7 months ttc (cont of 6 months ttc)

[Twinkletoes85]

Hi ladies,

Following on from our 6 months ttc thread, for anyone wanting to join in it’s just a group of us who have gone past the 6/7 month mark ttc looking to chat and support each other. All welcome 😊

Hey everyone!!

Sorry to hear about af @jessmcg it just sucks doesn't it.

All you ladies who are taking bbt, if your temp doesn't rise then drop before af does it mean you aren't ovulating?first month of tracking and first month getting positive opk, temp stayed high for 2 days into af, then went to 0.1 above control line from this morning. Have myself convinced I wasn't ovulating and just looking for confirmation.

Any if you like me and believe you'll be one of the women who experience af for the first few months of pregnancy, I manage to convince myself each time that maybe it's implantation bleeding, driving myself insane and being even more disappointed!!

@jessmcg Bodies are too cruel to us sometimes! I'd wait it out and try not to get your hopes up, sorry about your BFN. Hope you're doing ok with all this confusion!

@PinkFlamingoGirl I watched a YouTube video about pineapple core so thought I'd give it a go last cycle, cm definitely improved last month, maybe a coincidence but I'm gonna do not again this cycle.

Only reading the second page of messages @jessmcg finger crossed, definitely sounds promising xx

@PinkFlamingoGirl @hoping41 and @Nat4392 hopefully itll happen while we're all still working from home. My usual commute was an hour and a half so by the time we both got home we'd be exhausted. Plus I cant imagine using an ovulation test at 7am before work, then if its positive sitting at work all day thinking about it.

@jessmcg I like to think anything unusual is a good sign. Fingers crossed for you!!

@jessmcg bodies are cruel, I agree. Last month 4 days before my period was due I felt nauseous for 2 days. I never felt sick on pms - but bfn 2 days later. This month - nothing. Feel like this is the start of pre-menopause.
@KK251289 I feel I can tell early too - about 2 dpo. and then I change my mind. and change it again. great times.

The whole ttc is cruel.

I've been having cramps coming and going all day but af not here yet. By the cramps I feel I'm out but im still hoping af doesn't show

@Aokbaby the one month I tried temping I didn’t really see any variation and had convinced myself I wasn’t ovulating. I used opks for the first time this month and had a positive result so I am.

Do some women still have af and be pregnant?

Hi Ladies!

So glad I found you... @Twinkletoes85 thank you for setting this up. So many messages to catch up on. For those of you who have had AF arrive, I hope you are all ok xx I keep reminding myself what someone said on the previous thread about each BFN being that step closer to our BFP... it has really helped me a lot as I was feeling a bit low.
I am now in the TWW - had 8 days of flashing smileys before the static and so we have DTD 7 times within 10 days. Really feel I have given it my all this month! If I remember correctly @PinkFlamingoGirl we are at pretty similar stages in our cycles?

Loads of great info on here which I am definitely going to look into.

@Annny27 welcome to the group xx

@Twinkletoes85 my friend said she had two af while pregnant, obv not af but heavy bleeding and enough to think it was af, she didn't realise she was pregnant until after 12weeks🙈

@aokbaby just to add to the list of things that might be pregnancy or might be af, apparently af type bleeding might actually be pregnancy 😂😂

It really does mess with your head

@Twinkletoes85 lol and we all wonder why we're going crazy🤣

Evening:) thanks for the welcome all! The 6 month plus club isn't a club I wanted to be in but I am glad we can support each other haha!

@jessmcg perhaps if she doesn't arrive full force tomorrow then take a test. But often I have spotting (which is sometimes red sometimes brown) before AF!

@DSC1 its exhausting when you have so many fertile days! I had 7 days of ewcm this month and I am glad to have a break from dtd now haha 1dpo at the moment:)

@Fifol when I was pregnant I had lots of AF type cramps so you are never really out until she shows!

@PinkFlamingoGirl I am only 1dpo but tired - think the progesterone has kicked in haha

@Twinkletoes85 I tried temping but it didn't suit me as I got stressed every morning wondering what my temps would be and I got less sleep and probably skewed results because of it!

@DSC1 yeah I think we are. How many DPO are you now? Well done that sounds exhausting...I know how you feel. I'm on day 3 of DTD and 3dpo (notice a pattern??) and it's great to have a rest 😂😂.

Typo...day 3 of NOT DTD** that's important lol

@PinkFlamingoGirl I am always grateful for the rest after ovulation haha!! 🤣

@Annny27 @PinkFlamingoGirl yes definitely good to have a break from DTD...

