Ttc 12 months plus

[notyetamumbuttrying]

@fieldsandsun 28/09
@Anitaatje33 is on cd6
@kerrym87 5/10
@notyetamumbuttrying 6/10
@Hayley19835 8/10
@Narwhal88 17/10
@Annny27 18/10
@Motherofkittens28 22/10
Come on October!! Let's hope it's a successful month for us all!
Others welcome to join as well if the title applies to you too

@notyetamumbuttrying thanks for the suggestion, but ive read dtd on ovulation day is too late as the swimmers need to already be there when the egg is released. You hear so much conflicting advice its mind boggling. I can't get over how you could read 10 different articles about ttc and get told 10 totally different things! They seem to have done so little research really considering its fundamental to the continuance of the human race!

@RobinRose they're the pits!! 😣

@Motherofkittens28 that is right that the best time is before ov, I was only suggesting doing it on ov day this time if he's producing his sample that day too. Just more time for "newer" ones then but obvs up to you 😆 hopefully he's got super sperm anyway and it won't matter!

Sorry ladies I have been MIA. Not had a chance to properly catch up where everyone is.

@notyetamumbuttrying I feel your pain, my cycles are 24-25 days, you don't have a break it's constant. Though I think I would rather that than really long cycles. I'm month 17 but cycle 22!

Hi ladies.
May I join in?
Been ttc for about 18 months. I don’t ovulate and am being seen by assisted conception.
It’s ok to say no if it’s full.

@Narwhal88 that will be me soon! Dh is dragging his heels with this repeat SA. We said we'd only go private after the outcome of this and he's seemingly putting it off!! He does have a call booked in with andrology though but that's still two weeks away and we all know how long they take to get SA's back, which is mad considering it's analysed within an hour of the sample. Anywho, what's latest with you hun?
@Yutes course you can! Where are you up to with investigations and treatments?

Welcome @Yutes 😊

@notyetamumbuttrying maybe he's a bit anxious of having it confirmed?? I just kept on at mine till he did it! It is frustrating though.
We have our appointment next Tuesday but still waiting for the karyotyping to come back from Guys hospital. Though consultant secretary emailed me today to say she's chased again but thinks it will be back in time. Fingers crossed as hoping we can get referred for IVF next week and we need it to continue.

Welcome @Yutes do you have PCOS? I assume maybe you are trying clomid or letrozole?

Hi all update from me after our fertility follow up. So no more the NHS can do for us now as OH's motility is 0% so ICSI is our only hope and as he already has a child the private costs are just out of our league.
Taking some time out to process this info as it seems this may be the end of the road for us now xx

@Hayley19835 sorry to hear that. IVF funding is so unfair. I have seen that some people crowd fund for ivf, maybe you could try that if necessary? I'm sure friends and family would be willing to help a little if they can. Have you looked into the costs? ABC IVF are the cheapest - £3700 for ICSI. It could take a while to save but you could keep trying naturally in the meantime? Xx

@Narwhal88 probably but it's delaying the inevitable isn't it. He's worked at the office for two days so will speak to him tomorrow and and get him to book it. We're meant to be with guys too but I've heard the wait times are horrendous. We got referred in sept and still not even had our initial consultation yet 😞how long did you wait? Hope you get what you need through in time!

@Hayley19835 ahh so sorry to hear! What narwhal said is right though, there are cheaper options out there if you're able to save.

@hayley19835 so sorry to hear that! Its not for everyone but you might consider egg sharing, you can get a substantial discount for your IVF if you essentially donate some of your eggs to someone who is having difficulties on that side. I think its all part of the same process and I guess you keep half for your round and donate the others. Could be worth exploring?

@notyetamumbuttrying we aren't with Guys as we are in Kent but Guys are the only place that do the karyotyping and it's taken 2 months so far for that. We were referred from the GP in February so it's taken this long to get all the tests done. That was with a delay of a couple of months due to covid wave 1 though. I hope you aren't waiting too much longer, the wait is the worst. My NHS trust don't have an IVF unit so we get to go to a private clinic but NHS funded.

@Narwhal88 ah I see! Well from the threads on here about guys we'll likely go private as I'm not really prepared to wait months and months. Turning 35 in March and want to be pregnant before then ideally. So I'm hoping to start talks in January with a private clinic. Just waiting on hubs to get this second SA so we can get going on it!

