TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 6)

[VP91x]

Hi lovelies,

Gorgeous to see some more BFPs!!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@MichT4
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Chickoletta

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@Jazper
@Sunflower1988 - 8th July
@ManchNic - 11th July
@elliew818 - 11th July
@AC2020 - 11th July
@Eli2020 - 11th July
@littletandme - 13th July
@mrsssk - 14th July
@Rebecca1992 - 14th July
@fafi - 17th July
@chloedancer897 - 17th July
@Lollol86 - 17th July
@2020wish - 17th July
@fafi - 18th July
@HE88 - 19th July
@Rainbowhope11 - 20th July
@Bellabubble - 20th July
@GraceG26 - 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby - 21st July
@Renna - 22nd July (?)
@Diorissimo1985 - 26th July
@VP91x - 26th July
@Rb486 - 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2 - August?
@Northernsoul90 - not testing
@Sophj19 - not testing

@Banbi
@busby85
@calimommy
@Quail15
@Re6ecc4

Update on me CD12 - in FW waiting on ovulation. On Soy Iso this month and doing a (reduced) SMEP approach. 🥰

Anyone else would like to join please do xx

@Bellabubble It's a nightmare! They are heavier and sometimes a day longer now. All since April. By the 3rd day i'd usually be coming to an end but this month feels like I'm still at the beginning, not sure what's going on or if my hormones still aren't fully back to normal.

@chloedancer897 oh no sorry to hear!! It is heartbreaking but you are stronger than you think. Could you and your OH go away for couple of days ? Just to get your mind off things? I have a feeling all of this stress is probably not good either so perhaps anything to take your mind off? Apologies I know it’s so much easier said than done and I’m the last one to not over obsess and control everything but I’m trying out something new. Been listening to a lot of great podcasts lately which have become my morning routine - mainly about stressing less and in particular not trying to control things that I can’t control. Hope you can find peace within yourself and that you feel better soon xxx

@chloedancer897 I’m so sorry :( don’t want to get ur hopes up either but my second pregnancy this year that I carried the furthest I didn’t tested negative at 12dpo and got my positive at 14dpo. You aren’t out until AF arrives. When is she due?

As for the feeling like you can’t continue.. why don’t you take a different approach. Don’t go on birth control but also don’t track or actively try... just see if it happened without all the stress: try and get away on a wee weekend break also maybe over next ovulation days x

@chloedancer897 I totally get what you are going through as someone who has also been trying for over 2 and a half years it's just absolutely shit (apologies for the swear word). I took the relaxed approach this cycle so no tracking at all just dtd every couple of days was feeling pretty positive about it all but I'm now 100% sure af is on her way. I ger how you are feeling about giving up it really does take its toll on is physically and mentally. Sending you lot of love xx

@chloedancer897 So sorry it was a bfn 😞 xx

@Firevie I'm glad everything went okay ❤️ get plenty of rest and tlc xx

@MrsK21 Sorry it was a bfn 😔 I agree in getting the ball rolling I hope your GP is supportive 🤞🏼. I am with you in feeling in limbo and frustrated... 5.5 weeks after mva and still waiting for a negative test. I did one this morning and the line was very faint but I could still see a shadow. It's worrying me now. I'm just going to start doing opks and see what happens - if I still don't get a stark white negative by Monday I'm going to contact EPU again. Just letting you know I'm here with you. I expected my cycles to be back by now with a negative weeks ago it's just so confusing xx

@2020wish it's due on Friday. I know I'm out. It's too late for implantation and I bet she'll come bang on time like she always does

@HE88 I'm so sorry you've been on such a long journey. We have taken little breaks where I'm not doing ovulation sticks or checking timing and it's never worked. I'd say a period of 6-9 months where we weren't trying actively but not preventing to take the stress off. And nothing. I just don't think it's meant to happen.

@chloedancer897 we have been the same when we began our ttc journey we weren't actively trying then we did start properly trying. After a year I went to my doctor got bloods taken and the 21 day ovulation bloods all came back normal, gave it another 3 cycles still nothing went back to the doctor who referred me to a fertility clinic. I'm not sure if you have mentioned about being tested or not? It's just so frustrating that your body has fallen pregnant before so why can't it do it again! Xx

@HE88 yes I've had all the tests. Nothing wrong. Everything in working order. I'm on the list for IVF but my appointment was cancelled because of coronavirus. God knows where I am on the list now. It's taken over my life. I'm wishing months away waiting to test and I'm not enjoying anything

@HE88 yes I’m in Leicestershire England, I’m like you and hopeful it will happen naturally for me again. Especially with this extra fertile thing if that’s true. For me personally I know what I was doing wrong pre lockdown so I feel I need to try naturally under less work stress and better health but if I don’t after a few cycles and start getting frustrated I will definitely go back for IUI. My school know about my pregnancy and mc so hopefully they would be supportive with me needing to nip back and forth to hospital during work hours for treatments. X

@Northernsoul90 thank you for the company. Really hope you get a negative soon, it's been so dragged out for both of us.
I've got private medical through my work, just spoke to them and they were so lovely and helpful and have authorised a gynaecologist to do some investigations. Just need my GP to do the referral now so hopefully she agrees rather than keep me hanging!

