TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 7)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,
I'm missing loads of testing days, so just let me know your updated days if you have one and I'll make a note xx

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa

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@fafi- 17th July
@2020wish- 17th July
@fafi- 18th July
@HE88- 19th July
@Rainbowhope11- 20th July
@GraceG26- 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby- 21st July
@Renna- 22nd July (?)
@Diorissimo1985- 26th July
@VP91x- 26th July
@Rb486- 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2- August?
@Northernsoul90- not testing
@Sallyjo27
@bxiiboo
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Banbi
@busby85
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Chickoletta
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@Sjk89
@Emsnewmum
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992

Update from me CD20, 3DPO (I think) 🥰.. Nothing going on at the moment, will wait impatiently for the next week xx

@2020wish thank you x

@MrsK21 Thank you, I may give them a ring tomorrow and see what they say. When do you get your bloods done? I hope they come back quickly for you!

At first I was finding it really difficult straight after the mc as all I kept thinking was everything we had planned and been excited about like being pregnant and having babies together has just been taken away. I'm not as bad at the moment, I just try to be really open about how I feel. I am secretly relieved she's chosen to not have a baby shower this time as well as I would have struggled with that I think. I am at a point now though where I can talk about her baby and pregnancy and we had a quick look at baby stuff in George the other day and I was fine. It's not been easy though. It's seeing other people announcing pregnancies on social media that I'm still really struggling with, I deleted my accounts for a while. Isn't it all so cruel? 😢. We need to keep positive though and have faith that it will happen for us soon 🌈 xx

@Renna hope it was just no good doing smu test and u get a bfp tomorrow and no AF xx so odd how uv still not had it! X

@fafi congrats lovely! Xx

@VP91 That def could be implantation i had it it so early with my first pregnancy 4/5 dpo it was so it can happen x x

@Northernsoul90 I can totally relate to you with this. My frustration of trying for 5 years led me to stop buying friends kids birthday presents cause they could just keep popping them out and here’s me with none for them to buy for. They used to invite me along to their kids birthday celebrations but the longer my infertility went on the more I stopped going along cause I just felt like the odd one out. I couldn’t even like people’s Instagram pregnancy reveals or baby photos. I really like the Bella twins but they are both pregnant at the same time so I couldn’t watch their show. As soon as I got my bfp it was like a whole weight of depression got lifted off me and I could then be happy for others. Now I feel a bit back to square one. I’m trying hard to remember that not all my friends have had easy journeys, a couple had a miscarriage before successful pregnancies. I do now find myself getting envious of women who seem to have a first pregnancy and be fine, I just think why wasn’t that me. Surely I deserved it after all that time trying. Sorry I sound selfish but deep down I get these dark thoughts. So I’m right there with you xx

@Northernsoul90 I’m also trying to remember people who are preg or who have had children may have suffered miscarriage but we just don’t know about it xx

@2020wish I thought round ligament pain was more of a 2nd trimester thing when your uterus started growing can't say I've noticed it myself although loads of cramps and twinges, did you have it with the previous pregnancies? x

@Hayleylou89 hope you enjoy seeing your baby boy tomorrow x

@Pugprincess I know the kids party thing I can relate to as well, I try to avoid because I'm the childless one and just kind of feel like a spare part. It's so true though that people may have been through struggles we aren't aware of. It's a very conflicting feeling as I am genuinely happy for others having babies but it's just like a twinge of sadness you feel for yourself and what you've lost - it stings. You don't sound selfish it's something a lot will relate with 💕 xx

Oh @Hayleylou89 I didn't realise you got it so early. Was it like my pic? Exciting that you get to see your baby boy tomorrow xx

@MichT4 yeah it cleared up nicely didn't it? Glad you had a nice time. Day has been fine, Bella had a complete and utter tantrum of the year this evening. Full hour of throwing herself on the floor and scream crying. Quite frankly even if I wanted to, neither me or OH are in the mood to DTD after that.xx

Aw thanks for even remembering that @SmileyT ... i cnt wait, its not until 4pm so got to wait all day but i cnt wait he has hopefully grown lots too 🤞🏻

@VP91 mine was little bit different to urs like watery pink cm but it was after sex so could have been mixed with other things 🤦🏽‍♀️ but its very similar x x i really hope it is IB for u, i was sceptical it being so soon after ovulation but it turned out i was pg and got bfp at 8/9dpo, ( i wasnt doing opks religiously back then as we fell preg right away) but i knew id never had a mid cycle spotting so knew it was a sign...if u go on google ull see alot of ppl have had the same and it looks just like urs xx

Aw thanks for even remembering that @SmileyT ... i cnt wait, its not until 4pm so got to wait all day but i cnt wait he has hopefully grown lots too 🤞🏻

@VP91 mine was little bit different to urs like watery pink cm but it was after sex so could have been mixed with other things 🤦🏽‍♀️ but its very similar x x i really hope it is IB for u, i was sceptical it being so soon after ovulation but it turned out i was pg and got bfp at 8/9dpo, ( i wasnt doing opks religiously back then as we fell preg right away) but i knew id never had a mid cycle spotting so knew it was a sign...if u go on google ull see alot of ppl have had the same and it looks just like urs xx

@Hayleylou89🤞 xxx enjoy your lovely scan tomorrow and hope your other appointment later in the week goes ok xx keep us posted xx

Thanks @renna just read on the hosp website that my partner is allowed to the fetal medicine appt on Thursday (cervical scan) but not the one tomorrow 🙄 how bonkers is that?? ... he is allowed in the normal scans from 20 weeks though aswell 🤦🏽‍♀️ x x

@Renna good luck with af staying away too x 🤞🏻😘

@Hayleylou89 is it your 12 week scan tomorrow?

