TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 6)

[VP91x]

Hi lovelies,

Gorgeous to see some more BFPs!!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@MichT4
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Chickoletta

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@Jazper
@Sunflower1988 - 8th July
@ManchNic - 11th July
@elliew818 - 11th July
@AC2020 - 11th July
@Eli2020 - 11th July
@littletandme - 13th July
@mrsssk - 14th July
@Rebecca1992 - 14th July
@fafi - 17th July
@chloedancer897 - 17th July
@Lollol86 - 17th July
@2020wish - 17th July
@fafi - 18th July
@HE88 - 19th July
@Rainbowhope11 - 20th July
@Bellabubble - 20th July
@GraceG26 - 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby - 21st July
@Renna - 22nd July (?)
@Diorissimo1985 - 26th July
@VP91x - 26th July
@Rb486 - 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2 - August?
@Northernsoul90 - not testing
@Sophj19 - not testing

@Banbi
@busby85
@calimommy
@Quail15
@Re6ecc4

Update on me CD12 - in FW waiting on ovulation. On Soy Iso this month and doing a (reduced) SMEP approach. 🥰

Anyone else would like to join please do xx

@MichT4 definitely just look after yourself loads over the next few days and process everything. Will you have some time off work? I think definitely call the EPU get all the info and then contact GP again and push for some bloods etc. They hopefully will listen xx

@SmileyT ooh, yeah definitely would be good if you weren't up so early! Love a roast. I've just gotten into bed too 😴 felt tired all day! Xx

@SmileyT thank you lovely. Having you all behind me keeps me going. And you know I have your back too. It’s good you’ll have the work distraction, you’ll be at your scan in no time.
I will call EPU tomorrow and just see what they say.

@Emsnewmum such a lovely thing to say, thank you. I’ll be hanging around this group for a long while - it’s been a godsend to me and I only hope I bring the same to some in here too.
It’s reassuring to hear that’s why they made it 3. Just seems unbelievable to even think of it twice, let alone 3 times. Like you said, it is so unfair.

@Sophj19 so sorry you are still waiting. I feel lucky in a weird way that it’s at least happening. What’s the next step for you? When was it you’re going back?
You’re right, it is the unknown. I think I just need to manage expectations and become ok with it not happening fast. I can’t live each day for TTC, i need to be able to focus on other things otherwise every day is wishing for the next stage. I know we really want it too, so it’s just making it manageable I think.

@VP91x yeah I will call both of those. If my GP is rubbish I’ll just get them privately, which I suspect will be the case. I’m going into work tomorrow and contemplating whether to tell my boss or not. He’ll be great, and I might need him to know if I struggle, I just don’t know if I want to talk about it. I don’t even know if I should tell my Mum.
I do hope the doctors listen, I want to relax about it all but I also do want to feel looked after a bit more.
You’ve inspired me to make the tracking routine instead of consuming, that’s how I think I need to be

Thank you ALL so much. I can’t say it enough. I’ll be back to some more positive stuff soon xx

@MichT4 I also found the miscarriage association quite helpful. I emailed them recently after my mc this time with some questions and they got back to me the next day.

@SmileyT i stated watched new girl today, I’ve watched 12 episodes today’s 🙈🙈 definitely hooked 😂

@chloedancer897 sorry for such a late reply - i think I spent to mich time in the sun this morn as O felt really weord and had to nap this afternoon! Now I’m wide awake and have to go and teach tomorrow all bright eyed and bushy tailed 😂 at least you got the urge to poas out the way - like me you’ll probably be put off doing it again until a little later now lol!

@MichT4 you’re definitely not bringing the group down - this is what we are all here for!! The nurse I had at my epu said most early miscarriages are to do with cells and how they were forming that it just hasn’t worked quite right - it weirdly made me feel less guilty! She said it was a pure nature thing, not anything the mum has any control of. I know that it still plays on your mind, but when she said that to me I felt like it took a bit of the pressure off xx

@MichT4 how are you this morning?

How is everyone else feeling?🥰 Xx

@VP91x good morning. Well, I'm 11dpo today and still have no symptoms at all! I'm trying to not over think it but this is very unusual for me. Although I'm experiencing a few unusual things, like I woke up yesterday with sore thighs.... like I'd done a 1000 squats the day b4 (which I hadn't) , and their still sore this morning. My AF is due Friday and it's taking me all my strength not to test. I'm unsure if I can wait till Friday I may crack and take a test.
@MichT4 hope your feeling okay this morning. Sending lots of love and support your way xx

@MichT4 I am so sorry your going through this sending love ❤️❤️❤️ Xxx

Hope you're ok @MichT4 ❤️❤️❤️

@VP91x how are you? was it a flashy this morning? X

@Lollol86 haha I started Saturday I think and I'm half way through season 2 🤣

@Baba458 I reckon anything from 12dpo will give you a pretty accurate result on a FRER so don't feel bad for testing 🤞x

Thank you @Tink20058 xx

@VP91x @Baba458 I’m not too bad at the moment thank you. I’m at work already, actually quite a nice distraction coming in. Still can’t decide whether to tell my boss, it’s hard to just bring up.
I put my Ava back on last night and it felt oddly refreshing this morning, just to pick myself up and get back to it with (at the moment) no stress. Have a few calls to make today, see if I can get some answers/advice.

