October 2007 ~All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC of BFP after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

As we agreed - starting a fresh thread before our original shuts down. Will post this new link into the old thread so everybody can find us!

In the meantime ~ sprinkling it with pink and blue baby pixie dust

and splashing with baby glue so lo's stick around forever ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

No they didn't say anything about driving but our car got written off a few weeks ago and we don't pick up our new one until Thurs. I didn't even think to ask about driving.
I know what you mean about keeping busy - I'm not sure I could work at mo - still tired so you may need to have some time off. Slept for 2 hours this afternoon.
I am determined to face the world in the next couple of days.

I will give some thought to a convincing story for you to tell parents. Shame you can't just be honest - you've got enough to deal with.

I know, if I do have a problem then it's unlikely to affect them for a year anyway but parents do panic sometimes!! Some parents don't like the idea of a pregnant childminder, others just think long term and panic about time off, even though I was only hoping to close for a few weeks.

Emergency op probably best, dh reckons we need to think of what to say if they ask what as they are likely to!

that would be me

i took the pill on the monday and by the tuesday night i ended up with full blown contractions and heavy blood loss, ended up in hospital. I was 10+1 though so it may not be that bad earlier.

I only bled for a week also but i would choose the erpc if needed again

teehee, sorry your car got written off. Suppose I'll just have to close for a week and explain wouldn't be safe to have their kiddies. And that will be another £400+ lost after loosing the same a couple of weeks ago. Wish I didn't have to think of all that side but we were already worrying about xmas! Anyway teehee, I feel bad moaning about all this when you've just had yours

iliketotrickortreat - I'm ruling that out now, sounds horrible Poor you

iliketotrickortreat - that sounds dreadful-poor you.

BSL- Don't worry about moaning - you are bound to have loads on your mind. I can totally see why you would be concerned about xmas. Sometimes we worry about things to stop us thinking about what is really on our mind ie: TTC and mc'ing ! I know I have been.

teehee - i think you're right. I didn't work this week due to half term and supposed to be doing all sorts just me and ds. Instead ended up on knicker-watch, in pain and wollowing (feel awful for poor ds). I think I've drained myself of tears now and just trying to take my mind off it by worrying about all these things, just like you said! Glad I'm not the only one Think dh was starting to think I'm a mad woman!

bloodsuckingLOONEY could you tell the mums you have appendicitis and at least that way they know it won't happen again and I'm sure you will also get lots of sympathy from them.

BSL I am so sorry hun for what you're going through. You know ILTS story - I remember it well since she and I were mc'ing at the same time. Listening to what she was going through I chose D&C (I'm in USA) and if ever again - would only do D&C. I had it planned for Friday, took the weekend to recover and was back at work on Monday. I bled for about a week, got my first AF in 4 wks... so emotional side aside - the physical one could not have been easier. Good luck and hugs to you, sweetie!

TJ... I really-really have a good feeling about your little pumpkin... I do. I think after you clear your infection - everything will go super-duper.

Not much going on here... DS has another ear infection but we're determined to see if he can recover without an antibiotic... our american pediatrician almost fell over when I refused antibiotics! Oh well - I am a rebel, huh?!

GF3 it is so good to hear from you! I was starting to worry like other girls here. Going strong, huh lady?! Keep us posted!

BSL -
Katend - your poor ds. How many ear infections has he had in his little life? I never had them as a kid (well, once), but in the last 8 months (actually since just before i got my bfp in march)i've had them almost constantly. And it's not very nice - even though for me it doean't always hurt - is often just a kind of deafness, it's not pleasant.

well, i'm on cd33. Who knows. Af could still turn up (i'm normally 30 days ish, but last month it was 32). Trying not to assume I am pg cos last monght i did that then felt rubbish when af came. If it's not here by Monday I'm going to test probab;y.

G43 - that's exactly what I hoped to say and then I started thinking.......my brother had this as a child and I believe everyone who has this ends up with a scar near belly button (ish) area? The problem is, I've always got kids pulling at my top etc and have had my top raised (accidentally) lots when carrying babies etc. I just worry that if this happened with a parent there like it has before, they'd know I'd lied if they noticed?? Am I worrying too much or should I use that excuse? If it wasn't for the scar issue, I'd deffo say that (and just hope I don't end up with it later! )

katendmom - That sounds good from a work POV. What's the difference between D&C and ERPC? I thought it was pretty much the same apart from they use different tools? If so, is the recovery pretty much the same?

