October 2007 ~All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC of BFP after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

As we agreed - starting a fresh thread before our original shuts down. Will post this new link into the old thread so everybody can find us!

In the meantime ~ sprinkling it with pink and blue baby pixie dust

and splashing with baby glue so lo's stick around forever ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I agree is all to confusing.

Have you seen or heard from G43. I notice on the pregnancy thread(yes I still look I know I shouldnt) that she has had bad news but I cant find her anywhere. I do hope it isnt the dreaded MC again!
We love you Going43. I do hope you are ok.

hi ronshar, was just thinking about you! how are you doing?

i didnt see that!?! poor thing, hope she is ok

Got back from hospital last night after the whole 'medical intervention'- won't use the actual term as it has got to be the coldest thing I have ever heard.

Luckily I got to come home same day so was back to my own bed with my lovely kitten (7 mths) who has not left my side all week -Bless. Feel loads better physically as no more pain but I guess the hard part now really begins.

mich81 Your story was inspiring and I will definately bear it in mind for next weekend.

tjuice I have got everything crossed for you - keep us posted.

So sorry some new people have had to join but this is such a great place for support.

I'm nine weeks now! I did have a tiny bit more bleeding before I went on holiday but it has disappeared, it happened when I had been over doing it and was like the first lot of bleeding I had so I didn't get it checked out as it didn't develope into anything else. I am keeping my fingers crossed for all of you lovely ladies.

Morning all. Well, I got my results back this morning (after spending all afternoon and evening yesterday trying to chase them up, and the doctor promising to ring me back and then clocking off without bothering to...) and I have definitely miscarried. The nurse I spoke to told me you don't need an anti-D if you miscarry before 12 weeks and haven't had any intervention like a D&C. I hope she's right. Feeling better today. Hope everyone here is ok today too :-) xxx

loveangel
what a palaver with the dr and hospital and i am sorry that you have m/ced. hope you can really take it easy this weekend and don't have to go to work or anything. just relax and take care of yourself.

i am doing okay today and still feeling positive. got up sooo many times last night to pee though but have not had any more discharge since yesterday morning, fingers crossed. just watching dvds with my dp and chilling this weekend which is nice.

goingfor3 congrats! so excited for you.

teehee - so sorry - hope it went as well as it could and that you can put your feet up this weekend. your kitten sounds so adorable.

hi everyone else and thanks for the support, which i really need right now. hope you are having great weekends.

I'm a bit premature coming on here but I think I know my body enough to say it's happened again.

I just wanted to ask a question if that's ok? When I m/c'd before ds, I had to have an ERPC as the bleeding was just too much and wouldn't stop. This time I'm only getting bits of blood when I wipe (more when I strain on the loo - sorry tmi). It's not the bleeding that's making me think it's not going to happen for me this time, it's more the overwhelming 'intuition' I got on Monday followed by ALL symptoms suddenly disappearing. Went for scan on Friday and no baby but gestational sac and yolk sac. They said I have to come back on Friday so now I'm waiting. Anyway....the question.....if I'm told on Friday that I'm right and it's all over, what happens if you don't m/c yourself? I keep waiting for a big bleed but what if that doesn't happen? Sorry if this upsets anyone talking about this, I just need to know how it works in this situation for my own sanity. I'm about 6 weeks (was measuring 5+5 on Friday but the blood test result I'd had done on the Tues was showing that I would have been 6+3 on Fri)

Anyone able to advise?

Thanks and hope it was ok to come in and ask.

looney so sorry if your hunch is correct. I think the options vary from hospital to hospital but none of them are great. Either you wait it out, you take a pill that brings on the m/c or you have a surgical procedure.

Thanks LL - do you know how the pill things work? Anyone done it this way?

Thanks again

Those were the 3 options that I was given. You will know which is right for you. I didn't think I would be able to make a decision but once I pulled myself together and read the info it was an easy decision. I went for the surgical procedure and even though it was only yesterday and obviously I am still emotional I am really glad that was the option I went for.
I was starting to get pain before the op and I figure if I feel better physically then the emotional stuff will be easier

But everyone is different and you may feel something else is more suited to you - just my thoughts.
teehee
p.s - must be feeling OK this afternoon as using halloween smileys ! Mind you give me another hour or so and things could be different again.

teeheelaydee - so sorry you've just had to go through that. Hope you are ok {{{hugs]}}

Last time I had ERPC but had to be off work for a while. Now I'm a childminder and feel I can't let parents down (doesn't help I had to close for a week recently due to ds having a bug). I know I should do what's right for me and an ERPC would be quicker etc but I worry about the questions for taking time off, can't remember what the minimum time off I was told last time - long time ago.

Hi Looney - no I haven't had it myself (done the other two and prefer the op as waiting I found to be torture). I think someone on the m/c thread had it though and said she was shocked by the degree of pain during the contractions - said it was like labour pains

Bloodsuckinglooney - hope this is not tmi but they give you the tablets 48 hours before then admit you to hospital and give you a pessary (spelling !) and then wait for you to mc. Apparently this can take up to 24 hours. The leaflet that the hosp gave me said that 50% of people have to go on to have the surgical procedure.
I didn't fancy sitting on a ward having a mc.

THL - so sorry to hear of your m/c and hope you recover from the erpc quickly.

BSL I have no advice but I just wanted to say I really hope you don't have to go through this again.

teeheelaydee Glad you are feeling a little better today.

Thanks ladies.....think you've answered that for me. I now remember the pessary before ERPC and I was almost screaming before the op (they ended up having to delay the procedure as too busy but had already had pessary and felt like proper contractions). Sounds like the ERPC would be the way to go again

Can anyone remind me the recovery time after the op? I've no idea what excuse I can use to give parents (I have one who is very selfish and only thinks about work, work, work, even when her little baby was VERY poorly with a temp of 39.9/103.2!!! )

bloodsuckingLOONEY I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through. If it is a mc which ever route you take it will mean time off work. A natural mc can be very painful as can a mdecially induced one. If you are mc'ing a ERCP will at least mean you can arrange time off and rest properly rahter than finding out that you just can't get out of bed on the day it's all happening. I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

I have been signed off for a week. I feel OK physically but then I am not doing much.

It sounded to me as if the tablet option would take just as long to recover from.

I know it's hard and you don't want to let people down but you are right you need to do what is right for you.

G43 - you're right, I'm starting to remember last time that much more now....it started with spotting for a week and half but one morning I went to the toilet and just 'knew'. I couldn't move without being in pain and the number of towels I went through!! I know some people may think I'm mad but because I know in my heart and have done since Monday, I'm now just trying to get it clear in my head so that when I go in on Friday, I can make a decision there and then.

Thanks again for your help ladies

BSL have you thought about telling the parents the truth? I can't believe that any parent would not view the situation with sympathy - but I suppose you know them better! IMO anyone who uses a childminder must take on board that the childminder or their kids could be ill at any time. Don't let them put pressure on you at an already difficult time.

teehee - I seemed to remember being told I couldn't drive for a week after due to the anasetic - is that what they said to you? I personally would prefer to keep busy this time if I'm physically ok - maybe I'm kidding myself??? I hate being Self Employed sometimes....worry about amount of money we'll loose, worry about how parents will react and whether this would make them leave me etc....all when I just want to curl up in a ball and cry and stay in bed!!! grrrr

LL - I think telling them would make them understand the time off but then scare them into leaving knowing I'm ttc!!! (I've heard of parents leaving in these situations, no matter how much the kiddies love coming )

That is so shallow-minded of them

Maybe tell them it's an emergency op?