Venga Bus is back (Bus 8)

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Big congrats to our girl @Sydgal22 🥳
18 BFPs in June so far who will be next!?

@noble89 - June 15th
@ss123456 - June 15th
@mich2020 - June 17th
@newbie9 - June 17th
@LV1987 - June 17th
@peanutbutterbrownies - June 18th
@sweetshop2020 - June 20th
@newbie0818 - June 20th
@chloedancer897 - June 20th
@Jodi3 - June 20th
@dontgojasonwaterfalls - June 21st
@maybe333 - June 22nd
@marshmallow123 - June 26th
@madz27 - June 27th
@skip86 - June 28th
@missgoldilocks - June 28th
@katao - June 30th
@vp91x - June 30th
@lucyrp - July 1st
@sausage1990 - July 1st
@lucie91 - July 2nd
@dipsy77 -July 3rd
@dkdk123 - July 4th
@amy00 - July 5th
@ltay2 - July 5th
@minster2012 - July 5th
@vil10 - July 6th
@franklydear - July 6th
@justmouse - July 7th
@blodyn91 - July 7th
@cocoblue22 - July 7th
@smileyT - July 8th
@jazper - July 8th
@littleRa - July 10th
@2020mission - July 15th
@DB20 - July 17th
@sarahttc2020 - July 21st

Not added anyone that I don’t have dates for but I’ve not forgotten you just let me know when you know you ovulate/ know your test dates ☺️

So I'm trying very hard not to get my hopes up but a few days a go my breasts were heavy and tingly.. But this is normal for me every cycle just before AF so didn't get my hopes up.. But something made me squeeze my nipples and what looks like colostrum came out!! (I b'fed my other two and its exactly like that).
It was only a tiny bit though and only from my right nipple, so again tried not to get my hopes up (was about 6dpo at the time!)
Well tonight same feeling again in my breasts and squeezed again and much more came out, and from both nipples this time! Please something say they experienced this before???
When I was pregnant with my son I can remember this 'leaking' from a few months in (say 4ish months pregnant but obviously didn't think to check them before that)... I'm 8dpo now, 9dpo tomorrow... Going to test on Sunday for father's day.. Really trying not to get my hopes up!!

@lucyrp how u holding up? Still no af for me, still extremely tired boobs starting to hurt again too 🤷‍♀️ and creamy cm.

I'm even getting to the point I'm thinking 'maybe hcg wasn't strong enough when the blood test was done, maybe I should test again now that im 2 weeks later even though i know the bloods are right 🤦‍♀️

I'm completely lost at where everyone else is in their cycle due to not really being on guys so apologies.

My boy is doing well so trying to relax a bit now and give him a bit more space even though I'm terrified 😨

Hope everyone is as good as can be at this point ❤❤

Hey ladies..who here has had a chemical pregnancy?

Unfortunately 99% sure this is the case for me. At 17DPO my lines started to get lighter then I retested and it appeared darker and now they are lighter again and lightening further at 19DPO ..all symptoms have disappeared (sore breasts etc and skin is becoming oiler) and CB is stuck on 1-2 weeks when should be 2-3 now and I've stopped feeling pregnant. Feeling absolutely devastated right now..do I call my docs and ask for blood tests? And how long did you ladies wait until AF arrived? Xx

@Maybe333 i had milk in my boobs up until about last year and i stopped breast feeding DS when he was 1 and he would have been 4 last year. i had some colostrum out of them the other day but i'm most definitely not pregnant 🙈

@Catherinettc yep i'm about the same to be honest, no af and creamy CM still. i took a couple of ICs this week just to make sure and BFN. absolutely no idea what's happening so just got to wait it out!
glad you and your son are well ❤️

@Mococo1 sorry to hear that's what you think is happening ☹️ i can't help you on line progression as i only tested a few times. i tested on the day of AF a week later and the week after that. i had 3 positives out of that and 8 negatives and AF didn't appear until 3 weeks later so the midwife had said i was 7 weeks and i bled on the day of 7 weeks and that was it. it was like a normal period and no pain that was unusual. so AF was 3 weeks late and by thay point my bloods read no HCG x hope this isn't the case for you x

@Busybee143 when do you think you ovulate then if I can ask? My cramping has gone now & no blood today (we did have sex last night!) so I'm hopefully it was ovulation pain 🤞🏻

@Mococo1 no advice here but big hugs & I hope it's not the case. Maybe phone your doctor? I know ours don't do bloods here for pregnancy so I think it depends on region

@katao & @Missgoldilocks thanks! As I haven't had periods before I just don't know what things feel like 🤷‍♀️I really hope it is ovulation, I'm a bit scared to check CM tbh

@lucyrp you've done IC HCG tests & still negative? Very weird

@CatherineTTC so pleased your son is feeling a bit better, must be so scary. Any weird long cycle /no idea? I honestly thought TTC /cycles were easier?!! How wrong can you be 😂

CD16 here & guess what.... another CB flashing joker smile!! 🤡Day 8 of those now but no bleeding this morning.

