TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 6)

[VP91x]

Hi lovelies,

Gorgeous to see some more BFPs!!

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@MichT4
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Chickoletta

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@Jazper
@Sunflower1988 - 8th July
@ManchNic - 11th July
@elliew818 - 11th July
@AC2020 - 11th July
@Eli2020 - 11th July
@littletandme - 13th July
@mrsssk - 14th July
@Rebecca1992 - 14th July
@fafi - 17th July
@chloedancer897 - 17th July
@Lollol86 - 17th July
@2020wish - 17th July
@fafi - 18th July
@HE88 - 19th July
@Rainbowhope11 - 20th July
@Bellabubble - 20th July
@GraceG26 - 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby - 21st July
@Renna - 22nd July (?)
@Diorissimo1985 - 26th July
@VP91x - 26th July
@Rb486 - 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2 - August?
@Northernsoul90 - not testing
@Sophj19 - not testing

@Banbi
@busby85
@calimommy
@Quail15
@Re6ecc4

Update on me CD12 - in FW waiting on ovulation. On Soy Iso this month and doing a (reduced) SMEP approach. 🥰

Anyone else would like to join please do xx

And @DBTJ this is my second. I had one in March and now this one again

Hi everyone, this is my 1st cycle after MC, currently 3dpo but not 100% sure if I was ovulating when OPK indicated I was as my symptoms were off. Did this happen to anyone else? I'm obviously hoping to get pregnant this cycle but have accepted it may not happen

@MichT4 I'm so very sorry this is happening to you. Sending you lots of love and support x x

@SmileyT Sorry to hear you’re feeling anxious. It’s so difficult not to worry but I would say not to test every day. As I said, it’s one of the things the nurse at epu asked me not to do, and I can see why now. It’s so open to interpretation and adds to the worries. I want you to keep your positivity for your little bean xx

@MichT4 so sorry to hear your sad news. Like @Jazper I have been taking a chilled approach this cycle so just checking in. Hope you can take some time out and be kind to yourself. X

@MichT4 I am so sorry to read this update, I am thinking of you and just checked in to see how you are doing. It’s awful and nothing we can say will make it better but please know that we are here to support you xx

Oh @MichT4 I came to check on you and I am so deeply sorry to see this is happening again! Give yourself time to process it and it might be that you OH just needs time to think over things too.

When I had my second MC last month I felt very much like you, however as soon as I ovulated I quickly shifted my attention back to my TTC journey. You may feel the same or you might feel like you need more time and see a cycle through. Either way is fine just be honest with yourself and most importantly, optimistic.

I hope you feel some relief in knowing now and being able to release some worry. I realise this will have been replaced with deep sadness but know all emotions come in stages and it will get better from here.

After MC number 2 I actually started to feel comforted that of it does happen again that I will then get more support from the NHS. As scared as I am 'only 1 more time' before tests seems comforting. If it was something like 6 MC before support I'd be outta my mind! And back to PMA - when I asked the midwife what happens if I MC again she said 'no1, just because this has happened twice it doesn't mean it's going to happen again, you must be positive, there is nothing from your scan indicating any issues'. I keep remembering this as my mantra now. PMA! Lots of love 💕 xx

Hi girls today i am 6 dpo and in this afternoon i had a lot of watery discharge and pain in my left ovary.. can be this a sign? Thank you!!

@BabyNR1 watery CM can certainly be a sign and the pain could be implantation cramps 🤞🏼

@MichT4 I am so sorry to hear you are going through this again I am sending you lots of love. Please take care of yourself and dh. Xx

@SmileyT did you get a positive OPK before you got your BFP? I took an OPK today, I'll attach pic, it's definitely positive. Then I got a BFN on FRER. I'm only 9DPO so I know it's too early and I didn't use FMU either. Please give me some hope even if it's false hope 😂

@SmileyT im OK cannot wait to get biopsy results tomorrow. Counting down the hours. Hope your doing well and resting.
what made you decide to start taking it and how many you take a day.

@VP91x yeah I'm actually feeling a bit better now... patience is a virtue right 😂 yeah AF was due on Thursday based on when I now think I ovulated but I literally had one bit when wiping earlier so putting it out of my mind. YeH I feel awful whinging after I've got my BFP but don't think I'll relax until 12weeks now. How was the roast? xx

@MichT4 you really are the kindest person thinking about me when you are having such a terrible day. I hope you and OH manage to talk or at least have loads of cuddles. I'm going to do everything within my willpower not to test tomorrow and take it one day at a time, strangely seeing the line progression has calmed me a little but can't do it forever x

@Cronin1 I think I ovulated the day after peak 1st cycle after MC but everyone is different and you know your body best x

@BabyNR1 fingers crossed it's a good sign x

@chloedancer897 yep I got a blazing positive opk when I got my BFP but think I was 12dpo so definitely time for yours to get picked up by the FRER x

@DBTJ sorry if I missed this but did you confirm your BFP this week? I stopped taking l'arginine when I got my BFP but was taking one a day before then, I read an article that recommended it by some fertility doctor. Really hope the biopsy results are all clear for you x

@SmileyT you're not whinging at all. Haha, patience is a virtue that I do not possess in the slightest!! I'm glad it was just that little tinge, that's good. Make sure you rest up loads when you aren't working. The roast was 👌it's one of my go-to meals that I always make really well. My OH would have a roast everyday if it was up to him 😂.