I got my static smiley on the CB OPK on Tuesday afternoon so when do you start counting how many DPO?

Also AF due on my LGs 2nd birthday, would feel so right if this was the month it happens after almost a year... I always manage to find a reason why every month would be special but this month just feels even more so.

So if you got the static on Tuesday does that mean Wed would be ov day? Approx...

I use the internet cheapies so I'm assuming your static smiley is like my dark line.

Awww I know what you mean. It always means more when you can link it to a special event. This month I really hope I can tell my Mum and Dad on Father's day. That would be so special. Although it would be super early for me they are amongst a few of people I'd tell before 12 weeks.

Fingers crossed for us all this month ladies xx

AF has landed! Taking the positive in that this was another 32 day cycle so at least my cycles seem to be bedding down and my cramps weren't as awful as they usually are, yet anyway.

I feel sad but I'm not even crying I feel like I'm numb or something

Might try cutting out my coffee this cycle and see how that goes. I think I will use the clearblue opk still as I like to be able to pinpoint ovulation but I think we will just dtd every second night especially around the middle 2 weeks of the cycle instead of agonising over the timing. I don't think I'll temp this time, I didnt find it too bad but I dont know if I need something else to be worrying about.

If anyone else is trying anything new as well let me know.

This ttc is absolute crap. For the last few months I thought our timing was perfect and still no luck! So onto cycle 8 and as has been said on here, one step closer to the bfp....

@fifol I'm so sorry AF has arrived. Make sure you take care of yourself over the next few days, onwards and upwards for next month.

I've upped my water this month, cut the caffeine, and I've been eating cereal because I've heard that fortified cereal and grains help. Hopefully itll make a difference.

@fifol sorry af has arrived. But yes, Bfn is one step closer to bfp - hopefully once giant leap.
I have been trying to temp the past 2 days as I thought it might be useful but it's totally ruining my sleep. I keep waking up in the middle of the night (always less than 5 hours apart) thinking it's time to do it so the results address skewed and I'm exhausted. Does everyone else manage it successfully?

I was also reading about maca and thinking of buying some for oh if there is no bfp this month. Has anyone else heard of it/ tried it?

Morning All, AF is here so I’m now officially out. That cycle was a weird one though and yesterday has never happened to me before. Beginning to make me worry that something is wrong - glad I’m kicking off tests now. Xx

Sorry AF had arrived @Fifol and @jessmcg, look after yourselves this weekend. My body is planning tricks on me. My AF was due yesterday, didn't arrive, so this morning my temp spiked to the highest this cycle so I took another two tests to be sure and still BFN! I don't have the sore boobs that I usually get before AF, my nipples feel tender and I keep getting twinges on my left side but I've had them since ovulation. I just want to be able to move on and not stuck in limbo!

@Fifol and @jessmcg sorry to hear af has arrived, have some good self care days. It’s hard to take but statistically one step closer to your bfp now!

@Hoping41 I’ve started temping again from today, I just figure take it when my alarm goes off (but then it’s a bit later on weekends). It’s supposed to be after three hours of sleep isn’t it? So I’m off already as the cat woke me up at half 4 this morning but I went back to sleep and temped at 7. I use opks so it’s more out of interest then using it to check ov.

@Kitttycatt sorry to hear your in the limbo period! I read a lot when I was late last month and even with the first responses sometimes you don’t get the bfp until a few days after af was due. It’s all about hormone levels. So you’re really not out until af herself arrives. But knowing you should be on and you’re not really messes with your head I know.

Thanks girls. I dont even know how I feel I'm really trying to stay positive. I follow this fertility nurse on instagram and she always says assume you're couple no 90. So if about 90 out of 100 conceive within a year, assume you're couple number 90 and it should take the pressure off. So I'm going with that!

Doing a little more research into the caffeine thing, so I only drink one coffee a day and the pods I use have have 85 to 92 mg caffeine and one tea which has 11mg so overall I should be below the 200 mg per day that's allowed. If I thought it would definitely increase my chances I would do it but then I'm like I love that one coffee a day should I really cut it out if it's still within the recommended guideline of how much you can have! Dont get me wrong I want to be pregnant so so much but i also dont want to make myself miserable by denying myself a small pleasure!!

@jessmcg I'm right there with you! Hopefully this cycle is our one! Remind me what cycle this is for you? Its number 8 for me

@Kitttycatt hope you get an answer soon either way thats so frustrating