Post Pill TTC Party

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

Come one, come all ! A thread for those TTC after coming off hormonal contraceptive pills.

Discussions typically include:

• Baffling temp charts
• Absent or oddly timed EWCM
• Whacky cycle lengths
• AF gone AWOL (current high score is 141 days post pill)

@Flowerkm 100% right. Covid has done the opposite for me, given i can't do anything I wanted to ive brought forward TTC. Totally right to just go for it xx

I agree @Flowerkm covid is making it all abit nerve wrecking, but we can’t put our lifes on hold, hopefully by spring things will have settled down, I don’t really want to leave it much later either, I’m 30 next August so Ideally before then.

@Lovebug06 I guess it's just one of those things that you have to ride out and wait for it to pass 😔 Weird how mine has only properly set in 6 months after stopping!

@Flowerkm it's weird I'm not worrying too much, I'm just feeling a bit low about it all. I feel like I'm on such a downer the last few days, hope I'm not making you all feel rubbish with my moaning 🤦🏻‍♀️

Awh I feel like they totally just don't get it. Maybe it would be easier not to try and plan in, and then he doesn't have to worry in advance about not being in the mood. I'm fairly certain you'd be able to convince him to go for it a couple of days in a row at the time and that way he's none the wiser that it's a planned DTD sesh, and he hopefully won't feel under any pressure or anything.

Thanks @AMS19 ☺️ Really hope I'm not making anyone worry that's fairly new off the pill! I'm having bloods done on Wednesday and waiting for a referral for a scan. I don't really know what the bloods are for tbh as I asked about having them done on a specific cycle day which is necessary for testing hormones and the GP said that wasn't necessary at this stage. Guess I'll find out on Wednesday! X

@MrsBtobe2020 I've not heard of that before. To be honest I'm not massively worried about what it looks like, more about what it means in regards to what's going on underneath! I'll probably be coming back to you to ask what it is that you sugguested a few weeks down the line when it gets even worse though 😂

@Flowerkm I'd be really annoyed too! Does he get how short the fertile window is? Maybe he just thinks you'd be totally fine even if he wasn't in the mood? Men 🙄.

@Sarahp2308 @AMS19 Exactly, how long do we wait? Just go for it also it will be some lovely news during a very tough time.

@MintGreenLife Nooo!! Don't be silly..you're fine. Say what you want here, it's good i think to share it all so others going through the same know they're not alone and also its good to chat about it 

Haha! Im thinking to plan some sexy time over the crucial days but not tell him and then he won't say no 😂

@Juno231 Yep, he is finally aware but he is just so relaxed 🙄 Im going to plan some sexy time in my 'cycle tracking diary' i think and try and keep the chat low key for him so he doesn't get all pressured. God, men sometimes 😂

Exactly @Flowerkm & my OH is the same, he doesn’t get how short the window actually is & I think men just think you have unprotected sex and that’s it the woman gets pregnant! I get the whole too much pressure thing so I don’t even bother telling him I just track it myself in the background then make him think he just must be looking really sexy for the those few days 🤣 we’ve spoken about it before and we’re both on the same page, except he wants atleast 2 children where as I’m quite happy with 1, how many does everyone want?

Thanks @Flowerkm feel like all I'm doing at the mo is whining 🙄 I think that's probably not a bad plan. I swear most men really like it when we initiate it anyway, so maybe it's better not to tell him where you're at in your cycle and you can still plan, he just doesn't need to know your plan 😂 Xx

@MintGreenLife ah good luck with the tests!! So good to just put your mind at ease with everything knowing it is all being looked at. And dont worry about others, if this place has taught me anything is we are all so bloody different you could drive yourself made trying to compare! It is the perfect place to vent!!

@Sarahp2308 @MintGreenLife Glad Im not alone there!
Haha, Im going with this plan now, Im sure he'll get the hint...
My OH has said 1 and Id be happy with 1 I think, i know people say that and then have 2 so we shall see.

@MintGreenLife Like @AMS19 has said its the perfect place to vent, there is always someone who understands here :)

@MintGreenLife I agree with @AMS19 perfect place to vent and sometimes you’ve just gotta vent!! We all have our ups and downs and I think post pill is easier for some than others

@Flowerkm yeah that is true, you never know really!! OH comes from a big family where as I am an only child, so we’ve both got different opinions on it! Suppose we’ll see how we got one with number 1 and then decide 🤣🤣

@AMS19 thanks ☺️ I think that's possibly what's getting me down really, the fact that I've got to a point that I need to go for tests to figure out what's going on.

@Flowerkm @Sarahp2308 thanks both ☺️ Hopefully I'll perk up next week 😂 Think I'll feel better when I can start taking Agnus Castus properly after my blood test as will feel like I'm being proactive then x

@MintGreenLife you’re doing the right thing getting test and starting the angus castus, it’s so easy to bury your head in the sand, I’m sure all will be ok but it’s best to find out for sure! My friend toke 12 months to concieve post pill, cycles were all over the place etc but she got there in the end!

