Venga Bus is back (Bus 8)

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Big congrats to our girl @Sydgal22 🥳
18 BFPs in June so far who will be next!?

@noble89 - June 15th
@ss123456 - June 15th
@mich2020 - June 17th
@newbie9 - June 17th
@LV1987 - June 17th
@peanutbutterbrownies - June 18th
@sweetshop2020 - June 20th
@newbie0818 - June 20th
@chloedancer897 - June 20th
@Jodi3 - June 20th
@dontgojasonwaterfalls - June 21st
@maybe333 - June 22nd
@marshmallow123 - June 26th
@madz27 - June 27th
@skip86 - June 28th
@missgoldilocks - June 28th
@katao - June 30th
@vp91x - June 30th
@lucyrp - July 1st
@sausage1990 - July 1st
@lucie91 - July 2nd
@dipsy77 -July 3rd
@dkdk123 - July 4th
@amy00 - July 5th
@ltay2 - July 5th
@minster2012 - July 5th
@vil10 - July 6th
@franklydear - July 6th
@justmouse - July 7th
@blodyn91 - July 7th
@cocoblue22 - July 7th
@smileyT - July 8th
@jazper - July 8th
@littleRa - July 10th
@2020mission - July 15th
@DB20 - July 17th
@sarahttc2020 - July 21st

Not added anyone that I don’t have dates for but I’ve not forgotten you just let me know when you know you ovulate/ know your test dates ☺️

@SmileyT hahahhaa omg this is me!! When it asks symptoms I start groping my boobs and pressing my stomach to see if I have cramps or sore boobs😂

@Mococo1 so sorry for what you're going through!! Hopefully the docs can give you some answers and hopefully some blood tests!! Sending you love❤️

@Minster2012 at least you have no bleeding this morning!! Yayy to that!

@KateColx don't worry at all about feeling like your man isn't invested!! If he's as laid back as mine it's just how they are!! Literally my oh is anything for an easy life, and he'll talk about "when we have a kid" and I know he's so so excited, but then if I talk to him about peaks it just goes over his head! He orders my opks and folic acid for me when I ask, and last night he was extra tired so was going to sleep before we could DTD, and I made a joke "you're not allowed to be tired near fertile week" and he rolled over and said "it's near fertile week?? Get naked then" (very romantic I know😂) but the point I'm trying to make is even if you think he's not invested I can guarantee he is, they just deal with things differently, I asked my oh the same question and he said "I'm doing everything I can to help but if we were both worrying and stressing over peaks and opks then what good would that do" and it did make sense! Maybe just voice your concerns to him and see what he says!x

BFN this morning. AF due either 21st or 23rd so think I'm out. Not too upset, means my chances of being able to go to Las Vegas with work are better 😂 so I'm holding onto that thought!

Morning! Cd19 and my opks are confusing me, I'll post a pic later when i get a chance.

@Minster2012 I'm hopeful for you seen as bleeding has stopped and cd wise it would make since to be ovulation. 😃

@Mococo1 so sorry things are looking uncertain for you. @Catherinettc and @lucyrp I can't believe you two are still none the wiser, it's cruel!

@KateColx your dynamic sounds quite like ours. I'm an overthinker, oh is very laid back. Together a long time and I've learned over the years that it definitely isn't that he doesn't care it's just not how he works he doesn't feel the need to obsess like i do! When ttc #1 I just told him i was using opks and there were important days so take the hint if I'm giving him the come on 😂 made things less structured feeling.

@Minster2012 mine is more like a stitch as well - kinda like someone threaded a needle through once and is pulling from the inside? On my right, above my hip.

When would you normally ovulate if it's CD15 and OPKs are still faint?

Btw girls my attempt at BBT isn't going well lol. I'm super stressed at work as I'm behind so I keep waking up at night which must be messing with my temp every time. This morning I took it at 4.52 am because I woke up then, and even then I'm pretty sure I'd been waking up a few times before that too. Let's hope it still forms some kind of pattern!

Thanks girls, you've all made me feel a lot better! 🥰. I see lots of women on here talk about their OH just as keen as them, and it makes me worry that we're not normal 😩 had a little cry this morning but after all your messages I feel better.