[quote Narwhal88]@notyetamumbuttrying maybe he's a bit anxious of having it confirmed?? I just kept on at mine till he did it! It is frustrating though.
We have our appointment next Tuesday but still waiting for the karyotyping to come back from Guys hospital. Though consultant secretary emailed me today to say she's chased again but thinks it will be back in time. Fingers crossed as hoping we can get referred for IVF next week and we need it to continue.

Welcome @Yutes do you have PCOS? I assume maybe you are trying clomid or letrozole? [/quote]
Yes. I do indeed have PCOS. DP getting SA and then letrozole, I believe. But could potentially skip that and go ICSI. My boss is putting me under pressure to tell her if I need to inject hormones etc. Which is a bit OTT and overwhelming.

Thank you for being so lovely

Hi @Yutes can I ask what letrozole is supposed to do for sperm? Gosh that is a bit much of your boss to ask! I'm not sure how much you have to tell them when going through ivf though.

Hey everyone. I just wanted to sharemy story incase it helped. Me and DH were ttc for 2 years before i got my bfp. Unfortunatley ended in a mc a few days ago. But we had all the tests done and everything was fine, we were just put on the waiting list for the fertility clinic the month i got my bfp!
So it will happen but i know it just feels like it never will xx

@notyetamumbuttrying

Hi *@Yutes* can I ask what letrozole is supposed to do for sperm? Gosh that is a bit much of your boss to ask! I'm not sure how much you have to tell them when going through ivf though.

Hiya. No letrozole for me, if DPs SA comes back ok. Sorry. Should have been clearer.

I’m not keen on telling my boss anything tbh. I find it a bit intrusive. My boss can be a bit OTT.

So my friend who had a miscarriage a few months ago just posted a scan pic on our friends group WhatsApp.....just sobbed my sorry heart out. Can't face telling her as don't want to take away from her joy but not sure I can handle any more messages about it. Thinking of asking my hubby (who works with hers and is part of this friendship group) to quietly mention to him we're having issues and I'm struggling. Don't want to be rude but I feel a bit broken now

@kerrym87 oh bless you, I know how you feel, I felt the same when I saw my friends scan on Facebook. I don't use WhatsApp but can you silent notifications? Can't be easy having lots of messages about it. Asking your dp to mention it to your friends dp might be a good idea? I get why you don't want to bring it up to your friend, I thought about telling my friend after seeing her scan but like you, I didnt want to take away from her joy. It really sucks. I hope you are okay x

@kerrym87 you're not being rude, you're protecting your heart. I don't think it will take away her joy either. I would probably message her separately just to say you are really happy for her but you are struggling and can't face seeing updates right now so you will be muting/leaving the group for now. If you can't face that then see if your husband will do it instead like you said.
Some of my old work friends want to meet up after lockdown but one of them is heavily pregnant and I just know the whole conversation will be about that. I hope we go into tier 3 so I don't have to meet up! 🤣

Hi ladies! Cd7 so might be entering fertile week soon 🙌

@SunnySide1992 thanks for sharing 🥰 best of luck for your pregnancy

@kerrym87 I would distance myself but probably wouldn't say anything about my struggles tbh probably just try and mute the messages and reply every once in a while wishing luck etc :)

@notyetamumbuttrying how are you lovely?

@narwhal88 yep my friend just had a newborn and is saying its such a shame we can't a meet and I am secretly happy not to have to hide my emotions when we do meet haha

@Annny27 hiya! I'm ok thanks, you? Just off a catch up video call with my two besties. Ones just had a baby so we got to see her for a bit and then hear about her birth story and c section she knows we're ttc and Dh's diagnosis but the other friend doesn't so it was nice just hearing her speak tbh and seeing her so happy! I'm due on on Sunday so do feel crappy but luckily my feelings were at bay and I was just able to revel in her happiness, feel all proud of myself makes a change that's for sure 😂

@kerrym87 and @Narwhal88 I think we just need to be kind to ourselves and mute any conversations we can. Other people don’t need to know your business.
I regret sharing info about PCOS to some of my “friends”. They’ve never looked at me the same since, with their 2.4 children.

@Yutes ah that's not nice of your friend at all. They should be understanding. I'm always in two minds about telling ppl things as on one hand it stops the questions, but then on the other, they know your business tough balance sometimes. I hope you're feeling better today. Oh and thanks for clarifying the letrozole thing, I was hoping it was some wonder drug for sperm for a minute so am I correct to assume you've gone through breast cancer or is it used for other things as well?