@vp91x thank you for sharing your experience too. 8 weeks is such a long time! I'm only 2 away from that now, maybe it'll turn up soon but I'll get the process going with doctors just in case it doesn't.
Hope you're having a lovely day, trip to the hairdressers sounds like a dream! X

@chloedancer897 hopefully you can get the ivf ball rolling soon have you contacted them? Xx

@Pugprincess ah I thought you were England when you said about teaching assistants being able to teach you can't do that here in Scotland. Fingers crossed the changes help you fall naturally then, I'm guessing you are still a patient with the fertility clinic then? Xx

@chloedancer897 I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time, I can't imagine what headspace you must be in after so long trying. Would you maybe stop trying whilst you got back in touch with clinic and waited for further treatment? So you could have some breathing space and try to enjoy things again? You really do end up in cycle of throwing the days away waiting to see what happens. Sending you lots of love xxx

@MrsK21 thank you, feel like a new person, especially after all the hair loss! How is yours now has it slowed down? Yes, it was a long time. I think because I didn't even consider TTC straight after the MC because my body felt like such a mess, I didn't quite realise because I wasn't waiting for it to be able to try. Once I got my period, I then thought right let's try again. But, I've been messed up ever since anyway, 😩 xx

@HE88 yes still under clinic. They don’t even know I fell pregnant. One of my jobs will be to call them and explain what’s happened. I think I want to say I need some healing time so to please keep me on the list ready to start if possible as I don’t want to be discharged and chucked right back to the start. But rather than healing time I’m actually meaning some more trying naturally time. Ah Scotland sound like they have it together with so many things! Schools being able to use TAS to cover has really messed up my job. I was doing it years and had pension set up and everything. But it’s just drying up x

@Pugprincess thats my worry that I'm no longer in their list but I've never had a discharge letter from them. It's just the lack of teaching jobs here that's the worry! Xx

@VP91x what did you have done in the end? Any OPKs today?

@chloedancer897 I'm sorry you are feeling low. I don't know the solution but it definitely isn't good for you or OH to be feeling like this about it. It's so hard once you've suffered a loss, but ultimately we shouldn't look at TTC as though it's a chore or a miserable time. It's definitely already helped my mindset this month to book things to do - it's the thing that made the first MC hardest was being in lockdown. So now I've decided we will do things again and keep busy, with TTC as a sideline.
Sorry, I know that is so easy to say and you have had a long journey, but the countdown of days isn't how life should be, and I'm sure we have all been guilty of that. It's sad to look back and think each day was just waiting for the next. I hope you are feeling better and can find a suitable distraction to keep you going. Is it worth asking for more tests?

@MrsK21 that's great that you've got the ball rolling. It'll probably trigger AF now, just the way of the world!

xx

Been really tired today guys, I did a lot yesterday though, I mean considering I only passed the baby on Monday I’m doing well really. Really want to go food shop with the husband tonight so I can pick some healthier options. Had a nap on sofa till now and dog needs to go out so lunch then so that I think. Doing another preg test later see if that second lines anymore faded. Putting together a box of baby bits today so that all my things are stored in one special memory box and I will put it safely away incase I ever want to look. Just got my pregnancy tests out from when I first found out, they are in there. It’s all so sad. I didn’t cry looking at them though so hopefully I’m getting a bit stronger xx

@MichT4 I got about 6 inches taken off! It's sitting just a tad past my shoulders now looks so much better!! We have decided to go to Toby Carvery before we pick up Bella from nursery which is nice. I love a carvery. No OPKs yet, will probably miss this afternoons one as not home, will do one this evening. Will DTD again today and then see what happens with temps.

How is your day? Xx

@MichT4 success! My GP agreed to do the referral for the gynaecologist. I think the GPs must all be in a good mood this week, I was so shocked when she said she'll write the referral today - was speechless!
And yeah, I bet in the time it takes me to get an appt with a gynae I reckon AF will have come and gone lol

@VP91x
Yes, you are right, when you're waiting for it, it seems like a much longer wait. What did you get done to your hair in the end? I bet it looks and feels fab. My hair fall has slowed down now thankfully but I can tell its lost so much volume, hopefully all grows back....

@MichT4 thank you so much and I know you are grieving at the minute so thank you for being so thoughtful. I think you are right. Booking things and making plans is a good idea because I'm just living day to day and wishing my life away waiting for the right time to test. It's not healthy. I might ring my consultant again and also book in for some counselling although this thread has been so amazingly helpful and you have all been amazing at giving me support xo

@HE88 I have contacted them several times and they're less than unhelpful! I just have to hold on I think x

@MrsK21 I got about 6 inches taken off, my hair loss has slowed down massively too which I'm grateful for. Like you, it is super thin now and lost its volume. I'm using a thickening shampoo and ths cut should revive it a bit. Xx

@chloedancer897 aw that's rotten they haven't been very helpful. Xx

@MrsK21 Fantastic GP has agreed! At least you know you've set the ball rolling now. I know it's been so long winded 😫 hopefully our bodies will go back to normal soon.

Ladies when do you read your opks? The one step ones say sometimes it takes 10 mins for an accurate result to show - the line starts off fainter but then get stronger closer to the 10 minute mark. Is this what others find or do you read them after a couple of mins?

@chloedancer897 I'm sorry that you are having such a tough time with things. It really does take its toll after a while and is physically and emotionally draining. I think getting away for a while and refocusing does sound like a good idea and maybe not doing opks for a cycle or two as they become so consuming. I'm not going to give you the 'relax and it will happen' because I would feel like screaming if somebody said that to me (which they have before now 😐) but if you are feeling really stressed over ttc maybe you could look for some relaxation type things to alleviate a bit of stress? I know my cycles are always affected when I'm stressed as well. I really hope you are feeling a bit better soon, sending virtual hugs 💕

@chloedancer897 so sorry for how you’re feeling at the moment. Have you thought about acupuncture / reflexology? I have looked into this and think will give it a go once it is safe to do so post ERPC. People have said it helps with the body finding its balance again. Apologies I’ve got nothing else but thought perhaps this is something that you might want to look into xxx