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18 BFPs in June so far who will be next!?

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Not added anyone that I don’t have dates for but I’ve not forgotten you just let me know when you know you ovulate/ know your test dates ☺️

Girls I need help 🤦‍♀️

Stood up out of bed this morning and TMI a massive gush of blood came out. Ran to the toilet and whole pad was soaked through and a huge pool of blood just balancing on it. Very very heavy. I dont usually have af like this. Lots of wee clots too.

Is this normal cos I'm late? Or u think maybe I've had a chemical and inly coming away now? Especially after those 3 light positive frer?

I absolutely panicked at how much was there and had to wash all myself if u know what i mean cos it was everywhere!

@catherinettc that sounds like a chemical, especially if you had positive FRERs :(

@Juno231 yeah thats what I'm swaying towards 😪

This ttc malarkey is a nightmare lol xx

So guys whose the seed cycle expert on here? What do you eat them with etc? I want to know everything. I'm really into eating well so this is right up my street

@Minster2012 oh man that drink 🤢😂😂 whatever it takes huh?!
And the corkscrew instructions I found very confusing - I'm thinking I should look it up online for visual instructions 😉

@Cocoblue22 blowing and breathing on you in the pub aahahaha the image of that made me proper lol!
Also your description of your argument with OH honesty could have been written by me, totally understand your being upset, and also the lying in bed wide awake while OH snores happily next to you 😤

@Missgoldilocks DS1 took technically no time because we were just not not trying, then DS2 was 6 months, and this time we got preg cycle 3 but had MC at 11 wks in Feb, and this is cycle 3 after that.
I've had terminations and other miscarriages too, and both DSs were very prem, so while I'm quite fertile I am not good at incubating! I know it's been a long road TTC this time for you and I'm sooo hoping this is your month 🤞🏼

@lucyrp omg nipple orgasms are the best! So on occasion OH will give me a candle lit massage where I sit in front of him on the bed, then after a half hour or so when I'm super relaxed he'll inevitably roam his hands towards my chest and start on the nipples etc etc. I am literally just lying there doing nothing at all, but the orgasm from it is INTENSE, and OH thinks he's some sort of nipple god 😂

@Mococo1 completely understand needing some time away 💗 so sorry for what you've been through these last weeks, but onwards and upwards to the next cycle 💪🏼

@Catherinettc oh no! That sounds scary! The months that I've had a cycle even just a few days longer than usual my periods have been noticeably heavier. Or if I have a short cycle they are lighter. So based only on my own experience I wonder if your body has just had so much longer to build a lining that it is now shedding at a rate of knots? I'm sure that doesn't help to make you feel better though. I'd suggest talking to your gp if you continue bleeding at the rate for more than a couple of days, or if you feel unwell.

@Catherinettc that sounds awful sorry you've had to deal with that this morning does sound like a CP from what some of the other girls have said x

@Minster2012 thanks for the recommendation 😉 Although not the easiest due to bed height....I think you should test a new one out each day and send us a daily challenge to try since you've started this game now! X

I was going to put together a cheat sheet of what to eat and when so all post what you know and I'll put it all together then share it? Eh when and what ass fruit juice etc are for? Xx

@Catherinettc yes i would say if you had a clot a chemical is very likely especially after your tests ☹️xx

@skip thank god it's not just me....DH is great and we don't argue as such but occasionally have a difference of opinions or one of us says something that annoys the other but I think that's pretty normal it's the first time he's pissed me off since lock down so not doing badly and we're all good now he's apologised. I'm a megga worrier and over thinker so I can never just switch off but DH can and just goes to sleep and that infuriates me! I'd rather just have it out and get on with it. And yeah that guy was a creep! Needless to say he didn't get a second date 🤣x

Nipple massage.....what is this witchcraft?!? X

@Skip86 literally never had it before in my life but all i know is i want more 😂 probably pushing my luck if i'm wanting another one tonight 😂xx

@Minster2012 I'm defo up for going in now. I need that physical distinction between work and home again. Healthy lunch I see too! When do you get blood results bk?

