TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies,

New thread - currently CD17 (cycle #3) still waiting for peak OPK.

I hopefully have tagged everyone -

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4
WellHurrahAndHuzzah
@ManchNic
@Jazper
@Dizzy201
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@1990EM
@Chickoletta
@Tink20058
@sunflower96
@Meomeomeo
@chloedancer897
@Niisa
@Bellabubble
@Sallyjo27
@Ejb86
@Wishingfornumber2
@anaconda76
@AR52
@DontStandSoClose
@Donnat89
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@NightDreaming
@Saim86

If anyone else would like to join please do❤️

@VP91x Haha thought that might've been where you went that's exactly where I live, I'm a 4min walk from meridian water station, yeah that IKEA has actually been pretty quiet even the Tesco has no queues anymore most of the time. My boss is just an idiot sometimes and winds me up as she treats us all like children and can be so patronising (she is currently ttc so hope she isn't on these threads 😂). But all good now I'm home and will be having a chilled one with some snacks and maybe a Gin ✌🏾

Yeah my temps have risen last 3 days but I'm expecting ovulation on Friday or Saturday and actually had a little bit of EWCM today and had this 4 days before ovulation last month so makes sense 👌🏾 we've DTD the last two days, will have a day off today and will go again in the morning and take it from there.

I'm sure you'll sort it out with DH this whole process can be so stressful for all so don't be too hard on yourself or him (although I'll be losing my shit in a few days when this happens to me 😂)

@HopeForRainbowbaby ooh I could so do with a takeaway, might float this idea with OH 😋

@SmileyT it did get better, I barely heard from him 😂. I don’t know if he was in a bad mood because I challenged him, but I do that all the time so it shouldn’t have made a difference 🤣. Man hormones 🙄

Hate when that happens early on though and then you’re just not in a good mood, especially for work.

Definitely agree on the gin and a tasty take away 😋

@SmileyT ahh amazing, handy now they built Meridian Water! Something in between going to Tottenham Hale. I thought it was going to be busy, fully went expecting to just turn around again 😂

Ahh I hate that! When people are patronising is is the worst. Makes me rage. The thing that is annoying about temping this week is it's going to be boiling and so naturally we might have slightly elevated temps at night. Upstairs in my house it gets so hot! It sounds like everything is on track for your ovulation though which is fab.

I need to order my FRERs after the weekend 😂! So weird though because my LP was 11 days last cycle. Technically 10 dpo is early to test but then AF would be due a couple of days later 🤷 xx

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind if I join? I think I'm having my first period after a mmc (not 100 percent as had complications and never fully stopped bleeding)

Wishing you all success in this emotionap journey! X

Hey ladies xx hope you're all getting on okay xx any one have it where you're on like CD 4 and you think AF is finished as no bleeding for like nearly 25 hours then you exercise, I just did a HIIT workout and some weights, then you start bleeding a little bit again . Like exercise brings on bleeding a little bit around AF ? XX

@renna almost every cycle, I dry up, then get a little bit more couple of days later. Can be brought on by anything really.

9dpo tomorrow. LP last month was 9 days, but ovulated late on day 24. This month I ovulated on day 16 so expecting AF any day. I keep having the odd twinge but trying not to read too much into it. Thought I'd probably test Friday when I'm 12dpo and cd28, if AF hasn't arrived by then.

@Emsnewmum welcome! I'm sorry you found yourself her. How do you feel? ❤️

@MichT4 haha man hormones is definitely a thing 😂

@VP91x yeah we moved here in November and they opened it like a month later so convenient as can get to Liverpool Street in like 20mins with a fast train 👌🏾 I was also wondering if the heat would make a difference but hoping I still see a post ov temp rise. What date are you testing? I've never used a FRER feel like I'm not a proper MNer if I don't get one at some point 😂

Welcome @Emsnewmum sorry for your loss, hope this is your period and you can reset and start again when you're ready xx

@Renna I seem to have a day off and then a last bit of bleeding since my MC but never had it before and it's not really brought on by exercise just seems to happen no idea why 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Ejb86 fingers crossed for testing on Friday or at least a nice long LP this month x

