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🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕

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Annny27 · 14/08/2020 11:05

Hi everyone,

Setting up the new thread for us - we have come a long way since January and sadly a few of us are still on the "journey". Let's hope we arent here for much longer. Wishing us all baby dust (although its been so long I am not sure dust will do it for me - maybe will have to up the particle size to "baby sand" )

Ttc ladies:
@Fizzl
@Nuggetlover27
@ELM7
@Ljm0101
@Abi0795
@Babyghirl

And our recent bfps who i know like to check in :)
@Leok83
@scrumdiddly123
@SunnySideUp2020

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Nuggetlover27 · 25/08/2020 19:38

Sorry for the typos there! Should have been we've not ever and highest not highway 🤦🏻‍♀️

Babyghirl · 25/08/2020 19:51

@nuggetlover27

Thank you we will all get r rainbow babies very soon x

Ljm0101 · 26/08/2020 07:59

Hey @Annny27 thank you for adding me on to this group, I've only just checked it.

So I decided to wait the extra 2 weeks to see if anything happened naturally and it started on Monday and I had my loss yesterday evening, I'm just kind of glad it's over now as I feel like just been waiting for it to happen for weeks. I've been an emotional wreck the last week or so but today I've woke up feeling quite calm, so we'll see how it goes.

It's nice to see that this group have had a few more BFP's since I last checked in, congratulations ladies.

Wishing all the TWW's good luck xxx

Babyghirl · 26/08/2020 09:44

@Ljm0101
Sorry to c you join us but glad you found us. Sorry your going through a loss to hoping your taking things easy and looking after yourself 💚💚💚💚

scrumdiddly123 · 26/08/2020 09:45

Morning lovely ladies, hope you are all ok. Just popping on to say I had my rescan this morning and we saw a heartbeat! I was honestly expecting the worst so it was so overwhelming to see it beating away! I’m now further than I’ve been with any of my miscarriages so trying to stay positive that this might be my rainbow baby 🌈
Fingers crossed for some more bfps on here soon xxx

scrumdiddly123 · 26/08/2020 09:46

Measuring 7+4

🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕
Annny27 · 26/08/2020 14:18

Afternoon ladies :) cd9 for me

@scrumdiddly123 absolutely amazing news lovely! Really pleased it went well 🥰🥰 have they out you on progesterone or aspirin or anything?

@Nuggetlover27 yep started dtd on cd7 every other day. I am having a vaginismus flare up at the moment and sex is quite painful which I suspect is ttc pressure:( which makes things even less fun! Goodness knows I want this baby so bad I am willing to go through the pain haha

@Babyghirl yes fingers crossed it gives you the boost you need :D

@Ljm0101 I am glad things happened naturally for you like you wanted. One less thing to worry about. Its a really emotional time and I found the week after the loss happened I cried constantly. Think it was a hormonal mix as well as the hcg leaves and your body is in havoc! Will you try this cycle?

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Ljm0101 · 26/08/2020 15:15

Yeh @Annny27 I've been an emotional wreck recently, the waiting game has killed me. I think I'm going to have a month off before trying, September 18th was the due date for my first MC so that will be hard and more heart ache. I just feel like this year is never ending!!
Xxx

Nuggetlover27 · 27/08/2020 08:04

Morning ladies

What wonderful news @scrumdiddly123 !! I'm so happy for you

@Ljm0101 it's completely understandable that you have been emotional! Give your body and mind time to process and begin to heal 💕

@Annny27 it is crazy what we put ourselves though. It shows how much we really want our babies. Hope you're feeling a bit better ? Bet you'll be glad when you've OV to give it a rest. Think we will now rest for the remainder of the month and keep all our fingers crossed that this is the one