Thanks again, you lot have been great. I thought I'd be slated as I don't know for sure yet. I can't help 'needing' to plan all this ahead of Friday! It's really helping me cope!!

One more thing.....I remember last time I got my ERPC pretty quick as went into emergency clinic and they sorted quickly due to the loss of blood causing me to be unable to walk properly etc. This time I don't have that (yet anyway) so am I likely to have to wait? Just wondering if maybe they could book me in for the following Friday so have the weekend to recover?

(I feel very odd thinking about it all at this level of detail! )

hi people

feeling nervy again - just crampy and teeny tiny bit of brownness . . .hope its nothing. i am still drinking loads to flush me out.
Thanks for the good wishes though, i am living off them . . . thanks katend - i hope you are right and sorry to hear about munchkins ear infection. it can be so painful - hope it clears up quickly. i am not a fan of antibiotics myself and to be honest, they rarely prescribe them here in Denmark so i was surprised i got them for this bladder infection. anyway, get well soon for him.

bloodsucking - i had an d&c on the friday and went back to work on the monday. to be honest, it wasn't that bad physically at all. i felt very sad and in shock but being at work helped me in a way. but, i only work until 2pm so just had to survive five hours. and its kind of a mellow, desk job. also, i don't have any other kids, so i spent the weekend wallowing and watching films and actually needed to get out by the monday. everyone is so different. i didn't bleed at all and started having sex a week later. AF exactly 4 weeks later.

but still, you don't know until you know. i guess you are a "prepare for the worst" person which is very pragmatic. i hope it works out for you though.

alittleBITEshy-ooooh a testing buddy!!

katendmom-i remember how nervous you were cant believe it was only seven weeks ago! has all gone so quick but seems like a year ago

tjuice-you'll be fine, so i was told brown blood was nothing to worry about as its just old blood thats been collecting in your uterus. When i had brown blood everything was fine

everyone else dont forget the clocks go back an hour at 2am!!

katendmom I really feel for your son. I've had amny ear infections and they are so bloomin painful, I really hope he recovers soon. Our gp's are so reluctant to give antibiotics and I really have to beg for them if the children need them and as a their mother I know when they need than and when they can recover without so it makes me really cross!

morning girls, hope you are ok. Sorry to hear that some of you are going through a crappy time at the moment best wishes to tjuice for tomorrow, I really believe that the brown stuff is all to do with your infection so keep your chin up girl
big [[[[hugs]]]]] to teehee and BSLooney my heart goes out to you girls.
good to see your ok going43 keep us updated on your little beeny xx
Kate Sorry to hear your little one has an ear infection, I hate to see any of my children poorly (would rather have the pain myself if it was possible) hope he isn't suffering too much!xx
I woke up this morning with a blood shot eye, I am assuming it's something to do with the chest infection that I have just got over? anyway I won't have to put on any scary make-up on wednesday to scare anyone as I look like a real vampire
try and enjoy the rest of the dayxxxx

well, i'm out of the running this month (x1000) cos af showed up this morning. the last 2 cycles have been longer.... last time it was 32 days, and this time it was 33. Let's hope it stops there... when i was a teenager they were very very long, up to 50 days sometimes, lets hope i don't go there again!!!!
Just feeling like i'll never have another baby we've been ttc a year now (more or less)... 2 early m/cs in that time but no real baby to snuggle

SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!

alittleBITEshy We had been ttc for 3 years before I got preg but this ended in mc. I then went on to have another mc before DS. I recently had another mc but hoping it won't take so long to have a sibling for DS. I know how you feel, you will have a baby one day.

Hi all, have been reading the posts with interest as answers some of my questions. I have been in and out of the hosp all week as they thought I might be ectopic rather that m/c. My hormone levels are getting highter and higher now at about 12000. But they have finally ruled out (after much prodding around with all kinds of things) that it is not ectopic.