Good mantra @Maybe333 you'll def stick to the no symptom spotting if you write in your app the days you experienced xyz and then you'll know you had it the month before and it meant nothing etc. Not testing early is doable, esp if you get OH to hide any tests and you tell him your due date. It's just the relaxing bit which is hard! Esp if you get high progesterone like me and just go loopy lol!

Aww bless your brother @SmileyT 
Welcome back @Mococo1 hope you're ok now.
Wow @lucyrp that's impressive! I'm hard work according to my husband 😂
@Missgoldilocks yep praying for that bfp now, I'm pretty bored of the whole thing now lol! How long have you two been ttc then?
What a good reason to be late @Franklydear, love it!!

Hi ladies, started the month off all revved up wanting to throw everything at it this month, got half way thru and thought what the hell am I doing, TTC is consuming my every thought and I'm forgetting just to live and have fun! So took a step back from it all to chill and it's been far better!
I was still causally tracking things tho incase we eventually need to go to the docs for help. I just wasn't reading too much into the info instead we've just been having sex when we feel like it not because a chart tells us we have to. Even missed out on sex on a few days marked as high fertile days and didn't even feel bad about it, think I would have cried about that previously!

What I wanted to come on and say is perhaps the old just relax and have sex regularly throughout your cycle advice is actually the best method after all as some of you may be missing your fertile days if you're following one thing to tell you when your fertile window is. I had such a rangers, got my static smiley on CB, didn't get a peak on the sticks till 2 days after that and didn't get any EWM until another 2 days after that again! No idea which method was the most accurate but if I was only relying on having sex around the results of one I could be totally off with my timing. Also put the same data into 3 different apps and all 3 put a completely different day down for ovulation and diff fertile periods so if I were just following one I could be completely off and havign sex on the wrong days! So I'm now definitely just going with the more relaxed approach of just having regular sex throughout my cycle whenever I feel like it method and hope for the best. Just thought I'd highlight it incase some people are just relying on one thing eg. Only CBs to tell them when they're about to ovulate and basing all the sex around that when it could be a few days out.

@Cocoblue22 cheat sheet sounds good definitely! I like the idea of a new position a day, though we might have to "pass the baton" around us to get new ideas I think that's a fab idea!

@Catherinettc sounds pretty scary stuff and I agree I think chemical but def call or see your docs if the bleeding stays heavy & clotting see what they say. But also I know it's maybe hard to say nicely but my last AF was a long one & im hoping it's a good clear off ready for new nesting!

I'm gonna try get DH onto the nipple orgasms then like @lucyrp & @missgoldilocks he always forgets them & I often thrust them at him like "er hello don't forget these need attention too!" (Or I'll twiddle them myself)

@Busybee I'm no expert on seed cycling but a few of us are doing it & it's ground flaxseed/linseed & ideally ground pumpkin seeds prior to ovulation which a lot of us do the flaxseed on porridge (you can buy it at Aldi or other places, it's also called linseed) & then I have the other seeds in smoothies usually with the pineapple juice, mango & other fruits or pomegranate juice, apple, dates, celery, spinach/kale seeds & water or ground on a salad so I get added leafy veg benefits! They taste ok not amazing! If you want particular recipes there are seed cycling recipes.

Very wise words @DKDK123 🙌🏼🙌🏼 I haven't been tracking or anything else this cycle and definitely feel better for it. I hope the new relaxed approach works for you soon x

On it with the list ladies - got the before seeds please send more info on what to eat and when can't remember pineapple pomegranate and ass fruit juice and post ov seeds x

Thanks @Skip86 hope the relaxed approach works for you too, I dont think you realise just how consumed with ttc your life can be till you stop and start just focusing on life again. Felt like such a weight was lifted :)

@Minster2012 I have small breasts and I don't really like them because they're saggy from losing a lot of weight though I feel they have always been oddly shaped from teenage years so it's pretty annoying when he forgets them or just like touches them but I'm more for mouth on them he's shit with his hands I'm starting to get well annoyed these days lmao even the bloody going down on me business it's like.. Did you only watch shit porn or something? I stick by saying he's only had 10 women his entire life time... While I on the other hand..
😂😂😂😂😉

@notyetamumbuttrying we've been trying officially 11 months but I took my coil out in April last year, then in August we started actively trying.

