TJuice - I know exactly how you feel having just had my 2nd miscarraige in 3 months. I was hysterical when I got home having been bleeding for 24hours, I couldn't believe that Mother Nature could be that cruel.
However, I got on m/n and read some of the other threads and on nearly all of them there are mothers who are now 25 weeks + who experienced bleeding at some point. I think because it happens once you are more likely to assume that it is happening again when statistically the opposite is likely to be true. I was just unlucky.Please try to do anything that will distract you from what your body is doing and I'm sending you all the good luck that this posting can carry.
Spookykitty - Also exiled down South and miss Glasgow like crazy. I now live in deapest Surburbia and need a car to buy a pint of milk, can not pop down the local when the TV is rubbish without calling a taxi and putting on real clothes and need 3 months to organise meeting with friends. Hence no doubt my new addiction to mn. How does it feel to get back? I'm working on my dh and although he doesn't dismiss the idea I know I function better outside my comfort zone than he does.
Gillypumpkin - Glad to here you're home, the conference sounds like a hoot and I'm assuming from that posting that you are an academic. I wonder if we may have friends in common as my BF is an academic (Child Psychology, Road Safety Guru) who has been based at both Strathclyde & Newcastle Universities?
Kelvingrove is beautiful in it's new rejuvenated state, though to be fair I always loved it even when it was a bit tired. The building itself is worth the trip never mind the contents. I hope the next time you find yourself in Glasgow you get the opportunity to go.
LoveAngel - I hope today has not been as traumatic as you feared and you are well cared for when you get home. I know you have had loads of advice/ support from the great people on this thread and wanted to add my slighly unorthodox approach in case it helps.
After my first miscarraige at 6+4 I was as devastated. However I am a complete control freak with a very pragmatic outlook and knew I could not move forward until I felt I was once again in control of what was happening and this is what I did:
One week after my miscarraige I organised a celebration (yes, you did read that right) for myself & my dh. Despite the fact that it was the last thing I felt like doing I booked an expensive restaurant and told my dh we were going out. I had my nails done, put on a frock and heels and went out for dinner,drinking & dancing. Despite the fact that I was in a pretty rough state inside I forced myself to smile, flirt with my dh and even order champagne. I told myself & my dh that I was giving thanks for all the good things in our lifes, we are both healthy, have discovered after TTC for 10 months that we can get pregnant and have a solid relationship. I was not in any way trying to minimise what had occurred but just change my mindset and by the end of the night although my core sadness still existed I was more aware of my blessings and therefore felt once again that my life was back within my control and that I could and would make other opportunities for us going forward.
I have just had my second m/c and I am going tomorrow for a scan to tell me whether or not medical intervention will be necessary. I am once again broken inside but I have booked a weekend away for next weekend and I hope that by focusing on my dh and our relationship I can again adjust my minds focus making it possible for me to go forward. As I said at the start, this may not work for everyone but I feel you need to find a way to keep going forward and focussing on the things that enrich my life allows me to do that, without I feel diminishing the bad times. I hope that makes some sort of sense and does not come across as insensitive, which is in no way what I intend.
Take care of yourself.
ILTS - I hope things are getting back to normal in your household and you have the BFP you were expecting.
I only get a chance to catch up with mn about twice a week so to anyone else who is new I'm sorry to see you here but hope you find the postings as comforting and supportive as I have.