Post Pill TTC Party

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

Come one, come all ! A thread for those TTC after coming off hormonal contraceptive pills.

Discussions typically include:

• Baffling temp charts
• Absent or oddly timed EWCM
• Whacky cycle lengths
• AF gone AWOL (current high score is 141 days post pill)

@Juno231 I'm also in London and not looking forward to the nursary fees! Im thinking of trying for a 2nd quite quickly to help reduce the cost of those, but let's see

@MintGreenLife I think having a blowout is probably good for you. I eat reasonably healthy already but haven't cut down my alcohol intake or caffeine yet. Once we start trying im going to be more aware of it but not really change to much. I feel like 9 months without coffee, sushi and alcohol is long enough 🙂 fingers crossed for you for Wednesday 🤞

@AMS19 I have somehow miraculously gone caffeine free! I occasionally have a cup of tea, but that's literally a couple of times a week. I didn't necessarily do it for TTC, I just decided to stop drinking coffee and I've ended up not being so fussed about tea on a day-to-day basis. I was drinking about a bottle of wine a week, but I'm aiming for half a bottle now. Since coming off the pill I was only having the occasional drink here and there when I really wanted it and not eating sugar either, but am going to allow myself some treats now...as who know's how long I'd be carrying on like that for ha. I don't think it's necessary to change too much :) I was just trying to help my body along, but didn't seem to help at all, so I'm giving up ha x

I wanted to drink less this year which has been super easy with the whole covid situation, because no more pub right! Just have a glass of wine on Fridays now. At the start of the year I really panicked about drinking when I was olulating or during tww but I sort of let go of that over the summer and I don't worry anymore now really. Had a nice g&t yesterday for no reason! Also massively reduced caffeine by drinking decaf at least half the time now. And I lost 8 pounds over September I found out today, woohoo! Feeling happy and healthy. Come on, ovaries!

@AnonymousXXIX congrats on the weight loss, that's awesome! It's easier than you think to cut down isn't it :) plus I just feel like it makes you feel better over all. I'm with you though in that I don't worry about drinking in the TWW, who knows how long this could go on for, so we can't deprive ourselves of some small pleasures for months and months on end, and then at some point have a pregnancy where we do have to be stricter. May as well enjoy a few treats while we can :)

Morning  just reading through the comments on diet etc. Ive reduced my caffeine intake as well, i only really drink tea so switched to de-caff most of the time but then I do love a latte hehe!

@MintGreenLife So easy to have weeks like that where you have no motivation to start again. If i can offer any motivation then Ill let you know Im going for a little run on my lunch break, a 30 min run on a Monday does wonders. My running is not fast, i just really enjoy to get out and stretch my legs :)

@AnonymousXXIX Aw well done on the weight loss, thats brilliant.

@MintGreenLife and @Lovebug06 hope you aren't feeling too down. I think this month might break me, I've been really down a couple of months ago when I kept getting negative OPKs and just recently started feeling ok.... But amazingly, getting my first positive OPK has almost made it worse.... I am halfway through my TWW and I just know it's not going to work, but I am going mad obsessing over it because I know there was an egg! Ugh. And of course literally everyone else is announcing pregnancies and births constantly. Anyway, it's lovely to have people to talk to who are going through a similar thing (although of course I wish you didn't have to experience this!)

@MintGreenLife it is definately here. I'm off work today so I've had a big cry and now it's time for a new month. Cycle 9. I also stopped the opks last month. I thought I would find it stressful not tracking, but I didn't, I just did it a few times around the time it should be and when I got ewcm. I gathered that stress isn't good, they say once you relax it helps. And also people just get pregnant by accident too (how?!). So I tried it and last month I felt a lot happier in myself, although it obviously didn't work 😂. I hope this is your month and all you other ladies too x

@Lovebug06 @MintGreenLife @GlassLily
Sounds like you ladies are doing everything you can and that is all you can do! Your time will come, and when you have your little baby you will be so so grateful for all the times that didn't work because it brought you that particularly baby! Dont even feel down alone or hold it in, we are all here to hear about it all. Talking is definitely always best.

Hosnetly I havent even started trying yet and I've decided in my head my period won't come forever and it will take forever. Us women put so much pressure on ourselves, and sometimes all we can do it let it be. I have faith all of us will get our happy ending ♥️

@AMS19 Thats a lovely thing to say.

Just catching up...

I only want 1 but my DH wants 0 currently - haha. He had a wobble this weekend.

I am caffine free and have been for a long time, I eat loads of sugar though as I bake a lot of cakes. And I really struggle to cut down. I have zero will power. I did couch to 5K over lockdown and was running 5K three times a week... and put weight on!! I'm a normal BMI, so not too concerned though.

@Juno231 - hang in there - test in a few more days!

@MintGreenLife - keep focused on Wednesday, hopefully you can ask a few questions about what is being tested, and then get on that Angus Castus!

