TTC after MC - June/July 2020 (Part 4)

[VP91x]

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I'm on CD25 AF due 2nd July, potentially no ovulation this month or my body just refuses to budge on temp 😩

If anyone else would like to join please do xx

@Hayleylou89 congratulations with your baby boy 👦 such a sweet message

@chloedancer897 that's so frustrating! I would be upset too. But There is a chance of conception even 5 days before ovulation ;) I hope that helps!

Where are you ladies in your cycle ? Do we have anyone waiting to test for pregnancy ?

I'm cd8 and my second line is darkening, not yet peak but I think I'm in fertile window wohoo

@SmileyT yeah I think I will probably start on CD12.. I'll have to start testing earlier this cycle as the soy apparently you can ov from 3-10 days after! Let's see what happens. Definitely want to just catch the key days.

@Northernsoul90 definitely looks like the levels are coming down. Did you ring to ask your levels in the end? X

@MichT4 no judgement here if you got the wine out for breakfast if you got AF!

@Rebecca1992 @Northernsoul90 on Femometer there's an ovulation log and you can choose how you confirmed it and it will change it for you xx

@mrsssk I think its 4-6 weeks after you stop bleeding you are meant to get AF. It took me 8 weeks so it varies quite alot!

@Northernsoul90 I completely agree it's so annoying, I have tried rejigging my cycle days on the apps but nothing is changing it. My OPK was a little lighter this morning (in the high% but not peak like yesterday) and when I imputed that info into the app it changed my ov day to tomorrow rather than it previously being today...its so confusing. "My calendar" app is spot on its just a pity it doesn't read OPKs like the others! 4 apps on the go is mind boggling

Morning (just) ladies!
Update on me, as I don't post daily. Cd25, 7dpo. Very much feeling the Boris Johnson speech right now! After promising myself (and all you lot) that I absolutely WOULD NOT test early, I'm super tempted to do sunday with FRER when I will be 10dpo. Words of encouragement to get me to hang on until Monday, or maybe even Tuesday greatly appreciated 🙏🏼😂
Trying not to symptom spot but at the same time I've had niggly back cramps and an unusually reduced amount of tummy and leg cramps thus far 🧐
Not obsessing though, you understand... 🙈😂

Congrations on your little boy @Hayleylou89 . Lovely news for you.

Great to see your hcg test getting lighter and your LH test getting darker @Northernsoul90 . Not too far away now by the looks of it.

@Dbop100 really sad for you that you got a negative test. I understand the emotion of seeing that negative. I handled my last one really badly so just know that you are not alone ❤️

Really pleased to hear your dd went skipping in to nursery yesterday 🥰 bless her. My girls (my eldest in particular) are really looking forward to getting back on Monday.

How are you @SmileyT , are you still thinking you didn't ovulate this cycle?

@MichT4 look forward to hearing results of your test tomorrow. Fingers tightly crossed for you!!!

Oops, the bit about nursery was for @VP91x 🤯😁

@Dbop100 Ah sorry about the BFN! If it's your first cycle since MC maybe it's for the best that you've seen it through and you can start from scratch when AF arrives! I am CD14 after MC and still uming and ahing about whether to DTD this month! I said earlier that I will if I get a +OPK but not holding out much hope - I never have before and I normally ovulate according to my BBT around now. Though I realise after MC things can be a bit out of sync so I'm still doing the OPKs just in case!

@VP91x thank you I will try to update it now.

@Jazper - you can do it! Wait! Put that FRER money in the baby jar xx

@Jazper hey 🥰 ahhh, well done you for not testing already I'm terrible for being an early tester. 11DPO is a really good middle ground day to test so if you could just try to hold onto then it might give you some strength to keep until 12dpo. But, whatever makes you feel happy!!

Aw that'll be nice for them to go back and give you a bit of a break too! It was a huge relief that she was happy going in xx

@Renna im glad uv started testing and wont miss ur ov day!! Bodies r so strange but its like me id have missed my peak the cycle i fell pg if i didnt test early!
Yeah, Its literally a pin prick in to a tube and then you post it off and get the results in 1-2 days by email its that quick and its 99.1% accurate so pretty accurate really, wouldnt go and buy all blue until its confirmed at 16 weeks though haha x

@Hayleylou89 I was going to say, I've seen some people have had the wrong result!

@vp91x I think I'm just stressing about AF coming back ASAP, don't feel I can "move on" from the MC until it happens but 4-6 weeks after end of bleeding isn't that far away now. I feel a bit more reassured now- thank you 😊

@micht4 tint of wet sounds delightful 😂 mine was similar to what you describe - CM with a tinge of pink. The next day it was a bit redder when I wiped but only when I wiped and then back to pink tinge the next day. It totally disappeared after that. Yours seems the right time line for IB though so got all fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow if you test!

@mrsssk do you think it’ll show up tomorrow if it’s something to do with implantation. It’s just so reminiscent of MC and it worries me already

Thank you @Jazper 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@MichT4 I read implantation bleeding can last 24-48 hours and occurs between 6 to 12DPO. Hopefully the tinge disappears soon for you fx x
Totally get what you mean about reminding you of MC, it's how mine started too but we have to remember the odds of another mc happening are something like 1% x

Im on CD29 which is 1 day late for AF but had a BFN this morning still have slight hope as still no sign of AF even though Ive had what I thought we pms symptoms last week.