@Newbie0818 it's good that your OH happy to try every other day! Yeah you're right, I think I will have a chat with him. He's a typical guy and doesn't like talking haha but I think I just need to explain how frustrating it can be having to plan it all out, test, take tablets etc to then not feel like he's fully in it with me when I need it. Hha is fully take the 'lets get you up the duff' mentality now. Thank you 🙂 x

@Maybe333 yeah I think that's a fair compromise! Especially as they're the ones who it al falls on to in the end 😅 I'm happy to track and know the ins and outs of everything, it would just be really nice to know he'd be fully on board when needed 😂 x

@blodyn91 the pretty chart made me laugh 😂 it's such a difficult balance isn't it, because we're so caught up in it all and want to try everything possible but font want it to become a chore or unenjoyable. I think I'm just struggling with a happy medium. I'm the same, a few years ago I wouldn't have even needed to overthink it but now I'm like right okay time to up our game 😂 I've had my first flashing smiley this morning so I'm thinking every other day from now would be a good start. X

@Cocoblue22 fingers crossed for your smiley soon! This is only my second month of testing so not too sure how long the flashing ones are going to stay around for. Haha yes that's a very good baseline to work with if he's happy for every day. Tbh weirdly I think before TTC he wouldn't have thought anything of it, but now it's like it just seems more forced? Maybe I'll try the beer approach this weekend 😂 x

@Vil10 thank you! Yeah you're right, we can't both obsess. I sometimes just feel like I'm pestering him, but then we have conversations about having kids and he's excited. I think I just need to have a convo with him and be like look I'll do all the testing etc but when it's time, I need you to be a team player 😂 x

@Katao haha I like your approach!! I think I'm going to try something similar, I really don't mind doing all the testing etc, and I don't need him to ask what CD I'm on 😂 but like you said, if he could just get involved when I'm trying that would be great haha x

@Cocoblue22 i know just. waiting game for me now x

@KateColx don't worry I feel like that sometimes too but then I think well no it might do him good to hear about all the stuff us girls have to do! Hahaha yes!!😂

@Katecolx my DH is fully on board Cos of what we've been through & sees me weeing in a cup in the morning but I still don't tell him much about it Cos he rolls his eyes & it's not sexy but I think he now realised I may be defluffing my foof for what I think is FW 🧐🤪

@Juno231 I don't know when, or if, I ovulate. I've only ever had one (now 2 including last cycle) periods. & I have low egg reserves so it's highly unlikely I ovulate much, but also why I don't know what pains or a normal cycle is. Last month was my first "proper cycle" & 31 days but I never got a static smile on CB, I stopped after 11 flashing smile days or saw a peak on ICs

@Juno231 what are the readings like? My OH gets up at 4:30/5:30 for work so Ive been doing them then, then falling back to sleep. Work stress is annoying!

@KateColx I cried on the day I ovulated last cycle Im sure, and Im convinced my egg went 'wah no chance of letting any of them swimmers in'. And that was because OH was too tired! So get the tears out of the way now and try and stay relaxed and happy for that static.

@KateColx I had a big discussion with my OH last night about how all consuming it is for me TTC and how every day I'm checking something or taking what feels like a hundred tablets and his response was pretty much 'do you need to do that though other people get pregnant without it' so I have explained that you don't know everyone's stories and just because one of his friends have been very lucky to get pregnant within 2 months of trying it doesn't mean it's going to magically happen for us 🙈 I've explained all about OPKs to him that I've never mentioned that I do before and he's now realised how much I'm doing and has asked me to research what he can do in terms of diet/foods and tablets so he can feel like he's helping so it was definitely worth enlightening him into more than knowing just when the best days for sex are!

Can I just ask you all what your OH do in terms of helping? Like what do they take? I think because my OH is healthy, has a good diet, sleeps well, drinks plenty of water, doesn't smoke, exercises regularly, only has 1 coffee a day! I just think like I don't need to ask him to take any tablets or do anything, but maybe I'm wrong??

@KateColx yup I used to tell oh well up till now that is, we've been together 5 years but we aren't the most active sexually, he's never had issues performing though but the last 2 months have been hard! Because of allllll the pressure. So I told him I won't be telling him when anymore! Hopefully we won't have to and I'm pregnant this time but hey x

@Mococo1 sometimes symptoms do come and go though so try not to focus too much on that. I'd still ring drs and see what they say but it could be fine 🤞🏻 everything is okay and little bean is still growing nicely. They can get lighter if your wee is more dilute too. Maybe leave it a few days and try again with FMU. The digital ones can be a bit slower to register I believe too x

@Vil10 my OH takes 2000mg vit c, cq10, but d and a multivitamin. He's super healthy too hardly drinks alcohol doesn't smoke exercises regularly and one coffee if training!

@Ltay2 mine was like that then he realised it wasn't happening easy lol. He said "I thought it would just happen"
Apparently babes that only happens in the worst situations, I think God has a dark humour 😒😂

@Newbie0818 I wish I could get to dtd every 2 days 😩 we just can't. I really want to do smep to see if it makes a difference but no way it just won't work!

