October 2007 ~All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC of BFP after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

As we agreed - starting a fresh thread before our original shuts down. Will post this new link into the old thread so everybody can find us!

In the meantime ~ sprinkling it with pink and blue baby pixie dust

and splashing with baby glue so lo's stick around forever ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

hi smiles cant offer any advice but just wanted to say welcome and feel free to rant, moan, hysterically laugh (or is that just mee ) cry do whatever here and we will all listen

Thanks

Don't know what to do with myself. My work don't know that I am trying for a baby so will have to come up with a bloody good excuse for having time off for scan - any suggestions!!!

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Hi all. Thanks for your words of support, I really really appreciate it.

kateandmom - I guess I have accepted it's a miscarriage. I am bleeding very heavily and it's quite clotty blood (sorry, tmi). I don't feel pregnant anymore, if that makes sense?

Lilypink - I'm sorry to hear that your husband isn't being supportive. i think some men have a really hard time empathising with women and the things we have to go through, physically and emotionally.

I have to say, I am very lucky as my DH has been fabulous. He was absolute rock to me at the hospital yesterday and has been better than great today - made me tea in bed, rejigged a load of meetings and appointments to stay home and take care of me and our son, and is currently out doing the weekly food shopping so he can cook me some lunch. Bless him, I honesltl don't think I'd cope without him.

Today I'm feeling very weak and tired and sad, but I keep telling myself it could be so much worse. I was no more than 5 or 6 weeks pregnant (probably less than that) and I'm sure it would have been far more devestating later on
( I know some of you have gone through that nightmare). I guess I will be ok...

thanks to all of you for your kind words xxxx

ILTS Good to have you back!

smiles No idea what it all means but wish you the very best of luck for a positive result.

Loveangel Your DH sounds like a gem. I went through the same as only got to 5 + 3 pg and had mc or chemical pg as it is sometimes know apparently. I felt awful but thought well at least it's happend sooner rather than later but nonetheless devestating. I felt guilty being here as so many had to deal with losing their babies later on in their pg's which must be even worse but yet felt I had to vent somewhere. After all I was PG then I wasn't so it was a loss. Anyway I'm rambling now. I just wanted to say you are entitled to rant/cry/grieve how ever you need to and yes, you will be ok.

Loveangel One more thing I wanted say is that I too was so excited we'd told our parents who were shocked we were telling them so early (generation gaps!). Days later I had to tell them what had happened, one set said "perhaps next time you wont say anything too early" and the other said "oh well it was only a ball of cells" neither very comforting made me very & . I'm sure you wont get such insensitive comments but people can say the wrong things sometimes so ignore them!

I say that yet I'm still venting and huffing not telling anybody next time (except you lot & dh) insensitive gits!

Since then I have told a few friends about mc who have all been supportive and the good thing now is that people aren't always saying "about time you had another" "when are you going to give DD a brother or sister"

I really have rambled I only wanted to make things better but may have done the opposite. Why can't I be as literate and word things better like some of the others on here?

smilesattheweekend that?s awesome news! Tune yourself up to a positive wave and think ?baby-sticking? thoughts As far as work? can you call in sick that morning? Everyone is allowed to get a flu once in awhile Or tell them that you need to bring a friend for an outpatient surgery? like she?s having something done under local anesthesia and can?t drive afterwards ? so you?ll have to give her a ride back home?

ILTS? you know what? I think you?re pg? all signs and symptoms point to it, girl!

gillypumpkin it all worked out! Amazingly but it did (by the way, I posted puppy?s pictures on my profile if you want to see him ? SO cute). I called local agencies this morning and one of them had a report of a missing dog. I called the owners, we swapped details, I sent them digital pictures, they recognized this silly head and we met up this morning for a ?puppy transfer.? They gave me $200 for him! I did NOT want to take it, jumped out of the car, went chasing the woman but she got into her car, shut the door, blew me a kiss and took off So I am thinking of quitting my job and going into a business of pet rescue! LOL

LoveAngel I am sorry, sweetie, I really-really am. I am one of those who had a very late loss (at 35 weeks, a stillborn) and then a rather early loss (at about 7 wks)? A loss is a loss? Hang in there~ It seems like your DH is amazing and a true gentleman. Try to think about what you have and what you will have again? this little bean of yours just wanted to have a sneak preview I bet s/he up in the heaven now, sitting on a cloud, eating cotton candy and telling all little friends what?s earth life is like? they?re all intrigued now ? and want to experience it full-blown? you know where I am going with it? The luck is about to change very very soon to be very very lucky!

i hope your right kate i really really REALLLLLLY do

looks like loads to catch up on - we had no web yesterday - Virgin was Having Problems in our area. grrrr.

had a lovely day the the zoo.... and will come back and read and update after dd is in bed (which will be late cos she slept an hour in the car on the way home - and aged 4, that means a late night )

kateandmom and 07mumstheword - thankyou so much for your advice and support. It truly is appreciated.

xxxx

i wonder what happened to lily, wasnt her scan today?

kateandmom and 07mumstheword - you talk so much sense.