Anything planned for your evening?

@MichT4 must be so hard when your OH won't open up especially on a day like this. Especially when he will be the closest person to you at this time, but please talk to us as much as you want/need to, so you can vent and process some of your feelings. I hope he opens up soon so you can grieve together and find a way to move forward when the time is right for you both. ❤️

@SmileyT thanks. I'm going to hold off until 12DPO and use my last FRER. I don't know why I thought I'd see a BFP on day 9! It's because I'm so symptomatic (but of course we know that means very little).

@MichT4 thinking of you. I do think our OH handle this by shutting down a little because they don't want to voice how they feel as it'll make us feel worse. Please take time out for yourself and your OH to process this all. From experience, I think going to a gynaecologist is a great place as they can check everything. Well worth the money

@SmileyT I just don’t want you worrying. I had a terrible week really and although obviously it hasn’t been a good outcome, I wish I could have found a way to make it less anxious. I’m glad it sounds like it was a one off tinge and I’m sure all is well

@VP91x thank you. I don’t like bringing this group down. I’m ok, I’ve started bleeding properly. It feels like I just needed to know and now my body is letting it go. Sounds bad but I’m relieved it’s hopefully happening on it’s own.

I’m still torn what to do next. But I know I’m never testing early again!
I think like @fafi said, the thought they’ll investigate if it happens again is comforting, but also if it happens again I don’t know what I’ll do with myself.

I guess I’m only a week ish behind where I would have been. Just such a sad thought that my body just won’t hold onto a baby xx

@chloedancer897 thank you. Do you have to be referred by your doctor? Xx

@MichT4 I just went privately to one. I did go to GP but they told me it would be over a year. So I just bit the bullet and paid

@DBTJ good luck for getting your results tomorrow, everything crossed it’s all clear x

@MichT4 you're not bringing the group down❤️ So awful that it is happening again, I really hope the bleeding isn't too bad/painful. It's just the unknown isnt it of what might happen if you fall PG again. It's weighing up what would be worse not trying or trying and potentially having that small risk of another loss. Its so hard. 😔 Xx

@VP91x yeah it’s hard. I know we want it, so we will try again. It’s just knowing how to approach it.

I have really bad cramps, but it’s ok, just want it over really. I have sore boobs again, so I think I’ve also learnt not to take anything as definitive. I’m hoping that’ll help for next time to not read into everything.

I just don’t want to get there again (hopefully) and dread it. The anxiety could be worse now, I think that’s what puts me off. I thought chances of it happening twice was low, and yet here I am. I’ll get past it, I want to be positive from the start, so need to pick myself up. Not sure if it’s worth calling EPU to ask if they saw anything on my scan but I think she’d have told me xx

@chloedancer897 thank you. I might call and ask about private tests.

@DBTJ good luck tomorrow hun. Thinking of you and hope everything is fine xx

@VP91x OH was at his friends babies 1st birthday which I ducked out of so just watched new girl and just got into bed 😴 praying my body lets me sleep past 4am. We definitely need to eat more roast dinners in this house 🤤

@chloedancer897 I really do think that having hope is what gets us through whatever the outcome, if we spend the whole TWW feeling like we're out it's just a longer wait until the next one. Really hoping you get your BFP next week x

@MichT4 yeah I'm really trying to not worry about everything but it's so hard not to let your mind wander. Back at work tomorrow so that will distract me and won't be at home with the temptation to test. Whatever you decide to do this coming month I hope you know I'll be here to support you as you have supported me throughout. Please never feel like you can't share on here however you feel. I would definitely call and check if they saw anything at EPU if you feel up to it, the worst case scenario is they say no but sometimes they don't want to overload people with info I think ❤️

@MichT4

So sorry to hear you are having to go through this again life can be so unfair sometimes but please don't loose hope.

I know it's no consolation at this time but when I feel stressed about my misscarriages I find hope in the fact that I have managed to concieve twice and that means I can again. I also got told theg only test after 3 misscarriages now because they used to after 2 but so many women went on to have successfull pregnancies.

You are such an Important part of this group and you are entitled to feel Everley emotion you are going through one of the hardest things someone can go through.

We are here for you and wish you all the best x

@MichT4 I am so sorry for your loss, I’d give your gp a call too and ask for basic bloods to be done, thyroid, 21 day bloods etc. They should do those for you I wish I had after my 2nd MC. Only now after my 3rd do they seem to want to do testing. I was told my baby’s heart stopped beating 2 weeks ago (still haven’t miscarried) and I’ve still got really hard boobs. It goes to show that worrying about symptoms aren’t very reliable. Take some time for yourself, we’ve decided we are going to give ttc a break and will be paying private for tests if we don’t get anywhere with the NHS. It is horrible, the uncertainty and the worrying about future pregnancies it’s hard to stay positive, being in this group definitely helps. I’ve also heard the risk of mc after 2 pregnancies isn’t any higher than the risk after 1 xx