffee and two giant teas, I think that's as far as I can go!

My view is live your life until bfp- we need some comforts in life and if not doing anything to excess I’m sure it will not have a huge impact. I’m taking supplements, trying to eat healthier and be more active. But I am having a couple of teas a day, sometimes a coffee. I do drink herbal teas also. And I enjoy wine on the weekends. This could take a while and in the interim life is for living!

@whatever1980
I have had 2 healthy children (6&4) and I too had a mmc at 14 weeks ( measured 12 weeks) i would have found out earlier but had to rearrange scan.
Never been a fan of strong coffee - cant tolerate costa coffee - gives me palpitations 🤣 and i think if coffee can do that to you then its good to be aware and cut down. I had my mc in Aug and had 3 cycles but not ovulated 😔 think its stress so trying acupunture. I will speak to doc in another month or 2 but I dont know what they can do other than prescribe hormone medication. I do feel stressed about it so trying to shift my focus now because iv only just turned 37 so have time .... just in limbo , so frustrating!!! How long have you been trying?? Xx

I stopped caffeinated coffee, as it has a noticeable impact on me (jitters). Currently drinking one normal tea in the morning, then decaf the rest of the day (it's a struggle!).

I only stopped alcohol once I got a BFP. As others have said, if you have a vice that helps you relax, then don't make yourself feel rubbish about it. Stress is meant to be a major barrier. I love having a cocktail with my husband on weekend nights (like a date, with toddler in bed upstairs!) and sharing a bottle of wine. Nothing extreme.

I did worry a bit, as I was drinking more than average right before my result! It was so unexpected.

I'm a bit more with @Loladoodle on this, I likely won't cut back much until I get a bfp, to each their own though and I defo don't judge anyone's choices.

I'm 11dpo today, cd39, AF due tomorrow, symptoms have died right down other than nausea this morning and a headache this afternoon.
I just had FRER delivered and am so tempted, but I'll be annoyed if I take one now and then af arrives tomorrow. And I should wait for morning wee...right, right?

What's wrong with me?!? I know I'm likely to get a negative anyway if I take it 11dpo, but I almost can't stop myself!!

😬😬😬

@Lucille3 you have more willpower than me anyway! I’d have it done and all! 😅 don’t listen to me though I have zero restraint

Hi @MgW1 do you definitely know you're not ovulating? I got my bloods done last month and all came back normal but trying to interpret them myself wasn't great and the receptionist couldn't really help. I've an Ava bracelet too abs my temp seems to rise and fall as it should but I'm not sure I'm ovulating. I've been trying since July. I got pregnant easily with first 3 abs stupidly thought that would be the case this time but I'm older now. Not sure my DH is totally in it either as with other 3 he swapped his underpants for baggy boxers as he'd read the swimmers shouldn't be warm but he's not done that this time.

@whatever1980
Oh thats quite funny about your hubby, mine similar - he complains when we have to dtd frequently but then is keen for it to happen quickly because I have talked him into cutting down on the weekend beers while we are trying!!
I dont know for sure , never had a peak with opk, they are either negative blank or faint ish , had some darker test results but not same colour / darker than control. Just started with pain today on one side but im CD 20 and Af due in 10 days so who knows 🤷‍♀️ i am occasionally a day or 2 late. Im thinking of doing a 21 day ovulation blood test next month through medichecks next month xx

Caved and took a frer. Negative as negative can be 😞
And now I'll start feeling silly for hoping