Babyghirl · 27/08/2020 11:32

Good morning ladies

Hope everyone is feeling as good as they can this morning, CD 8 for me today no temp taking this month so just going with the flow if going by past months ovulation should be 3 to 5 days away, hoping the relax approach helps things for me started my tablets 3 days ago ordered folate yesterday getting delivered today a fertility specialist told me they r better to take as they r pour folic acid so decided to give them a try. We need a few bfp on this thread soon we got this girls. Few rainbow babies on the way soon 💚💚💚💚💚

SunnySideUp2020 · 28/08/2020 17:43

@Ljm0101 glad to hear from you lovely. Thought about you a lot lately x
At least things happened naturally.
Taking September off is probably wise..i hope you and your DP are recovering 💕

@scrumdiddly123 cute bean 💖

@Annny27 @Babyghirl hope ovulation comes soon for you guys this month 🌟

@Fizzl hope you're ok !! What did you end up deciding regarding the tests? I think i missed something 😬

We have started our way back to the Baltics from France today. After flying for 20 hours two days ago. Now a couple of days on the road but with multiple stops to rest.
I am worried all this travelling will impact the pregnancy so i have a scan when we get home on Wednesday afternoon.

Hope to see some bfp this month 🌈

Babyghirl · 28/08/2020 17:58

@sunnysideup2020

Hope you get home soon and your scan goes well on Wed, I'm sure your excited to c your baby.

Anybody else try acupuncture I have been reading up about it and really thinking off giving it ago. It's dear but heard many successful stories about it. 💚💚

Fizzl · 28/08/2020 22:04

Evening everyone 😁 sorry have been a bit absent - had a lot going on and my husband is trying to encourage me to not spend as much time on my
phone as he doesn't think I'm helping myself googling and reading things all the time 😳 he's probably right!

@Babyghirl I don't take antidepressants although I'm sure the doctor will suggest it to me one day as they clearly don't think I'm coping too well! Hopefully they help you to feel better. I do go for acupuncture tho. I really enjoy it, it's very relaxing! Can't say it's helped my cycle or me
conceive yet but it's still early days and I started in the midst of my epically long cycle so probably not a true reflection! It's worth the money to me as it makes me feel like I'm being proactive and doing something to help.

@Annny27 I also realised some of the original girls are due to give birth! It's crazy but this year has gone so quick! Jan doesn't seem that long ago at all - I can remember some of those ladies announcing their BFP! Some of our friends have had their baby this week. I'm really happy for them and the baby is beautiful but it's that realisation again that we should have been first and our baby should have been 2 months old by now. And that makes me feel like everything is so unfair again. Next friends baby is due in a few weeks and I'm sure it will be bitter sweet again.

@Ljm0101 glad to hear you're doing ok under the circumstances. It really is an emotional roller coaster. I waited for a while before ttc and it was definitely the right thing for us to do and I felt ready again when we starting trying again.

@scrumdiddly123 congrats! You must be so relieved.

@SunnySideUp2020 safe travels! I'm sure the travelling will have no impact on your baby at all. I've seen someone describe early pregnancy being like a grain of sand in a jar of jam so it can withstand quite a lot and is very well cushioned/protected in there! Taking lots of breaks will help too so you can get up and move around a bit. Good luck with your scan, I'm sure all will be perfect tho!

I had my apt today with the consultant. She was really helpful and lovely and now we spoke gave to face she understood exactly what my concern was. I managed to get hold of a copy of my blood test results from back in feb from my gp and took them with me. Turns out they didn't test for progesterone last time. The consultant was happy with all the other results so said rather than repeating and wasting money we'd just do progesterone this time as that seems to be what the issue is. She did say if I have low progesterone then it can normally be fixed. If I don't have low progesterone then my short luteal phase might be trickier to correct and she did mention ivf but we're a long way off going down that road. She recommended still giving more time before considering anything more invasive if my results for progesterone are ok, especially as I have been pregnant before as it suggests that I can conceive 'spontaneously'. It's just frustrating as some months my lp can get to 11 days which I'm ok with but other months only 8-9 days which I think is more of a problem so although not impossible, I just think it will make things harder.

