TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies,

New thread - currently CD17 (cycle #3) still waiting for peak OPK.

I hopefully have tagged everyone -

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4
WellHurrahAndHuzzah
@ManchNic
@Jazper
@Dizzy201
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@1990EM
@Chickoletta
@Tink20058
@sunflower96
@Meomeomeo
@chloedancer897
@Niisa
@Bellabubble
@Sallyjo27
@Ejb86
@Wishingfornumber2
@anaconda76
@AR52
@DontStandSoClose
@Donnat89
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@NightDreaming
@Saim86

If anyone else would like to join please do❤️

@MichT4 thank youfor responding so quickly. I am getting lots of love, my house looks like a florists currently which is lovely albeit a current reminder. My work have also been amazing. I dont think i was prepared for such an emotional journey. Hubbie and I have booked a weekend away at the end of July so hopeful aunt flora will have been by then and we can look at starting again. I feel like i need to be pregnant before I reach the milestones of what would be potential due dates or else it will just be harder somehow. However that is now even more pressure. Sorry for the total negative post xx

@busby85 no more apologising allowed.
How lovely having something booked, I think it’ll do you both a world of good.
It’s hard with milestones, I’m the same with my due date. Have it in mind, but don’t put pressure on yourself. I’m sure it’ll happen quicker and you’ll be PG again before those dates. I have my fingers crossed for you xx

@busby85 Hello, I am so sorry for your mc and please don’t apologise! My mc was also recent - 2 weeks ago I had mva procedure and I am ashamed to admit I cried this morning when a colleague posted she had given birth yesterday and I just felt awful. I wasn’t sad that she had her baby it was just another reminder for me, you then feel guilty though it’s so hard. I can also totally relate to the milestone thing... I feel like if I’m not pregnant by the time my sister has her baby in September I will be a wreck. It’s added pressure all the time. Try and keep positive and when you feel ready focusing on AF and new cycles has helped me. It’s also lovely that you have something booked to look forward to I might do something similar and have a weekend away! I’m currently waiting to get my negative test and just wanting my cycle back at the minute so I can ttc again. I’ve found it really helpful being on this forum and the ladies are all so lovely and supportive. Fingers crossed for you that all goes well with your scan xxxx

@Northernsoul90 @MichT4 @chloedancer897 thank you for your kind words. Xx

@Northernsoul90 i am sorry for your recent loss also. It really is so tough! 1 reason I love this group is everyone understands, 1 thing I have noticed is that noone talks about mc its like a complete taboo subject that makes people automatically uncomfortable. I find it so strange. Fingers crossed your cycle gets back to normal asap so you can get straight back to it xx

Thanks @busby85 it is so strange! To say it’s such a common thing as well I don’t actually know anybody personally who has been through it so it’s nice to have somewhere like this to talk to other women who are going through the same thing xxx

@busby85 like the other ladies said, please don't apologise and I'm so incredibly sorry that you have had another miscarriage. My heart breaks for you. It is so hard when your friends just don't understand. None of mine are trying or have ever had a MC and they just would never get it. It's definitely not spoken about enough either. It's lovely that you have got so many nice flowers but must be upsetting too. Im glad you have your trip to look forward at least it will give you some proper time away with your OH. Sending you lots of hugs xx

@chloedancer897 I think so, maybe. He actually initiated having sex soon after he got in from work where normally its me that does. So I found it odd when he just went off like that. I suppose they do notice more than we give them credit for. Hopefully it works this month 🤞 how are you feeling xx

@VP91x I feel a bit better today. I'm just planning the next cycle but not going to symptom spot or test early. I'm trying not to stress myself too much.

Ladies

I just want to share some stories I found online on late BFPs ;)

If you were only using OPKs and not temping to confirm OV, OVday is 2 days after your first +. you can also OV up to 5 days past a + OPK or not at all. Implantation occurs from 6 to 12dpo but can be even 5-14 dpo and then you need still 2-5 days for hcg to rise. So Implanation can happen quite late and then indeed your bfp would be late.so I think this is positive information. I was thinking well if 12dpo is negative I'm out. But reading that I will just wait for AF and test if I'm late especially that my cycle including MC might be just weird.

@busby85 I'm sorry to hear your story !! Don't feel bad about feeling certain way. I definitely have got some time feeling sour about new pregnancy announcements in my surrounding while I have just gone through two MCs. I had one Mc in March at around 9 weeks and Mc in May around 5 weeks. I'm ttc #1. You are not alone ! I also have seen news on US celebrity yesterday, they have got 5 kids but also went through 5 miscarriages over 9 years. I'm sorry for them but I'm also glad they are spreading awareness ! Because many couples do no share and we don't know it is so common. And I'm also glad to be part of this group of amazing women who support each other in this difficult time but also good time, when we see success stories. We are here together and can support each other❤️

@HopeForRainbowbaby Thanks for sharing the information, I am trying to do what you're doing too and wait for AF / only test if I am late. It is nerve wracking as I so desperately want to be pregnant.