@Flowerkm well done on the run :) I think I'm just going to give myself another week to settle back into a routine I think. Feel like being kind to myself at the mo, and I'm still out for an hour long walk with the dog anyway.

@GlassLily I totally get what you mean. Is there anything else you can throw yourself into this week to distract yourself? Ideally something you enjoy. It's easier said than done to forget about it though, but at least with every day you get a bit closer to finding out if it's a BFP or if you can start a fresh.

@Lovebug06 so sorry to hear you've ended up having a cry today, I really feel for you. Glad to hear you felt happier last cycle though for taking a step back from everything. Maybe I should be doing the same, makes me wonder how I've managed to get myself so wrapped up and obsessed with everything TTC and my cycles urgh.

@AMS19 I said that to my mum yesterday - that I bet in a year or two time when I have my own lovely baby I'll look back and laugh at myself for stressing so much. She said she was trying for four months before she fell pregnant with me (her first) and was worrying there was something wrong, and then when she fell pregnant she wouldn't let herself believe it was true, and that was only after four months of trying.

Thanks that's so sweet, and you're totally right, we take on too much responsibility when it comes to TTC whereas really it should be a shared journey. I need to try and be more positive I think!

Talking of being positive, after some EWCM and a small temp spike, but then finding my cervix had gone from medium back down to low yesterday and my EWCM had gone, I've lots more EWCM today and my cervix is really high. My OPKs are still faint after that little surge last week, so I think my body tried to ovulate and failed and so is gearing up to have another go. This happened to me in the first cycle off the pill that I charted, and I did eventually ovulate (I think, as I then had a super short luteal phase) after two failed attempts, so going to have faith that I will eventually ovulate this cycle and make sure we are DTD every other day throughout. Feeling a little bit better now it seems my body is having a good go, whereas last cycle I just had EWCM for weeks on end and cervix never seemed to get high x

Thanks @Kay00 at least it's not far away. Think I just ended up feeling rubbish as felt so ready to be proactive and positive about the AC and then decided to stop because of the bloods, not not long to go now :)

@AMS19 that is such a lovely message. Thankyou ❤️

I feel fine all month generally, period comes and I feel rubbish for a bit then I'm fine again and hopeful. I always think it won't happen but you can't help it. Seeing as I stopped all tracking and felt good, and knew AF was coming, I don't know why I feel so upset today. I've cried so much. I think maybe the new baby and the excitement I felt at that being me soon, then my period hit. But my time will come ❤️
Someone said to me, its good to think that every month your not pregnant, your one month closer to being there and getting the baby your going to have . Which is nice.

@Lovebug06 I hope you can be kind to yourself today. How about a nice hot bath with a book? Or snuggle up with a film on the sofa? That's so true and I've thought that before. It sounds cliche and cheesy but trying to think that every month that passes is for a reason and that you'll end up with the baby you're meant to have in the end will really help I think :) in fact just typing that out and thinking about it properly has made me feel better too x

@MintGreenLife I'm feeling much better now, I've had my low day and I'm now back and ready for another month!
Thanks for that message too it was really positive.
All you ladies are lovely!

@Lovebug06 Im glad you're feeling better  we're all here! Some days are worse than others and thats totally normal and ok xx

@MintGreenLife Ooh love a good long dog walk being kind to yourself is the best way to help xx

I went for a 3k run today on Week 5 of Couch to 5k. Then just ate loads of milkybar chocolate 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I've been inspired by you all and added decaf coffee to my weekly order! I did also add 6 bottles of prosecco as Asda have 25% off, but we will just brush past that part 😂😂

Honestly ladies - we are all in this together ❤

@Lovebug06 glad to hear you are feeling better ☺️

@AMS19 haha that's brilliant, but who could turn down such a good offer! You're right, we are ☺️ X

@AMS19 Yay we done the run! Ive also just sat here and ate custard and banana (my fave) and then choccy 😂
Agreed @MintGreenLife you can't turn down that offer lol

We sure are xx

@AMS19 meant to say, well done on the run :)

Thank you @AMS19 and @MintGreenLife, I will try and shift my focus to something more positive for this next week, I also have blood test results on Thursday though so that's daunting too! Hopefully next cycle will be less stressful.

Had an exciting morning that's for sure! I did a femometer cheapie which had a faint but obvious line so quickly hurried to the closest pharmacy for an frer. This is definitely positive isn't it?

@MrsBtobe2020 oh my goodness!! That's 100% positive, couldn't be clearer!!! So excited for you, whoop! xx

@MrsBtobe2020 am I right in saying you never got a peak OPK? Remind me how long you've been off the pill again? You must be so thrilled :) x

@GlassLily hope your bloods come back OK. I've got my blood test tomorrow x

@MrsBtobe2020 HUGE congratulations!!! Yes remind us your whole journey please! Im super excited for you xx