No. Frigging. Idea. 😹
@Skip86 where are you soul sister?! Xx

@unluckyducky was that a previous one or from now?

@Minster2012 yeah my one step ICs came in the post on tuesday i believe the same day that the daddy card arrived typical! i've taken 3 since and they're all stark white so that's clear enough for me😫
@Mococo1 and yes as @Minster2012 says maybe ring your doctors or midwife however it works with you and let them know what's going on and just ask if you could have it confirmed by bloods as you're very worried x

Morning ladies, I've been greeted by AF "properly" this morning, so I'll keep yesterday as CD1.

@SmileyT my next test date is looking like July 24th!

Morning everyone,

Didn't come on here yesterday so catching up now.

@Mococo1 so sorry you feel like it's a CP 😔 can't imagine how gutted you are. Sorry I have no experience so can't give much advice, but sending lots of hugs x

@Minster2012 oh no sorry you're still a bit in limbo, but good news that there's no bleeding this morning! When is your first appointment to kick start all of the IVF stuff again?

@lucyrp saw that the doctors said they'd give you some tests next cycle, so guessing you're still feeling a bit in limbo too. Any more spotting or signs of AF at all?

CD10 for me today and got my first flashing smiley this morning, just on the day that my mums arriving to stay with us for a few days 😅 last month I went straight to a static on CD14 so I might have a few days yet.

Thank goodness @unluckyducky 👍🏻

@lucyrp yeah god knows what's going on then, oh the irony of the card and strips arriving poor thing

@SmileyT I never log my mood, because I always put happy 🙈 even when sad, I'd be like aww I'll bake a cake, go for a run call my mam- then I'll acctually will be happy. So realised it wasn't accurate 🤦🏼‍♀️

I'm on CD12 all OPKs coming back as zero LH so far, no idea when I should start seeing highs. Also going to stay at my parents all weekend and FW starts today supposedly 😬 @KateColx lots of secretive sex

@Minster2012 glad the bleeding gas stopped! A flashing smiley is better than a static I feel 🤷🏼‍♀️

@KateColx we don't have an appointment date yet, I have to wait for paperwork to come through was expecting it this week & ive got scans next weeks for my cancer but first one will be very last bit of June/beginning July as they have to start day 2 of cycle so I just hope this is ovulation not AF. Yay for flashing smile, you'll be able to DTD don't worry you'll make it work! She needs to go out for walks right?? Or you've forgotten something from a shop??

@blodyn91 😂 glad it isn't just me who's still having to sneak around from her parents 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ OH finishes early on a Friday and she isn't due until later on so I'll try and kick it off before she gets here hahah.

Question for everyone - and bear with me here haha. how much do you tell your OH about ovulation peaks and testing etc? I feel like I'm struggling a bit. My OH is so laid back it's unreal, he doesn't get caught up in things like I do 😂 in his ideal world we'd just keep on as we are and hopefully get pregnant. But after nearly 10 years together we definitely aren't having as much sex as we used to, so I worry that that could take forever.

I've mentioned to him about peaks and needing to do it then etc and I can just tell he thinks it's all a bit much. It feels like I'm sort of in it a bit on my own. We talk about having a family and he gets excited but then I feel like he maybe isn't as invested as I am. And when it comes around to FW I feel worried about then putting pressure on 😩

I don't really know what I'm asking I guess 😂 think I just needed to say it somewhere x

Aww @LV1987 I had that last cycle, it's so frustrating x

@Maybe333 that's hopeful! I know another girl from a previous thread who had leaky nipples from around 10dpo, so everyone's different. Fx for you!

@Catherinettc glad your lad is getting there, bless him. So hard for all of you x

@Mococo1 so sorry to hear that! I've never had a cp so can't help much, but hugs x

@Minster2012 I reckon you might have ovulated you know, really hope you did!

@blodyn91 @KateColx secret sex is the best kind! And re the oh and peaks, mine isn't interested as he wants everything to be a surprise, but this month he's been DTD with me every other day (which we wouldn't normally do at all! Same as you after 9 years together), so I think he's also starting to understand that it takes two if we really want this to happen. He's sort of given in now and just says "come on then, let's get you up the duff" haha. Hopefully it's enough and we can take a break next month 😅 I had a proper conversation with him about it all after af came last as I was quite upset that my cycles are so long, so I think that helped. Perhaps have a little sit down with yours and ask what he wants to know and what he's willing to do? Needs must x

@SmileyT - Not too sure yet. Different things have been mentioned but we shall see.

