October 2007 ~All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC of BFP after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

As we agreed - starting a fresh thread before our original shuts down. Will post this new link into the old thread so everybody can find us!

In the meantime ~ sprinkling it with pink and blue baby pixie dust

and splashing with baby glue so lo's stick around forever ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

grinningbee I'm so sorry for you. I really hope luck turns for you and your husband.

Right thats it I am officially not feeling sorry for myself any more. Very hard to after reading previous post.

Grinningbee. Oh my god. Every body on this thread will read your post all the way through and will come running in with arms wide open.

We have all had very different experiences of MC here. The way we deal with it are very similar. We come on here and we cry, we bitch, we moan and most importantly we drink wine and eat cake. (apart from ILTS who likes battered sausages).

Still bleeding today. Feel awful and I am passing lots of tissue and some small clots with the blood.
So I guess you havent got rid of me yet!

Grinningbee I am so sorry for you, I just don't know what to say.

Ronshar I have been praying that everything would be ok for you this time- so sorry.

Hello to everyone else x

grinningbee - sorry you had to come and find us, your story is a lot like mine, my baby only got to 6 weeks I found out at 8 then had a natural mc at 10 weeks. I have been ttc again for 2 months, although it does get better theres not a day goes past I don't think what could have been but it is getting easier. This thread is so good as everyone on it knows exactly what you are going through x

ronshar - hang on in there honey xxx

grinningbee im so so sorry for your loss and i know i shouldnt as its such a hard time for you but i nearly wet myself when you mentioned about them catching your pubes in the speculum but im just childish
Welcome! we will all look after you here so if you ever have anything on your mind just splurt it all out here cause we are listening (reading)

Ronshar i dont know what to say so i wont say anything i will just offer you a selection of battered sausage and cakes

Cheers luv that will do nicely.

dont eat them together though cause thats just wrong lol

grinningbee there are no words to describe how sorry I am for your loss and for what your husband and you are going through with is illness. Please always feel free to come on here and to share whatever it is on your mind at the moment. It is what we?re here for. You sound like an amazing couple who are very strong and dedicated. I wish you all the best luck in the world and as ronshar said ? I hope that luck turns around immediately and things start going only uphill for you.

ronshar girly? you?re a wise woman. When life throws rocks like this at you? put things into perspective? just like what you?re doing today. I remember when we lost our DD, I?d come to visit her grave and just fall apart. Then my DH would point our grave stones with 2 dates ? a birthday and a date when a baby passed away. Yep? that?d dry up my tears? there were mothers so worse off who actually had a baby who was living for awhile to only then lose them. At least our girl never actually came, in the fullest sense of the word. So I guess what doesn?t kill us? makes us stronger? or at least wiser.

Hope all of you are doing well today, girls! Nothing much to report here ? AF is on day 3 and just draining me out. On the positive note ? looks like we?ll be able to get our genetics blood work covered. So in about 2-3 weeks we should know in fact if either one of us has something that?s causing chromo issues with our babies. I?ll keep you posted.

Rosy was meaning to ask you - how?s your girl after her procedure?

Grinningbee - Also very sorry to hear about your recent mc and about your DH's illness. Life is crap sometimes and that's putting it mildly. As the others have said, we're here when you need us so feel free to come and spill it all out when it gets too much.
Ronshar - so sorry. I was also really hoping it was going to be OK for you this time. Look after yourself.
Katendmom - good news that the insurance company will pay for the blood tests. I guess you're in limbo for the next 2-3 weeks though waiting for the results...
Hope everybody else is OK.

oh grinningbee, im so so sorry

grinningbee I'm so so sorry for you but welcome to our merry band.
From which I have been absent of late. I have been reading regularly but have not felt like I had anything constructive to offer, so didn't post
Ronshar big hugs - we're still hanging in there on this thread form our March one, aren't we?
kateetcetc I'm glad you've been told the kind of news that might mean not an end to ttc.....

