7 months ttc (cont of 6 months ttc)

[Twinkletoes85]

Hi ladies,

Following on from our 6 months ttc thread, for anyone wanting to join in it’s just a group of us who have gone past the 6/7 month mark ttc looking to chat and support each other. All welcome 😊

@MrsCOR hope its your month! It sounds promising!

@Hoping41 sorry you think AF is on the way:( its always gutting xx

@gypsywater - I think people lie about it too. I am most certainly going to write a very honest post to my friends and family on Facebook to try to break the taboo. My cousin has recently started their IVF journey and they have been very open and honest about it and I think that's great.

@Annny27 - thanks! Bfn yesterday so I'm not feeling hopeful lol!

@mrscor yep when we are pregnant I will be sure to tell others of the journey its been and also that they are a rainbow baby. I don't want other people to struggle alone thinking everyone else had it easy

Just been catching up properly @mrsCor like everyone's said your not in the wrong at all for feeling like that. My fell on first time friend is due any day now and I've been struggling to hear from her.

I know how badly she wanted it so of course I'm pleased for her but when she complains to me that she can't do this or can't do that because if baby belly I feel like snapping at least your having a sodding baby (she knows I'm trying).

It's a very emotional thing and some people just don't understand exactly how emotional it can be (your BIL sounds like one of them).

@Twinkletoes85 - I am so glad I am not the only one. DH thinks I am very jealous and that I shouldn't be (men don't get it).

Yes I sometimes feel like yelling exactly that when she complains about something. She is currently not feeling great and everyone is like "oh poor her..." and I'm sat there like at least she is about to have a baby! We haven't even had a sniff of a line yet!

Yes I agree - don't think he realised how some of his comments are hurtful to us. They got their bfp first try, they don't know what it is like to be 7 months in and nothing. It is an awful, awful feeling that I wouldn't wish upon anyone.

@gypsywater that's very true! Not many of my friends have children or are pregnant but none were first try situations!

@MrsCOR hope af stays away

@Hoping41 sorry to hear that, it really is so disappointing when you have done everything right.

@Annny27 Haha, me too. Once I get pregnant I’m definitely giving myself a month off. Although I suspect without all the pressure perhaps I’ll be more up for it!

@MrsCOR Got my fingers crossed for you - keep us updated! 🤞

@Hoping41 I’m so sorry you’ve had a temp dip and feeling like AF is on her way. How many days DPO are you again? Sending ❤️ to you. Don’t lose hope x

@gypsywater I completely agree. I think people lie or they simply choose to forget all the anguish and count out all the other months they were trying. I keep thinking shouldn’t we all be there for each other and be honest rather than lie? It doesn’t need to be a competition and not being successful first go does NOT make us any less of a woman. I just wish there was more honesty around the topic.

Morning ladies! I need your help, I feel like I'm being completely crazy. I don't know how many of you read my update yesterday but I posted on here earlier in the week that I thought AF I'd arrived but I bled for less than a day and it was very dark and unusual for me, this had followed a very late ov (cd29) and now there's literally nothing going on down there at all. I'm driving myself crazy thinking that the bleeding Was implantation!
I've attached a picture of my bbt chart and the day I had the bleeding I also had a big dip in temperature! I'm 8dpo right now but soooo anxious to test! Any thoughts?!

@Swifty2 that's a bit exciting! I understand you not wanting to test yet and it might be too early anyway. But I think there's a chance you won't see af this month! I really hope it was an implantation dip!!

Morning @Swifty2! I have tracked bbt in previous cycles (will start again next cycle) and I would say that your chart looks great! And that could be an implantation dip especially if you had bleeding/spotting then too! When are you actually due AF? I would say that if it was implantation you can usually pick up hcg 2 days afterwards (not always but typically). I would wait until af is due and then test just to be sure!

Exactly. There is a lot of discrepancy eg are the people who got pregnant "first try" counting from when they stopped contraception, when they started aiming to have sex in their fertile week, when they upped the frequency of sex to every other day or so, or when they started tempting and testing? I know a few people who "werent trying" and are "thinking about whether or not to have kids" and then "suddenly" are having NHS IVF...indicating that theyve been trying actually for a couple of years. Its bullshit. People either need to be properly honest or else shut the fuck up!

@Swifty2 hopefully that was implantation best of luck!! I'd say maybe hope off testing a few more days though I'm sure that will be very hard!

Good luck @Swifty2

@swifty2 fingers crossed for you. We need a nice bfp on this thread to keep us all hopeful! 🤞
I'm due af on Saturday so I'm feeling exactly the same as I normally do st this time of the month. 😔

Really hoping there are some BFPs this month too! Can people stick around if they get a BFP?

@gypsywater - I would be more than happy to stay on this thread now for my entire ttc journey. I'm not even that interested in joining any threads as I feel like I've finally found my ttc buddies!

Like I said before, it would be great if you could have group chats on here as I don't always get notifications for posts.

Fingers crossed that one of us gets a bfp this month!!!

Fingers crossed @Swifty2

Yes @gypsywater "we were off contraception for a year but only trying for 2 months" - unless you weren't have any sex then you were trying 🤣

@Annny27 YES! THIS! Drives me INSANE.

@MrsCOR Me too, I'm sticking around come what may!

I hate that saying too! @MrsCOR but ppl never know what to say do they. I too was thinking of writing a post on social media to say how long it took and to get ppl talking about it more.
Do you not get notified when you're tagged in a message?

@Swifty2 I’ve never done BBT so I have no idea what I’m looking at 😂 but good luck!

AF due today but she’s not here yet. Last month she showed up at 5pm so not getting ahead of myself yet. Plus I just feel like she’s coming...

Thanks everyone! The next few days are going to be awful! I'm so impatient at the best of times!
@mrscor I have an irregular cycle so honestly I have no idea when AF would actually be due. The reason I was so convinced AF had started when the spotting happened the other day is because it was cd33 and last cycle AF turned up on cd33!
I definitely feel a bit weird, really bloated and I had some bad indigestion yesterday. But then maybe AF is just on the way and I ate something that caused the indigestion!

@Swifty2 As a charter, I just had a look at your chart and it looks super promising. Id hold out until you are 12 or 13DPO if you can and then you should test if you feel you cannot wait any longer. I literally have my fingers and toes crossed for you. If I could cross my arms and legs and still get my work done then I’d do that too!

@swifty2 good luck, fingers crossed for you. It looks good to me.

I already feel out this month. Static smiley this morning already. Didnt DTD yesterday, partner has meetings all day!!!

@Annny27 You’ve hit the nail on the head with that quote!! ARGHHHHHHH.