TTC baby no1. Looking for fellow crazy TTC friends!

[CAG14]

Hey

This is my 9th month TTC my first baby and I'm 33. I got static smiley on Friday on OPK, and now I'm in my TWW - again! I'm currently on furlough so the wait seems even longer and more painful and I definitely end up going a bit crazy 🤪

Anyone else in similar boat and need keeping sane?! Also any TTC tips you've heard of? I will literally try anything at the moment haha.

I know me toooo!!
If it's not this month I just want to get AF over and done with so I can try again!

Morning ladies. How are we all?

I have had the weirdest stabbing pains in my left boob this morning. And they are a bit tender. Which is weird as I'm not due on AF until about 9 days. I googled it because I'm crazy and apparently an early PG symptom.... but then I'm only 5DPO so how can it be. It was really quite uncomfortable though.

Ahh that sounds positive @CAG14
Did you use OPK to track?
I'm pretty sure AF has come 5 days early, I did wonder if it was implantation bleeding as I've not had any period pains at all and usually do. Plus I just don't feel like I'm on my period but I also don't think I'm pregnant haha!

@CAG14 🤞would you normally get boob pain during your period? I usually have sore boobs just after ovulation then as soon as AF comes they stop. They were the worst they've ever been when I was pregnant and I remember thinking why are they sore for 4 weeks and not stopping 😂 I hadn't been tracking anything as we were just finally starting to get some help with fertility so I gave it all a rest, putting my problems into someone else's hands I guess. So I never even thought it could possibly be pregnancy.
I have a sore back today but that could be anything. Today I've convinced myself it's just AF building to a god awful cycle. Caved and took a cheapie strip test and got BFN. Not holding out much hope but hey ho, we'll see.
@Jadeb1995 sorry it seems to be AF. But I hope it finished quickly so you can try again!

@Jadeb1995 yes I used OPKs so hopefully pretty accurate. Hopefully it is implantation. 5 days early is quite a lot. Do you normally have regular AF?

@Stabal I dont normally get sore boobs really. Nothing that noticeable anyway. I definitely dont get this weird stabbing pain. But it could be anything so not going to overthink it (too much anyway haha)

It is absolutely pouring with rain here. Like an actual monsoon! Thunder and lightning too. My road is practically flooded. Pray for some sunshine soon, staying in is causing me to think more about the two week wait agony.

@Stabal I meant to also say I am sorry for your BFN. It could be too early though so fingers crossed!

@CAG14 ahh I have everything crossed for you. Yes usually very regular every 29 days so a bit strange but I'm going to start using OPK this month
@stabal sorry about your BFN :(

@Jadeb1995 I can't remember if you said you had some first response tests or not? If AF doesn't make her appearance by Friday I would test as you can get a positive on a FRER up to 5 days before AF (although I would wait till 3 days before for more accuracy)

@CAG14 It's got heavier today so thinking it's AF but if I continue to not get any period pains then I'll defo test. I've read that some people have had really heavy implantation bleeding so I guess you never know!
Thank you for your advice. Xx

How are we all today? Super groggy here and was lying in bed with waves of nausea before I had to force myself up or I'd be late for work. My temp was 36.17 though so I reckon I'm out of the running and it's just AF working 😔

@Stabal Morning! Proper groggy here too! But I havent slept well this week at all for some reason. My left boob still hurts and feels really hard and full. No other symptoms but I wouldn't really be getting them until saturday anyway. I'll be 11DPO on Tuesday so I'll probably do a test then knowing me. I never get the temperature thing, does it go down just before AF?

@CAG14 My understanding is temps should stay elevated if pregnant due to progesterone but this is my first time ever trying it. You're supposed to have uninterrupted sleep for at least 3/4 hours before testing so I've always thought it was useless for me but I've decided to try anything since my miscarriage lol. When are you going to test?

Hope you ladies don't mind me jumping on this thread. I'm only on my second cycle TTC baby #1 and I'm feeling really overwhelmed today. I'm furloughed so I've had too much time on my hands and I've gone from being really relaxed about the whole thing to massively stressed about what I should and shouldn't be doing.

It's so difficult to know what to do for the best when there's so much info out there! I don't want to go overboard with the obsessing and lifestyle changes because I know it could be a long time before anything happens but the more I read the more overwhelmed I feel.

I have anxiety which has been under control for a while but I can feel myself getting worked up about all this.

Sorry for the rant! I can't talk to anyone IRL about this so I'm so glad to have found this forum!

@JanQi I have never read a post that I relate to so much!!

I am exactly the same as you, very early on compared to other people who have been ttc for a longer time.

I find myself sitting and thinking about it so much because I want to do all that I can but then I also find everything very overwhelming.

I've also suffered from anxiety in the past and my partner is concerned that I get too stressed out about it so I tend not to tell him as much now because he is very "let's just go with the flow and it will happen" but I don't know how I would mentally be able to deal with it taking too long as it consumes so much of my mind.