In the meantime I've been told to try and relax and not stress 😑 I thought I had been quite calm but I've been noticing my heart keep 'thudding' and palpitations for the past week so I think I probably am getting more anxious than I realise. The problem is once I notice them they seem to happen more and then I worry about that so it's a vicious cycle! If I keep myself busy they stop, if I stop and think about it they start again so I'm certain it's anxiety related 🙄 it's my new thing to worry about now...

Some friends of ours who know we are trying again have just very kindly offered us the advice of 'put your legs up afterwards as gravity helps' and it worked for them 😂 it made me smile because it was said with all good intentions (and I genuinely appreciated the thought) but I felt like saying we've been trying that trick for almost 2 years, I think we need more medical science than bloody gravity on our side now 🙄😂

Babyghirl · 28/08/2020 22:52

@Fizzl thanx for the reply,
The tablets I'm on is for depression anxiety and stress so hoping they help to relax me awee bit. Going to book tomara to go for a session on Friday and c how it goes. I had doubts about taking them cause I don't like to admit defeat or feel week but I know in myself the way I'm feeling is not helping the ttc process xxx

SunnySideUp2020 · 29/08/2020 06:43

@Fizzl glad the consultant got your concern and is willing to look into it and hopefully fix it.
The stress thing is inevitable. When people used to tell me stop thinking about it or just relax i honestly wanted to scream!!!
That being said if you have an otherwise healthy lifestyle, i am sure it won't affect your fertility. For having been on antidepressants a fair amount of time in my younger years i can only advise against. Unless you really get dark thoughts etc... they are utter poison.
And stepping away from internet is such a good idea!!! MN is great but it does tense me personally if i have some anxiety already 😅

Anyway, i will have everything crossed for you guys to conceive soon. And naturally.

Babyghirl · 29/08/2020 09:17

@sunnysideup2020
I started taking citalopram a few days ago they mostly for anxiety and stress but do treat depression to, I was staring away from them for long enough as I did nt want to feel weak but I do believe I need them cause the way I was feeling was nt helping me while ttc. I'm still in two minds but my partner even said I need to try them to get my head right. So am giving them a try how long did u take them for and how u feel coming off them. 💚💚💚💚

Babyghirl · 29/08/2020 10:19

Good morning ladies 💚

Hope yous r having a great weekend, just booked my first app for acupuncture for Thursday fertility is her field so looking forward to it and hoping she can help things along. I'm excited and it's been a long time from I was looking forward to anything read a lot of positive stories bot it and hoping it helps relax me. Hope yous ladies have a great weekend 💚💚💚💚

Annny27 · 30/08/2020 08:18

Morning everyone :D been a little bit quiet been very busy past few days!

Its cd13 for me and had lots of ewcm the past few days but OPKs still negative so maybe tomorrow or cd15 it will be positive. We are dtd everyday this month (👀🙈) so hope ovulation hurries up haha

@Babyghirl acupuncture sounds interesting! I think a few of th3 girls who have their bfps now tried it! I am not a huge fan of being prodded with needles so not sure how much it would rwlax me haha!

@Ljm0101 a month off will do you the world of good i think :)

@SunnySideUp2020 must be exhausting all that travelling! But it won't be harming the baby thats for sure 💪 whens your next scan?

@fizzl the tests sound good to check for progesterone. You might also have to take the progesterone suppositories like me! Yep I felt confident after the consultant visit that they thought I would be pregnant soon 🤞🤞 and yes i keep thinking I would have had a little baby for this winter! Well let's hope I have a little baby growing this winter instead:D

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Babyghirl · 30/08/2020 08:30