@MrsBtobe2020 yes I have that, hasn't done anything sadly, apart from end up bleaching my towels
@MintGreenLife yep just gotta ride it out. Mostly I feel like that then other times it just suddenly makes me feel like crap!

AF due today, usually starts first thing but didn't. I can feel it coming now. This month I stopped tracking and chilled out, it was better for me and DH. They say when you chill out it seems to happen so decided to try and see. I've felt a lot better this month, I thought I'd find it stressful but I haven't, didn't look at apps at all until this weekend. My relative had a baby today, I had kind of dreaded it (feel awful saying so, but I did, they conceived very quickly) but I genuinely felt so happy for them today. And I guess excited for myself for that to be me, but now I know AF is coming, even though I knew it would, and I feel so down tonight. Onto cycle 9 it is. Good luck ladies. X

@Sarahp2308 it makes me feel better when I hear success stories with mixed up cycles post pill. I guess it's just pot luck which way you go afterwards.

@Lovebug06 I was alright up until this week really. It frustrated me before but I said my cut off to contact the GP would be when we got back from our honeymoon, so I guess I just feel a bit blue that I've reached that point now without things getting any better at all.

Sorry to hear you're feeling down too. It sounds like you've dealt with the arrival of your relative's baby really well. I was talking to my mum this morn about everything and she suggested maybe I leave charting my BBT and using OPKs for a while. I'm not sure as I find it helps me knowing what's going on, and maybe I would need my charts as evidence if we do end up a year TTC and need some further investigation. Think maybe I'll carry on this cycle and reassess. If it's super stressing me out I'll stop. Only problem is it can be endless disappointment for me as think in the 5 months of charting etc I've only had one clear chart to show I've ovulated and one positive OPK 🤦🏻‍♀️ X

@Sarahp2308 ideally I'd like three but it's so bloody expensive having kids in this country lol. Makes me wish I'd stayed in Sweden, would definitely have had three then if I could! Now I'm thinking 2 might be more realistic.

@MintGreenLife you have every right to fell how you feel! We're right here for you to vent. 6 months of crazy cycles is enough to mess with anyone's head, especially if the docs aren't even listening to you. Would taking a private test be an idea? Like I've done an AMH test on letsgetchecked before.

@Juno231 I agree, unfortunately cost is something that makes me think we should only have 1, maternity pay is shocking (I get a decent package with work) but there will still be a gap to plug, and the cost of childcare well that’s a different story altogether

@Sarahp2308 yeah nursery costs like £200 at home, schools are free and so are universities. Makes a big difference to the wallet!

@Juno231 thanks so much, you're all so lovely, and it's so nice having people to chat to that understand. Thanks, I'll look into that ☺️ I'll ask what's being tested on Wednesday and see if I think it might be helpful to get some additional tests done privately. I've been looking online this eve to try and see what long drawn out eposiodes of EWCM means and seems to point to PCOS. As you know I had EWCM for two weeks on end last cycle. A book a read did sugguests you can get post-pill PCOS and that it's temporary, so at least if it does look like I have PCOS it might not be forever. How are you getting on? X

Wow, that is such a difference to the UK, I had heard it is much better in Sweden @Juno231 I’m not sure where in the UK you are based now but where I am nursery fees are around £800-£1000 a month, tax free childcare is helpful but it doesn’t go anywhere near far enough, it’s such a shame that costs make you wonder if you can even afford a child!

@Sarahp2308 I'm in London so nursery fees are closer to the £1500 I think.

@MintGreenLife I caved and tested with an IC today at 10DPO - BFN. But I just had a big nosebleed in the office and that is legit the first nosebleed of my life so I am inevitably getting my hopes up seeing as it's an early pregnancy sign!! Dammit body for trolling me.

@Juno231 ohh bless you, nosebleeds aren't nice, I don't think I've ever had one as an adult either! It's possible that you're not out yet, so don't give up hope! FF added dotted cross hairs for me today but I'm 99% sure she's incorrect ha. While higher than the last week or so, my temps aren't really high enough to be post-o. My EWCM did dry up for a few days, but is back again this morning. I watched a helpful YouTube video this morn about five different reasons for late ovulation or not ovulating at all and noted down all the possible hormonal imbalances. Hopefully they will be testing most of them with my bloods this week x

@MintGreenLife that's super good of you to be that methodical about it! I'm definitely intrigued to see your results. In a way I was a bit disappointed mine were all normal as it stopped me feeling like I could do something to fix it... silly I know, I should be grateful!

@Juno231 I totally get what you mean. I'm expecting mine to come back as 'normal' (as most people's that are struggling post-pill seam to) and I know I'll feel frustrated with that. I've gone into a bit of a 'screw it' mode with my diet and exercise. I was so good before the wedding, and when we got back from the honeymoon I said I would give myself a week off exercise and get back to it the next week, but it's Monday now and I still don't feel like starting. Enjoyed a few drinks over the weekend too. I think after 6 months of being really strict, researching everything I could do to help my body along post-pill and nothing helping, I'm just going to try and enjoy myself a bit more now and hope in time it'll sort itself out. Think I'm going to stop taking my super expensive prenatal too and switch to b vits, vitamin d and folic acid x