I'm currently 5dpo and woke up hoping to feel something a bit different hahaha I know it's too early but 😔🤞🙏😂 nothing yet. I wish they just made a sperm gun he could just pump sperm into and it freezes it ready for when you need it and you can just shoot it up yourself like 5 times a day during fertile week... You MUST get pregnant then surely

Thanks everyone for all the support, although I must say I'm hopeful with this group il be back on the July/August bus in no time as you ladies are just the best!! ♥️

@juno321i fully gave up with BBT! Too much variation and it didn't show much for me

@vil10 DH took the multivitamins and he smokes. drinks caffeine but exercises etc..since we've had two consecutive BFPS and this is looking like a CP he's been doing research and saying he will now seriously consider stopping smoking as he researched abnormal sperm. Honestly I think every little helps!! but also if it's adding too much pressure- maybe just play it off as a normal multivitamins and take out the ttc element of it for him if u really want him to take them?

@katecolx mine and DHs dynamic is exactly the same 😂 wish roles were reversed! Xx

Good question @Vil10 I feel the same as you. OH is very healthy so I feel like he doesn't need to do anything else? He's also soooo laid back I can tell he thinks I'm mental with all the temping, opks and vitamins. He is supportive in his own way though. He's just not worried about it in the slightest whereas I have imagined every scenario and we are only cycle 2!!

@Minster2012 defluffing my foof made me lol! Foof is a great word.

@Minster2012 defluffing of the foof made me laugh! X

@vil10 your OH sounds in good shape. Mines like that too. Only think extra I get him to do is take vitamin d and berocca but for his own health anyway not just because of TTC I just think it can't hurt x

@Missgoldilocks He was just saying how he hopes I am pregnant this time round which of course I hope too but I wanted him to have the realistic picture. I feel like I put a downer on it but didn't want him to get his hopes up and think it was guaranteed just because we'd had sex on all the right days!

@Mococo1 I'm so sorry to hear your lines are getting fainter! Lots of hugs from me and please take good care of yourself xxx

@KateColx I've been with my OH for 11 years now and he's at the stage where he'd quite happily just DTD every 7-10 days (I dream of 2-3 times per week!). That would take us years to conceive I reckon... So he's asked me to put fertile week in his calendar and during FW we manage to DTD 3-4 times when it counts, even if it's just him saying "can I please just lie here and you do what you need to do" lol!

@Vil10 I started mine on omega 3 and pregnacare this month. Figured it wouldn't hurt. Mine's like yours - the only two things I'd want to change is him having like 6 cups of tea a day (but I think that's minor) and the fact that he always has his laptop on his lap...

@blodyn91 I've been waking up like 2-3 times at night so my readings are taken between 4 and 7 am atm which isn't good. They're currently ranging from 36.1 to 36.4

@Missgoldilocks maybe I should look into it then and buy some for him!

@Mococo1 yeah you're right in saying every little helps! There's no harm in him having something is there!

@watermelonwizard that's exactly the same as mine! I think he thinks I'm crazy with everything that I'm doing, he just laughs it off and I know he knows I'm doing what I can!

@Cocoblue22 yeah I think I'm going to do that same with mine, it can't hurt can it!

@Juno231 I heard something about a laptop being bad for men to have on their lap but what actually is it??

So I've just been for a week now and when I looked I had stretchy CM, but it wasn't egg white it was more cream! I also had the same last cycle about 4 days before ovulation and I think I'm 3 days before ovulation now, has anyone else had cream stretchy CM or am I in a bad way😂

@Ltay2 arghhhh I just wrote a long message and my cat jumped on me and I lost it 😭 it's hard to not get your hopes up when you time it right! We've done it 4-5 times over the correct days a good few times and we've done it 3 times on the most important days, with 2 sessions on day before ovulation! Meh only difference is when we do it 4 5 times I don't want to see a dick for a year after! I've never fallen and we do it at the correct time I'm starting to think it's more of a luck thing now! I told my doc this and she said, well you wouldn't believe what it takes to get pregnant even with the right timing? Great haha lol

@vil10 it's warm! like really warm! it's the same reason they shouldnt be having hot baths or wearing tight underwear - overheating kills off the little men

Well the doctor just called and I now officially have a diagnosis of PCOS. Just had a major breakdown about it as I know it will be a while for us ttc, but I'm also relieved that there's a reason now as I thought I might have it. Bit of a bittersweet feeling. I just knew something was wrong and it couldn't just be the pill.

Hope you're all well x