Preconception planners - still planning

[Bells3032]

Hi all. thought i'd make a new thread as the old one getting close to a thousand. Don't forget to rejoin!!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 other than losing my virginity the only time I have ever had anything like pain during sex is if there hasn't been enough foreplay, don't know if that helps or not!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I agree with your conclusion. He expects it's septate rather than two. And from what I've briefly googled septate looks to be the better option in terms of treatment options.

If you had two uteruses it looks like you'd probably have two cervices. They'd presumably have noticed this at your smear because they take a look up there to make sure they're in the right place with the smear scraper thingy and they'd have to have noticed a second cervix. He's also probably trying to gather any pregnancy info, for example, if you'd had scans or any other medical notes that refer to your womb?

Pain on beginning intercourse can be very normal. I think the gynaecologist is just trying to gather all the information so he can make his own assessment alongside what the radiologist reports.

Having said all of this though, I think your uterus grows to something daft like 500x it's original size at full term. And even after a c-section (or a few sections), a uterus can sustain a healthy pregnancy. It's an amazing organ really when you think about it. So whatever your outcome is, please stay positive . Whatever treatment options you're given will improve your chances of conceiving and carrying a healthy baby. Like you said earlier, it's just the waiting bit that's a PITA!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I had pain during sex on the pill and it has gradually got better I'm off the pill around 5 months now. Apparently the pill can cause your vagina to thin causing pain, mine was a kind of 'being stretched' pain, unpleasant and no amount of foreplay helped.

@madeinthe80z click the two arrows at the top of the page if you are on a phone? I think it's different in a browse or tablet though

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Haha, and if we're giving advice. If you don't already use a lubricant then that could also potentially help things along at the beginning.

It's worth looking into Vaginismus too if you've already tried all of the above.

Hahah ladies the messages have really made me laugh, thank you!! My oh was like tell the doctor it's because my bf just has such a massive dick..... I was like LOL!!! 😂😂😂

@Curiosity101 your message has honestly just made me feel so much better, thank you so much!! I'm going to keep positive, keep eating well and will start trying in Feb regardless of what's going on in my uterus..power of positive thinking ✨✨✨

Thanks all,

Hope its okay to join. The title of this post seemed appropriate to me! I won't go into that just yet!

To jump right in, @sunflowersaremyfavourite I suffer from this because I have an ectropian, a bit of a dodgy cervix essentially! I also get all stiffened up because I am anxious about it. Its virtually impossible to have a smear, and foreplay is essential for me to relax i to things.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Remind your OH that we're capable of birthing a human being... if he's big enough to cause pain then he should probably be going to see a doctor himself

@sunflowersaremyfav93 great that they have got back to you so quickly and it sounds promising that they are at least looking properly into the matter and trying to get an accurate diagnosis for you. I have never felt pain during intercourse the way that you have described it, unless I'm not wet enough (sorry TMI) a good bit of lube should help with that, just make sure you have a sperm friendly one.

@TheNewMrsW yep, that's me too.. I drink about 3l of water a day and I have seriously struggled with OPK testing, so now I just do it in the morning even though I am not really supposed to lol

@Curiosity101 I would happily DTD more frequently, but its OH that never really wants to. He is always super tired during the week and so only really fancies it on the weekend when he's better rested.

I have just realised we are almost at 1000 messages again!! Gonna need a 3rd thread soon.... we are a chatty bunch!! Honestly, its you girls keeping me sane so thank the lord for this thread!

@CookieMonster3001 I think I def need to invest in some lube in that case, it's mostly when there isn't too much foreplay as well so I'm probably not wet enough either!

Thank the lord for this thread!!! Honestly, best therapy ever!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 there could be any number of reasons for it being sore e.g. not being wet enough and needing some lube (make sure its conception friendly). I had awful pain for years left me in tears every time i had sex. It took several years to be diagnosed but basically due to my hyper-mobility my pelvic bones weren't sitting right. I had 18 months of physio and now also take antihistamines daily to reduce inflammations caused from years of it being out of place and i am fine. I love sex now and can't get enough. :-P

Hope everyone is having fun practising!!