Had a voicemail from my boss today - why does he have this way of making it sound like I am going into hospital to have a tooth out ! I know that it is just that he doesn't really know what to say. Told him via message yesterday that I would not be in next week as they have said it will take me a week to get over my little procedure! His response was that I need to do what I need to do and it is important that I am right, particularly medically and of course I should take the week to get over it. Doesn't sound too bad now I write it but the way he said it was as if once the medical stuff was sorted I would be over it.

Gosh - that was a bit of a long rant !! On the up side have had flowers from my friend who is pg and loads of lovely messages & offers of support from friends and family. I know it sounds trite but things like this do make you realise how fantastic the people in your life are. (loveangel Like your DH)

is it just mine or has everyones mumsnet changed??

i dont like it it makes it harder to reach the new messages!!

teeheelaydee I am glad we can be at least a bit useful Don't mind your boss. If some DH's don't know how to handle mc - I think it is almost expected that boss's will be at a total loss

nope, not just yours, ILTTOT mine did too and I am not sure I like it! Very weird

I was a bit lost too but a kind soul in another thread has shown me how to fix it. Go to the top and click on customise talk board and you can set your options back to the way they were

...gorgeous pup btw Katemom. I want one so badly, can you guess that I am broody I have been begging for a dog for years but DH is very strict about it being left on its own as we work full time and I am not the best morning person so he is not convinced about me walking it! As soon as I am on maternity leave and I pop 2 kids out in quick succession (HA!) I'm definitely getting a dog!

Yay on the reward too!

Oh thank God! Thanks for helping me to fix the look-n-feel... but how come that the icon for profiles is gone? Like nobody can now see pictures of my found and returned pup!

yay mumsnet is back in buisness i really didnt like it the other way

what a sweet likkle puppy dog! i can see it kate i just click on your name

tjuice - mil cooks pepperpot at xmas. Don't like it myself. She is a master cook though and I love her stewed chicken, curry goat and roti - yum yum. When I had ds she brought me some salt fish bakes and some fried chicken and it was heaven after a long labour and crap hospital food. It was the best present anyone could've given me Labour is hungry work

hey all how is everyone this evening too many posts to reply to you all would take ages but I have read them all

Hello, how is everyone?
Lots of new names on here- sorry you have had to join but you will find this thread very supportive I wish I had known about mn when I had my first 2 mc's.

First AF since my mc arrived a few days ago so will soon be able to get back to ttc. I would like to wait until after christmas but DH said we should start straight away as I am not getting any younger (charming!). To be honest I am terrified of having another mc.

Hi everybody,
I've been reading all the posts but have been busy with work so haven't really had chance to post anything myself. Then I got totally confused with the new MN layout this morning - thanks for the tips Gillypumpkin!
Sorry to read that the new people have had to join but glad you found us and hope you get as much comfort from this thread as I have.
ILTS are you going to be testing again soon? I can't remember how you left it. The symptoms all seem to be pointing to a BFP anyway!
Dustin - I know how you feel about being terrified about another mc but we just have to think positive. Easier said than done, I know!
Hope everybody has a good day xx

Dunno what just happened to my message I spent ages typing...grrrr

I'm off to the hospital in an hour to have another BetaHCG blood test to confirm that I have miscarried :-(

Just wondered if anyone here who has an early miscarriage and is rhesus negative had to have an anti-D injection? I read on a few websites that you do have to have this, but nobody at the hospital has mentioned it...

hi everyone.

i am crapping myself right now. am 5 wks 4 days and woke up last night with serious lower abdomen pain. It eventually subsided but had a bit of brown discharge this morning so have been in floods of tears and hysterics, of course.
Went to gynae for scan and she says the teeny bean looks a bit different (went yesterday morning for scan there and it was fine but early days, you know) but that i definitely have a bladder infection which could be causing the browniness and pain.

she took a blood test but i have to wait until monday to see if my hcg levels are dropping and in the meantime am on some antibiotics for the infection.

am pingponging between hysteria and trying to be positive. i will be devasted if this happens twice in three months . . .

please vibe me up with positivity . . . .