Any of you ladies that alrady have 1 dc, do you find yourself justifying to yourself that it's okay to just have one, and trying to reassure yourself that they and you would have a decent life without a sibling? Cos that is what i find myself doing so often when i get the moment where I just panic that I'll never have another successful pregnancy. Or am i just bonkers???

I'm on cd 18 and we've been bd every other day, and unlike last month no water infections - hurrah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're right on alittleBITEshy! I've been saying this every morning and every night - my DS is my sunshine and if he is my only child for life - I am SO SO lucky already

Big hugs to Ronshar and Grinningbee and to all new joiners. Try to take care of yourselves (and your husband Grinningbee - you sound a very strong and positive couple - here's wishing you lots of strength to get through this).

Littlebit(e) (great halloween name by the way, am still trying to think of one !), I too spend a lot of time thinking of life as a family of 3 and that it would absolutely be fine etc etc until I spend time with people with more than 1 and I turn into a tantruming toddler ('I want that'). When I really think about it, its not childhood that i really worry about for dd if she's a one and only its when DH and I are old - maybe infirm -and gone and she's alone (god am making myself blub).

Anyway hope those who are able to have a good weekend and hope those who are suffering at the moment don't suffer too much over the weekend.

Grinningbee, i have just read your story and wanted to say how sorry i am for your loss and hope your husbands treatment all goes well. I just shed a tear reading it. This site will be a good support for you, say what you want and no one will judge x

Aw Gilly that was a lovely post (god am feeling all teary again - thanks, its great to read something like that from one who knows !

wheely
halloween name idea:
er.....
wheelyscarybug

not v good at this - someone suggested mine on a thread last year....

Grinningbee so sorry for both of you for your loss and for your DH's cancer coming back.

Kate goo dnews about the insurance.

Thinking of you Ronshar

grinningbee sorry you have had to join us on this thread, I was also on the due in May thread. I hope and pray that your partner gets through this terrible illness, and that you have both got the strenght to deal with all the crap that has been dealt to you. I also shed tears for you when I read your story but I also couldn't help PMSL over your pubes being stuck

CLAIREPO My last M/C was on the 9th September I was only 6weeks. My AF started tonight at 6.30pm so Temps right on time and exactly 14 DPO so I am officially Day 1 of AF.

must go and wake DH up now, he needs to use the computer for his "saturday bets" before he goes on nights...take care all and try to have a nice weekend xxxxxx

wheelyscaredofbugs(?)

StarlightMcKenzie & Grinning bee - Sorry you had to join us
I'm another ex-may thread one. I've had to be quite strict with myself re not looking back on the thread as it upsets me. but for this thread I'd have gone crazy it reminds me that there's always someone in a worse position than me.
Must be tough having your dh going through something as crap as cancer at he same time though.

kat - good to hear they are paying at least you'll know

I'm feeling postive today. been doing lots of strange physical things like strapping a wheelbarrow to a roof. couldn't have done that if I'd been pregnant.

Grinningbee, sorry you've had to join us here, and I'm so sorry to hear about your dh's news as well. What a terrible week - I hope you find this thread as supportive as I have

Ronshar, so sorry, big hugs.

Kate - good news about the insurance covering your tests, and at least the counsellor also thought it was likely you'd been very unlucky, rather than due to you or your dh. I hope that's the case, you get the news you want, and can go ahead with ttc if you decide that's what is right for you.

I think it'll be a miracle if i ever have a 2nd child, not happy in relationship at all anyway, so stupid idea to even contemplate really. That's why pg was accident anyway. Used to think just that dd would benefit from lots of attention. After being pg again, started to look at how she interacts with other kids, the way she's so thrilled to see her older cousin, and think she'd probably really relish having a sibling and would make a great older sister. Oh well.

Know what you mean aquababe, I looked back at the April thread a couple of times, and it just made me cry, so I resist the temptation to look now.

Mine was an April baby too. I was so pleased about that - strange really. I guess part of it was not being pregnant over the summer and suffering on tubes etc