How are you? Flashing still? xx

@Baba458 anything unusual must be a good thing, as SmileyT said you'd probably get an accurate result tomorrow so go for it 🥰

@SmileyT flashing away🙄 day 5 now, fertility friend has also gone bonkers. Pre-mom still has me down as ovulating in 2 days on CD17. How are you? Xx

Hey @chloedancer897. I’m ok thanks. Not sure if any of it’s sunk in really. Even the positive test that once was. Maybe that’s a good thing. How are you? xx

@DBTJ good luck today xx

@SmileyT it’s so easy to watch isn’t it 😆

@MichT4 I think you should tell your boss. You need looking after at the min, emotion can come at you at any time and if you have one of those moments it will be better that he/she knows so they can be supportive. The sadness surrounding all of this is inside you and it will show itself at some point. Try not to hold it in and keep it to yourself, sharing is caring as they say. Just tell your nearest and dearest and get that support you need xxxx ❤️

@SmileyT yes I'm thinking I may crack at 12dpo 🙈 xx

@VP91x I usually count every symptom as a sign and then end up sadly disappointed. However this month has been completely different.... I just don't want to experience disappointment again xx

@SmileyT yea i had a faint line 10dpo i have taken another at 12dpo and 13dpo. They aren't frer but i was hoping it would have been darker.

@Lollol86 & @MichT4 thank you hopefully the consultant rings early as it has dragged on long enough.

@VP91x Morning!! feeling ok today - but have started some spotting when I wipe (10dpo) but as much as I’d love to think it was ib, all my cycles post mc have started with spotting, so I’m not holding out hope for this cycle! Think I may look at some private tests for over the summer holidays, it will be 6mths next cycle! How are you? xx

Temptation got the better of me.... I took a test and received a BFN why do we do this to ourselves 😣 x

Morning ladies, hope everyone is well.

@MichT4 Thinking of you 💕 you are stronger than you think, you are an amazing support on this group so please don't ever feel like you are being negative.

@DBTJ Good luck for today xxx

@Baba458 Sorry you got a bfn 😔. You still aren't out yet though 🤞🏼

Morning ladies. 10dpo and a squinter!! Tweaked slightly to make it show up better on the photo but definitely very present IRL. Can't believe it, it's only our first proper cycle since the miscarriage.

Just catching up on what I can :) been having stressful times lately with my step sons awful mother making my DHs life so so so difficult just to see his son 🙄 and my sisters BF broke up with her Saturday so I was round their house grabbing all my sisters stuff and she may now be living between ours and my mums temporarily... I said to my mum I hope she realises were currently trying to baby make.... lol so gonna make the DTD tougher! x
@MichT4 so sorry for what youre going through xx putting the ava back on probably felt good as you had the spotting for a while so you just wanted to know either way xx sensing hugs xx
@SmileyT hope you're doing well and I hope you can relax and try enjoy this lovely time xxx try not to think into everything too much xxxx

@DBTJ I assume the top one is today? There is still progress so that's the most important thing.

Aww @Bellabubble, I hope it' is just IB. How far along were you on previous losses?

@littletandme great news! Fingers crossed for some stronger lines of the next few days

Oh @Renna that sounds like a terrible time! Are you comfortable telling your sister your are TTC? Maybe there can be a code word between the two of you when you might be DTD so she can go out! Ha.

@littletandme looks like my first FRER I did 2 days later was a strong line congrats xx

@MichT4 that was an early work start - did you end up telling your boss? I'm glad you felt better putting your Ava back on. I hope the phonecalls give you some proper advice and support🥰. Yeah, still flashing. Just waiting to see what happens xx

@Baba458 do your test again tomorrow as you planned and try not to stress over today's. It wasn't fmu was it? X

@DBTJ definitely progress ln those tests that's fab!!xx

@Bellabubble ah shit, I'm sorry 😔 spotting before AF is so frustrating. I had 5 days of it before last AF drove me mad. Hope you are ok? Definitely worth looking into for reassurance. I'm okay just waiting to see if I ovulate 🤷 xx

@littletandme can definitely see a faint line, bet you'll get a nice stronger line in two/three days. Tentative congratulations 🥳🥰

@Renna I'm sorry she's making life so difficult it's awful when people do that. Hope your sister is okay too 😔 sounds like there is alot going on. How are you feeling? Xx

@VP91x Yeah I tend to do an early start early finish. I didn't tell him, and now it's awkward to bring up. I will tell him, no rush I guess. Just when the time is right I will mention it.

@DBTJ @littletandme Congrats on your lines and/or developing lines. Fingers crossed they develop nicely over the coming days.

@SmileyT How are you today?