7 months ttc (cont of 6 months ttc)

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Hi ladies,

Following on from our 6 months ttc thread, for anyone wanting to join in it’s just a group of us who have gone past the 6/7 month mark ttc looking to chat and support each other. All welcome 😊

@annny27 yes you're so right with that! People use all sorts of terminology to cover up that they're trying!

I really hope people stick around on this thread even after their bfps! I'd love to be able to celebrate your journeys right to the end 🥰

@jessmcg thanks! I think I'll wait until Saturday which will be !

That was meant to say 12dpo!

Yes any ladies who get bfp stick around!

@annny27 so true. I spoke to a friend about it, she officially hasn't started trying yet and won't for another year but I said I would be very honest with her! I do keep reminding myself that its normal to try for a year. It's just when you only get a chance per month it crawls by

@Annny27 - honestly I hate this SOOOOOO much! "We ditched contraception 5 months ago but only started actively trying this month and got our bfp"... Well you were trying, "active" or not, for 6 months then!

@notyetamumbuttrying - I get notified when I get tagged, not all the time though. I don't always receive anything when people just post a message either, but sometimes I do! Very weird! I don't think people know what to say when they know couples who are ttc. I think most mean well, but overall I find it awkward & would rather they said nothing.

@Swifty2 I second what @jessmcg said about waiting until 12/13dpo (even 14dpo if you can hold out that long!), especially if you don't know when you are due!

@Swifty2 - Looks promising. Will have fingers, toes etc. crossed for you!

I so hope we see some BFPs this month! I need to see some hope!

I totally agree with all your comments - it's a bloody tough road this ttc stuff. I knew I was lucky falling so quickly with DS and whilst I thought it would take longer this time, 7 cycles later and I've not even had a faint line of a BFP! It's a bit disheartening. I am forever grateful for DS though, and he keeps me busy so I find the TWW less painful.

I am still gearing up for Ov. I thought I'd Ov last week but PCOS means my cycles are haywire sometimes and this month is evidence of that! I'm CD21 today and think my OPK is beginning to get darker. I find my long irratic cycles very tiring and it means my fertile days can span from CD15-27 which means a lot of bd'ing without really knowing if the timing is right!

Anyone else have irregular/longer cycles? I'm rather jealous of 28 day cycles :-(

Completely agree, this is a great thread! Really appreciating having some people experiencing the same things as me, great for support as well as advice. I've seen other threads who have decided to set up a secret Facebook group after talking on here for some time to make things a bit easier to follow, could be an idea? apparently you can set it up so it's completely secret, put the link on here and then lock the group once everyone has joined.

I'm having a bit of a difficult one with my best friend, pregnant first month of trying. We are super close and speak most days, but things have drifted a bit since she announced she's pregnant. I'm not sure if it's me (I'm really struggling with hearing all about the pregnancy), if it's the lockdown meaning were not spending time together, or if its because she's feeling rough with morning sickness meaning she hasn't got the energy for phone calls and facetime etc. Probably a combination of all of them. It's hard to know what to do for the best, I want to try and be there for her but also feel like self-preservation is also important

@Tilly1403 the Facebook group thing sounds like a good idea 😊
I’m in a similar situation with my best friend. She got pregnant first try (started trying 2 months after me) and is due August. I love her to bits and I’m so excited for her but I am struggling with it. It’s something that we always imagined doing at the same time (that sounds so weird like we planned it but our lives just ended up very similarly timed!) and watching her go through her pregnancy and me still here without a sniff of a BFP is really difficult. In some ways I suppose lockdown has made it easier as we can’t see each other but when she texts me about feeling the baby move or something, it breaks my heart!

I think I posted last week on this (apologies if so!)... but last week 3 of my really close friends/colleagues announced pregnancies. I've found it quite hard to be the excited 'happy for you' friend in the past week (though I have, of course done that...even if it does feel a bit fake at the mo). All our friends on our group whatsapp are so excited and obviously the chat is now solely focusing on baby/pregnancy and I'm finding it hard. My friends also don't know I'm ttc so I can't exactly blame them for being insensitive either! I often wonder if I should talk to friends about ttc but something always holds me back.

Hi everyone, I've been reading your posts and can totally relate to everything! We've been TTC #1 for 7 cycles now and haven't told anyone (which is quite easy seeing as we haven't seen anyone for ages!) so it's great to hear that other people understand what it feels like . I think I'm 2dpo now, so the TWW begins!

@Nat4392 @MummyofZog it's so difficult isn't it. I feel like a terrible person but I am struggling with knowing how to manage it. I haven't told anyone we're TTC, something is holding me back too. So my friend is all 'you should have a baby around the same time!' and 'itll happen way quicker than you think so be prepared!'. She's had an early scan and told me but waiting before a full on announcement, so I've got all that to come. Again, our lives are running along fairly similar paths with getting engaged, then married etc and everyone has talked about us both having babies around the same time so I know that there are going to be comments. I've kind of over compensated at times by acting like I could take or leave it when it comes to babies (I think self preservation) so now I'm feeling backed into a corner without anyone understanding how I feel. I know it's entirely my fault but it's a tricky one to get out of without a massive explosion of emotion!

