🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi everyone,

Setting up the new thread for us - we have come a long way since January and sadly a few of us are still on the "journey". Let's hope we arent here for much longer. Wishing us all baby dust (although its been so long I am not sure dust will do it for me - maybe will have to up the particle size to "baby sand" )

Ttc ladies:
@Fizzl
@Nuggetlover27
@ELM7
@Ljm0101
@Abi0795
@Babyghirl

And our recent bfps who i know like to check in :)
@Leok83
@scrumdiddly123
@SunnySideUp2020

Ah @Annny27 sorry you're having a tough time 😔 this process is real crap at times. I think we can all relate to how you're feeling. Especially sex becoming a chore 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

@Nuggetlover27 yes that is always my initial feeling 'at least your pregnant' then I quickly remind myself that it's not their fault I'm not pregnant and their feelings are completely validated and I will hopefully feel just as crap/ill as them one day and want to moan about it 😂

So 11dpo for me, no sign of AF arriving just yet, temps are still high and it could not have been a more white BFN this morning if it tried. Not a sniff of a line so I'm 99.9% certain that's me out this month. I'm happy that I've had a slightly better LP tho, typically the month they've tested my progesterone it looks like a good month! Next month I bet it will be 8/9 days again 🙄

Sorry for bfn @fizzl but that is promissing having a better LP :) as your temps are still up it might be a few days before AF and ofcourse there is still a chance but I understand the mindset of mentally moving on to the next cycle when your see a bfn!

In other happy news, I've just seen that the first rainbow baby has been born on the pregnancy thread 💗 a little bit bittersweet for us ofcourse but its good to see a glimour of hope :) one-day it will be us 🙌🙌

@Annny27 yeah it's strange AF doesn't feel like she's about to start anytime soon! Which is odd but hopefully a good sign that my progesterone is doing what it should! My boobs are still sore too which I'm hoping is a positive sign that my progesterone is nice and high but 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Think my husbands a bit gutted this month too. I think because everything seemed to be going 'right' in my cycle this month. He's rang his GP this morning and they've been great and arranged a sperm analysis straight away for him. I'm tempted to switch to his GP 😂. He got an appointment without any difficulty, they rang him back within 20mins and arranged for him to collect his pot this afternoon! It's just one more thing for us to tick off the list I suppose.

@Annny27 ah that is lovely news. It seems so far off ever getting to that point but it's nice to see some success stories.

@Annny27 big hugs to you 💓
Honestly i was holding back tears (and still am) reading your post yesterday..
I know the feeling. I don't think i have cried as much as the last months ttc. Getting my hopes and nothing. Putting so much efforts. Dreaming... etc
It's just the shittiest of times.
You ladies are strong. It's ok to have a down day. Has the witch arrived?

As for dtd everyday. Never worked for us. When we conceived in july we did with some breaks. I ovulated on 14/07. Attached the dtd schedule.

Good to hear your LP is back to normal @Fizzl
Your uterus has finally uncobfused itself!!

@sunnysideup2020 did u nt dtd the day you ovulated I'm going to try cut bck on dtd everyday tryed it the last 11 cycles has nt worked for me so thinking less is better.

@Babyghirl i did! Last day of dtd was day of ovulation

@sunnysideup2020
Just reread ur post lol I don't have a lot of ewcm so thinking off using conceive plus also to c if that helps move things along.

@Babyghirl we were using it as i never had ewcm i just get watery cm

But again the month we conceive was when we didn't have it with us. So we went natural.

@Annny27 @Babyghirl the month we conceived this little bean we DTD twice the whole month 😂 I will have to go back and check but I think it was 3 days before ov and then the day I ovulated, obviously did the trick! And I haven’t let me poor husband near me since, not risking anything!

@scrumdiddly123
I will be the same won't be letting him near me i had sex on the Tuesday started to bleed brown blood and start red bleeding on the sat I knw my miscarriage was prop already in progress but that will alway be on my mind.

@scrumdiddly123
Havent had spotting or cramps but my libido is nowhere to be found. I have 0 interest in sex.
I used to be into it a lot before ttc, like doing everyday for pleasure with dp.
Now i have to push myself to do it once a weekish! 😅 and all i can think about is: is there blood? Is all ok?