@mrsssk I never used to get spotting before AF until after my mc - this was the first one where I had just half a day, then AF - although weirdly that was only 3days - I’m usually a 5 day. Hormones have a lot to answer for!! I have my fingers crossed for IB for you though!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@VP91x I’m soooo jealous of your Ikea trip - my nearest one is an hour away and the stuff I reeeeaaaallly want for the house is in stock there but apparently not available for home delivery. It’s only some small shelves :( Also - my oh had a moment last month, he was really struggling to finish the deed, although he was trying not to let on. I’m not going to tell him too much this month, but also - the time I fell pg we only did it once that month, and it was the mornjng after nc said I had ovulated - when apparently it’s like a 10% chance (why the hell I can’t seem to make it work now I have no idea!) so even doing it the day after isn’t a waste :) xx

@Emsnewmum welcome! So sorry that you've suffered a loss. I hope the complications weren't too bad? Are you tracking or anything this cycle?

@Ejb86 oooh maybe your LP is lengthening too? I have everything crossed for you cycle buddy xx

@SmileyT yeah, it's nice and quick isn't it? When I lived with my parents I would jump on at Ponders End, easy peasy. Are you in a new build? 10dpo will be 2nd July. Seems like ages doesn't it🙄

😂😂 I still have an early CB manual and digi from last months packs and obvi the 40000 cheapie femometer strips.

@Bellabubble ahh which one is your nearest? You should go if you get the chance make a day of it 😂 Ahh, a few of us have had this with our partners. So weird how it just gets in their head. I suppose we don't have to orgasm to get pregnant whereas they literally have to finish so would be off putting. Sigh, men xx

@emsnewmum hope you're feeling ok, it's an emotionally tough time but I've found focusing on looking after myself health wise is helping. How far along were you? X

@Bellabubble that's my worry that now hormones have messed me about and I'll start getting spotting before AF and every time wonder if it's AF or IB 🤦🏽‍♀️

@VP91x and @SmileyT IKEA Edmonton is my local as well. I'm a few mins drive away in Redbridge! I went the other day, straight in with no queue and it's small enough that I'm not in there for days. Still managed to buy a load of crap I don't need though 🤷🏽‍♀️

Morning ladies, 1DPO not feeling massively hopeful though seeing as the last time we DTD was the first day of peak two days ago, but what's done is done! Maybe all the stars will align and those swimmers held on for dear life in my tubes 😂

@mrsssk ah you are nearby too! I know you alwaaays end up buying loads in IKEA. No self control, haha xx

Morning ladies, I've decided to stop this month as I'm CD16 with no signs of ovulation which is late for me, DPs back is in pieces he is asleep most of the day with his tablets and when he is awake he is in so much pain. We have tried but it hasn't worked out and he says he is now feeling so pressured by it all so I'm going to leave it this month in the hope that he can recuperate for next month. I'm also going to start dtd later next month as I think I burnt him out by starting too early this month, fingers crossed for more BFPs this month, I'll be cracking open the gin later x

Morning ladies

@VP91x yay you had your temp rise then?
Funny you should say as now I’ve had a few days of higher temps, one app has me as ovulating Friday, which is what I thought, but now another has Saturday. Saturday is the only damn day we didn’t DTD so now I’m worrying too 😂. Plus my temp came down slightly and so now I’m thinking should it keep going up?

My sister text last night asking how I was which I thought was really sweet, but I dunno I then felt some level of judgement when I told her it’s hard to forget where we should have been (would have been 20 weeks now!). So now I feel a bit stupid about it all 😢. I didn’t want special treatment, but as she’s sailing through her PG, I thought she might just be a bit more sympathetic. Sorry - early morning brain dump xx

@MichT4 yeah I went from 35.96 to 36.21 which is the same last month when I got my temp rise and then tomorrow should rise more 🤞

What does your chart look like now? It fluctuates a little bit within the higher range so that should be fine.

Oh no😩 what did she say to you when you said it? Xx

@VP91x oh it only came down 0.07 degrees so it’s still high, so worrying over nothing most likely. I generally feel quite positive that this month was covered well, so now just got to hope one of those little swimmers was patient and made its way in! 🤞🏼

When I said that she just said that she could see why that’s hard but I have to look forward. That doesn’t sound bad I know but it’s not that easy. Of course I’m looking forward but you don’t forget either. I also told her I had been worried that it wouldn’t happen and she just was asking why as if I’m stupid and that I’m stressing myself out which will mean it won’t happen. I dunno, I’m probably being unfair. OH reckons maybe she feels really guilty so is seeing how I am but also really wants me to be ok so that she feels less bad (and obvs because she wants me to be ok - I hope!).