@Tilly1403 and @Nat4392 I think the Facebook Group is a great idea!!!

I've started a group now that you should be able to find & join. Once we are all in - I will shut the group so only members can find it.
www.facebook.com/groups/280874189631563

No pressure obviously to join the group, but would be lovely to have somewhere other than a thread to chat to each other!

@Nat4392 - I also get quite upset inside seeing my heavily pregnant SIL without a sniff of a bfp. I'm also glad that she doesn't take bump pictures at all so my instagram feed is just filled with baby size comparison screenshots. Makes it a lot easier to cope with. You're allowed to be upset too! Make sure you take 5 minutes in the evening to cry it out then move on. Taking time for yourself (even through a little pity party lol) is so important when ttc.

@skittles2003 - welcome to the best group ever! You're right it is easier to get by when you don't have to tell people and being in lockdown.

Anyway a bit of an update - been checking CP and CM and so far no sign of AF (yet). I noticed that I have little specks of brown in my CM though... hoping that doesn't mean the witch is on her way

Awesome, I'm up for the FB group. Have sent a request. May have also accidentally sent one from my partner's account too so if there is one from a JT please ignore it

Thank you @MrsCOR, I felt supported before I even posted! I know what you mean about Instagram too, one of my best friends is due in July and she posts everything which on one hand is lovely as I rarely get to see her but kind of rubs it in (although I know she would be mortified if I told her that)!

The fb idea is fab, I've put my request in!

Had a quick catch up of messages, it is hard when it's a very close friend or family member to balance the feelings. It's hard seeing someone fall on via social media but it's harder when it's someone you know who's child is going to be a part of your life.

@skittles2003 welcome to the group ☺️

@skittles2003 @mrscor completely get what you mean, all I see is baby news and it makes me so sad! Luckily my best friend is an angel, she had my godson through ivf and she knows exactly how I feel and I feel comfortable talking to her about TTC because of that! She doesn't send me endless photos of my godson for that reason, even though I wouldn't mind because it's her! I have another friend who got pregnant as soon as they started trying then complained all the way through her pregnancy that she missed going out drinking at the weekends...I was not happy but couldn't bring myself to tell her I was ttc 

@Swifty2 I think it makes it worse when they're complaining etc

My friends complained about the things she can't do anymore (tie her shoes, paint her toenails, shave her legs) and spent a lot of time telling me how great at work it is as she has so much power being pregnant they can't push her around (she also knows I'm struggling at work atm). Some days it's been very hard to bite my tongue about her bragging and complaining given my circumstances.

I’ve joined the fb group too, it’ll take a while to figure out who everyone actually is! 🤣

AF just arrived for me too so that’s me out! Onward to cycle #11! I don’t know why but I don’t feel half as emotional about it as I did last month, not complaining! Gonna have me a pizza and treats tonight!

@Nat4392 Sorry to hear about AF but good to focus on the next cycle for sure. Enjoy your pizza and treats!

I'm in the same situation with best friend being pregnant, first month too. Shes very much the 'just stop trying and it'll happen for you' brigade 🙈 she has never been on pill and is almost blaming that for the reason I haven't conceived yet, so making me feel beyond guilty for being on it so long!

Can we still talk on here for those of us that don't use Facebook? xx

Thanks for setting up the fb group @MrsCOR  I've added my username so that you can recognise me
@Nat4392 sorry you came on but glad you're ok about it! Will you start on the Angus again? I'm getting a lot of twinges which I'm trying to ignore as I get these anyway!

Yes @Aokbaby I'll still be chatting on here too!

So I have my sister giving birth to her second in Aug. 2 best friends due in nov and my husbands friends wives pregnant too so I have a lot of pregnant ppl around me! My sister and 2 friends know we're ttc so everyone's being pretty sensitive tbh. Esp my sister who wasn't even trying/on the pill and still beat me to it 😂

@aokbaby I don't use Facebook so I will still be chatting here :D

@Aokbaby I agree, the more I've read about hormones recently, the more I wish I hadn't taken the pill for so long, but I don't regret it, I did what was right at the time. I think it probably does make a difference, I got my periods back straight away but didn't feel right for the first few months, only in the last couple I've felt better.

@Nat4392 that sucks about AF, but indulging yourself sounds like a great plan

@notyetamumbuttrying no problem! I'm very excited now and feel so much more positive already about our journey already!

@Nat4392 so sorry that AF turned up for you, but glad you're feeling okay!

@Aokbaby - I used to take the pill and came off it maybe 3 years ago now? I still worry if it has affected my hormones & fertility. Also, yes I will be using both as I know not everyone has Facebook or wants to join!