Just for added info I had my implant removed end of last month. With my DD I had my implant removed and was pregnant by the next week

Thanks for that @VP91x will take a look at it on the app! No I didn’t ring in the end my hcg seems less again this morning from test so I think I’m just going to wait and see.

@Jazper thank you! I hope this is your month! ✨✨

@Renna that's really interesting about coq10 that could definitely be the culprit, I'm feeling super chilled at the moment and just kinda thinking it will happen at some point now. I'm taking the supps and having sex that is really all we can do 🤷🏾‍♀️ sounds like you are a lot more chilled this cycle hope you become one of the 'I just relaxed and it happened people' 🥰

@Dbop100 @Rb486 yeah I couldn't keep it to myself anyway 😂 OH definitely doesn't obsess the way I do but we kinda agreed I'd test 12dpo and then move onto next cycle. He knew before I did last time I was unexpectedly pregnant and all the months since MC that we've actually been ttc he has said, you're not pregnant so might aswell confirm it, sad but true x

@VP91x yeah give you both a bit of a break from BD before going at it again 🙈 be nice when you can just enjoy it again after ttc without any schedules x

@Jazper wait until at least Monday 👊 it means you won't be stuck with a squinter wondering and you are so much more likely to see a clear result/ do whatever makes you happy 😆 I'm all good, no idea what happened this cycle so just relaxing about it. Won't test will just see if AF turns up next weekend, just hope it doesn't turn into a long cycle x

@HE88 @smileyT yeahh I've been more chilled until this point
Had the relaxed approach until I took these opks expecting to see my peak by latest this morning 🙄 annoying but I'm still CD14 so hopefully I'll see darker lines tonight or tomorrow.

Still a blank circle on clear blue ... done that last few days too and normally I'd have flashing smiley the few days before ovualtion .
I kinda think clear blue do that on purpose as I didnt start testing when it said to i only statted using them couple days ago and I reckon it's not deciphering between a low and high estrogen level and every month I've done clear blue as instructed its had a few days flashing smileys ... the one month I dont test as it tells me to and I only do a couple days before/of expected ovualtion I get no flashing smileys. Gonna mainly go by my cheapies until I get a peak on them then take the clear blue one
So I'd like to say I've been chilled and relaxed this cycle and hopefully that helps but not feeling it so much today.... 🙄 xxxx
@hayleylou89 aw so good and plenty of time to get your head around a cute little boy xxxx

@Renna yeah I wouldn't bother with CB if you don't start early as they don't carry info from cycle to cycle so it will always class first test in cycle as baseline so if it doesn't see a rise from that it will keep you at blank circle ⭕️ that is what happened to me first 3 months. The only way I got flashing was if it was early so seemed pointless as I knew when it was coming anyway 😂 stay relaxed it's the best way to be. I've decided that I'll get pregnant in August, no idea why but that will put me at 18weeks when I go on holiday which would be perfect 👌🏾

@Hayleylou89 hi, btw could you maybe share your ttc journey ? It is good to hear success story😘

@SmileyT how weird that he knows? Maybe he will know again when your pregnant again. Is he psychic? Can we have readings? Lol. My male gay friend said to me last time your pregnant, I think you need to take a test. And he was correct. What’s harder now is my best friend just found out she’s pregnant, so I’m also having to support her through her first pregnancy after just loosing mine in April. I’m off to work tonight so I’m hoping that will take my mind of this whole saga. Xx

Just out of interest, has anyone also tried sperm meets egg plan? Xx

@Rb486 this was my first month doing SMEP and it's really stressed my husband out. I wish I didn't tell him the plan. I should've just secretly done it but enticed him to DTD without telling him when we were going to do it. He completely lost the plot this morning when I came in and declared we had to DTD as I had +OPK. Can't peak for its success yet though.

Thanks everyone. I'm actually very upset now after everything he said. I felt much less stressed this month even with doing OPKs and tracking my cycle and doing SMEP. I didn't feel like I was putting pressure on him and was actually enjoying how much we were enjoying DTD. For a while in our TTC journey it felt so stiff and compulsory, and now I thought we were enjoying it but clearly he doesn't feel that way. He said a lot of hurtful things this morning but spent the next 2 hours trying to apologise. This whole journey has really taken its toll on us 😞

@Rb486 tbf I kept saying our whole holiday my period is going to show up any minute but because we were actively trying to avoid I just thought, oh it's late, no big deal. But my boobs were really sore and I was exhausted now I'm ttc I'm sure I'd notice quicker 😂 my friends due date was Wednesday and I can't wait for her to give birth so excited to meet little man but sad I'll no longer have mat leave with her 😭 and yeah work can definitely be a welcome distraction x

And I've been doing SMEP last few cycles. I think it's great for covering your bases if you don't know when you ovulate or don't want to do everyday in fertile week 👌🏾

@chloedancer897 ahh I'm so sorry that it feels like this, you've been doing this a long time it is bound to take its toll on even the strongest couples. Sending you lots of love xx

@chloedancer897 well at least he’s recognised he could have handled things in a better way and shouldn’t have snapped the way he did. I guess just brush things under the carpet? Have make up sex? 😜 I’m sure you can squeeze in the time. I feel excited to do SMEP this month as it will be my first one but I doubt I/we will enjoy it so much if we have to do it for month on end. But we’ll go with it this month. I’m not telling him what I’m doing but atm he doesn’t really ever turn it down. Last week I was too tired after work and he said this could be the turn 😂 trying to sway my decision, haha! How long have you been ttc? I beleive it has a fairly high success rate so fingers crossed this is your month 😍 xx