It's been lovely having him home and I'm going to make the most of it!! Although after not share the bed for so long, we have both had a rubbish nights sleep.

Today is cd11, so I will start testing with the opks from today.

@Newbie0818 oooh really?? That's sounds interesting!.. Did she go on to get her BFP do you know?

@Catherinettc so glad your son is doing much better. What a frightening time for you all. Hope he can see past his horrible ex and see the support from his loving family 😘

@KateCol initially I started telling my OH all about the peaks etc but for the first time in our history (15years!!) he couldn't preform on ovulation day.. So perhaps the pressure got to him.. Easier for me to keep tracking etc and just give him the general jist from now on x

Thanks ladies!

Il be calling docs this morning and asking them if I can have bloods- if it is the case of a CP which I'm sure it is I just want it to be over with so would like an answer either way- seems silly here that no one offers blood tests to make sure hcg levels Are rising! X😩

@KateColx So OH found last cycle too much, he didn't like the organised feeling of sex. So we spoke last weekend and decided I will not tell him anything. He sort of knows it is fertile week from this weekend, but I wont tell him my temps or OPK results. He did ask the other day and I said 'not telling you'. I did do the mistake of showing him the chart and he saw I could log when we had sex, and that annoyed him because he then thought I only wanted sex to make my chart look pretty 🙈 So don't show yours this close to ovulation! Im going to try and just DTD every other until there is a peak, because everyday for a week was also too much last month 🙈 by the day I was actually ovulating, sex felt more like a chore and I don't want that this time. (We used to have so much sex, and it wouldn't have been an issue 3 years ago 🙄)

Good morning ladies CD11 for me and still low grrr although I do remember it being more like this three years ago so I think last cycle where I got High from CD10-CD24 was very much a blip from coming off the pill!!

@Minster2012 sounds like you're having a rough time this month. I would guess spotting becomes bleeding when it's more than just a wipe or few drops in pants when it's like continuous flowing blood but I'm no expert. Yours sounds like spotting to me as it's a bit stop start. DTD anyway incase if you feel up to it? Shower time if you're worried about the blood....just read on and seen it is better this morning and you dtd 💪🏻 x

@Busybee143 have you already ovulated now then? X

@Mococo1 sorry to hear you think you're having a CP have all the tests been same brand and done at same time of day? X

@Catherinettc glad to hear your is feeling a bit better x

@lucyrp sorry you're still stuck not knowing what's going on. It does seem like you're not pg but that you're having a really long cycle which is so rubbish x

@KateColx well jel of your flashing smiley! Hopefully I'm not far behind you! I only tell OH when it turns to high and if it's peak I just tell him this is when it's most likely to happen. He asks sometimes but doesn't know all the details. Tbf he would be happy to oblige in dtd every day of every month so I'm quite lucky that I can play that to my advantage on the important days. My DH is laid back too. We don't usually dtd on normal months as often as we do when TTC (not for his want of trying) but I just think do it as much as you can but I know that must get tiring if it takes a long time. Maybe just don't tell him it's peak and be sneakyily more sexy on those days or get him drunk I find most men are more frisky when they've had a few beers. My DH wouldn't know it was FW if I didn't tell him and I'd just try harder to get him in the mood those days he would just be blissfully unaware so maybe try that approach. I think most men aren't as invested not just yours but they don't know the ins and outs of it like we do x

Anyone else keep seeing some messages posted twice? X

@Newbie0818 agree! Makes it all exciting 😂 definitely what I need to kick start FW

@KateColx still in limbo yes! think my new name should be @limbolucy 🙄😫😂😂 i've actually made myself laugh at that 😂no signs of AF yes no spotting currently x

@Minster2012 i know how ironic 😅

Morning @cocoblue22 yeh brand has been the same (but new batch) one step bloody unreliable! they were getting darker and then I just felt something was wrong. Next morning took a test and this one was light (I freaked out as felt my symptoms disappeared after they just started up and had my first panic attack ever!)

took another one in the afternoon after holding pee and it was darker so thought false alarm. Any test I've taken since then has been considerably lighter so I'm pretty sure it's chemical and CB hasn't budged from 1-2 weeks!

Rang GP this morning and since they're running a reduced blood service (once a week) they said they're going to try and refer me to EPU to have one done 48hrs apart x