@Annny27

Goodmorning I'm up for trying anything not the cheapest tool in the box but it will be money we'll spend if it helps move things along. Read it helps destress you and relax u the couple I have choose fertility is her field so that's good, going to try yoga for beginners as well they say if you have something to look forward to is the best way to go, hoping your eggie drops soon and you catch it this month. I'm cd11 so mine should be dropping within the next st 2 to 3 days going by my last months as I'm not temp charting this month I feel more relaxed already. Have a great Sunday 💚💚💚💚

SunnySideUp2020 · 30/08/2020 09:24

@Babyghirl i was on a lot of different meds as i had some mental health troubles in my early twenties. Coming off anti depressants wasn't hard but i found they were not really helping...
I found myself feeling better when i addressed issues in real life and made some changes.
Citalopram is a good one. I took it the longest alongside another anti depressant which has now been taken off the market.
I hope it helps you feel a bit more settled but if uyou can i would try not to rely on them too much. Good luck x

@Annny27 well after having some strange discharge the past two days i went to the hospital to get checked this morning as i didnt sleep last night kept having nightmares.
All seem good. I had some tiny brown in the discharge today but the doctor couldn't see a bleed or anything off. The bean is growing nicely and was measuring 8w5 so he caught up by a day from last time already.
I think having had the mc and the spotting we are extra cautious with discharge. But so far the pregnancy is progressing well.

Babyghirl · 30/08/2020 09:44

@sunnysideup2020
Thank you I'm hoping acupuncture has a positive effect my friend said she will do yoga with me for support she's my best friend worked with her for for 17 years she 20 years older than me so like a second mummy. If I find them helping I will take myself off the tablets as I don't really want to be taking them tbh but I needed something so hoping the other things will help me to get bck to my old self. Hope everything is good with bean and you have a h&h nine months 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗. I knw when I fall again after 2 losses I will be a bag off nerves it's only natural for us to worry the excitement of pregnancy has been taken away from ladies who have had a loss. But I will have it in my head new pregnancy new baby different outcome and your baby will be fine it has an angel watching over it 💚💚💚💚💚

Annny27 · 31/08/2020 09:13

Morning :D hope everyones doing well :) cd14 still no positive opk..
..not that its late its just I have had ewcm for like 5 days so I want my body to make up her mind haha

@sunnysideup2020 glad everything is okay with the little baby!! Nice to get it checked out and reassured. If you have dtd then it might have moved some old blood on your cervix and that might be the reason for the brown discharge?

@Babyghirl one girl on another thread did acupuncture and it lengthened her LP and reduced spotting so it definitely works:D yes new pregnancy, different outcome - although its still scary I imaginr!

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Babyghirl · 31/08/2020 09:30

@Annny27
Oh I know when I fall again I will be a bag off nerves I can't wait to I do but would also like to find out when I'm about 8 months gone lol.

Fizzl · 31/08/2020 11:37

Morning ☺️ CD15 here and absolutely no signs of ovulation happening yet 🙄 I just wish my body would sort itself out! Think we're in for the long-haul again this month 😑

I've got to go for bloods 7 days after ovulation which depending on when I finally ovulate might put a spanner in our holiday plans! We're hoping to get away next week for our anniversary but have to see when I ovulate now. Luckily we've not booked anything yet. Just another thing for me to feel all woe is me about 🤦🏼‍♀️ why doesn't anything seem to go right for us?!

@Babyghirl I do yoga too and do feel better after. I'm trying to do 20-30mins most days. Does make me feel a bit more zen and calm. Since stopping the more intense exercise I can really tell it's having an impact on my mental health so yoga is helping.

@SunnySideUp2020 glad everything was all good and progressing well

Annny27 · 31/08/2020 12:11

First one was 9.30 this morning and 2nd one was at half 11!! Can't believe it go peak so fast after being basically 0!

@fizzl ahhhh no ewcm? 😪 hopefully it happens soon! Same we are planning on booking something next weekend (well the 12th or something) for our anniversary but not booked yet

@babyghirl yep wiuld be lovely to go to a 6 week scan and fine out you are actually 32 weeks 🤣🤣🤣

🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕
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