Sounds like we're in the same boat, I tracked my ovulation last month but only on an app and I've figured out it must have been wrong as my period come early. We've made the decision to dtd every other day after my AF has finished, that way I'm not going to concentrate on my ovulation and hope for the best. However I know that if it doesn't happen next month, I'll be worrying again and googling everything!!

@Stabal yeah the temp thing as so much margin for error so it is the one thing I've kept away from but I've heard it really can detect ovulation accurately and pregnancy before you know it. I think I'll test on monday or Tuesday next week.

@Jadeb1995 @JanQi I completely get it girls. I was the same when I first started TTC and also have a history of anxiety. I was thinking about it so much it actually caused me to have a really late period as think my body was responding to the anxiety. I have got better in time (now on my 9th month ttc) as I realise that so much is really put of our control and it takes the average woman 1 year to conceive #1 and many are a lot longer than that. I think the thing is we are not taught about this at school, just how not to get pregnant, and many women don't discuss with their friends and family openly so it becomes very overwhelming when you first start the journey as so much stuff that says "do this, dont do this" and you can spend hours trawling the internet. A lot of my friends had kids before I started trying and some got pregnant within 1 month and others it took them 18 months. But I didnt know this really until I asked. That's why this forum is good to offload worries and doubts and get advice, but remember to just do what you feel is best as well.

@CAG14 that's so lovely thank you. That's such a good point as well, for soooo long you're told how not to get pregnant! If only all this was taught in biology hey! Haha

I totally started this journey saying I’ll be relaxed and let things happen naturally and I’ve been anything but! Haha. Just heard from boss that I’m not back til 20 July do think I need to ban google searches between now and then. At least pregnancy related ones. Just need to learn to relax and make the most of it!!! But it’s definitely easier said than done!!

@LT103 it's so hard isn't it! It's when people say "just don't think about it and it will happen" well if I bloody could I would haha!

@Jadeb1995 so true!! I’ve spent far more time than I should googling everything about it instead of just taking it easy. Hoping it gets better with time and not worse 🙈

@CAG14 I guess I'll just wait and see if AF comes now lol. So excited for you to test! 🤞 @LT103 @Jadeb1995 I know the whole, "don't think about it and it'll happen" thing is really annoying and honestly it p*ssed me off so much hearing it for 2 years but guess what.. That's what happened for me haha. I lost 4 stone and doctors decided I was a healthy enough weight to now refer me for fertility checking. This began in November and I was awaiting AF to arrive to go for a HSG test end of February. We stopped tracking and being on edge as soon as we got the go ahead that we were getting help and there we go, pregnant in March and never made the HSG test lol. It's impossible to relax though! We only relaxed because we literally handed our health into someone else's hands. Now we're back to obsessing 😣

I've had cramps this evening. Cant be AF as too early. Hoping it is implantation but it is probably just trapped wind haha.

@stabal @jadeb1995 @LT103 I've also had the classic lines of "try not to think about it and try not to stress" as well as "just have sex more" eye roll. So annoying. It does get better after time as you get used to the cycles and your body but there will always be the agony during the wait between ovulation and AF rearing her ugly head and the constant googling!!!

@stabal it is amazing you lost 4 stone, such a huge amount to lose you must feel great. Did you have to be below a certain BMI before they referred you?

@CAG14 I have PCOS and endometriosis and had been trying to get gynae to treat the endo but that meant an operation and they wouldn't do it because I was overweight. They seen a laparoscopy as not worth the risk at my weight 🙄 so for years I got, "there's nothing we can do other than the pill or mirena coil" which is obviously not gonna give me a child haha. Meanwhile people I know with endo are having one bad period and having an operation. So once I lost the weight they started taking me seriously about fertility and were doing all the usual tests before going down the surgery route as the problem might be something other than the endo. My periods were irregular and very very heavy, months of no cycle then weeks of bleeding. But at only just a stone and a half loss they regulated out, albeit slightly longer than the norm. And by November I was ovulating. The body is a weird thing! Also before I realised I was pregnant I had the weirdest stitch pain on my right side that I'd convinced myself was appendicitis and told my family about it and they kept telling me it was just wind 😂 after a week of the pain I was ready to kill them if they told me one more time I just needed a good fart 🤦‍♀️ hopefully yours is also not wind!!

@stabal yes I remember you saying about the laparoscopy and surgery now. The same as what my sister has. Her endo went undiagnosed for years so she had no idea it was causing fertility problems. I'm glad they have taken you seriously now, it is hard to live with. But also glad the periods have become more regular and better. Bloody sucks being a woman doesnt it! Haha omg at your family saying it is wind. My husband rolls his eyes if I say anything about any symptoms now.

@Jadeb1995 & CAG14 I'm so glad you can relate! It's hard to know whether I'm being "normal" level of obsessive. None of my friends have had kids yet so it's hard to talk to them about it. I had a chat with a friend today and she had no idea how much was involved with getting pregnant. I've spent my whole life being super careful with contraception because as a teenager it always seemed like all you had to do was have unprotected sex once and boom, pregnant. Now I'm realising how complicated it actually is I feel so naive. I'm so grateful for this forum and to be able to talk openly about it without feeling like it's "taboo".