TTC 35+ Thread 2 Cougar And Silver Fox Club

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New thread for you ladies. Let’s bring on the Bfps!!

@MrsTtobe not sure what's up with my anxiety its all ttc related what to be able to have baby with fiance would be his first my 4th getting too obsessed tho at mo xx

@matilda keep testing daily. I downloaded the easy@home app this evening, man it's hard to get a pic right.
I am currently having ovulation pains, seems to be from both ovaries. Ovulation pains not so bad, usually I'll be running for painkillers. Hubby is sleeping now, he's tired. No DTD tonight but ,we did it last night 😊.
My lil one is still not sleeping and he's back at nursery tomorrow.

🤞🏾🙏🏽❤️

@Matilda19 I use the easy@home ones, and log them on premom app. I have found that I need good lighting, and ideally I take the pic on the same place each time to be as consistent as possible..these were mine from this cycle - I did one a day from cd10, then 2 as I noticed the surge! I went from low to peak in about 24hrs but others can have a more steady rise. They say to continue testing after what you think is the leak so it can make sure it really is the peak

Permission to join this thread? I’m 38 and ttc for first time. This is only our second month of trying. AF due now. Had some cramps Last few days and some spotting yesterday morning and this morning, nothing since. Assuming AF will come in next day or so.

Of course @LT103 welcome, the more the merrier! Are you a cougar or do you have a silver fox at home? 😬😂
What CD are you on lovely? X

My partner is 32....does that make me a cougar?
Came off pill in January but only started trying last month. Haven’t got as far as checking for ovulation or anything yet, thought would give it a few months with a more relaxed approach first but I’ve learned a lot just by reading some posts on here!
I’m day 28 or 29 now (dubiety over what date AF started last month). Cramps and spotting only so far this month. Last 2 months AF came around day 25/26. Not thinking anything of the timing so far as my periods haven’t been regular. Will see what happens in next day or 2

@Happyhappy37 @Bellabubble
Thanks for help. So new to all this so grateful have you all to help. Fiance thought box was all pregnancy tests until i explained what they were.
Just want to know im ovulating after being with implant for so long then least i know body back to normal
Its hard to upload pic il try again after work and see what it says xx

Woke up to af this morning so I'm out for another month! It's 10dpo which means a 9 day luteal this month so think I'm going to try progesterone next month to lengthen it a bit as I'm not sure that's enough time for implantation to finish.

Welcome @LT103! I’m 38 and TTC #1 here too. I have a very slightly silver fox at home (only 18 months in it really :)) CD16 of month 1 of trying. I only came off the pill in May.

Morning ladies,
Feeling down this morning. Been having cramps for the last couple of days and this morning, bright red spotting. I think I'm 9dpo.
I do get this most months and every month I come to the conclusion I'm out (and obvs every month I am out). 🙁

It's always a little red spotting first thing, then tails off by the end of the day. Still five days or so away from AF.

Anyone else get this?

PS. I have cervical erosion. Do you think this could be the cause?

Sorry you’re feeling down @selina37. I’m not sure what that could be but I wanted to send a gentle hug x

@FridaKFangirl thanks. Nice to meet other people on similar situation.

So I’m trying to remain realistic that this will likely turn out to be a chemical, BUT yesterday at 8dpo I got the faintest hint of a line and then again this morning another vvv faint line.
After my mc and then chemical it’s hard to imagine this would go any differently but as I said I’m trying to remain realistic with a hint of positivity lol.
I have had sore nipples for the past 4/5 days and felt quite nauseous since yesterday, but not holding out hope yet. Af isn’t due until 15th so ages off feeling remotely ‘safe’.

I will likely test again this afternoon as I’ve always found fmu to be rubbish with me and have always had much better lines on tests in the afternoon/evening.

Good luck to anyone else testing.

@FridaKFangirl thank you 🤗😌

@LT103 yep that makes you a cougar... welcome to the club. 😂 Looking positive for you then lovely, keep us up to date!

@lucieloos oh no that's crap... on to the next month. Positive thoughts ❤

@selina37 my best friend had cervical erosion and yes that sounds identical to what she had. Spontaneous bleeding. She had a little op which sorted it all out. Hope you're ok. X

@Moominmiss that's looking very positive, I can 100% see a feint line on the 9dpo. Please be positive, I know it's hard when you've been through what we have and as much as I'm desperate for a rainbow baby the thought also terrifies me. Im worrying about it before im even pregnant but please... positive thoughts. Test again tomorrow and hopefully a stronger line will be there. 🤞🙏 x

@Moominmiss that's not a bad line at all for 9dpo on a cheap test. I think if you got a frer you would see a much darker line.

@MrsTtobe thank you. It really is so hard to think positive. The mc and early losses have certainly ruined any future pregnancies and taken the excitement and joy out of any of it.
Like you said, even before getting a bfp I’m expecting the worst, that if I get one it’ll only end anyway.
I just feel convinced it’s not meant to be. Hard to comprehend how my body could get rid of so many pregnancies only to keep this one.
Only time will tell, but if this isn’t meant to be then I still have my ubiquinol to start again next cycle if needs be.

@lucieloos thank you, I’m going to do a hold and test later on today (based on the fact my tears have always shown up better late in the day), and if I still get a visible line on a cheapie I might do one of my frers.
I’ll update either way 🤞🏻

Sending positive vibes @Moominmiss, 🤞🏻

@Moominmiss keep thinking positively!! Sending good vibes your way.

I’m on day 3 of just spotting still which is unusual but seems a little more red today so convinced AF is coming. Just going to get on with my day and see how it goes.
Hope everyone’s having a good day. Lots of positive thoughts!!

Fingers crossed for you @moominmiss. I started spotting last night/this morning so I'm pretty sure that's my period started. It would also explain why I felt like spontaneously crying yesterday at a really minor demand at work! Feeling pretty down about it all today

@MrsTtobe oh really? Did your friend get pregnant after that?

@Moominmiss I totally understand you. Im a ball of anxiety at the thought of being pregnant or not getting pregnant. So im screwed either way. My OH just keeps telling me I stress too much but most days since my mc i replay the whole thing over in my head. What went so wrong between 8 weeks at the scan and 11 weeks when I lost it. 😔
I hope one day we both can leave those anxieties behind us with our healthy rainbow baby. ❤🤞

@selina37 no she didn't but she had her children young and didn't want anymore. So that wasnt an issue for her but they didn't say it would affect her fertility incase she did want more. Did the Drs tell you it affects fertility then? X

@LT103 I once read a magazine at a hairdresser and the article said if its a 5 year age difference you are a junior cougar, 10 year you are just a cougar - I laughed so hard

I'm also 38, TTC baby 1, new to trying and fresh of birth control. You have all my best wishes!!