TTC first baby thread 25

[Annny27]

hi ladies,

Setting up a new thread for all of us ttc our first baby!

Will tag all the names I can remember from top of my head (I.e easy to spell haha)

@kiza
@lozzlepop
@orangeloo
@lottiepink
@timswifey
@XjustagirlX
@lizzie198

Graduates:
@whatsthecraic91

Thanks @mrsbecs

Glad to at least just have someplace to share and talk

Hi @Croselle do you have regular periods? I thought they said OPK's were no good for people with PCOS. I may be wrong x

Hi @orangeloo,

My periods are quite irregular, cycles vary in length and I've had some months missed. I don't know too much about TTC with PCOS, I guess I've just been trying to get general advice on TTC and have been using an app called Flo for about 18 months. I guess I just feel like seeing if the app is right in its predictions might but it probably isn't, I didn't know that about OPKs but it makes sense, glad you mentioned it! Might be best for me to stop stressing over what the strips say.

@Croselle I just heard that as PCOS sufferers cycles may not be regular u may not ovulate regularly either. So you will keep OPK'ng and potentially very rarely see a LH surge and maybe not know when to do them. So you'll end up throwing money away on countless OPK's Which makes sense. I'm sorry I really don't know a lot more about PCOS haha. But deffo get researching on ttc with PCOS. I would think your CM would still be a great clue as to when you are fertile. X

@orangeloo thank you! I just saw a thread for women TTC with PCOS which I've also joined. I've been researching like mad this last few days. It totally makes sense what you're saying about the opks, it's also quite stressful seeing nothing but negatives and it could just be because of timings and the irregularity. Because I can't have my appointments as planned I'm finding myself doing guess work.

First time ttc here too. Am a bit older At 38 so hoping everything happens eventually but trying not to stress over it all just now/ not checking for ovulation and just relying on timing/cm. Came off pill in jan and started folic acid but only really been trying last 2 months. This is first time I’ve actually started looking through forums or looking into what to do . My cycle is a bit all over the place so I don’t really have any idea when most fertile Time was but period should have been here at weekend I think. Had really full feeling/cramping lower abdo since Sunday. Had a little spotting yesterday morning and again this morning but back to nothing. I know it’s probably just start of period and don’t want to get my hopes up!

I have to say, I was a little naive about what was involved. I have been reading through a few threads and it feels comforting to read Other stories from people at the same stage. All my friends are either not at the wanting children yet stage or been there, done that and no one really at the same stage of life I am at. I will be glad of people to talk this through yet

I hate feeling so jealous of others, just discovered a friend (who fell out with me in Dec last year) is 37 weeks pregnant, she's only a year younger than me, they had literally only just started TTC, her partner is 40, drinks and it seems so unfair that me and DP have been trying for just under 2 years, cut out all the bad stuff, are fit, go to the gym, take all the supplements, have been told 'there's no reason why you can't get pregnant' but yet here we are.
Felt so jealous when I saw her heavily pregnant photo and then felt terrible for feeling that way and had a really good cry. 😢

I'm sorry @Kiza don't feel bad for feeling jealous. It is a shitty situation for everyone trying to get pregnant. Seeing people who it comes to so easy is hard and it isn't fair at all!

Welcome @LT103 think we are all a bit naive at the start of our journeys we never dream all that's actually involved and then it's heartbreaking if it takes a long time. Good luck.

Evening ladies :) 7dpo today

@kiza that's totally understandable I would feel gutted too :( its a horrible feeling and I dread my friends or family announcing their pregnancies. Has AF arrived yet?

Welcome @LT103 :)

@orangeloo @Croselle I think its because pcos sufferers can have high LH levels throughout their cycles so using opks might not be effective

Thanks @Annny27 @orangeloo feel AF is imminent as still spotting.
It also gets harder each month having to break the news to DP that AF has arrived as I see the disappointment in his face too.
We both just had a chat, a hug and a cry together as we never knew that it would take this long and still no idea how much longer it will take- if ever 😢 just having a really shitty evening. I'm sure after a sleep I'll feel better tomorrow

@kiza totally! At the start my dh was like ah okay never mind. Now he is sad like me and its like double sadness of seeing my period and then having to tell him!!!!

@Kiza @Annny27 yeah my DP is starting so show his disappointment a bit each month now too. It adds a whole new level of heartbreak.

@orangeloo @Annny27 doesn't it just, it kind of feels that we are responsible for both their and our disappointment even though both of us know that's not the case. It's really tough as time goes on. Thanks for the kind words, having a really cramp period this cycle so after Accupuncture I'm going to run a bath and I've ordered some gorgeous cupcakes which should hopefully arrive tomorrow

@mrsbecs yeah I found them really good, thank you so much ❤️its been a rough ride but we have each other and that's all that really matters! Yup thats exactly what mine are like 😂

Hello and welcome @Croselle and @LT103

@LT103 are you using any apps etc to track your cycle?

