TTC baby no1. Looking for fellow crazy TTC friends!

[CAG14]

Hey

This is my 9th month TTC my first baby and I'm 33. I got static smiley on Friday on OPK, and now I'm in my TWW - again! I'm currently on furlough so the wait seems even longer and more painful and I definitely end up going a bit crazy 🤪

Anyone else in similar boat and need keeping sane?! Also any TTC tips you've heard of? I will literally try anything at the moment haha.

@Mia1985x it is so expensive isn't it! I might consider doing that actually. I tried preseed one month which has a syringe but my OH said it was too wet he couldn't feel anything so the conceive plus seems to be working better. But I could use the syringe applicator from preseed with conceive 75ml. Love that the company says to "use both" 🙄

@CAG14 yeah so expensive especially when we are going to be DTD so much if we follow SMEP haha. I've just looked on amazon and you can get 20*5ml sterile syringes for about £4 and the 75ml tube is £15 so thinking that's more than double doing the wee individuals. This TTC business can be so expensive with all these crazy things we buy 🤣🤣🤣

@CAG14 do they really say to use both?! That seems so excessive.. I'm on the fence about this as I read it doesn't really contribute to helping but more that it doesn't damage the sperm like ky jelly could do and I rarely need to use any lube.. So I'm like do I buy into this one? I probably will eventually 😂

@Stabal @Mia1985x omg just so much money spent it is a great industry to be in. I laughed out loud at you saying i'll probably end up buying it anyway. I'm exactly the same, I'll think "no that surely doesn't help" then wirhin 24 hours I'm on amazon...

@CAG14 hahaha we do it to ourselves don't we 🤦‍♀️

Hey girlies!
Having read through all 32 pages so far of this thread today I am so thrilled to have FOUND MY PEOPLE!
TTC for first time and already unable to bear the waiting and the sign spotting argh
Had Mirena out last Friday and OH must think all his christmases have come early - we are both off work at the mo with me being on annual leave and him due to go back shortly after furlough - we’ve been DTD at least 3 times a day which I am loving don’t get me wrong but is this too often TTC wise?!?
Am also a bit all over the place in my brain because having just had Mirena out no idea what my cycle might or might not be doing. Assumed I’d have a withdrawl bleed but had only a day or two of very light pink spotting 2 days after it was removed.
Should I start temp tracking and OPKs now or do I wait until after AF makes her first post coil appearance?! I know I need to chill TF out but it’s hard!!!
Also how does everyone manage to not POAS daily ‘just in case’ it happens to be positive even though realistically it’s far too early?!
So much overthinking!!
Love to all x

Hey girls I’m back from last month - lol. I had a chat with oh and we agreed not to actively TTC yet but not preventing. Well I ovulated earlier than I thought so I’m now back in the TWW 😂 also @CAG14 you’re talking about conceive plus, I’ve had it in my drawer not really used it, but we did this month as it’s just much more comfortable than normal lube. I’m currently 3dpo, dtd only on CD12/13/14 ov’d on 15. So we’ll see now if that lube did help lol.

@leafeon heya! Welcome! Glad you have found us. I would say 3 times a day is too much. My SIL struggled to conceive and all her doctors and fertility experts said once a day is plenty and actually even every other day is fine as gives time for sperm quality and quantity to go up. They ended up having IVF and when her husband had to give samples he was told not to ejaculated 48 hours beforehand so the quality was better. It is also tiring doing it that much for what can be a week or more of the month haha. It is easier said than done to "chill out" as you can probably see we are all a bit guilty of overthinking and it can be a stressful process. However, I would say be mentally prepared that it may take a while and the average woman trying for their first can take over a year. Of course it can happen first month but if you have that mindset it does help with the worrying a little. I'm not sure about mirena coils and whether you have to wait for first period or anything as I've never had it before.

@leobaby yes Conceive plus does help doesn't it. Fingers crossed for you this month!!!

I'm 7DPO so feel like I'm going to start going a bit crazy until AF turns up now haha. I am due on Wednesday next week. I only have 1 FRER (although plenty of ICs) so I'm not going to test until Tuesday or Wednesday (so I say... lol).

@leafeon I had my Mirena out on 4th July, had withdrawal bleed on the 6th I've been tracking bbt and OPKs since then because I have no idea what my cycle is, although you could still have been ovulating with the coil. I think I was because I did used to get what I now know is EWCM.
It's hard not to overthink, this is my first month too and already I feel like I'm constantly thinking about it but realistically I know this can take months so need to have a word with myself too.

@leafeon I had my Mirena out last month on 11th June. That first month I didn't track anything and waited til AF arrived which was last week. I've just started using the Femometer OPK sticks and use their app as well as the glow app to try and chart/track things. I'm on CD12 right now and DTD every other day until I get my surge. Think my OH would be ecstatic with 3 times a day though if I let him lol
That first month I was overthinking everything and any twinge could be something but I think it was just because I was looking for symptoms and maybe things getting back to normal 🤞

@leafeon hi! The thing about the coil is that when it's removed you're immediately able to fall pregnant unlike when you come off the pill. But it can take a few months for a cycle to become regular or for AF to show at all so I wouldn't get too obsessive with TTC until you've had a proper bleed and know when CD1 starts or you'll drive yourself insane like the rest of us 😂 DTD 3 times a day is def too much, quality sperm over quantity sperm is the way to go! Welcome to the TTC world 🤞

@CAG14 I was going to message earlier and say happy Friday to you 😂 I will be impressed if you manage to stay away from the frer!