@Skip86 I hear you, I've had terminations too. 2 after my son, a world away now but very very difficult circumstances, the last one I tried to have even though it wasn't the right circumstances but I was so depressed it was unreal and they both happened instantly!! Fuck my life but anyway, I managed to change my life around once it was done, lost 9 stone and just left the weight and that shitty life behind. I think that's what makes the trying now so hard lol my partner is like "gods time" and I'm like... Listen mate I had things happen when the time most certainly wasn't right so don't feed me that bull. Now I have everything to give and it hasn't happened yet! Fingers and toes crossed that it'll happen soon 😬🤞🤞 so I can stop guilting myself about the past!

@DKDK123 I wish I could do that but I have a very obsessive personality. I think you're right though, if someone has issues with getting their peaks they should dtd throughout their cycle. My cycles are bang on so luckily I ovulate the same day every cycle so I know when to. Have sex.
But I just can't relax 😂 I was super relaxed in the beginning so I think I work backwards

@Missgoldilocks @Minster2012 my OH has literally been with me and 2 others and i was his first 🙈🙈🙈 my boobs are the same they went so gross after breast feeding DS but they're back now 🥰

I've just caught up but honestly I'm so tired today that I've forgotten half of it already! @Catherinettc you poor thing you are not having it easy. Definitely ring your doctor if you are worried.

After a peak yesterday morning and lighter lines since I think I am eventually in the tww after a later than usual ovulation. In an effort to be more chill this cycle I'm going to try not to obsess and might be a bit mia here while I try to get on with life and not live one dpo at a time! @SmileyT seen as I ovulated later than expected af now not due until 4th July 😉

@missgoldilocks amazing about the weight loss 🙌🏻that's fab, & there's no need to guilt the past, different times & different circumstances are so tough. It will happen. I'm like you I want to try & track & do all I can but I'm so rubbish with the OPKs & clear blue clearly hate me! Get him on those tits! That made me LOL!

That's so nice you were together as his first now again @lucyrp so romantic, except we are talking dirty shagging positions now so maybe less romantic 😹

@Notyetamumbuttrying I don't know when the blood results & as I was driving away I kicked myself for not asking how & when I will get them back 🤦🏼‍♀️doh!

@Katao & @smileyT I think I'm due AF 5th July as well, so v similar. I might test 2nd or 3rd or something. Pretty keen to POAS tbh I want my weeing turn 😂that's so sad!

I think I am now also officially in the TWW, either 1, 2 or 3DPO - not really sure 😂 going to go with 1DPO to avoid me testing too early. Had completely white OPKs since last night but going to continue testing a couple of times a day just in case.

@Minster2012 and @Ltay2 we have all been in the same boat the last few days with confusion over ovulation but sounds like we are sorted now and it will be nice to have testing buddies 😁

@Ltay2 I'm going to keep testing oncea day for a couple of days as well to be sure but counting myself as 1dpo too.

9 dpo trying my hardest not to symptom spot even tho I do find myself doing it without realising 🙈or test too early according to my apps AF is due sometime between today and Saturday 🙈 so think I will hold out at least till Wednesday but try holding on till the weekend (easier said than done when you have tests waiting for you to pee on 🤣🙈)

@Minster2012 i know it is pretty cute ain't it 😏 if you'd have told me back then i'd be with him now i wouldn't have believed you but here we are 🥰🥰🥰 i mean the shagging positions are very important!