Gosh how interesting! I def think sometimes I'm not wet enough, at least I know that's because of something easily remedied! 😂 @Bells3032

@sunflowersaremyfav93 sorry if that came across patronising. Just meant that there is a massive variety of reasons

Ps if ongoing please seek help from a doctor and keep pushing til you get answers. Believe me I wasted 5 years with doctors fobbing me off

Not patronising at all @Bells3032 found it really useful and interesting! I've told my gynae so let's see what he says 🤞🏻🤞🏻

So here's a new one ladies.... I told DH last night I thought I was done ovulating and he was all like "I know". When asked how he knew he said I smell different when ovulating!!! Of course I laughed at him but Google this morning tells me this is actually a thing! So there you go, no OPKS needed girls, just get your OH to sniff you!! 😂 I hope he is right as whilst my LH has dropped back and EWCM is gone no temp rise yet which is frustrating. Apparently it sometimes takes a couple of days though ....

Also I just found out a close friend is pregnant, and while I'm genuinely so excited and happy for her I'm also a little upset and jealous, which I know is ridiculous as we aren't even officially trying till next month but one of my other close friends is due in Jan and it just seems like everyone is having babies. Feel like a bad person for feeling this way but I know you ladies will understand!!! I got a little upset about it and told DH if it was up to me I would be preggers RIGHT NOW ... he has promised we will give it a good crack next cycle, will be our first cycle officially ttc. I know it will likely take a while and I am not a patient person, going to need you lot to help keep me sane!

@TheNewMrsW

HAHA. Funny thing is my DH told me I smell different since I had my coil out too. Maybe men are more observant than we realise

@Bells3032 interesting! Coil and pill prevent ovulation don't they so I guess that makes sense. Who knew?!

We've not had any conversations quite like that @TheNewMrsW and @Bells3032. But I definitely notice that my DH is more interested when I'm ovulating. I don't tell him when to expect it or anything so he does seem to just instinctively know.

I'm back at work today . We'd properly got into the Christmas spirit and watched a bunch of Christmas movies. We'd also eaten far too much chocolate so definitely haven't lost any weight this week! I know I've just had 3 days off but the weekend can't come quick enough! And I'm probably going to have to get on the cross-trainer later too

Oh well, only 1 more lb to go until I'm at my pre-pregnancy weight. Severely lacking motivation right now though.

Omg that is sooo interesting! 😂 what kinda of smell is it?

Am I too late to join?
I'm so new to this and the abbreviations are scrambling my brain! Is there a thread on what they all mean?
Anyway, I'm pretty much a week into my last pill packet and we've decided that I'm not going to renew. (I'm on desogestrel)
We're not going to try an plan as such, just see how we go for 6 months or so and then reassess.

Does anyone have any tips?

Anything I can put in place now?

I've read about a pre conception appointment, has anyone had one? Do I need to have it?

One of my friends advised to speak to the Dr/nurse just to make sure that it's on my record that were trying so that come a year's time if we're struggling it will be easier to get help?

Sorry for all of the questions!🙈

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I just asked him and he says he can't describe it, it's just "different" 😂

@sunflowersaremyfav93 my husband said the same. not good or but different but just different. he said he smelt the same on other women before just never me.

@dechie welcome. course its not too late. First things first make sure you have some prenatals (you only need a good folic acid and vitiamin D but you may want to look into the full prenatal things). And start cutting back on alcohol, caffeine etc. If you are just not trying not preventing (NTNP) then just have fun and try to do the deed (DTD) every other say from roughly day 9-16 of your cycle (with first day of you period being day 1). Good luck

@Bells3032 thank you so much!
I've been looking at vitamin D as I've just come out of isolation after contracting Covid and it's meant to be really good for your immune system so I'll definitely get that!
I'll look into some folic acid too.
Omg! I didn't even know NTNP was a thing! This is exactly what we'll be doing! I'll cut back on caffeine for sure. I drink coffee like a fish! 🙈
I don't drink a lot of alcohol if any so won't be a problem.
Every other day?! Surely that will make me an Olympic athlete?? 🤣
Sounds good to me!
I've seen on threads (I think this one) that the pill can kill your libido? This is exactly how I've been feeling! I can't wait to get this out my system!! My OH won't know what's hit him! 🤣

Thank you so much for your advice!
Xx

@dechie haha I guess that depend son your libedo. I'll admit it said the same thing as the coil but I've noticed my sex drive has reduced since its removal but that may be due to stress (we are in the process of buying a house and trying to figure out ivf process as well as lockdown) and the fact I now get periods since its removal so thats like a week out every month. Normally dh are every other day anyway but lately its been one maybe twice a week. Ah well.

There are so many acroymns for ttc (trying to conceive) but you'll be speaking the lingo in no time. And if you don't know any I'm sure the lovely ladies on this thread will help