@CAG14 yess, my OH said to me I’m going to drive myself insane this month now just like I did last month lol but I’m not gonna! I was so sure I had implantation last month but obviously not. So this month I’m literally not gonna symptom spot at all and if I have to test it will be the day after af is due 😂

Haha guys thanks for your replies but feel I need to clarify the 3 times a day thing is more that we are both very ahem needy at the moment rather than we think that’s the best way to make a baby 😂 I think the thought of creating someone (!!) is turning us both on too much!! But having read your replies I’ll try and tone it down! I reckon naturally things will tone themselves down when we get this out of our systems anyway!!

@butterfly5291 so glad I’m not the only one thinking about it constantly - I know it can take ages and I’m trying so hard to remain realistic about this but i think coming off contraception and starting trying feels like such a big thing that it’s natural it would be on our minds a lot! I think when/if AF comes that will force us to get a bit of a grip and we will be able to become more in tune with what our bodies are doing as well. Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly for you

@Nellyk84 trust me OH is thrilled 😂 yeah I think just not knowing what my ‘normal’ is like after so long on the coil is driving me mad!! My plan is to start tracking etc after AF like you’ve done!!

@Stabal
this is the thing!!! Knowing it COULD happen straight away is just... already driving me mad! Particularly when the nurse who took it out said ‘you could get pregnant straight away from any sex you’ve had in the last 7 days’ - argh!

I think it’s all just very new and exciting and as such I’ve lost my ability to be chill!
Going to spend today trying to get a grip on myself!!

@leafeon by all means enjoy it now! If a little surprise happens out of it, even better! 🙂

@Leobaby yeah my OH is sick of me going "I am feeling this and I think it might be a sign". I'm determined the next few days not to symptom spot and to just wait until day before or day of AF due. We will see though!

@Stabal haha thanks happy Friday indeed!

@leafeon haha well enjoy the time because if you are in the mood then why not? I think I would seriously struggle getting my OH to do 3 times a day. Sometimes once or twice a day seems like effort! He doesn't have a high sex drive though and never has.

@CAG14 @Stabal HcG levels came back normal/BFN which means it could have been a v.early MC. The spotting doesn't make an awful lot of sense otherwise and AF is 10 days late/no symptoms of of arriving. Will start OPKS tomorrow. Can I even ovulate if my period hasn't arrived? So confused about where I am even in my cycle right now after this! 🤷🏼‍♀️

@msunflower I'm so sorry lovely :(. There is a small possibility that stress is delaying your period as it can happen. However either way I think you have to wait for it to arrive before your new cycle starts. Have you been given advice from the doctor?

@CAG14 I don't really feel stressed about it but I'm sleeping terribly so it must be stressing me subconsciously! The GP didn't advise on that at all, and to be fair I didn't ask. If it doesn't arrive this month then I may just have to wait until it arrives again before ttc? Struggling to find much info on it!

@msunflower so sorry. There's a chance you still haven't ovulated or you have but you've missed it. Either way the OPKs could help pinpoint it. But maybe you'd feel more at ease to wait until a proper bleed and begin as CD1. Sending you lots of love 💕

@Stabal I'm really not sure what to do, on one hand I feel like if it was a MC, maybe AF hasn't arrived as my body needs time to heal so I should just wait until it arrives. On the other hand, I could use the OPKs but I worry I might be putting too much pressure and obsess over it. A happy medium could just be to DTD every other night for this month whether AF arrives or not then use the OPKs once AF arrives?

@msunflower I think that's a good idea. Trying without really trying if that makes sense. I have a feeling you've ovulated recently or about to so go with the flow and see what happens. Praying everything settles and gets back to a normal swing 🤞

@Stabal thank you for being such a great sounding board, we've not told anyone we are ttc so it's been a bit lonely and I appreciate it! I think I'm going to go with this happy medium whilst keeping an eye on and tracking any CM/symptoms I might have 🤞🏻

@CAG14 hahah exactly like me!😂so funny they must think we’re crazy.

@msunflower I know the feeling. We kept it so quiet for ages until we got pregnant. Now everyone is aware of our journey and that we miscarried and to be honest I'm glad of that as it stops the annoying comments. I know that wouldn't be the case for a lot of people but it's helped us being open and truthful. If you ever need a private rant just give me a message!

@Stabal thank you, really appreciate that! I think I would have done the same thing as you in the same situation, I'm sorry you had to go through that but it's good you had a support system around you! Just told DH about the more casual plan until AF arrives abs he agrees it's the best option for this month. Feel a bit of relief today now I have the bloods back and can move forward ☺️