@SunnySideUp2020 haha yes hooray! Let's hope it stays unconfused now!

I'm strangely really pleased about my lp this month 😂 I'm on 12dpo and she's still not here. I just hope and pray this isn't a blip and this continues 🤞

I had another negative test this morning so I'm now 99.9% sure I'm out and actually don't want a positive test now as I've read late implantation after day 10 is a baaad sign 😂

How are you doing today @Annny27

@Babyghirl the month I caught we didn't dtd everyday. We dtd a couple of times leading up to ovulation and the day of. We still stick with that now most of the time, every other day until I get a positive opk and then usually that day too. Could not manage every day 😂

@fizzl
Going to try that this cycle I knw my period is on its way cramping on and off creamy cm my boobs still sore to gs she may hurry up and make her appearance lol.

Morning ladies :D hope you are all enjoying the last of the summer sunshine. It was absolutely gorgeous yesterday and looks the same today 🥰

15dpo and stopped the progesterone yesterday as another bfn so waiting for period to arrive now, maybe today, maybe tomorrow

@fizzl sorry for another bfn :( I have also read that about late implantation! But then again i implanted before 10dpo last time and miscarried so it's never black and white haha!

@SunnySideUp2020 thank you lovely! I am feeling a lot better today but still got the overall sadness deep down but it only seems to rise to the surface just before my period haha! I unfortunately also have 0 interest in sex atm but got to power through to make the baby 😂😂🙈🙈

Thanks for sharing your dtd chart its good to see that every other day or there abouts works:D I only had sex 3 times in the fertile week when I conceived last time

@Babyghirl has your period arrived?

@scrumdiddly123 yep we didnt have sex atall the 12 weeks when I was pregnant. Couldn't be arsed and like you say didnt want to risk anything

@Annny27
Nt yet still waiting but I knw she on her way today got the yak feeling down there like I always get lol. My dp will hate the less sex but its the way forward I think to get r rainbow babies. Glad your feeling a bit better on to a new month for us girl then we can get all excited again lol.

AF has arrived for me today. Not feeling too disappointed as I'd already prepared for it. Think I was more gutted at the bfn 10dpo as I knew that pretty much guaranteed I was out.

Anyway it means I've had a 12 day luteal phase which is a record for me! Hooray.

The slightly strange thing is this is the exact date my period started last year the month I then fell pregnant. If we're lucky enough to fall again this time around it will mean the pregnancy will progress literally day-for-day as last year and my due date will be exactly the same, just +year. Obviously I'd love to fall pregnant again this month but it will be hard not to compare what was happening on those exact dates last year if it does happen for us.

How's everyone else doing? Looks like there's a few of us due af around now.

@fizzl
Awk sorry the which arrived my cramps have became more constant nw as on and off so she will be here any min now. That's the reason I did nt want to fall pregnant this month as the last 2 times I fell was September and lost both so I would off been a nervous rack I knw in my head the month has nothing to do with it but in my head it's all I would be thinking about 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

Afternoon ladies!
CD11 for me. Will have to start POAS soon. Maybe the weekend. Not expecting ov for at least 12 days but you never know!

Glad you're feeling better today @Annny27

Sorry for AF @Fizzl but yay to 12 days LP! Seems as though things are normalising for you now 😃.

I’m on CD 9 il start my OPK tomorrow morning and get back to DTD every second day. Over a year of trying and sex during ovulation is just a tick box exercise which doesn’t bother me but my partner hates it.

Good luck ladies all close to the end of their TWW fingers crossed for you all 🤞🏻💕

Well cd30 for me still no period don't knw what it's up to this month 3 days late have nt had a cycle this long from the month after my loss. Boobs still sore had abot 5 wee spots off pink blood on toilet roll last nite and I mean needle size spots. It may hurry up lol.

@Babyghirl sounds promising! How long will you wait until you test?

@nuggetlover27
Last time my cycle was this long was back last November I'm scared to test to c the bfn lol but if my period not here by Sunday I might test then I did not do temps this month to take away the stress and it did help I just don't know if ovulation happened a bit l8r but the last load off months I was temping I ovulated around CD 11 to 13 so I was just going off that.

@Babyghirl il keep everything crossed for you 💚 I know what you mean I would rather see my period that a BFN but I don’t know if I could wait till Sunday mind you 🙈