Ttc 12 months plus

[notyetamumbuttrying]

@fieldsandsun 28/09
@Anitaatje33 is on cd6
@kerrym87 5/10
@notyetamumbuttrying 6/10
@Hayley19835 8/10
@Narwhal88 17/10
@Annny27 18/10
@Motherofkittens28 22/10
Come on October!! Let's hope it's a successful month for us all!
Others welcome to join as well if the title applies to you too

@Narwhal88 bcq33 here sorry had to change username . Yeah I think we will need him 2 get tested again. Procedure was very quick , husband gave sample went to lab and then I was in for about 15 mins or so . Chances are 1-3% given low sperm but usually around 15-20% mark . How’s your journey going ?

Thank you @notyetamumbuttrying 😊. Hopefully asap but I guess it depends on the clinics availability. We are planning on doing a home SA kit this eve so we'll see what that throws up. It won't be as good as a proper test but may give us a good first idea 🤷🏻‍♀️

Welcome @Want2bparent 😊. Fingers crossed for you that it works 🤞🏻

@Want2bparent yeah you might have to now. If you're with a clinic they should be able to advise you. I haven't started ivf yet, only got the call yesterday about my Dh so just waiting to hear again to get the last of the tests done and then I believe we can start!
@Narwhal88 thank you! Yes I did thank that. Really hope we get to start in January, that would be so good!!
@SS123456 how did the home kit go? I've heard they're not as reliable so don't get too hung up on the outcome if it's not that good.

Omg ladies care fertility just called to book us in for initial consultation on 23rd December! They are also doing a repeat SA for my husband on 21st. Can't believe how quick that was! She said we should be able to start in January. They are also sending me a blood test kit to test Vitamin D and thyroid just in case they need to supplement for this and we can start ASAP. She was so so lovely.

@Narwhal88 aw that’s great to get the ball rolling for you and so great when first impressions of them is so positive x

@Narwhal88 whoop!! So pleased things are moving for you too 😃

I'm not gonna lie i am jealous of you both now haha @notyetamumbuttrying @Narwhal88 !!

Is it private or NHS for you guys?

Our next fertility appointment isnt till feb so can't imagine it will be too soon for us

Awesome though :D I am pleased its moving quickly for you @notyetamumbuttrying @Narwhal88 xx

@Annny27 haha understandable tbf! Nhs for us! Just waiting for the letter I guess with a date of when we can both go in for the tests and to sign the forms! She seemed confident it would be next month but who really knows when it comes to the nhs. Feb will whizz round tho won't it. Thank you, I appreciate that. X

@Narwhal88 that’s great! Are you going private?
Had a discussion with DH today and we’ve decided that if we want to do ivf, we should just go for it and get it done privately and asap!
So we are going to do a bit of research over the next few weeks and find the best option for us and maybe aim to get things started in the new year! Making that decision has really put my mind at rest! 😌

thanks all! We are NHS as well but with a private clinic. NHS referred us and will pay for it all, as they outsource IVF in our area.

Hopefully it won't be too much of a wait for you @Annny27 🤞🏼

@crazycatlady1981 it makes such a difference having a plan, take a look at the HFEA website to see success rates etc at the clinics near you.

I must admit that it is now starting to feel real- we actually have to do IVF. Which whilst I'm excited to finally get started, its sad that we have to go down this route.

@Narwhal88 ooh thanks for the tip! I will take a look! Didn’t really have a clue where to start with private clinics, but it’s good to get some info! Never thought we would actually have to go down this route either! I just assumed it would happen naturally eventually!

@notyetamumbuttrying the sperm test came back really good (high count and motility) so it looks like it's just me that's broken 😔. Not sure if I feel happy or sad about it tbh, it's a bit bitter sweet 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Narwhal88 that's great news! 😁🙌🏻

@Narwhal88 that's exactly it. You've summed it up so well!
@crazycatlady1981 it still might happen naturally but defo good fo look at all your options!
@SS123456 great news on the sperm test! You're defo not broken hun, but I understand the bitter sweet feeling. Do you have a follow up call to discuss next steps?