@Hayleylou89 good luck tomorrow lovely. Can't wait to see the pictures x

@VP91x oh no, what was the tantrum about tonight? She's even sassier now she's in big girl pants xx

@Hayleylou89 well that doesnt make sense 🙄 maybe just have him turn up and play dumb... say oh hes allowed on thursday so I thought he could now.... you may get a nurse who makes an exception ... lol xxx thanks xx I have no signs of AF now end of day 31 ... so weird 😥 keep feeling my cervix and feels closed still. Just have no clue what's going on never happened before . I've broken down crying again to DH today . I just really thought I'd be pg by now, and now its actually taking us longer post MC than before and now I'm lost I cant even think I can try again in a weeks time and focus on that because I dont know what's going on 😥 xxx

@Hayleylou89 that so interesting, I have stopped myself from googling too much but will have a little look... For research purposes only of course 👀😂. Crazy that he can't come tomorrow but can on Thursday makes no sense now xx

@MichT4 next door neighbours have a 6yr old and 2.5yr old grandchildren they always talk with Bella through some little holes in the fence and they asked if they could come and see the rabbits. They stayed to play for a little while and when they left Bella had a full on meltdown because she wanted to go with them on holiday and I said no. The little boy also got upset to leave as he was having fun. Bella just continued it for a full on hour, not ideal xx

@MichT4 thank you, I really hope you get back to normal soon too, I'm sure you will! I also have Sunday night blues. I'm WFH still which generally I enjoy, but it's hard at times and I'm losing motivation recently 😔 hopefully you feel better once you have Monday ticked off, I usually do!

@2020wish I have those pains in the vajay you're describing! Glad it's not just me 😅 I had it last time too and thought I'd just been a bit keen with my newly adopted pelvic floor routine but not done any yet this time and the sensation is still there!

@hayleylou89 thank you 🥰 enjoy your scan tomorrow ☺️ it's crazy that we can go to the pub but we still can't have partners in for some scans 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Renna I feel so terrible for you in limbo right now x

@Hayleylou89 Good luck and enjoy your scan tomorrow ☺️

Thanks everyone for the nice 🍆 messages haha

@Rb486 cycle buddies haha! That picture looks like you have the same one as me... the pink one that just goes straight from zero to smiley? Ttc cycle 5 Since mc but this is the first time I’m trying the clear blue opks. But I think for this test it’s normal to just go straight to smiley from zero. What cd are you???

@SmileyT I’ve been completely not taking any chances this month regarding the 🍆🍆 haha worn out. Your bfp has spurred me on! I don’t know regarding ov. Do I count cd 14, today, or cd 15, tomorrow??? I had a bit of a twinge on my right side about six o clock this evening and the same twinge was the left last month so could that be it? Who knows haha. How are you feeling?? Xx

@Renna sorry to hear you are feeling so disheartened, frustrated and upset. I think we’ve all been there- feeling like things aren’t going to plan and tired of this exhausting process- so here you have the safe space. The road feels so long sometimes. I think it’s good you’ve had a good cry with your other half. Let it out all of your emotions and frustration. I know it’s horrible not knowing what is going on but, if af does come, you can pick yourself up and try again because like for all of us there’s always next month and each cycle is the start of what could be an amazing and special gift. I had a similar breakdown to my hubby the other day just crying with frustration and emotions and he said to me we can’t lose hope. I hope you get some clearer signals from your body soon. Thinking of you xx

@Mommybear05 yaaas!! Ov buddies. Lol! Ahh okay, did you use the cheaper opks before? I feel like the clear blues quite good as it’s not all guess work. I have the duel hormone one. I had my mmc in April, but had 2x medical management and got my first period on the 30th June. I’m on CD 20 now. I was away last week until yesterday and decided not to take the tests with me. Did one yesterday and it was a blank circle. This morning I got the static smiley. We dtd thursday, yesterday and have done it today. Will do it tomorrow and hopefully the next day. Lol! Fingers crossed this is your month and the CB’s work well for you 🥰🌈 xx

Morning ladies. Have we anyone testing today?
@renna how r u today?

Would any of you ladies with BFP be interested in a private/secret facebook group.. to post and share worries when pregnant after a mc? And support each other along this journey? I’m aware how hard it is seeing pregnancy updates when ur still struggling. And anyone from this thread regardless of when they get their BFP can always join so no1 will be left behind. I can set it up so no one on ur Facebook can see the group. Let me know.

Let me know ur thoughts

First day back to work today. So nervous. Will have to tell me boss I’m pregnant again. Feeling a lot more positive today. Lines are even stronger and progression is this best it’s ever been compared to my other pregnancies so I’m hoping

Morning ladies, okay so little chart update...
FF has me at 4dpo today but I'm pretty sure it is 5dpo. It's discounting the dip for some reason.. Anyway..

@2020wish so glad everything is progressing nicely for you 🥰🥰 xx

Discounting the ovulation dip**