@busby85 don't feel bad at all! I'm sure all of us on here have felt awful hearing others' happy news and it's only because we are waiting for our little ones too. I'm so sorry that you have found yourself here but we are all more than happy to support, be there for each other and pick one another up when someone needs a helping hand x

@MichT4 IKEA was fab! Nice to do something normal.

@chloedancer897 I'm glad you are feeling better, yeah do what ever makes you feel the least stress, the months are so consuming xxx

@HopeForRainbowbaby thanks for sharing that. It's so difficult when we expect things to happen at certain times so look for all the signs. I think they also say that you won't necessarily get symptoms (if any) until after implantation, so really we shouldn't symptom spot either. Hard though 😂
I'm the same, planning to wait until AF is due - or late if I can hold out. We'll see though. I'm a sucker for convincing myself and I have tests to hand....

@VP91x ooh was it? Successful shopping trip? I just went and bought Becodefence nasal spray - as exciting as my shopping gets today. Oh and foot masks and bath salts. Plan for some relaxation in this TWW.

@busby85 welcome and sorry about your loss. Feel free to vent here anytime. This thread is so helpful. I hope you find some hand holding here x

Yea I’m going to wait until AF arrives. She should be here by the latest tomorrow. I’m surprised she’s not here already. Dh finally got a day off work so going to have a Father’s Day drink with me tonight and a movie. @HopeForRainbowbaby that good to know maybe I can hold onto a bit of hope

@chloedancer897 glad ur feeling better. Yea I won’t be telling her until af arrives

@vp91x it’s good he opened up a bit. My Dh told me the other night he also felt pressured with all the testing and fertile window and needing to DTD. So I’m gonna have to try and not make him feel like that

@HopeForRainbowbaby
Thanks so Much for sharing, really useful! It makes total sense, I think I’d just seen a lot of positives on here around the 9DPO mark do assumes I’d see the same 🤦🏻‍♀️

@MichT4 yeah got some bedding for the little ones bed. IKEA beds always need their own bedding don't they 🙄 and a couple of ceiling lights I've been meaning to replace and candles/fake plants the usual stuff you end up buying, haha.

@2020wish yeah, I'll have to think of a way of not making it obvious Im testing etc if I need to next month. How many calc flour tabs do we take? I've had two today x

I was taking 2 in morning and 2 at night.

I tried last month not telling my Dh at all to help take pressure of him then he was the one asking me when our fertile window was. Sometimes I just think they like a good moan when they are feeling stressed lol

@VP91x I've been taking the same as @2020wish - when I remember!

That-s what I want to go for - fake plants. Though I will no doubt end up with a load of other stuff to go with it

Oh and @VP91x my basket arrived today. Met with ‘what’s that for?’ from OH 😂😂

@2020wish ah perfect, thank you. Haha, yeah I bet if I didnt say anything at all, he would be like soooo what's going on? 🙄

@MichT4 😂😂 I bought a basket today too. Love them. You always find something to organise into it!

@MichT4 oh you'll be pleased to know my CM has finally dried up, nothing to be jealous of anymore 😂😂 no more of that tingy blood streak either 🤷

@VP91x 😂😂 now I’m just jealous of your fake plants

Just catching up after work...

@VP91x ahh I'm sorry about yesterday I had the same thing last month and it's so frustrating but just remember it only needs one time and you've done more than that. Glad that you had a chat and made up and Really hoping this is your month 🤞 which ikea did you go to? Buy anything nice? x

@MichT4 I had a call with my manager at 10.30 today which put me in a bad mood for the whole day hope yours got better x

@Niisa how are you getting on? Hope the hormonal teenagers were too much agg on a Monday morning x

@2020wish sorry it was a BFN this morning, will you wait for AF before telling your daughter. Sending you lots of virtual hugs x

@busby85 i am so sorry to hear this news and that you are going through this again, there really are no words to help but sending you so much love and come on here to vent whenever you need to xx

Update from me I'm CD10, day 3 of flashing smily faces 🙄 my temps have been all over the place this month and FF has marked today as a fertile day, but not sure why 🤔

@SmileyT the one in Edmonton/Tottenham whatever they class it as these days, haha. By Meridian Water station. Was surprised there was no queue at all. Some ceiling lights, artificial plants, baskets, candles etc! Love an IKEA haul. I know I was so upset last night/this morning, but what can you do, he explained a bit. I'm assuming we will talk more later. How comes you had a bad day? Maybe some wine/tipple of choice and nice food?

4 days until ovulation day right? Will you start DTD now? Did you have the three higher temps? I'm sure it will adjust itself. I've decided Femometer is crazy 😂 xx

@VP91x the ikea haul sound great 👍I could probably do an hour long haul of things bought via amazon 😂

@SmileyT I agree with @VP91x maybe some nice wine and good food ( or fast food) can cheer you up 😘