@notyetamumbuttrying it was one we bought online so there is no follow up but I have emailed a fertility clinic this morning (we had a virtual open eve with them last night) to start the ball rolling for tests for us both so hopefully we can get that started. They will do a 'proper' SA as part of that too. How are things with you?

@SS123456 ah yes, remember now. Good you're getting going now! Fine thanks although found out my sister is starting iui with donor sperm soon so that was a bit of shock! She's single and older than me so doesn't want to wait to find a man anymore.

Hey everyone. Hope you're getting on okay. Been quiets as been on shifts this week. A quick update on me-my GP outright refused to speak to me regarding my bloods, and put down the low progesterone to a "blip". Lord knows how he can say that as no repeat testing was done.
Long story short I've got a private consultation next week to get the ball rolling with an MOT for me.

@Theawkwardblonde well done for taking charge! Good luck with the private mot 🤞🏾

@Theawkwardblonde I would ask for a copy of your results, they can't refuse you that information! Hope the private mot goes okay!

@SS123456 that is good news! You are definitely not broken!

Nice to see lots of you have had good news and moving onto the next stages! I had a call from the go this evening, they have heard back from the fertility clinic (needed to see if it was worth referring us, given the circumstances) and they are going to put the referral to the fertility clinic through next week!! I have no idea how long it will take, won't hear anything till after Christmas I expect?

@Theawkwardblonde you can ask to see a different doctor in your practice too, see if one has an interest in this, turns out we've got one at our GP I didn't know about! Get what you mean though as they didn't know much about female fertility as my prolactin was high end of normal 1st time they did tests then this time they only did partial bloods and said they were ok. When I looked myself they're not normal and indicate PCOS but now we've been referred to fertility so hopefully get a proper opinion. It'll be much quicker with private as you can go from tests to treatment in a few months. Good luck x

Thanks guys. Hopefully will have more information after my consultation on Thursday I'm having a horrid week if I'm honest. My very dear friend announced her pregnancy yesterday. Was out of the blue. I didn't react well at all as her words were "i understand how you feel as I felt the same while trying". Sounds like a nice thing to say but my friend has been with her partner 6 months and been trying for 2. I'm on 15 months.
I'm ashamed to say that I acted really angrily and shit with her, and basically told her to leave me alone as I'm not in a good place to deal with any of this. That's 3 friends now I've had to say that too. I've spent the whole of today in bed as I feel like an awful human being. What a mind f..k TTC is!
I truly hope you are all getting on better than I am-we need some good luck in this thread!

@Theawkwardblonde sorry to hear! It's such a bitch isn't it! I'm not doing any better...my sister told me that she's doing iui with donor sperm (she's single), all I could think of, is if she gets pregnant from that and ivf fails for us, I'm gonna lose it! 😖 so bad isn't it!!

It's awful! Ive been moping in bed all day embarrassed by the way I react but it's just so damn hard.
I'm not a bitter person usually and generally quite pleasant (with the help of antidepressants I must add) but it's so damn hard getting up, and putting in the "act" that everything is okay, when people get pregnant at the drop of a hat.
I reacted awfully, and now this friend isn't responding to my rational messages. This is someone I've never fallen out with and I'm now wracked with guilt that I've lost her.
That's 3 of my close friends now that aren't talking to me 😞 the other two have just said "get over it, stop stressing etc". I'm fully aware I'm acting like a dick too but it's just so damn hard.

@Theawkwardblonde we are also on month 15, I don't think trying for 2 months vs 15 months is comparable, for me my current 15 months is very different to how I felt at 2! Your friend ment well but I know what you mean/feel is what I'm trying to say 🤣 it isnt as easy as simply 'getting over it', i don't think people raly understand unless they have been where you are. your not an awful human being at all, this ttc stuff is hard! I am sure you haven't lost her as a friend, try not to beat yourself up over it. I'm dreading any of my friends/family conceiving again or before me now, not sure how many announcements I can take 🤣 its not just the announcements though is it... it's the updates, the scans and then buying the gifts and then seeing the baby... sorry I'm ranting now! I hope your okay