@Kiza sorry to hear AF is imminent and you are having a down day, it really is a tough journey. I get the rage anytime I am at the hospital and I see a pregnant lady smoking outside the reception and I want to slap their ungrateful faces - its so much harder when you are "doing all the right things" Enjoy the cupcakes ❤️

Just back from the hospital getting my bloods done, lots of protocol in place for COVID screening and was fairly quiet although the car park was as busy as ever! Got about a 3 week wait to get my results back and then will see if I need retested or not!

@lozzlepop hope you get some answers soon.
I was just using the fertility tracker on Fitbit but on various recommendations I started using Ovia which seems like a full time job it needs so much information 😂 hopefully it will let me keep a better track on things.

Is it recommended to check for ovulation? Is there a benefit to this over just regular sex through fertile period?

Also what vitamins do people recommend. I’ve been taking folic acid for the last 4 months but was thinking now we’re actively trying, would be better moving to one of the ttc multivitamins??

Is it just me or does anyone else find themselves each month Googling about early pregnancy symptoms and what''s period vs spotting and all sorts of things... even when you know this stuff well enough and pretty confident you're period is starting!

I've had very light bleeding for the past few days (I'm pretty sure it's enough to be classed as just a light flow) it's mostly brown and pale, has been like it since Tuesday and I have other PMS like sore boobs and nausea, bloating and hunger pangs and I know I've had this before at the beginning of my periods. Usually, by this day (day 3) I'll have had severe period pains and heavier bleeding but not yet.

I seem to go Google and forum mad in the hope it will tell me something new, don't know why I do it to myself tbh! I know it's just my period!

@croselle you just described the last 3 days of my life! After spotting for 4 days I finally gave in and tested bfn and for me it was def AF, started today, but can’t help getting hopes up!

@LT103 sorry you got a negative result, it is so frustrating isn't it? Baby dust for next time!

I've just forced myself to stop Googling things, I know it won't change the outcome but its hard. I'll give it until the weekend and if it's still so light I'll check but I think it's just taking its time to start properly!

@croselle. I took a tear knowing it would be negative. It’s just that it wasn’t same as usual period. Had pain for couple of days before anything happened and just light spotting for 3-4 days. Finally started now but it took its time. To be honest if I hadn’t googled, I probably wouldn’t have convinced myself that maybe it wasn’t af.
Onto 3rd time lucky for me

Fingers crossed you get the result you want soon 😊

@LT103 third times a charm! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

I know exactly what you mean though, I know it's AF but just one little difference makes you think hmm maybe this could be it and go Google mad and then it arrives! I have PCOS as well so I know my periods are so different month on month yet I still get my hopes up.

I had an email from amazon yesterday asking me to review the early pregnancy test strips I'd ordered - I thought I'd order ovulation strips! 🤦🏼‍♀️ I hadn't opened the parcel as I was in no rush. Also hubby asked when AF was due and I said Sunday/Monday then thought oh shit, he would expect a test Tuesday meaning I can't surprise him! I'd already bought 5 tests so considering I had another 3 I thought I'd test this morning as they are early response strips - 2 BFNs. Only second month of TTC but it's shit. How do you guys pull yourself out of this? I've gone from being casual to obsessive! I now don't want to do my exercise but know I should because it will help. Just disappointed more then I thought I would be. Sorry if you're following a couple of threads I'm on as I'll be repeating this there! Xxx

@Peach1204 I think everyone gets obsessed more quickly than they think at the start of the journey. Every month it doesn't happen is crap. I found I got a bit less obsessed months 6-12 like it didn't hurt as much but still hurt. Then once you get to a year it gets bad again. But hopefully you won't have to wait that long. If you look at stats for couples conceiving the odds are in your favour. Do your exercise, it will help your mind.

Morning 9dpo here :)

@Peach1204 I thought I would be cool and take it easy but I was obsessed from cycle 1 haha. 12 months in and still just as obsessed! Like @orangeloo says, hopefully you won't be on the journey for too long!

@Croselle Google is my best friend "can you feel pregnant at 1dpo" haha

@lozzlepop glad your blood test went well. I have a blood test next week and it will be weird being within 2m of a person haha!

@kiza cupcakes will be a lovely treat :D I have seen so many lovely ones that people have ordered, makes me want to order some

Can I join this thread too please? I'm 28 and TTC our 1st, currently cycle 2, AF due on 17th. Desperately trying to resist buying a test.