TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

[claireb7rg]

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Wasn't expecting to come back to this so soon but had a massive kick to the belly yesterday and can't talk to anyone else.😢

Our closest friends came round yesterday for a cuppa, were going to come over the weekend but we've gone into tier 2 overnight so they came last night instead.

She's pregnant 😢 I'm really happy for them, like really happy, she had breast cancer 6 years ago so didn't know if she would be able to have kids but it's just made me feel worse.

To top if off Im fairly sure I ovulated yesterday, haven't done any opks but am still temping (not sure why - possibly to check for covid). Had horrendous ovulation pain from 6pm till about 10 (thought at first it was wind, but then twigged I was cd13) and had ewcm yesterday too.

Amazingly enough we have managed to dtd 3 times in the last week so here's hoping.

Felt like shite last night due to friends news and the ovulation pain, think we were both upset about it to be honest. Still thinking of adoption though unless a miracle happens

Hope everyone is ok, haven't read the updates since my last post xx

Oh just to add massive congratulations @CC81 and lots of vibes that you have a happy and healthy 8 months

@lucieloos good luck ☘️ for the scan! As horrid as it is I’m glad you are nauseous! Good sign 🤞

@claireb7rg sorry you are feeling emotional it’s not easy this!! Men could never handle what we have to! Keep your chin up! You got this 💪

@Tammy80 welcome and best of luck 🤞

Interesting cycle this time. So I had 3 days of ewcm followed by a temp rise with no peak opk. Temp stayed up since then but then had another 2 days of ewcm with a positive opk on day 25 and 26 and today I have another temp rise.
I thought I was 7dpo but I suspect I’m only 1dpo??? This should be a fun 2ww!!!

@claireb7rg I totally get you. I just found out that my brother and sister in law are expecting. Whilst I am totally over the moon for them as they’ve had their own problems, it just brings that little bit of sadness that it hasn’t happened for me yet!!

Fingers crossed this is the month for you!!!

@CC81 yes that's fantastic! Congratulations! How are you feeling?

Hi @claireb7rg - so sorry to hear you're struggling.

I've been living in fear of pregnancy announcements. The feelings are so complicated.

Even now, I'm hyper-aware of my egg reserve issue and fully expect things not to work out, so the whole topic makes me feel anxious.

I think it’s really good that you’re considering adoption. We absolutely would have, if we didn’t have one child already. We’ve got both relatives and neighbours with adopted children, who are very happy families.

Thanks everyone - I really appreciate all the kind words. I'm trying SO hard not to let my thoughts race ahead. Need to take it a few days at a time.

I know a lot more about the process than I did three years ago - and that some embryos simply can't go the distance - so I'm trying not to stress too much about lifestyle things and just see what happens.

@selina37 - I've felt vaguely crampy and a bit nauseous on-and-off for the last week, so was completely expecting AF to start (and still am, really!).

If we make it to 6 weeks, I think we'll pay for early scans, tests etc, so that if there's a problem we'll find out ASAP. I really can't bear all the waiting!

Happy Sunday ladies! 😍 Hope you're having a relaxing day!

@claireb7rg sorry you're having a tough time. You're not alone here, I've heard a couple of close announcements in the past few weeks, and it really comes with such mixed emotions! 😘😘😘

Welcome @Tammy80! 😃😃😃

@CC81 I think you've got a great mindset, and if I had any extra digits I would have them crossed for you! All this waiting is the absolute worst! 😘😘😘

@LT103 interesting! I had a bit of a dip in BBT earlier in my cycle this month, but the peak OPK didn't come until about 7 days later (with a small dip)! Sometimes I wonder if our bodies just like to wind us up! 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Eeeeek! @CC81 this is absolutely wonderful news! Fingers crossed for a healthy 9 months.

I haven't used any OPKs this month again, just flying by the thread of my pants (is that even the saying!). According to Ovia I'm in my fertile window. I normally ovulate around CD11 which is tomorrow, although not had any signs yet.

My husbands friend had their gender reveal yesterday and it was such a lovely moment but I did feel a pang of jealousy as they hadn't been trying and this will be baby number 5 as they already have a couple each from pervious relationships. But... I'm delighted for them, it just hurts sometimes doesn't it.

Hope everyone is OK heading into another lockdown, we've been tier 3 for a couple of weeks now so kind of prepared x

@CC81 congratulations! Thats wonderful news!

@claireb7rg I’m sorry you feel like this and you should allow yourself to feel like this just let it out I know it won’t make you feel better but as they say sometimes saying it out loud is better than letting your own your thaughs eat you alive so I understand your mixed emotions happy for them by at the same time makes you when is it gonna be my turn I totally understand why you feel this and it’s normal @CC81 a massive congratulations to you soo happy for you 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎊🎊

CD31, so late for me as I'm usually between 26 and 28 days! Very shocked - I don't know why given this is what we've been trying to achieve - and trying to be cautiously optimistic!!! 🙉🙉🙉

@M4v3r1ck Congratulations!!! That's fantastic news!!!x

@M4v3r1ck congratulations 💐💐🎉🎉🎉

@M4v3r1ck congratulations, that’s fab!

@M4v3r1ck congratulations!

BFN for me today, and an awful night's sleep because I was so sure it would be positive i spent most of the night awake waiting to test. But low temp this morning, and AF has just started 😔 think I'm going to stop tracking things this month.

@M4v3r1ck fab news!!! Congrats 🎉

@Keepeas take it easy and be kind to yourself today. It’s hard going when af arrives 😞

I'm sorry @Keepeas It's so hard when you're hopeful.

I'm still doing the CB opks this month but not sure I'll get any more.

@Sleeeeeepy I’ve stopped opks I’m just trying regular dtd as ovulation usually around the same time each month for me. Do you tend to ov same time each month?

I have opks so will keep using them, but not going to temp or do any pregnancy tests next month 😱

@Loladoodle it seems to have settled a bit more now so yes, and CM seems to be a pretty good indicator for me

Oh wow @M4v3r1ck that’s a great line !!!!! 👏👏👏

Congratulations @M4v3r1ck 😊 cycle 6 right?? Fantastic news. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

@Keepeas sorry AF is here. I’ve only just started temping and it’s a right faff! Hope you get your BFP soon x

@M4v3r1ck - That's wonderful! Congratulations! Are you feeling okay? We must be on a similar timescale.

I'm ok, but so paranoid about things going wrong. Trying not to be. I've felt mildly rough and every little twinge or ache makes me panic!

@Keepeas - I think not tracking would be helpful. I found that it put me on edge all the time and probably didn't help. Over the last month I mostly just watched out for EWCM.