But now I am having to wait to actually m/c and as levels prob still rising when will this happen? I thought about having some 'medical intervention' but when I read the leaflet I thought oh no sounds awful. So I am going to wait naturally as last time it was just like a normal af. But will it be the same this time as I am nearly 8 weeks where as I had m/c by 6 weeks before. While I am 8 weels - the sac only measures 5 weeks - so will blood loss reflect the age it all stopped or the number of weeks I am along? I am presuming (hoping) the 5 weeks??!

And the cruel thing is that I am still having all day morning sickness as the hormone levels are high - life is not fair

Sorry to hear AF turned up ALBS ... I know how you feel too. That probably doesn't help much at the moment but sometimes it helps me to know I'm not the only one popping out babies at the drop of a hat. Last week 3 (THREE [SHOCK]) friends had their second babies. Dustin - you are an inspiration with your perseverence. Here's hoping DC2 turns up soon for you too.

If your cycle is getting longer you could go to the docs, they might (eventually) do something to regulate you. Mine are usually on the higher end (usually between 30-33) although not enough to get regulated.

Lilypink - sorry to hear things are sorting out very easily. Does your hospital advise you on how long to leave it to see if it happens naturally ?

Sorry to see new people ...

Tjuice - hope things are ok.

Gilly - off topic but to stay positive about your job. My best friend from my first archaeology degree and then HM Masters has spent years (we graduated 9 years ago from masters) doing v. lowly museum jobs (I know yours isn't lowly) and is finally getting curatorial work so persistence pays off. At least you're in the right place ? I too still harbour dreams of getting back into the heritage world although would have to probably start in some sort of dull financial role given other qualifications now but who knows where it would eventually lead....

Lilypink you're really going through the mill aren't you? Life really isn't fair . In reply to your question, I would guess the blood loss reflects the size when everything stopped. That's how it was for me - found out at my scan at 13 weeks that everything had stopped at around 6 weeks and the blood loss certainly reflected that. Like you, it was just like a bad AF for me, although with some really painful cramping. Funnily enough I'd just booked an ERPC when everything started naturally. I was told by the hospital that they'd scan me again 2 weeks after discovering the mmc if nothing had happened by then. Has the hospital offered you a follow-up scan?
BSL Sorry to hear your news. Can't believe you're being made to wait until Friday before finding out for sure.
AlittleBITEshy Really sorry AF got you this month
TJuice Hope you're OK and that the cramping has stopped.
Hugs to you all and hello to everybody else.

Lilypink - Hope it is over for you soon - you seem to have been going through it for ages. I personally couldn't bear to wait for nature to take its course and the op was OK really.

I am dressed today (hurrah) and have been out for a walk to the shops so things are progressing ! Mind you I saw 3 heavily pregnant women - which both DP and I thought was alot for a 10 min visit to supermarket !!

DP currently cooking roast chicken for lunch and has filled the freezer for the week as he is back at work. I really am a very lucky girl. Hope you are all having an OK day under the circumstances.

TJuice - Fingers still crossed, hope you are taking it easy.
BSL - How are you today ?

Hi everyone, my sisters, 1 nephew and niece have been staying / visiting the last few days so I've popped in briefly to read the posts, but not had time to post. We've been sorting thru my mum's stuff, and talking about how to share things out, which has been tough emotionally. Also feel sad now everyone's gone again. Af still here, bit heavier than normal, another downer.

TJuice, I really hope everything's ok - keeping my fingers and toes crossed.

Lilypink, it sounds like you've had a horrible week. It must be hard still getting the symptoms, really cruel.

Everyone else, hope all ok today

and ILike(all sorts of things,can't keep up with name changes) - maybe I'm super ignorant, but am astonished at your knowledge of your cervix.
I know mine is there but have never actually encountered it as far as I know, and it has never crossed my mind to go looking for it. Know it's apparently quite high as when they do smear have to get out their extensions for equipment though

am i alone in this ignorance?

i've been doing research

on a normal cycle your cervix is high and soft during ovulation, then moves lower, firmer (apparently like the end of your nose but ive never noticed) and closed after ovulation and all through af only moving higher when its time to ovulate again.

(this one isnt proven)but....

after ovualtion if you did concieve, your cervix will go from the lower firmer position to being higher and softer and also getting wider as something thickens, i forgot what it is!

so there you go, you can all live in the knowledge like me hehehe