@Dipsy77 it sounds like that might be a good call for you two. Definitely doesn’t help with OH’s back - will just add to the pressure. It will probably do you good too. Do you feel ok about it? You sound fairly positive about it, which is good xx

Morning ladies been lurking for those bfps and hoping to see some for u ladies vvvv soon 🙏
Hope ur all ok!! Iv got my booking in app at 9am just going on a little power walk this morning before i head the hospital on my own as the hubby cnt come so told him not much point taking the morning off work if he has to sit outside the hospital and wait. Hopefully things change in soon with that. I know @renna is just finishing AF... how r u @2020wish?
And also @VP91x @MichT4 @SmileyT @Bellabubble @HopeForRainbowbaby @Ejb86 @Diorissimo1985 @Niisa hope ur all doing ok ladies and everyone else in this lovely thread. X x x

@MichT4 I spent yesterday really down and upset about it I had a cry but then thought I can't really do anything about it so just pulled myself back up again. My due date is creeping up not helped that it's on DDs first birthday, it's September and I thought I'd be pregnant by now so hopefully a bit of a break may help us get that BFP, I may stop using OPKs and cut back on the many supplements I'm taking and just try the laid back approach x

@MichT4 I don't know how to word this properly, but sometimes people just need to say. Do you know what this is a shit situation and I'm sorry you're going through this instead of being like its hard but, or if you just don't think about it.. Obviously the positivity is nice but not always. Sometimes the validating of the fact that it's just shit is all you need.

No idea if that makes sense, haha xx
Oh no don't worry about teeny drops like that x

@Hayleylou89 aw amazing hun, hope it all goes well. Good that they are doing them in person too! How are you feeling xx

@Dipsy77 oh I'm really sorry such a frustrating situation! What did your partner do to his back? I can see why you're so upset. Hopefully this time your partners back can get better and you re set a little. Sending you lots of love xx

@VP91x exactly!! I totally get what you mean. Anyway, I’m just going to carry on doing my thing. Somehow things like that put the pressure on even more because she gets to be going through it and I don’t want the pressure. So I’ll leave that vent behind me now 😂 thank you for being my ears.

@Hayleylou89 that’s exciting. Is it a scan again or is a booking appt something else? Let us know how it goes.
And all fine thanks, just in the TWW hoping some obvious symptom comes and smacks me in the face.

@Dipsy77 you still have time to catch by September, and maybe a month off will be just what you need. Take this month as it comes, you might want to DTD a few times and you never know....always keep the hope xx

@VP91x he's always had issues with his back but it's usually manageable but he can get episodes where he basically can't move and can sometimes last a few months and it's not helped by physio appointments only been on the telephone I'm just hoping the break helps xx

@VP91 @MichT4

I know i was suprised it was in person as the other girls in the group had all theirs over the phone. Im feeling fine minus the nausea but Its on and off iv had absolutely no cramping this time which is worrying me but then having the nausea seems to reassure me.

@MichT4 the booking in appt is just a boring medical history appt take about 45 mins and they ask you if u want to opt into the screening tests etc so no scan today. Im booked in a week today for a second scan at the hosp, ill be 9 weeks then. (Times absolutely dragging) ill be honest 🙄 glad ur both well, ill keep checkin in on ur tww👌🏼 xx

@VP91x ahh I love a good ikea trip! That’s good you didn’t have to wait long to get in. I live about 10 mins away from one and was so handy when I moved into a new house. As the other ladies have said, it just takes one swimmer to get there and you have covered yourself well so please don’t loose hope.

So after not getting a static smiley this month I have still gone with the fact that I did ovulate. Going on past cycles I thought I would be about 9/10 days PO. I’m CD31 today and AF usually shows today but no sign yet so I took a test this morning and was BFN. The rational side of me knew it would be but I had a glimmer of hope that I would see that line! I even had a dream last night that I took a test and it was positive. Every month I also say I won’t symptom spot but I do! Have had cramps on and off the last 5 days and I only usually get them about a day or so before AF, sore boobs and yesterday I was so tired I went to bed earlyish which isn’t like me. But I know that can all be linked to AF too. I also had really bad leg cramp the other night and obviously google came up with that being a pregnancy symptom too 🙄. Oh well I guess I will just wait for AF to show now. Haven’t been temping so still just a guessing game.

Hope your booking in app goes ok @Hayleylou89, that’s good you can be seen in person. X